Something has always amazed me as far as Marvell is concerned, I remember when he was like 6 years old, when asked what his ambition was,he would say a doctor, so we would leave it as it was,a mere childhood's wishful dream.
As years meanders by till now, whenever he is asked again about his ambition,he would adamantly say a doctor but this time he is more objective which kind of medical faculty he would want to get involved in, he aspires to become a Pathologist,the investigative one.
I was rather amused by his "weird" aspiration, there was a few times, when I asked him why did he have this "penchant" to becoming a Pathologist, I must admit I really like his one and only reason for it, he'd always say this................"Every Death Must Be Justified".............man I really like this.
I am so happy and proud of him,just like how I was so happy and proud of his older brother Jovial four years ago.
Just got his UPSR exam result and he scored a straight As and I am sure for this week,he can watch all the Crime Scene Investigation series till his heart's content.
Thank God for my boys and a big thank to all his teachers and friends who always support him.......appreciate it.
Let papa say I love you first before I wish you a "Happy Birthday" and may the good Lord continue to bless you with good health and great wisdom.
Son, you are now 16 officially already today, a big boy now or should I say a teen already, you have your own thinking,sometime much to my dislike but hey what the hack like I said you are a big boy now.
Dear son, there have been many occasions when we went on "cold wars" but I believe just like me, you too know that papa loves you truly.
Like many of the teens, I know you hate long winded speech,therefore I am going to make it very simple and nice,, I love You Son and Happy Birthday to You.........and remember you can always run to me if you need covers...............
Let papa begin by saying this to you first thing first,"Happy birthday son and I will always always love you"
You know son, it has always been such a joy to have you as my son, your cheekiness, your coolness and your smartness but most of all I like you just the way you are.
Son, as you move on further in your life, I hope you have and will pick up those "life lessons" that papa has been so freely sharing with you.
Remember how papa shared with you how by "giving a little more" to others will put a big smile on their faces,to have a compassionate heart and always be nice to others.
For so many years son, you have always said that you wanted to be "D" and papa just wants to encourage you to pursue your dream no matter what, do not let another other things drive you away from your dream, ya?
Lastly son, a great birthday to you and I will always keep you in my prayer and asking the good Lord above to keep you healthy and strong...................
My wife emailed these photos of my two boys when they were little, looking at them, I felt just like many of you parents would have felt,"Man, how time really flies"
As a parent,sometimes I have regrets too, in ways that I told myself that I should have done this more,done that less but then again true to the saying of "How time flies" Looking at them now, they are both now soon to enter 17 and 13 respectively.
I have always prayed that my boys will grow up to be fine young man,who would have good heart,compassion and they would really live out their dreams.
What would your action be when suddenly in the midst of having lunch with your children when one of them started to tell you this, " Papa, you are summoned to go and see my discipline teacher tomorrow?"
I was asked to do the above mentioned by my Jovial yesterday, when I heard it,I smiled at him and asked him gently why,then I just paused and waited for his explanation.
To be frank I was not at all perturbed by this so called summoning cause I trusted my son that he knew what was wrong and right but I knew that there must be of some wrong in what he'd think was right,as for a teen the subject matters of "Friendship" and "Brotherhood" would reign supreme over many things for my son as well and I was right about it when he divulged what he did.
He told me that he was caught cheating during his English exam, this got me very surprised,how could he as English was his forte,then he shared with me, it was because one of his classmates asked him to "help" him out in this subject and he thought "what the heck" brother ma, so he happily did(even though he knew it was wrong) so both of them were caught.
The part that I enjoyed the most was that the both of us having fun discussing this "cheating" issue and it really got us talking.
So I explained to him "how sometimes a right can be wrong" and I promised him that I would surely go and see his discipline teacher and I would do my best to persuade him to mete out the lightest sentence and I told him that I would help to do the same for his classmate as well.
I was happy, simply because I knew that my son would take me as a father who'd take the effort in understanding him even though sometimes we don't see eye to eye with certain things but after all that has been said and done,we are family.
Just some simple words, just a few brief moments of showing concern,that's suffice to make me happy...
Jovial asked me two weeks if he could change his tumbler to a bigger one, I said okay and told him that I would get my friend to get him the "Tupperware' brand one.
A week has passed and my friend still has not sent me the tumbler yet and one night over the dinner Jovial asked me when would he get his new tumbler,I said don't know then I offered him mine which is of 1.5 liters one,he declined then he said something that was really warm.
He said,"Papa, never mind lah, I'd wait for the new one cos you need your big tumbler more than I do and you are always on the run,you need to drink more water "
Those ways coming from my 16 years old son really warmed my heart,he might not even realized it that those uttered words were like seeing the water in the desert..
I really love to see my sons growing up with loads of tender,loving care and I am sure with such traits that will go far in their respective chosen paths..
Let's face it, when we wish someone a belated birthday it is when we forget or too busy to remember that someone's birthday or may be that someone is kind of too negligible to be remembered.
But what if a someone who is very important or special to you, would you not "pre remember" his or her birthday?
So here I am wishing my lovely wife "Happy Birthday" albeit a day earlier because she truly deserves it. I thank God for her all these years and may the Good Lord continue to bless her with a good health and good energy to run alongside with me.
She's more classy than any Coaches and LVs combined
For she has a heart that is so true and kind.
Eighteen years she's been my lovely wife
I shall treasure her always like a vintage wine..
Happy Birthday once again dear,, the 27th of September
Just about a week or so ago, I sat down,chatting over a cuppa with a dear friend and it kind of caught me by surprise when I began to hold his hand and gave him a hug telling him to be strong whilst weathering through the hard time, his eyes began to moisten with some little tears.
You see my friend's wife was diagnosed with cancer close to a year now, she left her job and currently going through some treatments that rendered her weak and kind of hopeless and as a loving husband, my friend painstakingly trying to give his beloved wife the best that he can.
So, he was tearing up, I thought it was because it was about his wife that courted the inconspicuous tears when I held his hand and gave him a friendly hug but I was wrong.
When he was done dabbing away the wetness that rimmed his eyes, he said thank you to me, he said that that hug was comforting to him and what he shared with me thereafter really got me thinking of my other friends who are just like him, caring for their ailing spouses.
My friend was sharing even though he was not suffering all the pains from cancer as his wife but he said the pain that he was gong through seeing his wife suffers was akin to putting him through hell and get himself burned in a fiery cauldron and he kind of lamented most of times,friends and relatives would not ask him how he was feeling coping with all the stress.
So,now we must understand the next time when we extend our tender,loving and cares to the sick, we must also do likewise to the care givers......................