Will i cheat ?

After reading Claire's blog sharing her friend's ordeal of her husband committing adultery or in the layman's term, cheating on your wife. I paused for a while and i asked myself these hypothetical questions " Will i cheat on my wife ?" and "If i did cheat on my wife, what would be my driving factors?"

First of all, i am no saint(i guess no one is), and like the christians say, the devils are always there to bring you down with entrapements in form of your own pyschical and sexual needs. I wont say i will not be lured or be enticed but i would always have these two things deeply inscribed in my mind. 1) i love my wife so much and i will not do anything to hurt her. 2) i shall in no way, lose the respect my children have in me. And because of these two commandments i have so far, i can safely declare myself a VIRGIN(virgin in the context of not having sex with other women other than my wife)

It gives me great joy to hear from my chidren that they love me so much and they know that their old man loves their mother so much too, and i would always ask my children do they respect me as a good father and a loving husband, i am glad to hear them say "Yes you are"

I am not speaking for others, i am only sharing my own thoughts about "cheating on your wife" In fact there had been times, where opportunity presented itself calling out to you with this " you can cheat and no one will ever find out" and sometimes it really makes you vulnerable but to me my two commandments will always keep my virginity intact. I must admit that there were times when your will would want to give in to your lust, and you would really think it was ok, no one would find out. Seriously i could have done that,and your body telling you that you should have done that and no one will really going and find out, but to hurt somebody who trusts you with her soul, life and body, that would not be nice.

I really want my sons to grow up to be fine young man, to appreciate the sanctity of love and marriage and i again i really hope they can learn this from their parents and when they do that in the future, i shall then be truly enjoying the respect i have from my boys.

Note : i guess i have found my answer for question No 1 so the question No 2 is non-existent

P/S :Love will never die if you keep stoking the fire and fanning the flame

What's wrong with that?

I am not some kind of pervert,sex maniac or woman craze lunatic. I am just a normal man admiring someone nice be it man or woman, someone who i think deserves my looking at, who is worth my eyes flexing more muscles than they normally should. I absolutely have no problem telling the whole wide world,yes i love looking at women, especially those with beautiful, well toned body, great sense of dressing and exude the confidence of exhibiting the great assets, and who dare to show that yes i have the cleavage that even the same sex would drool over.

And i am not gay or homosexual or bisexual,just because i love to look at men who are smart looking, well dressed, well toned body. These are the people who give me the motivation to pump more irons, to watch my weight and to remind me that yes i can be the centre of attention like they do too and who sometimes giving the inspiration to my dressing sense.

By looking at these beautiful people men and women alike, it gives me a nice feeling, compounding my belief that everyone can be beautiful,only those slouch who are too lazy to even giving themselves a chance to look good.

Well, please excuse me if i sounded a little bit furious and flaring my temper like a sniper pulling the trigger to let out the steam, i have a valid reason for my outburst, hear this.

Just yesterday, my second sister was telling me that one of her friends' friend was labelling me as some kind of sex maniac who claimed that i looked at her as if i wanted to devour her, my sister was questioning did i glue my eyes on her friend's friend with the venue and time mentioned to me, i totally have not a single idea who this VICTIM was.

I was furious and i asked my sister to let this girl know, did i in anyway intrude into her privacy, or sending any innuendos that " I want to sex you up". If she does not want to be looked at by any man for that matter, she should veil herself from top to toe.

P/S : Make yourself proud,if you have what makes you proud

Leave,,, the first time he lays his hands on you....

Before i forget i really want to blog about something shared with me by an old friend as i bumped into her last friday.

Didnt expect to bump into her for she is always travelling overseas because her nature of business in high fashion required her to travel extensively,at a glance, not too sure if it was her, anyway i just called out " Sabrina, Sabrina" trying my luck if it was really her. She looked around and said hi. (she didnt know me by the name Eugene, didnt use that name when i was younger lah)

We were standing by the roadside chit-chatting away, and as usual the topics for married couples always revolve what else but family, marriage and children. Cheekily, i commented that she had put on weight, suprisingly she agreed and she told me that she was on some medication for hormone imbalance problem, i asked her why, she frankly began by telling me that she had just got divorced with her husband of 18 years.

I was so shocked as i always thought that she had a good life, a handsome husband, a good Mercedes to go around and always well groomed from top to toe. Concerned as an old friend, i asked her how did it happen, she told me that she had been a victim of domestic violence started the first time the third year into her marriage life.

Initially, she stayed on because the children were still small, and the husband would always feel remorseful after his violent acts inflicted upon my friend and the worst is even her own family could not believe that she was the victim and she felt so helpless.

I guess for so many years, she had suffered in silence where no one from the outside can even sense the ordeal she went through. I am happy for her now that she had finally stood up and broken the shackle.

After about 20 minutes standing by the roadside, she said she had to go and i wished her all the best and applauded her courage to be a real WOMAN.

After saying bye bye to her, i was thinking how many women out there are like the ex Sabrina suffering in silence, letting their man abuse them and with no courage to stand up. I must really say, it is really really sad for that thing to happen to a defendless woman.

P/S : Leave him quick, the first time he lays his hands on you..

Life, is about now.........

As i posted in my previous post that i needed to visit an old friend of mine who is sick, i am glad now that i have managed to pay him a visit after a few missed turns and overshots.

Upon arriving at his doorstep,i called out "Robert, Robert" he took a peek through his window pane and suddenly he repsonded " is that you Eugene?" gladly i replied "sure is. As the door open, i saw one frail figure walking with the assistance of walking frame, and i was glad, i met up with an old friend.
I spent about two hours chit-chatting with and old friend(didnt know that he is already 62, and how time flies)reminiscing the old times, and i asked him about his health condition. He told me that he was suffering from colon cancer which has since spread to the other parts of his body.

He even told me a dreaded news that his doctor told him that he had only two months to live out his life, i didnt ask when would that time frame expire, i just hope that i can still see him on my next few visits.

Talking to a friend who has walked toward the end of the line,has really humbled you as a person, and how this category of people face life knowing that life itself will soon if not sooner run out on them can teach you what life really is all about.

I am still trying to digest what lessons i can possibly learn after meeting an old friend, but one thing is for sure is that one must always try to bring joy and laugther to our friends, it doesnt really matter if you are called a crown sometimes.

As i made my way out of Robert's house, i wished him well and promised that i will be back visiting, and profusely he thanked me for spending my time chit-chatting with him, and to him it was precious.

P/S : That are just things you can do to bring joy to others

Call him what you like, to me He is the Best

"Heal the world, make it a better place for you and for me and the entire human race, there are people dying"



In memory of my all time Idol,,, Micheal Jackson, no one can compare to you seriously not in a million years.


P/S : I need to holler right now,," Micheal Micheal I Love You"

RIP The King of Pop