Business As Usual..............

As i shared in my previous post dated 28/7/09, how i nearly lost a customer but today i am happy because i managed to clinch it back.

Just came back from visiting that particular customer with my technician, first thing i did was to wear a big smile or my face, second thing i did was to apologize again, third thing i did was to tell her i appreciate her support and appreciate if i could continue the business and i am thankful to her for just that.

It was no mojo or any magic spell i cast upon her, it was only i was wrong, rectified it and got on with the business.

Lastly, thank God for the mercy.

Note : If you have prayed for me, thank you. If you have not, i will need it next time

P/S : Sometimes it's good to make ourselves smaller

Should i continue doing this? i really dont know

Received a call from a very dear old friend, we have known each other for a long time now,ever since she was single, now thay she has a eldest son of 23 years old, that's about summing up how long i have known her.

The reason she called was to ask me for some financial assistance, she told me her house installment was 4 months overdue, and the bank has come down hard on her as she has been labelled as habitual defaulter. I dont know why, this time unlike the previous times, i told her that i might not be able to help her, she was saddened by my reaction, as this has never happened before.

I have been in a way helping her financially(without the knowledge of my wife), i dont know why,this time i just could not do it and i felt frustrated in extending the help,(eventhough i can still manage the amount).

I have been advising her "to cut the coat according to the cloth" been telling her to look for ways to reduce her spending, but i guess all my advice to her has come to a naught. I can understand that her husband does not earn that much being a school bus driver,but i can see she is not doing enough to living within means,(dont want to elaborate lah)

I have said to her many times, let sit down and learning to work out a budget, to prevent her from overspending, to look for ways to cut expenses, and everytimes i talk about budgeting she will hit me back that life would be no fun, if have to cut this, have to cut that.

Now, i am struggling, should i be so adamant enough to say NO, risking a long friendship or should i just give in for the last time? i really dont know.

When i tell my wife about this, i really hope she can understand, me helping another old friend.

P/S : I dont mind giving but would it help?

When saying "sorry" is all that it takes.

Suddenly i felt so tired, suddenly i felt so helpless and suddenly i thought why should this happen........but i am still thankful that i have the wisdom to solve these problems.

Received a call from a customer (a big one) telling me that she could not support me anymore, and another call from another customer telling me that she had to cancel the order, a double blow straight to my face, but i am still thankful that i kept my cool, retreated a bit to look for solution.

I made sure that i made no excuses to defend myself, i only wanted to make amend that i was sorry for putting them (my customers)in some kind of trouble. I told them that i would look into the whole issue and come out with the most acceptable solution for them and not for me.

I began to put myself in their shoes, i began to feel for them. i began to experience the trouble that they had to go through when my products gave them the trouble. I asked myself, what kind of solutions i would accept from my supplier, if i were to be in their shoes that can make me feel good and keep supporting him.

After much thought, i made a call to my customer, i begin to say "i am sorry" and i can identify with the malaise, and i told them that i would personally attend to them with some concrete solutions. They sensed my sincerity and they were willing to help me to look for a way out, for that i am thankful again.

P/S : Excuses wount take you far but sincerity will

I am a monster...seriously...

You know something struck me the other day when my youngest son Marvell asked me a "sudden death" question, a question that so simple yet i have problem of telling him, after a few days, i finally come to this conclusion.

When i described the question as "sudden death" it was because that question out of no where strangled me. My son asked me " papa, what big big big bad habit do you have?" i told him i had many,but he insisted me telling him just one Big Big Big Bad Habit.

So now i know, after some so called soul searching, i know one thing for sure, this is the Big Big Big Bad Habit i have.........I am the Monster when i am behind the steering wheel. I curse, i swear, i puke nasty words and i something exhibit bad hand sign at those motorists or drivers that flout the traffic rules, i just cant stand them.

My wife has been and still is advising me to ignore those irresponsible morons, but seriously i really have trouble of controlling myself when those lunatics cross my path, my wife is concerned that one day i might be courting trouble with others,and landing myself in trouble or even injuries.

I have thought about "minding my own business" while i am driving on the road, somehow or rather it just wrecks up my nerves when i see for instance someone entering a "no entry" lane, i would just flash my head light non stop, untill he is gone out of my sight.

Now, recollecting my youngest son question, i guess i really need to just mind my own business when i hit the road,simply because people now are more cold-blooded, and easily losing their cool. I just dont want to be another victim of road bully. I dont want to be part of the news that one uncle dies, simply because he wanted to "Educate" a rule breaking motorist.

P/S : I aint no vigilante, learning to keep my cool at bay..

Lost and found,,,after so many years

You know there are really things that you cant buy with money, for instance old friendship of 36 years, i cant even use a single dime to entice any of my old classmates of 36 years to come to the reunion do that we organised last night, they just came.
Back then we guys outnumbered the girls, but last night the girls were the queens

We guys were not that good in school back then but i am glad that many of us are doing all right, some are well done

My two old friends that i always joke about, the lady was always no 1 in the class, and the man was always the last in the class, that was long time ago.

I was so happy that i could be sitting down with long lost friends, catching up the good old days

We knew one another in 1974 when we were 7 years old and now 2009 we are 43 years old. They were my classmates in the primarily school, we had about 52 of us in our class, so far we have managed to locate about 40 or more of us.

I was singalling with my hands showing the sign of 4 and 3 indicating that we are 43 years old now

I have always been passionate about rekindling old friendship,so when an opportuniy arises about meeting up with old friend, i would be more than happy to oblige.

I was so very happy last night, simply because i attended a reunion gathering with some of my old classmates, so happy because there were three old classmates that i have not seen,since we parted ways in 1980, one came back from New York, another two still living among us in Penang but somehow or rather we could only meet up for the first time last night.

She has been living among us in Penang for so many years, only met up with her for the first time last night, what a pleasant feeling that was, (thank you for making it there, Siew Lee)

Last night's gathering do really gave me a lot of dejavu and sweet memories, we were so proud that we were all came from a Chinese school, that ever emphasizes treasuring old friendship. Last night, no one came with"AIR", we were all so happy irrespective how rich, how professional, how poor, how good looking, how smart our children are, we were just there catching up the old days, that's all.

P/S : I love you guys, i am sure we can catch up again.

Looking back....Thanking God...

My company's financial year ended in June this year, looking back at last financial year, it was filled with heartaches, misunderstanding which nearly brought my company on the verge of collpase, it was further aggravated with drop of sales, and all others related issues.

Looking back, i have to admit it was not easy but i was humble and transparent enough to come to term with my own inadequacy, my own shortcoming, my own flaws. I was ready to say "I am sorry" when i was supposed to.

Looking back, it was a great lesson to learn that the "problems" itself was no big deal, if one was to stop dwelling in the "problem" and trying to look at it from the inside out, one needs to step out from the "problems" zone and take a hard look at it from the outside in, then one will realize that the problem is not that big after all.

Looking back, i am glad that there is a silver lining in the rainbow after the rain has stopped, i am happy that things are getting better now. i am thankful that God was there and forever be there to see me through, i am greatful knowing that there is someone out there praying for me.

P/S : There is always gonna be another moutain, i'm always gonna make it move, always gonna be an uphill battle, sometimes i have to learn to lose

You said you would be by her side, didnt you?

My boys are now 12 (Jovial) and 8 (Marvell) years old respectively, i really enjoy the wonderful bond that i share with my two boys, but there is just one thing though that i regret not doing as far as they are concerned. I was not there to witness "The Moment" when there were taken into my world because my wife underwent the Caesarian.

I was online MSNing with a lady friend cum customer, and as usual for married people, one subject that will never elude us is the subject of family, children and all. As were MSNing away, we came to the subject of pregnancy, she has one boy and another one is on the way.

Dont know why, out of the sudden i asked her if she was enjoying her pregnancy thus far, and she said yes and no,that really puzzled me. So casually i continue asking why was it so, she hesitated for a while and replied...............................

During her first pregnancy, never once, her husband would accompany her to see the doctor, she lamented. She said,when she was there waiting for the doctor, she felt so lonely and jealous seeing other husbands accompanying their wives.

Now that she is pregnant again, she has just one hope that this time around, the husband would accompany her, even just once or twice to see doctor. But then again, she is not that hopeful that he would do it, she said her husband is "one kind" one..........

I did not pursue further, i just wished her all the best. Recalling my MSNing with my friend, i was thinking to myself, it really does not take much for a lady(i mean our wives)to be happy,just some little thing i mean really little that we can do, for instance being there when they need us the most, a short and brief SMS of " i love you" a simple question like " are you tired today? or may be something like this " can hold your hand?"

P/S : LVs are cool, but will not be as cool as saying "I Love You"

Last night... i was unfaitful.

I really could not sleep last night, my mind kept wandering, back and forth, the image of her was there in my mind. Images of our past keep floating, forcing myself to stop, somehow or rather it was to no avail. So i just let if flow, let those pictures out,piece by piece, so i was telling myself.

Yes, i was dreaming of my ex-girlfriend, those times that we were together, i was in way aware of what i was dreaming but in another way i was really dreaming about this ex of mine. You see this ex of mine is someone that i once loved dearly, the one that i went ga-ga for and the one i suffered the most when i lost her, and lastly the one who really put my sanity close to crack.

At that time of losing her about 20 years ago, one of my buddies, could not believe the things that i did to ease the pain, i never shed a single drop of tears for any of my exes except for her and yes she was someone so special to me back then.

So last night, i was happy that i could relive those moments again, the pain and the joy i once shared with her, you might say i am childish or even foolhardy to write about this, but then again, it makes me happy if i were to put it down in words.

P/S : Thanks for the memories..........you know who you are.

B,E.A.U.T.Y.. Body Beautiful

You know there is really such a thing called "sex addiction." i didnt know so much about it or how true it can be, untill a friend of mine who is in his mid 50s sharing with me that he spends a"X" amount of money(dont worry he can afford it)to have the extra sexual services monthly,the money spent is not entirely for sexual intercourse with the "sex provider"part of it,is for massage services plus a little extra here and there.(if you know what i mean)

Everytime when i ask him why he has to do what he has to do, his answer will always be, "wait untill you come to my age, or wait untill your wife has turned cool towards your sexual advances),OK, i shall put a stop to my friend's secret rendevous, but somehow or rather he did get me thinking about the correlation between sex and a lasting marriage.

Can sexual deprivation from either party widens the chasm between husband and wife, if there is a sexual deprivation why cant the couple address the issue openly, why must we regard sex as a duty rather than an act of showing love.

A church counsellor friend(team of husband and wife) once told me, throughout their counselling career, the most common hindrance to a marriage is about sex and the lack of communication about it. sweeping it under the carpet untill one party finds the avenue that satisfies one's needs from someone apart from the spouse, hence it brings forth the break down of the marriage. They told me, it was harder for Christian couples to address this sex issue, a religious taboo, may be ?

"I want to make myself look sexy" once i told my friend, she asked"why?" and jokingly i replied " i dont want my wife to mate with a log", i want to make sure i am healthy pysically and sexually, to pump more iron, to have a chest that my wife will drool over, learn to be more funny,and i believe that's what i must do to keep the "IT" going.

Yes, as my previous post, my six-pack is getting more apparent now,,,kudos to me.


P/S : If i want her to be, it has to start with me

I have to say this..............

Just last week, the whole nation was shaken by the tragic death of one budding politician Teoh Beng Huat, his death has caused a lot of us to be angry, and we were all aghast by the nature of his death, a plunge from 14th from one government agency, and suicide is almost certain not the cause to his death.

I dont want to talk about politic (because i know it sucks) but i just have to say this as a simple Malaysian. A Malaysian who is so mad at why so many questions that affect us have not been answered, a Malaysian who is so furious to read about how a politician could amass a fortune that could enable him to litterally build a castle that is so swank and a Malaysian who is so depressed that this politician can still be so snobbish.

I have to say this, the death of Beng Huat has caused me to feel so uneasy about who is there to protect just another innocent Malaysian like you and me, it has made me wonder could Beng Huat's death end up in vain, put in oblivion and be forlorn after so much ado about it. Could Beng Huat's death be the last? I really dont know but i am certain that after this, there will be more for me to feel so sad about because the system is status quo.

I have to say this, please do not let me feel so helpless in seeing and knowing the truth and i have to say this please do let me have some avenues to vent my frustration .

I have to say this and those politicians, please do not make stupid remarks again, like we are not responsible, no comment so far and all other idiotic remarks that can only picture them as someone whose brains are smaller than their balls.

I have to say this lastly, please dont make me angry, you dont like me when i am angry. A nation can fall, an empire can collapse not from the act of god but when hands are joined, hearts united and we can surely make that change.

P/S : Our child should not die in vain.........

Tonight's the night.........

"Tonight's the night i am going to make it happen, tonight i am going to put all the things aside, i am gonna love you, build my world around you..........i'm so excited, i know i cant hide it, i am about to lose control and i think i like it"

The weekend's here and i want to bring my wife out(minus the chidren) for some private time, a simple dinner and a drink or two. You guys got any ideas on how to make this evening more exciting, (i have about 4 hours private time with her) i just cant check into the hotel and have a wild of time for 4 hours, right?

Do share me with me if you had some crazy ideas for a couple's night out or even your own escpades exeprience, all right?

P/S : Love is in the air,everywhere i look around, love is in the air, every sight and every sound

He hated my comment

You see, men love to gossip as much as women,sometimes even more,there is no denying it, we really think we know it all, we really regard ourselves more learned than our female counterparts, that's why sometimes we are not willing to lend our ears for a little longer to hear our spouse out, anyway i am not talking about this today, but gossip in another kind.

Believe it or not, i do spend a good part of my breadfast time talking nonsense and whatever not,usually with a few friends. What happened that morning sparked certain kind of debate among few of my breadfast buddies.

Looking across the table, there was this sloppy and unkempt looking woman in her mid 30s(i guess), kind of out of shape body of which will not entice you to look at her twice,sitting down having breadfast with her child,one friend began to talk softly to the rest of us with this statement, " Ai yoh, i cannot imagine myself making love with this lady, she cant even turn me on" i tend to agree, but i did not want to spur my friend further in such a topic, then softly again, i told him forget about the issue, she might overhear it and that would not be nice.

After the lady has left, i took a swipe at my friend who made that unfriendly statement and jokingly i told him to look at himself too, look at his dressing, look at his bulging tummy and looking at his unkempt hair and said this to him that made him mad at me "if i were a woman, i would not want to sleep with you too" with his facial expression getting a little unkind and voice raised and he shot back at me," I where got same, i slog so hard,providing my family, i where got time to look after myself "

Defending myself, i retaliated," just how do you think that lady that you commented got time to make herself look good, she might be slogging harder than you do, day in and day out 24/7, and who knows when she asks for a little extra from her husband to go for facial and spa treatment, the husband might just tell her, no needlah, you stay at home one, nobody will look at you one."

Sensing that my friend was not at all pleased with my comment, i shrugged and telling the guys, let change topic, lets talk about politic and economy instead.

I sincerely believe no one married woman wants to look bad, she too wants to cut a Jessica Alba body, Farrah Fawcett hair and be pampared with luxuries such as LV, Hermes, Coach, Prada and whatever lah, but sometimes situation really does not permit her to do so, and she gives in and trade her "rights" for the sake of the family.

P/S : She too can be sexy, if you let her be.

My PMS.....

Lately, i love this song so much from Neyo (Mad)with one line in the song that i really like,"i dont want to go to bed, mad at you and i really dont want you to go to bed, mad at me" and just last night i was in way tossed into such scene,my feeling was synonymous with Neyo's song.

There is no wrong or right, no your fault or my fault or not even your excuses or mine, in a marriage we sometimes are too overshadowed by our daily duties that we tend to forget the existence of our partner, the daily grind sometimes does get us down pyshically, hence we forget to go back to the basis of a relationship, to touch, to talk, to caress, to stroke, to hug, to kiss and to get intimate with our partner.

Last night, it was the same routine, husband and wife came back from work, dinner cooked and eaten, sat through with the children's home work, caught the news in between, by then when everything was done with, it was the call of slumber for the children, the wife tugged them to sleep, and it was only 10 at night.

The husband sneaked into the bedroom, the children were far from sleeping, the husband wanted to spend some times alone with the wife, but the wife was too oblivious to the husband's atlantic calling SOS for love, may be the wifey was too tired, so the husband decided to let the beautiful wife to wander far away from her sleep.

Feeling uptight and didnt know what to do, the husband went out to meet up with a old friend, had a drink or two, and the curtain fell and the story ended.

I guess it was the effect of my PMS syndrom last night (hahahah), feeling a bit lost. So let us remember that let us go back to the basis all the times.

P/S : The magic of a relationship is to stick to the basis

Yours sincerely and truthfully........

I remember when i first started blogging, most of my friends were curious and even untill today they are still as curious, they asked and they still do ask, how we bloggers can blog so much, can have so many things to rant about, and i used to and still i will tell them this. I love writing and my daily encounter with life itself is sufficient to give me topics to write about.

Today's post is about me saying just one thing about me being a blogger a sincere and truthful one, i received email recently implying that if it was all the truth or bona fide about the stories that i blogged about, or could it all be made up ones,hence i just wanted to share a little why i love blogging, even it was only one email questioning my sincerity.

I believe in truthfullness and that's why on my first third day of my blogging journey, i had pasted my picture and that of my family, (the first two days, i did not how to paste photos, so i only did it on the third day) i wanted people to know who i am and i dont believe in anonymity, i am kind of "you get what you see" type of person.

The subjects that i write about are true life's accounts, some of my own, some of my friends', some are those i see, i bump into and most of all,all of them are real. At one point,one of my sisters was so mad about me because i wrote about her divorce, which even resulted her in severing tie with me.(we have since patched up). I talked about my mild alcohol addiction and how my eldest son Jovial despises my drinking buddies so much



I even wrote about my spending a night away from home due to a "cold war" with my wife, i jotted down my arguments with my sons, i talked about my business when it hit the nosedive, and the misunderstanding i had with my business partners, and again,all i had written can be accounted for.


At one junture i even shared my years of suffering from depression, i shared my joy, my thoughts, my frustrations. I dont believe in making up stories, if i did,i believe my readers or the visitors will know about it and nobody wants to read things from untruthful bloggers.


Just like week, i received one email from a girl i dont even know, telling me that she was thankful to me about some insipiration she got from reading some posts of mine.(Glory be to HIM) i believe everyone of us has the ability in making someone feels happy no matter how small it can be, but it all must start with truthfullness.

On the whole i just love blogging, it has given me so much joy in unlocking myself in the form of putting my thoughts,my feeling and my mood in words. And i am really thankful that you keep lending your ears to me. Kudos to you.



P/S : If you can go on living, then you can go on blogging...........sincerely and truthfully.

Would you forgive a dying man?

When he was doing ok, his nights were spent in the consort of other women, his money was splurged more on other women than his own family. He told you to be just a wife because he was giving you enough monthly allowance and he hardly took concern on his only child. For so many years, he had been like this.

Then when he was in his 50s, he was struck with cancer with one kidney removed, suddenly he felt that he really needed a family to fall upon, a wife to look after him and you as a wife, for so many years suddenly feeling happy for the lost sheep has finally come back to the fold. You shouldered upon yourself the responsibility of taking this husband of yours in the best ways that you could, you endured his mood swing, you gag your own frustration, you swallowed his chauvinistic behaviour, all for the love you have for him.

For the following 2 years, he was slowly recovering from cancer and soon enough he was declared so called free from cancer and he was getting fitter, and that's when your second heartache began. He was once again, back to his mischief, his philandering lifestyles and his promiscuity took centre stage. He began to lie to you, giving you the excuses that he should be enjoying the remaining of his life.

He took his girlfriend for overseas trips instead of you, soon enough you found out that this leopard truly cannot change its spots, and again you were tossed back to the suffering that you once went through. It was the suffering for another 3 or 4 years, the suffering that you were so numbed to, the pain that was so insignifacant to you anymore.


Just when this old man thought that he really had the best of his remaining years, thing took a unkind twist, his cancer came back, the relapse this time was so serious that doctor told him that he had only a few months to live and this time he almost lost all of his girlfriend, so like the last time he came back to you. He was truly in the state of excruciating pain and torture from the dreaded cancer.


Would you forgive a dying man, who had hurt you so much, who had put you in total oblivion when he was doing OK, who had once thought that to supply you with monthly allowance that denied you the right to question him and his philandering lifesytles?


Probably this friend of mine had amassed such a good karma in his previous life, his wife is still tendering him. Would you do the same if you were HER?

P/S : They say " Through health and sickness, through poor and riches" where were you when you had it GOOD?

I am as confused as my sons,sigh,,,,,,,

Remember when we were young, playing our "masak masak" (childhood game) syiok syiok we can say " i dontwant to play already" then syiok syiok we can say" ok ok, i can continue to play".
and this is exactly how i feel about our Education Ministry's ways of so called drafting their policy that will have the immense effect upon my children, my friends' children and my friends' friends' children and my neighbour's children and those children that i dont even know.

May be they think, the children all too small and too kind that they can always be treated like guinea pigs, they cannot take their frustration to the street, they cannot form this group or that group to champion their rights, so they (Edu Dept)say never mind, we test this out first lah, if after few years, it cannot work, or the people are furious with our policy,which will put the popularity of the government of the day at stake,then say we can change again lah.

For the last six or (sick)years, we as parents were trying hard to make sure that our children can master the Science and Math subjects in English, and suddenly they came out and telling us this "Sorry folks, this policy is a total failure" we should revert to the previous one. Why is this so. one may ask. Why is the policy that has the utmost importance of our children's future be implemented, scrapped and that's it.

The most funny and bizzare piece of news is that,they conceded that the policy was a failure, and yet they said, we would wait untill year 2012 for the reversion. Looks like a failed policy needs another 1095 days to be made good. Why do they again let our chidren be tagged along with a failed policy for another 3 years?

My poor sons, when they get to secondary level,they will have to brace for another challenge, Math and Science in another medium, another 2 years,another medium is used again. Sorry i forget to stress this, maybe another change of government in the future, will be another change of education policy again.

As general, we all must agree that,the standard of our English language among our children is taking a nose dive faster than we could ever imagine, and with the blur and blurer education policy, our children have more to worry and the parents will have more to be concern.

As far as i am concerned, Education Policy must always have the prime concern for our children's future, we cannot make Education Policy just to please certain group of people, it is for the good of our nation.Even if the education policy is not a popular one but it is good for the children's future, against all odds, we must forge ahead. The government of the day must even wager its political's popularity if the education policy is really good for the children's future, even if it means we can only see the result in 10 or even 20 years from now.



P/S : All i can say is that, they dont really care about us (sorry MJ, i pinjam your line)

This just came in..................

I dont why this line keeps knocking on my head,may be it is the aftermath of MJ's effect, thank God, i have this little space call blog to enable me to jot it down for general sharing.


" How Can I Be Praying, If I Cant Be Forgiving "


P/S : This is my shortest post ever, i really needed to pen it down before it dissipates into thin air

How much is your mobile phone bill..?

When talking about the amount of money we spend on handphone bill on a monthly basis, my friends were stunned to hear from me that my monthly handphone bill is only in the range RM30. They were curious in wanting to know my usage pattern, so i shared the following reasons with them.

1) I dont like chit-chatting over the handphone.

2) When i need to reply a customer's call over some business issues, i'll call mostly on land lines, and if i am on the move, i use mobile to call and concretely i'll them that i will go over to sort out the matters instead conferring it over the handphone, (that usually lasts less than 2 minutes)

3) i dont like sending SMSes, my three commons SMSes i send, (bfast)that's to a good friend to invite him for breadfast. (drink? 9.15 , coffeeshop) to another binging buddy. ( I love you, can we ml tonite?)that's to my wife.

4)I dont have mistresses,so i dont have to talk long and secretly using the mobile.

5) I dont engage in phone sex because i dont know how to have sex with the handset, and i dont sound like a cat over the phone.

I hope my friends were happy with my silly reasons but that's all is true.

Just for the fun of asking, how much do you spend on your handphone bill, and can you cut down on your handphone bills?

P/S : Let me end with the Sodja Boys' line " Kiss me through the phone" and that's so sweet.

Donning the apron again

Seriously, it is not easy to be a working mom, for instance my wife wakes up 6 in the morning, gets the children up, dresses up and zooms she is out sending the children to school and head straight for work. During working hours, she might face problems, unreasonable customers, replying to never ending emails, and sometimes handle some staff's issues.

At the end of the day, i know her heart still longs to cook a nice,healthy and warm dinner for the family no matter how tired she could have been during the day, but lately i know she is worn out, and i know she still tries to do her best to cook for the family but i intend to cut off her cooking at least three times a week, and to stand in for her,i am donning the apron again...

I want her to feel relaxed when she comes back from work, clothes washed, clothes ironed, floor mopped, rice cooked and dishes ready. To let her tired body take a breather after a hard day's work and to enjoy the warmth of the family.

I used to cook and i love to cook, but i guess i am a little out of touch now after a long hiatus from cooking but i know i can still handle the wok and the fire but i still need you to share your cooking tips or even recipes, the simpler the better with me, if you could.

A little background here, my office is only less than 5 minutes drive from home and i can sneak home during lunch if i have to prepare the cooking ingredients for the evening cooking, next to my office, there is a vegetables wholesales store,that means i can buy fresh vegies everyday, and i dont have a slow cooker, i have a three burners stove, i have got an oven and the dishes are mostly catered for my sons (12 and 8 years old respectively) my wife loves the soups. We would prefer it to be simple, 2 dishes and one soup, that would be lovely.

I can be home by 5.45 in the evening and i need one hour or so for my exercise routine, be back about 7.00, so that leaves me with 30 minutes cooking times as we usually take our dinner around 7.30 to 8.00 in the evening.


Please share your cooking experience with me,ok? would appreciate your sharing.


P/S : I am not Anthony Bourdaine, just a husband sharing wife's loads every now and then

The power of a Bald Man...

I would like to share this with you, personally i feel it is rather hilarous because it happened to my friend's husband and it was because of me.....

I shaved my head bald again, (clean one) after few of my friends suggested that i would look kind of cool with bald head, that's not the reason frankly speaking, what really drove me to shaving my head bald was that i missed the stares people flung at me when i had it bald the last time.

Obviously, a bald head would attract some kind of attention especially when standing in the crowd, so there i was standing amongst the crowd while waiting to pick my sons up from school the other day. He gave me a pat on the shoulder and said something like this. "Hey Eugene,how is your business? " and i said "Thank for asking Kenny, it is getting better" when i asked about his,he said no good. Not long after the chit chat, he shifted his attention to my bald head and said something like this "you botak (bald ) again ka? i said yes and that's why my business picked up.

I further elaborated that everytime when my business hit the nosedive, i will surely have my head shaved bald and it has been three occasions, i could see that he was looking blank at me and i awe whether to believe me or not.

Late in the afternoon, i received the call from Kenny's wife who was already laughing at the end of the line before i could even said anything, she asked me with her voice still filled with laugther this " What did you talk to Kenny about this afternoon " and i asked her why, she said her husband out of sudden came back with a clean shaven head and she asked me did i tell him about how business would turn to be better with a clean shaven head, meekly i admitted but i stated that i did not ask Kenny to do what i did. We both had a great laugh out of this and she told me Kenny was feeling lost with his new hairdo or hairlessdo.

On the sideline, which do you prefer my hairless head or haired head? just take this poll.LOL

P/S : In a famous Cantonese cliche, there would be 9 rich bald headed men out of 10 bald headed men, and i prophesy myself to be among the 9, and to you my friend Kenny, hope your business will surely pick up after the shave............

Will i cheat ?

After reading Claire's blog sharing her friend's ordeal of her husband committing adultery or in the layman's term, cheating on your wife. I paused for a while and i asked myself these hypothetical questions " Will i cheat on my wife ?" and "If i did cheat on my wife, what would be my driving factors?"

First of all, i am no saint(i guess no one is), and like the christians say, the devils are always there to bring you down with entrapements in form of your own pyschical and sexual needs. I wont say i will not be lured or be enticed but i would always have these two things deeply inscribed in my mind. 1) i love my wife so much and i will not do anything to hurt her. 2) i shall in no way, lose the respect my children have in me. And because of these two commandments i have so far, i can safely declare myself a VIRGIN(virgin in the context of not having sex with other women other than my wife)

It gives me great joy to hear from my chidren that they love me so much and they know that their old man loves their mother so much too, and i would always ask my children do they respect me as a good father and a loving husband, i am glad to hear them say "Yes you are"

I am not speaking for others, i am only sharing my own thoughts about "cheating on your wife" In fact there had been times, where opportunity presented itself calling out to you with this " you can cheat and no one will ever find out" and sometimes it really makes you vulnerable but to me my two commandments will always keep my virginity intact. I must admit that there were times when your will would want to give in to your lust, and you would really think it was ok, no one would find out. Seriously i could have done that,and your body telling you that you should have done that and no one will really going and find out, but to hurt somebody who trusts you with her soul, life and body, that would not be nice.

I really want my sons to grow up to be fine young man, to appreciate the sanctity of love and marriage and i again i really hope they can learn this from their parents and when they do that in the future, i shall then be truly enjoying the respect i have from my boys.

Note : i guess i have found my answer for question No 1 so the question No 2 is non-existent

P/S :Love will never die if you keep stoking the fire and fanning the flame

What's wrong with that?

I am not some kind of pervert,sex maniac or woman craze lunatic. I am just a normal man admiring someone nice be it man or woman, someone who i think deserves my looking at, who is worth my eyes flexing more muscles than they normally should. I absolutely have no problem telling the whole wide world,yes i love looking at women, especially those with beautiful, well toned body, great sense of dressing and exude the confidence of exhibiting the great assets, and who dare to show that yes i have the cleavage that even the same sex would drool over.

And i am not gay or homosexual or bisexual,just because i love to look at men who are smart looking, well dressed, well toned body. These are the people who give me the motivation to pump more irons, to watch my weight and to remind me that yes i can be the centre of attention like they do too and who sometimes giving the inspiration to my dressing sense.

By looking at these beautiful people men and women alike, it gives me a nice feeling, compounding my belief that everyone can be beautiful,only those slouch who are too lazy to even giving themselves a chance to look good.

Well, please excuse me if i sounded a little bit furious and flaring my temper like a sniper pulling the trigger to let out the steam, i have a valid reason for my outburst, hear this.

Just yesterday, my second sister was telling me that one of her friends' friend was labelling me as some kind of sex maniac who claimed that i looked at her as if i wanted to devour her, my sister was questioning did i glue my eyes on her friend's friend with the venue and time mentioned to me, i totally have not a single idea who this VICTIM was.

I was furious and i asked my sister to let this girl know, did i in anyway intrude into her privacy, or sending any innuendos that " I want to sex you up". If she does not want to be looked at by any man for that matter, she should veil herself from top to toe.

P/S : Make yourself proud,if you have what makes you proud

Leave,,, the first time he lays his hands on you....

Before i forget i really want to blog about something shared with me by an old friend as i bumped into her last friday.

Didnt expect to bump into her for she is always travelling overseas because her nature of business in high fashion required her to travel extensively,at a glance, not too sure if it was her, anyway i just called out " Sabrina, Sabrina" trying my luck if it was really her. She looked around and said hi. (she didnt know me by the name Eugene, didnt use that name when i was younger lah)

We were standing by the roadside chit-chatting away, and as usual the topics for married couples always revolve what else but family, marriage and children. Cheekily, i commented that she had put on weight, suprisingly she agreed and she told me that she was on some medication for hormone imbalance problem, i asked her why, she frankly began by telling me that she had just got divorced with her husband of 18 years.

I was so shocked as i always thought that she had a good life, a handsome husband, a good Mercedes to go around and always well groomed from top to toe. Concerned as an old friend, i asked her how did it happen, she told me that she had been a victim of domestic violence started the first time the third year into her marriage life.

Initially, she stayed on because the children were still small, and the husband would always feel remorseful after his violent acts inflicted upon my friend and the worst is even her own family could not believe that she was the victim and she felt so helpless.

I guess for so many years, she had suffered in silence where no one from the outside can even sense the ordeal she went through. I am happy for her now that she had finally stood up and broken the shackle.

After about 20 minutes standing by the roadside, she said she had to go and i wished her all the best and applauded her courage to be a real WOMAN.

After saying bye bye to her, i was thinking how many women out there are like the ex Sabrina suffering in silence, letting their man abuse them and with no courage to stand up. I must really say, it is really really sad for that thing to happen to a defendless woman.

P/S : Leave him quick, the first time he lays his hands on you..