Tell me about sex...please

As reported in the local English daily today www.thestar.com.my (child sex clip a shocker for parents) carrying the news of young boy and girl 8 years old purportedly engaging in sex acts........

Probably as parents, most of us will sigh at how decaying our society has become, how easily our children are being poisioned, how easy accesible the porn materials are to our children. But the question is who made up this so called decaying society, i guess it is you and me, so who is to blame when our children gone wrong, it is you and me, right ?

Me as a parent, i really dont want to take sex as a taboo, because fundamentaly, it is not supposed to be a taboo. I remember when i first found out about my son's friend emailed him some porn sites, without any hesitation, i knew i have to talk to him about sex already. I needed to know why was he so curious about sex and etc.......

After which,i explained to him how different male and female organs are, and how our body changes, i remember telling him that in no way he should make fun of his friends body irrepective boy or girl.

I didnt tell him the analogy of flower and bee, i told the real stuff. i wanted him to ask me anything and seriously anything about sex, i assured him there will be more questions and doubts about sex as he grows up, and i guatanteed him that i shall do my best to explain everything to him.

Please let our children have the correct avenues to fullfill their curiousity, and sexual curiousity is definately one of them. Please let us teach them the right things about sex instead of someone else teaching wrong thing about sex.

P/S.. sometimes children can be genuinely curious, therefor we must be genuine open

Ministers Reshuffled

Effective 01/Aug/2008, the following ministerial positions will be resuffled

1) Prime Minister(PM)
2) Finance Minister(FM)
3) Domestic and Comsumers Affair Minister(DCAM)
4)Education Minister. (EM)

The following person or persons shall be sworn into the respective Ministerial posts effective 01/Aug/08 as follow

Auntie Nancy shall assume the post of PM
Aunite Mary shall assume the post of FM
Auntie Lulu shall assume the post of DCAM
Aunite Rose shall assume the post of EM

The above said candidates with the vast hands one experience are regarded the best for the jobs.
Their respective credentials are as follow.

Aunite Nancy has gone through 3 divorces for the past 16 years, and she managed to triumph without a scratch. She is always in control of all the in laws and not vice versa.

Auntie Mary is most suitable for portfolio of FM, simply because she survived 3 recessions , and with her meagre income, she managed to acquire shares and properties through the years.

Auntie Lulu is sure fit to be the DCAM because she has been to market wet or dry almost everyday since dont know how many years, she can tell you what real inflation figure is. and you just cant fool her with all the food prices, she just knows

No one can be any better to become EM than auntie Rose, she has raised 7 children through think and thin, and now all of them are professionals, she just knows what true education is. No race, no colour , no gender separation.

I am truly sick and tired of those minister who can talk but they just cant feel what the layman are feeling. i believe all the aunties and ladies can do a better in running the country.

P/S, sisters are doing it for themselves, standing on their own two feet

I truly love you guys,

Well could it be due to our Asian traits that we are not expressive and we are not open about our feelings towards even our dearest ones, i mean our siblings and loved ones.

I have always been troubled by this, i have 3 sisters and a brother, i have always wanted to be close to them, i mean i have really tried my best to do what i could do so that the brothers and sisters can really be close, it looks like it is just another wishful thinking.

Sometimes i am really tired of trying, i am just afraid when the day comes when the matriarch of the house passes on, what then can bond the siblings together, what else is that to talk about now that our mother is gone. I have tried opening up to them, but frustrating enough it was to no avial.

My eldest sister is getting divorced, i really hope and pray that she can attain what she has been thinking about all these years even no matter how much she misunderstood me, i beg that she knows i that i love her. As for my second sister, may your days be better with the coming of times, and i will be there to support you. To my youngest sister, just wanna tell her that i love her too, lastly my brother, even through the years that you have drifted apart, and we have never been that close as i wish we could have, still i love you.

If i were to die tomorrow, as for the eulogy, i hope to hear this from my siblings"we love you our dearest brother"

I have two sons, i have always told them that i am very particular about brotherhood and kinship. You can ask my sons, i will get very very angry if one of them does not show love to the other.

P/S, there are things money can buy, there are things money cant buy, the love of siblings

Life is worth living, seriously

Look at us, i mean seriously and deeply, we whine, we sigh, we complaine how bad and dreadful life is. It is all about ourselves, nothing else... ( I am no exception, i am learning too)

When i first read The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch, i was thinking that this guy was amazing, instead of groaning and moaning in pain from the incurable cancer, he stood up infront of millions of viewers to give the last lecture. If this were to happen to us, most of us would have put the blame in whatever that can be blamable including Gods, but Randy Pausch was different, he helped those who were in brink of giving up hopes, assuring them that there would be hope despite the fact that he knew there was none for him, he challenged us to live out our childhood's dreams.


I believe he knew that his time was coming, at least he lived the life he believed that's worth living for, he eventually passed on this 25th of July 2008 at the age of 47.


P/S, Life is worth living

A nice weekend

This weekend has been nice and wonderful for having a friend from Switzerland visiting here on his business trip, .. and i took the chance to take some photos with my new Samsung Digital Camera, it has been so long time since we last took pictures of me and my beloved wife because i was so hesitant in buying digital camera, now that i started blogging i guess it is imperative to have one.... well pictures speak the thousand words......

P/S : Hi Marc, I hope you have had a wonderful stay here, let me save enough, will go Switzerland to see you.

RESPECT

I always ask for my sons' permission when i want to open their school bags and check on their homeworks, usually i will not be resisted from the both of them, but two days ago it was kind of different from my eldest son, i was met with some kind of disdain when i asked if i could take a look inside his school bag.

Probably it was kind of routine, so he agreed and as i was leafing through the pages of his exercise books, suddenly he hawked on me and immediately snatching away one exercise book of his from his school bag, as smart as he is, he just knew that my curiousity would spur me to demand a look at that exercise book. This is excatly the words he said to me before i could open my mouth to ask. " Papa, i am sorry but i cannot let you see this book, it is my secret inside and private". I replied " what if i insist " again he said no, suddenly i felt like borrowing the famous quote from the incredible hulk. "Dont make me angry, and you wont like it when i am angry" before i could let those words pass my mouth, he was already welling with tears. Lo and behold, you would have guessed it how i was melted with that scene.


To be true, i was even more curious to find out the content of that particular book. No matter how hard i tried to coax him, it was to no avial as he was so adamant in his stance in refusing me.
Ok, i had to give up trying but i said to him, i just wanted to make sure the contents will not do him any harm, he assured me that it was only some comics that he drew. I gave him a hug and telling him that i respected his decision and most of all i respected him, he said likewise to me.

Eventually, i was indeed assured of the content.( i cannot post the gist of it here, my wife might read my post and most important of all i promised my son it was between me and him)


P/S , Son thank you for teaching me the true meaning of RESPECT

What makes her beautiful

"next time when you deliver your products to me, please do without the plastic bag" she said. " Not many would take such a trouble over a piece of small plastic bag, you're good la" i said. " well, it has just got to begin with me" she said again.

The above conversation took place when i delivered my product to a new new customer yesterday , after all these years in the business, this is the first time i am hearing this from a customer. I am truly impressed with her for her initiative even to a small piece of plastic bag, wouldnt it be good if all of us can practise just a little a day in helping to save our earth.

What makes a person beautiful is not what she is in the outside, but what her good values that manifest through her hence amplify her beauty in the outside. To me Mother Teresa would be the most beautiful woman in the whole wide world if she were to be living today.

I shared that scene with my son during our chit chat session, i wanted him to learn a little a day, it is not so hard after all, if we change a little a day, i told him that and i told him papa is also learning.

Dont get me wrong, i am not trying to be Master of the Universal, i am only doing a little a day to help to save the environment. Think about it, there are a lot of little things we can do to green the earth. Think about it.

P/S: Li Tyng, you are beautiful for the values you possess, my respect to you

Men can change, cant they?

Everybody should know this cliche "a friend in need is a friend indeed" no further explaination required, but nobody ever says. " a wife in need is a wife indeed" or nobody says " when a man gets all his needs, the wife is not in the need"

I am truthfully and gladfully blessed that i have a wife who has always been there for me, i guess even through my biggest fear, she will still be there for me. She is a wonderful woman who strongly believes the value of a family, and the sacrifices she will make for one.

I have friends who were once not doing well, and with the supports from the wives, some of them have made it. Made it indeed some of them have, but they have changed. The one or two of them are hooked up with mistresses, but they say they prefer it to be called concubine because they are able to lavish them. I guess they have forgotten who brought them here, if not for their wives, where are they now. I wonder.

When first started, she didnt mind put her saving aside for some common goals, she never once said my money is my money, the beautiful thing about our marriage is we have common goals,
we love to do things together, we love to jog, playing tennis, drink together(now cut down a lot already, have to save some promised to children oversees trips)

So my friends keep concubine,(what's the big deal they say as long as i can afford it, and as long as i can take good care of the family) If taking good care is as such, then i shall disdain. i prefer then to take the best care of the family. They have changed, havent they? they forgot how their wives slogged for them, how they did OT to cover the family .....

They always say my time has not arrived, soon i will be like them. Ya i agreed but when my time has really arrived, i bet my wife will be driving a BMW that's her dream car,, change to a bigger house then.


P/S, based on true story. friends names withheld, their privacy is respected

Family and Money

It is scary, isnt it? I heard from a friend of mine who is in the business of retailing of sauces, or soy based products, saying that by today, all products will be increased about plus minus 30%, i am really dumbfounded for all these increases that we have been hearing of late.

As reported in the press, in Malaysia the percentage of house-hold monthly income of RM3000,is about 54.4%, i guess almost everyone is feeling the pinch unless you are ultra rich. So what can we do to combat all this, it is suffice to say, it really depends on each individual.

As for me, i would take this event as a blessing in disguise, or take it as a wake up call and may be it helps to look into my family's spending pattern and to make changes. I guess it is always hard for us to make changes, but change we must.

My children are being taught what tough times are, they are taught not to waste water, electricity and food, they are lessoned to learn to save, to budget to buy what is necessary. Just the other day, my two sons came back with a brochure of a electronic dictionary which costs about RM300 each, as claimed promotional offer. I knew they loved it so much, after much explaination and some convincing, they agreed that they didnt need it after all.

Right after the annoucement of hike in electricity tariff, i summoned all my family together telling them about the hike, and i told them that i had a mission to accomplish, that's to maintain the electricity bill just like the there was no hike. They can only use hot water only early in the morning, turn on the air-con unless the heat is real punishing or unbearable.

I dont know about you, but as for me to instill in them these values i hope one day they will benefit from it, life will be many folds harder for them in the future.


P/S. It has to start from me, i know

My Son and Char Koay Teow

While my wife and the youngest son were so engrossed in watching the Taiwan's Reality show, you know the one about singing contest last night, of which my eldest and myself were not really keen, i decided to take my eldest out for some supper plus some chit chats.

As i was driving to the eatery, i asked my son if he was really hungry as the dinner he took was just about an hour ago, he said to me, no he was not, all he wanted to do was to accompany his papa and he just wanted to talk. I got the cue, so we started talking......

So the conversation was going on, we talked, we chatted, as it was going on, i hopped into some topics about him and me and the rest of the family. I wanted him to tell me what he didnt like about me, and the other way around. So he poured his feelings out, then i got to know myself a bit deeper. Then i said i needed to tell him what i didnt like about him, and what i liked about him, i shared my thoughts with him.

Towards the end, we both made a pact that, we would watch over each other's soldiers to make sure that we both would change for the better.

P/S, Son, i really enjoy talking to you

The other side of.........

8.40am 18/Jul/2008

My usual Kopitiam (coffee shop), my designated seat and my must have fix of morning Kopi "O", , not forgetting my daily infusion from Chinese newspaper, everything seemed so like "business as usual " in this coffee shop, today is just like any other days here, untill......

Untill i saw one towering figure walking towards the boss of the coffee shop behind the cashier counter, their conversation was like someone begging for something and someone was so adamant in rejecting that"something" , without me realizing it, i was eavesdropping to their conversation,(mind me, not intentional at all, and i was seating so near to the cashier counter). The towering guy was asking the boss to let out a stall from his coffee shop to let him sell food there, the boss rejected his request because all stalls have been taken up so he said, that towering man lamented that his has lost his job for about 1 month now, and no other jobs available so he resorted to selling food, but the boss insisted that he was of no help to him. I saw him finally sauntering out of the coffee shop all dejected, as if he was shrouded by another dark cloud only he could feel, when it was actually shiny this morning.

I have never lost my job, i have never been poor, my children have never gone to bed with their tummy not filled, seriously as i am blogging now, the dejected face of that man is flasing in my mind now, i am just thinking what if he continues not having to find another job.

P/S ...P/S

If you have never experienced what hunger is, try fasting for 2 days in a row, i have done that, i know how it feels, spare some thoughts to less fortunate ones, please do not waste and please give a little bit more

A Star is Born

Ladies and gentlemen, i have the greatest pleasure to present to you this year's Oxcar Awards for the category of The Most Promising Actor Award, the nominees are XXXXX, YYYYY,ZZZZZ and Jovial Ung Ee, and the Oxcar goes to Jovial Ung Ee.

Note: The above is the fictatious illustration of the Real Oscar Presentation in the year 2018.

Ok, you guys might think i am joking, but seriously when my son did that video recording or rather short movie, i told him then and there to dare to dream big, not just big but very big. Eventhough it is just a little less than 3 minutes, but the affirmation and the assertion i gave to him i bet will last a lifetime. Thank God for blogging, i will be able to save this posting in my archive.

P/S . Son , truly i am proud of you, not because you are good, because you dare to be good

From These Dreams on, I Shall Be Great

There is this tag line that i love so much, "The Power of Dreams" from Honda, man can be great because of dreams, great inventions are brought to life because of dreams, stars are made because of dreams too.


But then again, how many times we as parents kill the dreams in our little ones, we tell them how absurd and non-sensical their dreams can be, how they should channel their energy in obtaining straight As in their exams then dreaming the dreams that we thought were crazy.


Little by little, bit by bit, our children begin to stop dreaming big, they feel that they are not worthy of dreaming big, gradually they resign into the pattern that we parents formed in them that they have to be this and they have to be that.


I remember when my eldest son (11 years old) created his so called short movie, i was so amazed with it, from the surface of it, the movie will not win any Oscar or Golden Globe Awards for sure, as crazy and absurd it may seem, i know my son has got the talent, and some creative juices that can be enhanced. I even told him one day me and him will do some rap, some acts together, i told him one day he will become as famous as Will Smith or Jim Carrey if he doesnt let his dreams falter.



P/S , please give space to our children to dream, no matter how crazy the dreams seem to be.

Married Man (last say)

I was vegetating in front of my PC note book last night, totally blank, no clues at all of what to blog about,(dont tell me it doesnt happen to you) then i remembered a pledge that i made to myself when i started blogging, that is to at least to put up 4 to 6 posts everyweek. While i was still drawing blank, i visited another blogger friend's site, i was all zest up again. Thinking to myself i have another say in my Married Man so called episode.

Hey married man, think about it, when was the last time we said"thank you" and showing our appreciation to our wife? Sometimes we man really have to be lesser a man to be a man to appreciate our wife.

When i think of my wife(working), who rushes back from work and prepares food for us, washing up the dishes, thereafter attending to the children, do i say "my dear thank you" . I too am guilty of it, dont get me wrong, i do help out the house chores, but the fact that our wife deserves the appreciation speaks volume.

It is easy to do house chores like cleaning up, but to prepare meals really cracks your mind, imaging my wife thinking early for the dishes she has to cook for the evening, to make sure that the dishes that she cooks would whet our apetites is a no nonsense job. Therefore to extend a simple "thank you" is not too much to ask from us the married man. (thank you my dear)

I can be sure she gets tired sometimes if not a lot of times, and i just want to make her know that i appreciate her alot

P/S , my dear you dont have to be kylie kwong or angella, your cooking is the tastiest of all

My sons and money talk

I have always have the penchant of teaching my children a thing or two about money, i know deep inside my heart, if i dont teach me or guide them directly about the good and bad about money when they are younger, it will be harder to teacher them in latter years.

We cannot deny the fact that children now are spoilt with myriad of choices, from top to the tip of their toes, they can easily pass as a fashion critic. I believe in school, children are rarely thought about what frugality is, what saving is and so forth, therefore we parents should set good example in showing them all that.

Just recently, i felt a sense of achievement when i started a new method of giving my eldest pocket money, before this my wife used to give him daily pocket money of RM2 each day, i changed that, i said to him instead of giving you RM2 each day, i would give you RM10 for a week. I explained to him, now that he has more money in his wallet at any one time, for sure he will be tempted to spend more now then before, i explained to him about delayed gratification, i told him to spend according to the needs rather than the wants

I can say i am truly proud of him that he has passed the test, at the end of the week, he still manages to save some


P/S, on hindsight, the saying "teaching one to fish is better than giving one the fish" has great bearing in our life

Married Man and blogging

Just received a call from a lady friend, who happened to visit my blog, she was amused how i could be so engrossed in blogging. I told her i just needed to explore new frontier in the ICT world, if i dont do it now, maybe i would have problem catching up with my children in the future, i told her i must stay abreast in the know.

Speaking on the subject of blogging, there is one lesson i learnt from blogging that's akin to life's lesson. There is a famous saying that goes like this, "giving me is more blessed than taking" it is so true about blogging as well. We need to open up. we need to take the first step in visiting other blogs, we need to be truthful and sincere in what we write, we cant be selfish in wanting others visiting you first without you going there. We just need to be the first one to visit other blogs and be the first one to leave the comments there.

I am only a newbie or a novice in blogging, but i have come across quite a number of good bloggers whom i found to be sincere and we click in one way or the other. Sometimes blogging gives me a challenge to myself too in things like how do i increase my traffic, how do i make my blog more interesting, what do people want to read about, how do i stay afloat in blogging (because there are a lot who just died of in the spate of 6 months of so), it is no shame of me that an adult like me can learn so much from teenage bloggers too. Life is but a learning process.

P/S , dear my blog visitors, please let me know if you agree with me or otherwise.

Married Man is for Running

Kind of sad and kind of excited as i read about the news that there would be a 26KM run to be held in Penang. I am all for running, i enjoy the freedom that entails from it, i dont have to have a running partner to run, i dont have to wait for a right time to run, neither do i have to have sophisticated gears to run.

My wife is not keen to run with me on this 26km run, because we will be running the 7km on the 3rd of August, and the 26km run is on the 10th of August, it is kind of short break from the 7km run. (this is the sad part)

To my fellow blog visitors, please wish me luck, ya?

P/S, If you have not run before, try it, you'll love it, i bet.

Married Man (2nd Installment)

My vow

I Eugene take you (my dear) to be my lawfully wedded, my constant friend, my faithful partner, and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, my friends and My blog visitors, i offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner, in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad times, and in joy as well as in sorow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor you and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, to drink some beers with you ( i prefer Heineken) and to cherish you, for as long as we both shall live, and untill dealth do us part.


My Satutory declaration
I Eugene declare that in times and dates not cleary remembered have frequented Pubs and KaraOk (some are ok some are not) with friends either known (identities withheld) or not known(dont try to hire PI to check, they are hiding now) to you. My admission will be duly confirmed should further investigation is initiated.
I declare that through these rendezvous, in no way i presented my body and my soul to the beauties in the dungeon. My conscience was clear and forever will be clear because no beauties shall come any closer to the beauty i found in you.(That's you my wife)
This Satutory Declaration(SD) shall remain under oath, and shall not be superseded by any 2nd SD. I strongly believe you shall not take me to any religious body and to swear in the presence of the high priest or the abbot to prove my innocence (we are husband and wife, and trust is the cornerstone of our marriage)
Finally, i shall remain faitfull and as loving as ever and as long as we both shall live.


P/S.. It is friday, relax,, dont take life so seriously

Married Woman (prelude to salute)

It is hard to be a married woman, it is harder to be a working married woman and it is the hardest to be a working married woman with children. (salute no 1)

Met an ex female class mate of mine. (we are both 42 of age), i coudlnt believe what a great change she had turned herself into. The change that i thought to myself that's not of her own doing. She is a working mom with two school going children. My memory still serves me right, i reckon, during our schooling days, man i tell you she was the "bomb" she was the boys students "target" but now......(No further elaboration and description required)

She shared with me, she has to wake up about 6am during school days, prepare the children, send them to school and head straight to work. Back from work, cook, cleaning up and have to supervise children's school works, by the time when all is done, it is time again to pat the children to slumber. You see working married woman with children (WMWC, in short) never put themselves first, it is all for the family (salute no 2)

Jokingly i asked her if she is attending any yoga, aerobic or Ldancing classes or may be pampering herself to some facial treatments, she said yes, but there was many years ago, because now all her classes are replaced by children classes, tuition, mental arithmatics and music classes. Big chunk of her salary are spent there. You see again the WMWC are willing to forgo the enjoyment for their children. (salute no 3)

P/S . i believe the hand that rocks the crader rules the world. More sharing to come

Married Man (1st installment)

I am in total agreement with the saying "you need to look good to feel good". looking good doesnt mean you have to be pompous or vain, in fact looking good will make you exude certain level of confidence and making you more inviting to people around you.

As a married man, a lot of us dont take "looking good" as an issue, we thought it was ok to be shabby, it was no issue of having protruding waistline,we fail to understand that looking good is a package that encompasses beauty and health, rather it is about owing a favour to ourselves and our spouses. If we cant even take good care of ourselves, what else can we do for our family.

I dont have to be Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp to look good, it is about me, about me having a healthy lifestyle, about me having a nice physique(sorry i am not there yet, will be there someday.) Looking good requires us to be more knowledgable(Because out the mouth, the man is told). We must learn to have a good sense of humour to look good too.

Seriously, i strongly believe looking good is also vital in a relationship, i can attest to it. If you are a couch potato, the chances are your spouse will also be one and sooner or later your children will follow suit.

You dont have to burn a big hole in your wallet to look good, sometimes simplicity can just do the trick. You dont have to adorn Hugo Boss or Georgio Armani's suits to look good, you dont have to visit high end gym to stay fit, neither do you have to wear Bell & Ross in order to look good.

P/S, Looking good simply means loving life

I am Getting Divorced (the epilogue)

Am i getting divorced? nope, not at all, or rather why should i, when i have found the one that i treasure and love, i may not be a good husband but i am willing to learn in order to turn myself into one.

Then why am i saying"i am getting divorced", it is just a reflection of my frustration, i am always being inundated with friends saying " i am getting divorced" I did some asking around from those getting divorced, to find out one or two things reason why people are getting divorced.

One thing apparent, i reckon as the main cause of divorce(just my opinion),is that we have begun to take our spouses for granted, we dont care about his or her feeling anymore, thus that leaves us with lesser communication. Restropectively, when we were lovers, things were so different,
he or she was the first person you wanted to see when you punched out from work, he or she was always on top of your priorities, you woudnt forget to ask him/her where she wanted to have for meals, you called so often untill his/her phone numbers overshadowed other numbers.
What'd happened now, we just dont bother anymore, the three little words " i love you" seems so hard to be spoken, the hug and cuddle seems so irritating. Two people living together but in different sphere. We make excuses that we are so bogged down with works and whatever not.
We dont see the beauty or the charm that we saw in them years ago, we tend to look at the flaws more than the goods in them now, little by little we build that wall that separates the two.

Another killer shot is, married couples are hardly romantic anymore. They have forgotten what being romantic is all about, they take intimate moments as mundane or worst still like another house chore. They dont look forward to spend intimate times together, they are dreadful as to perform the so called "duty", then romance is gradually lost, by then everything he or she does doestnt seem right. That's why in Singapore, Dr Love is so famous, people have lost their very human instinct as being romantic.

May be there are many other factors that could lead to a split, but as for me, i choose to love the one i chose. Let sprinkle some humour and spice into our married life.

P/S, the above is solely my personal thoughts and feelings, in no way i want to exert my thoughts into yours.

I am Getting Divorced (part 2 )

Some are happily married, some are unhappily married. Some are happily unmarried, some are unhappily unmarried. Some says marriages are made in heaven, some says marriages are stone throw to the grave yard.

Has time really changed a man's or a woman's perpective towards marriage, why did couple make the wedding vow and not keeping it. Why is romance lost after years of marriage, why do men not staying faithful, or it is common now, for wives to stray too.

I need to apologize to a friend of mine who is getting married soon, when she read my posting in the blog, she got a shock, so surprised that of all men, me "getting divorced". I am so sorry Adelyn i didnt mean to shock you, i hope i did not give you phobia towards marriage.

There is one verse in a chinese song, that i love so much, 最浪漫的事， 是和你慢慢变老，which simply means "the most romantic event in life is to grow old gracefully with you". Whenever i see an old couple holding each other's hands walking, i used to tell my wife, this is what i want to do when i get old.

Sometimes it intrigues me in wanting to know, what really makes a marriage lasts, we can learn about so many others things, but we hardly learn about love and marriage, i am not an expert but i am a married man...

P/S. So to divorce i must,, sometimes words can fool us. My final say next

I am Getting Divorced (part 1)

I am getting divorced, that's is final, i am getting separated, that's is for sure, i am calling it quit, that is ultimate.

Dont feel sad for me, dont worry for me, instead please wish me every success in getting my divorce, it is not the faults of others nor the flaws of hers. It is all about me, about me looking for changes in my life, about me taking other perpective towards my innerself, so the divorce came aptly.

I know if i didnt make this decision, my life will not be a happy one, so are my children and my wife. I dont live for myself anymore, i reckon, i have responsibilities, i know, that's why i need to make that separation.........


P/S .. please bear with me for the sequel

I cant breath

Come on please give my privacy back to me. I cant read the newspaper, watch the TV news and listening to news from my car stereo in the presence of my sons anymore, i am so afraid they might ask me what the word SODxMY (you know the crime against Anwar) means out of thier wildest curiosity.

How can i explain to them that word, or shall i just blush them off telling them SODxMY is just another type of Origami, or may be another lastest product from Maggie Mee.

It is as if the government has nothing better to offer to the people, besides high cost of living, inflation, economy slowdown and whatever not.

May god restore our country with god fearing leaders, banish those who are corrupt and immoral.

P/S, Let us breathe the air that is fresh

What' love got to do with it?

问世间，情为何物？is a favourite chinese cliche that is so intertwined with the meaning of what is love for? I really dont know much about love, nor can i dispense advice about love, i am not Dear Thelma nor am i Dear Prudie. But i can only draw on one conclusion, love is about you, and only you. If you choose to be fooled by love, so be it. If you decide to die for love, no one can stop you.
If you dwell in fantasy instead of reality, no one can stop you too. If you believe he can leave his wife for you, it is your choice.

I was having a supper coffee chat with a very good lady friend who happens to be divorced with two wonderful girls, she is webbed in the issue of love that i guess really shackles her, and draining her emotionally. The man involved,in my opinion is not worth crying or suffering for, but yet this lady friend of mine seems so helplessly entangled.

I told her the same, she is an adult who should be responsible for her own action, as much as i can understand and identify with her feeling,i insisted that her man is not worthy to the reasons best known to her. She is the onlyone that can help herself, she is the only one that can save herself from drowning in the sea of superficial love

I sincerely told her to divert her attention, care and love towards her two girs which in my opinion is worth every bit of her effort and sacrifice, be a great mother.


P/S, Like Karyn White sings it" I'm not a superwoman, i'm not that kind of girl that you can let down and think that everything ok.