Thursday, April 10, 2014

That's the way to go sons.

As a dad, I must say I am very proud of my two boys,even though they are not the top scorers in their studies but it is about their attitude that I am very proud of.

This year Jovial will be sitting for his SPM and to tell you the truth I am anxious about his so called preparation for it, thus I have been kind of nagging or bugging him as far as SPM is concerned and every time I do that he just nonchalantly telling this,"I know lah, don't worry dad"

So of late, I have been noticing him, really and diligently working out his schedules between play and study and just last night he said judging from his most recent exam, it was all okay.

Now back to Marvell, so he has changed to an entire environment and he is doing well and every time when I ask him, does he want to go for tuition classes, he just says that he can still well balance it.

He loves going to school he says and he loves to make friends and it seems that he is enjoying every bit of his school life and this is something I am very happy about cos going to school to him is not a drag but a joy.


P/S : Keep that spirit son......

Thursday, March 20, 2014

He is not that tough anymore....

I have got only one brother (of different father) and he had been a drug user since he was like 17 years old and now he is 54, he quit that vice about 10 years ago.

He is a very intelligent man but too bad that was not put to a good use, when he was small which I could remember, he was always "brain washed" by my grand mother that nobody loved him, nobody cared for him and my father (his step father) was ever so bad too him.

Since small, he harbored that resentment, he left house around the age of 16 years old, bad company came along and probably he thought that "drug" was his sanctuary and his solace, he stuck to it for many many years.

Fast forward to now, 3 years ago, he was diagnosed with neck cancer, 3rd stage he was told and suddenly this "tough" guy became so vulnerable, he is no longer that man that I once knew that even "death" would not scare him.

I keep in touch with him constantly,even though we had never been close but that dreaded disease has since bridged that void between the two of us, I love him and I wish he could feel it because I knew that he was never loved before.

Sadly, in his remaining days, his body weakens day by day, I knew he wanted to "make it up"  or to make amends with the rest of us, it doesn't really matter of the past anymore.

It is funny I have never seen a tear streaming down his eyes for as long as I could remember but now I can see some already.

May be the least I can do now, is to be there for him, to call him and making him feel that he has got a brother who still cares.

P/S : He ain't heavy , he's my brother

Friday, January 10, 2014

St John?

The other I was asking Marvell which extra co curriculum activities he wanted to join, he said he wanted to join mainly St John and Chess Club.

When I asked him why did he want to join St John, he shared this with me, he said. " Papa, St John can help me in the future when  become a doctor and I want to learn to help people now"

P/S : Thank God for his good heart and a good son

Friday, January 03, 2014

The school day blues

So, it was about 6.32 pm, I said to myself that I should stop running cos I wanted to wait for Marvell at the bus stop as he came back from school and I wanted to walk with him to the house after all it was his first day in secondary form.

As I waited and waited, there was not a slightest sight of his school bus and when I thought it was okay being the first day of school, the confusion, the waiting and what not then I continued to wait and waited I did.

Suddenly the sky was slowly being enveloped by darkness, took a check on my watch, it was close to 7.25pm and it began to drizzle yet there was still no sign of his school bus, how could it be?it was only less than a 3 KM distance from my house to his school.

Quickly, I ran back home and yes Marvell did call home, he said he and his friend missed the school bus and his friend quickly called his auntie to fetch them home.

The sad thing was, the school bus driver did not even call me to inform me that my son missed the bus and so when I called him, he had the gut to blame my son and his friend for being "dumb" to have missed the bus.

After so much thought and some other arrangements, I managed to "ditch" the bus driver and with some cooperation from Marvell's friend parents, we decided to pull our resources together  and put the pain behind and move one.

P/S : Thank God for everything


Monday, December 02, 2013

好男人。。。A Good Man

昨晚有个老同学给我看到了,体会到了什么才是‘好男人’

当他牵着她走进来的时候,我还以为,那个他牵着是他的妈妈,说真的我也很好奇,为什么不带老婆而带的是妈妈。

后了跟另一个老同学确认了那个我老同学小心翼翼牵着她的手的就是他的夫人。

另个朋友向我说,那个同学的太太在好几个月前患了重病,差一点命也丢了。

我从我的桌位望过去他们,我看到我那个老同学好用心的苛护着他的太太,我也看到他太太的脸上洋溢着被爱的感觉。

我总觉得,真真成功的男人不是他几有钱而是他能真真给到他的太太有个‘永远被爱’的感觉,我这个老朋友做到了

我不知道我这个老同学是有没有钱的,那不重要,重要的是他比很多有钱的男人好几万倍,可不是吗?

老朋友,我向你致敬,我也会为你的太太祷告,请求上帝睗
给她健康。

Friday, November 15, 2013

17th

There are times when I am mad with you
Even more times when you are mad with me
But through it all, we have never failed to be
I am yours and you're my one and only.

The goodness of you feels like a gentle breeze
Sweeping through the years with your honesty
My weaknesses, you've helped me see
"Thank You" are the words I speak to thee.

Remembering those times, when money was not so easy.
You have never asked for Omega, Coach or Gucci
Even now God has blessed us steadily
But your priorities will never be for LV or Burberry.

Thank you dear for those 17 years, you stood by me
天长地久,我有你靠,你有我依
This I promise you on our 17th anniversary
Will always love you madly and deeply.

P/S : I Love You


Thursday, November 14, 2013

May be this is the beginning of a Pathologist in the making.....

Something has always amazed me as far as Marvell is concerned, I remember when he was like 6 years old, when asked what his ambition was,he would say a doctor, so we would leave it as it was,a mere childhood's wishful dream.

As years meanders by till now, whenever he is asked again about his ambition,he would adamantly say a doctor but this time he is more objective which kind of medical faculty he would want to get involved in, he aspires to become a Pathologist,the investigative one.

I was rather amused by his "weird" aspiration, there was a few times, when I asked him why did he have this "penchant" to becoming a Pathologist, I must admit I really like his one and only reason for it, he'd always say this................"Every Death Must Be Justified".............man I really like this.

I am so happy and proud of him,just like how I was so happy and proud of his older brother Jovial four years ago.

Just got his UPSR exam result and he scored a straight As and I am sure for this week,he can watch all the Crime Scene Investigation series till his heart's content.



Thank God for my boys and a big thank to all his teachers and friends who always support him.......appreciate it.

孩子去追逐你的理想吧,千万不要轻易气馁和放弃

P/S : Marvell, you have done yourself proud




Sunday, November 03, 2013

You're simply awesome

Dear Jovial,

Let papa say I love you first before I wish you a "Happy Birthday" and may the good Lord continue to bless you with good health and great wisdom.

Son, you are now 16 officially already today, a big boy now or should I say a teen already, you have your own thinking,sometime much to my dislike but hey what the hack like I said you are a big boy now.

Dear son, there have been many occasions when we went on "cold wars" but I believe just like me, you too know that papa loves you truly.

Like many of the teens, I know you hate long winded speech,therefore I am going to make it very simple and nice,, I love You Son and Happy Birthday to You.........and remember you can always run to me if you need covers...............



P/S : I Love You  Jo

Friday, October 25, 2013

You're simply awesome..................

Dear Marvell,

Let papa begin by saying this to you first thing first,"Happy birthday son and I will always always love you"

You know son, it has always been such a joy to have you as my son, your cheekiness, your coolness and your smartness but most of all I like you just the way you are.

Son, as you move on further in your life, I hope you have and will pick up those "life lessons" that papa has been so freely sharing with you.

Remember how papa shared with you how by "giving a little more" to others will put a big smile on their faces,to have a compassionate heart and always be nice to others.

For so many years son, you have always said that you wanted to be "D" and papa just wants to encourage you to pursue your dream no matter what, do not let another other things drive you away from your dream, ya?

Lastly son, a great birthday to you and I will always keep you in my prayer and asking the good Lord above to keep you healthy and strong...................


Signing off..............your papa


P/S : I Love You








Friday, October 18, 2013

My hope and My dream

My wife emailed these photos of my two boys when they were little, looking at them, I felt just like many of you parents would have felt,"Man, how time really flies"









As a parent,sometimes I have regrets too, in ways that I told myself that I should have done this more,done that less but then again true to the saying of "How time flies" Looking at them now, they are both now soon to enter 17 and 13 respectively.

I have always prayed that my boys will grow up to be fine young man,who would have good heart,compassion and they would really live out their dreams.

P/S : I  love you guys