Friday, take me to the moon and back.....

Hooray, Friday's here to stay. Forget about toll increases, forget about those hooligans cornering wheelchair bound Mr Karpal Singh in the august house of Malaysia's Parliament, forget about Spension retrenching 700 workers, forget about Dow on the verge of breaking below 7000 marks, forget about Christie auctioning off China's 150 years old national treasures, just forget about anything that giving you miscomfort, malaise, worries and confusion, just let your hair down for one day in a week, just freak out and enjoy yourself.

Ok Ok, the craziness in me is not letting me off the hook once again comes Friday, i just love Friday, love to spend the evening with my wife, love to write crazy stuff in my blog, and hopefully love to make someone smile,,, chill out Friday's here...

And today's crazy questions, i will make them sound sexier than the previous weeks. (if you are under 16 years of age, you need to seek your parent's approval before you proceed)


1) What would you do if your spouse says "not tonite dear" ?
2) What you would do if your spouse hollers " give me more !!!!!" ?
3) If sex has to be in sequence, what do you think will be the perfect word before the word "foreplay" ?
4)If you had your last hour on earth, would having sex be your mission to accomplish?
5)If sex needs an appointment, what would be the best time to carry out the act?
6)If sexy lingerie can drive man crazy, what do you think man should wear to drive woman crazy?
7)What would you do, if in the middle of love making, your neighbour shouts back " Hoi, keep that f**king noise low?
8)If you have to pick a random topic to talk about during sex, what would that topic be?
9)If there were no birth control measures, no contraceptives what so ever, would it affect your frequency of sex?
10)Where do you prefer to "mate out" in a MPV or a FWD (four wheel drive)?

Note : No offend to anyone, if you think this quiz is nonsense, rubbish, junk or even bad taste, that is exactly i intended it to be, simply because friday is here,,, hang loose.

P/S: If you think Lily Allen's song F**k you is offensive, mine is nothing

Behind the closed door, i mean bedroom door.

I read with utmost surprise from a published survey carried out by pharmaceutical company Pfzer that high number of Malaysian are not satistfied sexually, i was asking myself if that is true, then more Malaysian will go out to brothels or commit extra marital affairs just to satisfy their sexual needs,simply because their partners cannot satisfy them anymore....

I strongly believe sex should not be a selfish act, seeking only one's satisfaction, if one reaches his or her climax, the other's party's need can be just ignored, if that's what sex is all about then "DIY" itself can in certain way fulfill one's selfish crave and you dont even need to have sex anymore because it only about you, you and more of you.

For the couple, once the bedroom door is closed, one every piece of clothes is slowly being removed to total nakedness, that's is when they enter their private domain, it is when two bodies become one, intertwined with love and passion, and one needs to enter this realm with the intention of satisfying the other party sexual needs first in return you ask for yours. Once enter in this arena of ecstasy, we need to explore, we need to make sure this endeavour is better and hotter than the previous one, no one should care if you moan or groan, you are free to take the ride to heaven.

It is the onus of both party to make their sexual life great, to talk about sex, to laugh about sex, to ticker about sex, to imagine about sex, to enjoy sex. It is not the act of get ready , drop the clothes, penetrate and get done with it quick...they didn't coin the term "foreplay" for nothing.

P/S : Dont be a narcissist, it takes two to be happy in sex.

TwinHead screwed up, so what. !!!

My eldest son Jovial has been bugging me to buy him a PC for quite sometimes now, and i had even told him that it was not in my budget to make that purchase untill the end of the year. It was not because i could not afford, but it was one of the ways that i teach my children about budgeting and curtailing impulse buying.

But sometimes, windfall does happen. Just last week a very good family friend of ours offered to sell us his 1 year old TwinHead PC note book of which he bought for RM3.200 for only RM700.
I was reluctant to buy it in the first place, but thanks to my wife she decided that it was a good deal indeed, so we gladly bought it for Jovial.

Something bad happened along the way, Jovial screwed up the notebook of which he accidentally deleted certain programmes in the note book and depriving us the access of the C and D drive, and my wife was furious about it.

As for me, i had a good talk with Jovial about this issue (screwing up the note book), i did not even scold him about it, in fact i assured him that it was ok for him to explore the notebook, he can fiddle with it, experiment with it. I told him if he faces problems with the notebook or accidentally deleting some files in it, he must be totally responsible to restore it, and if he cannot fix it, then he must on his own effort seek help from someone who can instead of keeping mum about it. The great news is he agreed to my reasoning.

I really have no qualm about my sons making mistakes, in fact i encourage them to, so that that they can squeeze their minds in finding ways to rectify the faults, in that way i believe they will learn more, and be more courageous in handling mistakes and failures.

Thomas Edison had to make countless times of mistakes before he could come out with world's greatest idea, jokingly i've always said to Jovial just one day he can be as famous as Bill Gates,just one day i told him.

My sincere advice to my two wonderful sons is always as such, they can make mistakes but they just cannot make the same mistake twice over.

P/S : To Jovial, dont worry about making mistakes, the more mistakes you make, the closer you are to the solutions.

The morning i broke the ice..............

I moved in to my new home about 1 year ago, and there is this one particular neighbour of whom many of my other neighbours regard as unfriendly and who acts in her most oblivious manners to the existence of other neighbours. I tried smiling at her many times, but as many times in return i was given a cold shoulder.

Me, being as obstinate as i can be, i told myself that one day i would just just break the ice, and end the "Cold War".

I woke up this morning at six, went for a run, finished the run, came back and as i was cooling down, i sat at the thrashold to our apartment to wind down and great thing happened. Heard some cranking of keys and the shreaking sound of the gate, as i moved my eyes to where the sound came from, i saw this neighbour coming out. I needed to pass her place in order to get to my house, so immidiately i stood up and made my way home, and i bumped into her,i gave her a smile,she responded and i responded with a warm "Good Morning" she just smiled back again, and i felt real nice.

It was a brief but cordial exhange of some greeting, but it came to my realization that infact it is not that hard to break the ice or the wall that separates one from another,and it was indeed a good start.

If i had believed the general notion or perception as of other neighbours that she is pictured as someone unfriendly and i stopped trying to do what i should as a good neighbour, i guess this wall will never be broken down.

P/S : In order to break the ice, you need the warmth to melt it, and that fires comes from you

Sickeningly Yours.............

Today's the start of a new working day, and as usual i went to my favourite coffee shop alas China man Starbucks, my strongly brewed coffee black or passionately we call it "Kopi O" and my usual dose of news that the boss allows me to read for free, and as i was leafing through the pages of the Chinese daily, i was utterly disgusted when came to read about a news relating to a alleged sexual abuse inflicted upon a one year old girl.

It was reported that when the parents took the girl back from the babysitter's home, they saw some bruises around the girl's private part, and they took the girl for a medical check-up. After some examination, they doctor reported that indeed the little girl's private part has been penetrated with some kind of hard objects for a numerous times, thus a police was made.

There is always a possibility to a certain degree that our children would always be exposed to danger when we entrust them to someone besides the parents themselves. We just cant be too sure from the faces of our child's care taker and convince ourselves that they are good or otheriwise.

It had happened to me before, even thought it was not of sexual abuse, but the way or ways how my child was treated when he was being put up in the baby sister's house was enough to drive me crazy. Despite the fact that my child then was already 3 years old, but everytime when he was there, he was confined to a small baby cot, for the whole day except time for nap..

My child was litterally incarcerated and his movement was controlled, and when i saw it with my own eyes, i took him back straight away without giving any reasons for my abrupt decision. Nobody should do that to my children.

Children need our protection and we cant be too frivolous to think that it is always when our children are ok when they are entrusted to someone we think are ok. We must be diligent to check every single part of their body to make sure when they come back everyday from the care takers' place, they are 100% ok.

P/S : She might have an angelic face, but we cant be too sure if the devil is at work in her

TGI Friday's questions

Looks like we just cant stop the hand of time, by that i mean the weekend is here again, today's Friday and as usual i am happy on Friday.

Here i am again, scribbling down some silly questions for you to see if we could crank up some laughter.

Here goes :

1) what you would do if you had 4 breasts ?

2)What you love to do best if you had x-ray eyes?

3)If you could add another word to your name,what would it be?

4)Would you agree to a lady being a poligamist (having 2 legitimate husbands)?

5)If you had to keep a night job ,what kind of a job would you want for it?

6)How do you tell your partner or spouse that you are no longer interested in sex?

7)What will be the first word coming out of your mouth, if your spouse is caught red handed cheating on you?

8) What is the one thing that you hate most for being "YOU"

9)What would you do if were even more powerful than GOD?

10)How would the world turn out to be if Micheal Jackson were to be the US's President ?


Note : Dont treat this as a tag, it is just a normal random ideas squizzed from my left brain
P/S : Let have some fun on this wacky, happy and funny Friday

Calling out the wrong name.....

Read a rather funny online news today,"husband strangled his wife for calling out wrong name during sex", and this took place in London.

Collin Scully 59 years old was so furious at his wife Tracey 39 when she called the name "Paul Paul" during sex, and he pushed her down the bed and caused her to bruise before he headed to the children room to retire from the night.

He called the police the next day and claimed that "he had done something to his wife and dont know what he'd done" and police came and got him investigated.

After having read the story, and had a great laugh and if i knew Collin personally i would suggest to him that he should continue make love with the wife and in return he should call out " Mariah, Mariah" and that definately would keep their sex life from waning and their marriage alive.

P/S: To be on the safe side, find a mistress with the name "More"

Why cant we share ?

I was online chatting with a fellow blogger the other day,of whom i have come to respect as a genuine blogger and a good cyber friend (HO PANG YAU). As usual and as for me a non techy guy and with belly full of questions to ask about anything and everything about blog, and to tell you the truth, this HO PANG YAU was there to enlighten me on certain bog related questions.

So as we were chatting away, i brought up the question of " Making Money From Blogging", i believe this is a million dollar question that newbie like me would be dying to find the answer, so this HO PANG YAU was unreservedly giving me some pointers here and there, and i must admit i have learnt a step forward to reaching Adsense's coffer from her advice and tips.

Anyway, when we touched on the subject of our local celebrity bloggers who make handsome money from blogging, i was made to know that many of them would not be willing to share the secrets for you of their earning. Then i was thinking, "Why Cant They Share the Secrets " it is not that i will reduce their income of that sort, instead it is to help another fellow blogger to earn some extra income, that's something i would term as "KUI SAU CHI LO" that means it doesnt cause anything for sharing.

I have made a pledge to myself, if i could master the secrets of making more money from blogging, i will definately share it for free with good friends, just to let them make some extra money and to boost the economy.. ( Sounds so noble, no shame), infact i have involved my eldest son to teach me more about internet and all those things internet.

Please share with me if you have made some money from blogging, would very appreciate it.

ok, Drum roll please, now i shall introduce to you this good Cyber friend of mine, if you have not been to her blog, please pay her a visit, if you have been there, please go there often.
it is Claire from http://www.reanaclaire.blogspot.com/

P/S : It takes sincerity to give birth to mutual affinity

Smile, you're on candid camera !!!!!!

It seems like camwhoring is a in thing now, you take the camera phone, drop your dress ,face the mirror, voila, one click and you look sexy, and for those who are more daring, drop a little bit more, bare a little more, expose a little more, another click and all your sexiness and rauchiness will be well taken.

Is there anything wrong with camwhoring, as far as i am concerned, i really dont think so, if it is meant for your self appreciation or private viewing. Beware though, camwhoring can become an addiction, and the extent of going about camwhoring can be sometimes detrimental.

Once awhile, i do receive emails from some of my friends, and surprise or no suprise at all, some of the emails do contain pictures of those ladies camwhoring away. I was thinking to myself how did these raunchy,sexy and provocative materials got into public domains?

Every now and then, you hear the victims(women at large, sometimes men do fall prey too) claiming how they were being extorted for money or for sex, if they refuse to kow to or submit to their perpetrator's demand, then the victims were told that their nude pictures would be published on the net..

As a parent, i know that i cannot run away from the techonogy frenzy, my children are being exposed to all these advancements, and the least i can teach them is to instill the value of RESPECT for themselves and for others.


P/S : Take the pictures and keep them in the closet

Begin with the end in mind,

I strongly believe everything will face with impasse or come to a deadlock when room for communication, discussion, offering of ideas, evaluating ideas is totally shut down or come to a naught, and hence it will eventually bring about a downfall to let say, a relationship, a marriage, a friendship or even a business.

There is one old cliche, "two heads are better than one" i believe that too,but as far as my business partner is concerned, that seems not to be the case. I have been in business with this partner for many years now, and the only problem that sitll lingers between the two of us is that we dont have communication, and i am dead tired of initiating anymore, i am worn out as far as giving ideas to the company is concerned, because hardly any of mine will be even considered lest accepted, slowly i am draining out for sure.

Can we accept dissentments, allow different ideas, opinions to collide and the friction of thoughts, to manifest itself so that a common objective is acheived and for the benefits of all concerned.

Most often then not, a great idea is born, when minds of different standard come together, one might be lower than your in many fields but that doesnt mean he doesnt have idea, and that also doesnt mean he will not help to bring that idea to fruition.

Did you know how the famous www.flickr.com photo sharing portal came to life and took the world by strom, with only one idea from one nobody. The founder initially wanted the name flicker, and that is too common, so during the brain storming session, one lady simply sprung from nowhere, and said how about dropping the "e" from the word flcker, lo and behold, and yes flickr is big if not for one idea coming from one nobody.

You just cant be the one, who keeps asking for the door to open, when the one inside is not willing to walk forward to open it for you, and that's the dilemma i am facing now. During this difficult time, it would be so much harder than the good times, and if we were to live by status quo, and we will know the end result..


P/S: I MIGHT NOT BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME, BUT I AM NOT WRONG ALL TIME EITHER

My wife and My Valentine...

My two sons are so sweet they offer themselves to stay at home, so that the two of us(my wife and i ) could enjoy some times alone, holding hand, at the time of this writing, still figuring out where to go.

Anyway, i will take this time to dedicate this song for my beloved wife, simply "you're my everything" and i love you.




P/S: to Jovial and Marvell, i appreciate your kind thought

Let's hear it from you ..weekend is here

My favourite day of the week has always been friday, dont know why ,i guess it is because the weekend is unfolding, and i can just loaf the weekend away without thinking too much on anything else, so here comes friday...........................

Today will do something different for fun, nothing serious, it is plain fun,ok?

1) what is the most nasty SMS you ever received from someone, and you ever sent to someone?
2) what is your most favourite one liner of SMS ?
3)What is the sexiest SMS message you ever received from someone, and you ever sent to someone?
4) Have you used SMS for breaking up or you being the victim of one such SMS?
5)What is the most common purpose of you sending SMS?
6)What is the all time record of highest numbers of SMS you sent for a day?
7)Do you mind your spouse/partner reading your SMS?
8)How long is the oldest SMS you still keep in the Inbox untill now, and why ?
9)Have you ever received a SMS from a stranger, eventually became friend ?
10)Do you prefer sending SMS to calling?


Love to hear from you.


P/S: Looks like now we prefer "Ti Ti " to "Ring Ring"

Violently Yours...... singned

Think about it for a while, is there any correlation between Bad Economy and Domestic Violence. Will it seize you when economy comes crumbling down on you, and can you keep your cool when everything and anything seems to go awry, will you vend your frustration on your family members?

He is 40 years of age, a sales manager selling motor spare parts, she is 34 years old, a sales clerk and together they have a 5 years old son, living in an apartment, driving a Hyundai . Just like everyone of us, so oblivious of the economy downturn and thought that it would only affect the "Kuai Lo" USA, and there was really nothing for them to worry about, untill..................

Untill the husband was served with a notice stating his monthly salary will be slashed about 18 to 20 %, and if the situation were to worsen, the company has the right to execute other measures deem fit for the management. And hence, this news of cruel reality suddenly took a toll on the family, he began to change.......

He has started to complain about the wife, and even the wife's family is not spared, everything the wife does seems to be at odd with him, he started using vulgar words at his wife, started to demonise, demoralise, despise and really making her feel worthless, saying that she is the burden to him now. At times he even hurls abusive words at her, that's not all yet....

He would go out and drink, and when he comes back and when the devil got hold of him, he would just find faults with the wife, and sometimes he would even chase her out of the house....

This is the story related to me by a dear friend over some drink with him last night, and the victim is my dear freind's sister.

Looks like bad economy is really taking a toll on us, with everything going down, what should we do?

P/S : It makes me feel so much better, when i know that i have a family there for me.....

Sex and Teenager

Before i even begin to talk about the above mentioned subject, let me just relate one real life incident happened to my friend's son (who was 16 then) and his girl friend (who was 15 then). That girl was inpregnated by my friend's son, and she was already 4 months in conception before the news broke, my friend's wife took a firm stand that she did not want to recognize the child, so from then on, no news about the child.

I remembered at one point i had the chance to chat with this young couple, and meekly i asked the girl did she know what sex was about, has she done it, and i even told the boyfriend did he know that sex with minor (under 16 years old) is a criminal offense. Man i tell you, the answer they gave me can even qualify them as sexpert (sex expert). They told me, "uncle eugene, dont worry, we know how to use condoms: and the girl even said this to me," uncle eugene, Ah Khoon is not the first boy i slept with"

May be we must live up to be a modern parents, believing that our teen children know everything and anything that's to know about sex, we condone certain action of them, including letting our child's boyfriend or girl friend putting a night over or even cohibiting, we tend not to tell them that there are rules that cannot be broken, or we just tell ourselves yes they are a grown up now, they know just what to do but the reality is most often than not, these teen children of ours are not as smart as we think they are as far as sex is concerned.

It is indeed tough to be a parent of the present time, and it is not going to get any easier with advent of technology and the easy accessiblity of sexual materials. So i believe the onus is always will be on the parents side, parents shoud give them a home a real home where they can feel that they can express their doubts and pouring out their questions.

P/S : Let start our children right as far as sex is concerned.

My organs, anyone?

When i was in my teen, i loved this song so much, part of the words go like this "Take this heart,give it to the charity, take this heart give it to the Salvation Army, i dont think i need it anymore" by Ann Murray.

I am an organ donor, and i had pledged that every part of me to be given away should i "Kick the bucket" or due to my untimely departure, there is no point keeping those things when i really dont think i need it anymore.

Give your eyes, so someone would see again, give your heart so that someone would prolong his/hers, give your skin, so someone would feel beautiful again, give your lungs, so someone could breathe again. No matter what, when you dont need anymore, just give.

Please share with me, do you have any qualms of donating your organs to someone in need, or do you believe you should be intact in your original form when you say "Adious" to this life.

P/S : Somewhere and somehow, someone needs you

Valentine gifts ideas, anyone?

Counting down the days, and St Valentine day is sure drawing nigh, eventhough i dont need to depend on THIS DAY to say "I Love You" to my most wonderful wife,nevertheless, i want to give her something fastidous, i need your suggestions and ideas about giving her a gift that's none like it or maybe it will even blow her top.

No suggestion about jewerely from Tiffany, bags from LV, parfume from Bvgalry or even fashion accessories from Chloe, seriously i cant even afford these stuff to begin with,and that's why i would love to sought your ideas (one mind is better than two or more, right?)

Ok, to start the ball rolling and to be very frank i would work with a strict budget for my Valentine gift for my wife that's anything less than RM20.00. Sounds outrageously crazy,doestn it? I know you are calling me miser,cheapskate,scum or whatever but seriously that's the budget i have in mind and that's the thrill of giving her some gifts that would blow her top. So. please dispense your ideas about it for me, will ya?

I am not putting my wife's love for me to test either, i know that she loves me dearly even i dont give her a thing for Valentine, but i am a crazy guy i love doing something funny that would impress her even it is of little value.

I remember my initial few dates with my wife (then my girl friend),14 years ago, over a dinner i told her that i would shower her a gift tht would just melt her straight away. I took a servette and i wrote "The Pledge of My Love" for her while she was away taking her food, and she returned to the table, i passed the love notes to her and assuring her that i would love her a life time and to me that impromtu act surpasses LV, Tiffany and Chloe.

But seriously, even during this time of economy calamity and shrinking dollar and cents, let us not be bogged down with this malaise, we still need to sprinkle some joy to our partner even we cant afford a gift of two, sometimes a hug, some lips locking, some nose rubbing, some moments of hands holding, soem jokes sharing will suffice.

P/S, From the day i said i love you, that's eternity

You sure dont like this,,,

There are few certainties in life besides life and death, that we often overlook and that there are bound to be GOOD times and there are almost guaranteed that there will be BAD times as well.

The reality is, we induce ourselves to believe that good times will last forever and the bad times will never befall us, it will only happen to the guy next door so we continue to dwell in that fallacy or the false notion that life will always be a bed of roses.

A few of my friends of late have been served with some funny letters from their respective companies, some would be retrenched, some have to cut their work days, some will take pay cut and the cruel reality is these many friends of mine do not have saving that would last them for a few months and they are like ants on a hot tin roof now.

I remember i used to admire one of them, working for a MNC, drawing good salary, driving good car, wife not working, nice apartment, brands conscious and indeed very hippie, i was so surprised when he told me that he had a credit cards debts amounting to 30,000. What aggravates the bad news for him is, he would be having pay cut and reduced working days.

That is one thing i would habitually do at the beginning of every month is, SAVE a portion of my income, then only i will be happy spending what is left of me, i have no credit card debt ( i dont carry one), i dont have to pay for car installment (my is an old car), and i dont owe anybody money.

P/S : I am optimistic and the same time i am pessismistic.

Stop treating us like a kid.........

To All the politician of Malaysia,

Please wake up and stop behaving like some kids playing "Hide and Seek" shouting out "Now you see me, Now you dont". Dont you all know that we are so sick and tired of your antics,your irresponsibility, your insensibility to our needs, your pursue of own interest and glory,and the most sickening and outrageous excuses for your own flaws and mistakes.

Please dont show us magic,tricks , illusions for you guys are no David Copperfield or David Blaine and most of all we are not that gullible anymore. Gone were the days, when you could induce us by giving us sweets,thus we were humbly serving you as our master, submitting to your nonsense. We have come to our senses now, we are no longer servants kow-towing to the masters, now we want accountablity,tranparency and truthfullness.

Please stop all the power-plays or rather child-plays, dont you all know that we are having difficult times now, dont you know what "recession" "retrenchment" " global economy meltdown" is. Some of us are losing jobs, many of us are finding hard with the shrinking economy and most of us are worry sick if we could be the next one on the "chopping board".

With all the apparent signs and the prophecy that we are heading for even harder times, why are you still merrily making the fool out of yourselves hence making us the victim from your stupid political dramas.

Stop that nonsense now, we have greater challenges charging at us in fast and furious fashion, we have to be resilient from the onslaught of the external forces, otherwise we will be severly and mercilessly left behind, by then we wil go backward to be another third world country.

We dont care if you are Guang Eng, Najib, Anwar or Muhiyyidin,just remember that's just one thing. We are the master.

Thank you.

P/S Greed in an Angel is worse than the devil himself

Come on fight it like a man, you ball-less....

I need help, will somebody please dispense some advice on how to repel, get rid,kill, torture, exterminate, burn to hell the most annoying bug that's called MOSQUITO. Your advice(if works) shall be repaid with bucket full of thanks.

When the evening dawns, that is when all my windows, my doors of my house will be tightly closed leaving no room for inflow of natural air, making me uneasy and my eyes taking up the role of microscopic lens to target the mozzies and my hands ready to clap them to death. I dont like killing anything smaller in size that i am, seriously but these buggards really leave me no choice.

My resentment towards the mozzies has attracted their anger in one way or another, i kill them in the evening, they will attack me at the time when i am most defendless, they have no balls i guess, they dont take it like a man, i am the initialtor of MOZZIE GENOCIDE, if they want to get even with me, just attack me, dont just attack the rest of my family. They will have to fight me on level ground and not snipering away when my family is sleeping.

My beloved wife and my wonderful children are losing sleep since the f**king mozzies launched their night attacks, my weaponaries such as mozzie coils has also failed me, and i vow to take this war as personal as it warrants me to, i will bypass the Security Council and i will seek assistance from my allies (my blogger friends) for their advice. Once i have compiled all their advice, their will be no return, no truce shall be entertained, i will kill the big, the small and the infant,i just dont care anymore. What do you expect me to do, they shell their rockets in my home, and you expect me not to retaliate (this phrase sounds familiar, doesnt it?)

So to my allies (my blogger friends) you are hereby assigned to come out with methods, modes, ways or even strategies to help me win this war against the MOSQUITOS.

P/S : If there is reincarnation, i dont want to be a mozzie, i know it is bad....

The Writer in Progress. that's me hopefully

Let you guys in for a little secret, quiet now ! and the secret is i have always wanted to be writer, seriously please dont laugh.

And the irony is, i was never good in English lauguage untill i was in my 3rd form as i hailed from a Chinese school, and the my buddies back then were predominantly Chinese speaking and it was almost close to impossible for me to master the language given the said situation, untill one incident took place.

There was this beautiful girl from a English school, which i would bump into on a daily basis because the bus that i used to take after school, would pick her up from the next stop. She was like a "WOW" thing, and being only 15 then, i was more than courageous to take on any challenges hurl at me, so the challenge from my buddies was to "chat this girl up", gladly i accepted the challenge.

So the bus came, she boarded, it was a short ride to her disembarking point, no result achieved at this point, she got down, so my friends pushed me down even though it was not my alighting point. I was tailing her from behind with my buddies, i was jeered at by my friends for my cowardice, so i drummed up my courage, went up straitgh to her,opened my mouth and spoke in Hokkien (my dialect) "can we be friends?" bluntly she turned and gave me an unkind look and she responded sarcastically " Can you speak English?" at this point i just dropped all my water face and jeers from my buddies were like crying river inside me and i vouched to make learning English my first prioirty. ( See what a girl can do to us man)

After the pledge i made to myself, it was everything English for me, i watched TV programmes without looking at the subtitles, i would only listen to English songs, reading English papers, my favourite magazine then was "TOP of the POP, finding pen friends in "Galaxie" magazine.

And man, i really had this elusive girl to thank for, just one look at me and just one sarcastic respond that changed me.

So sorry for digressing, now back to my dream of becoming a writer (that's why i love to blog so much), May be i am not up to the mark of being a writer yet, anyway just by scribbling my thoughts in my blog and sharing them with my fellow blogger friends has already given me so much joy of being a novice.

One particular author in the present time that i like so much is none other than the Brazilian writer Paulo Coelho. My first encounter with his work was when i was asked by a good friend to explore his works,and it was "The Alchemist", i felt in love instaneously.

Among all his works, this title "Like the Flowing River" is my pick for handbag reading (meaning you can put it in your handbag), it is a compilation of the author's short stories of shorts

I like Paulo Coelho's works simply he speaks life with his words and you can really connect with his thoughts as we are leafing through the pages of his books. (check out his another book " 11 MINUTES is one is so good)

P/S : I have a dream............

Love her a lit bit more,,, it's not that hard really.

I was on the phone with my mom, i know she has not been feeling very happy lately, even at this this age of her life( 74) with one daughter totally shutting her out, with me feuding with this sister of mine. I know she is not happy at all for sure

Over the phone just now, she finally broke now and cried, i could hear her sob over the other line, and i could really feel for her, suddenly i felt for her insecurity, her loneliness, her despair and her sadness.

To me she is so defendless already, she cant be a mother who could scold or reprimand her children, she is so afraid to offend her children for she fears that in return the children might shun her, might not call her, might not visit her, even wanting to get even with her, for now she is going through this trauma resulting from reprimanding her daughter.

As far as i am concerned, i keep reminding myself from hereon, that i would do all that i can to make this woman happy for the remaining years of her life, love a her a bit more each day and i know it is not that hard really.

Really she is not asking a lot from the children, may be all she ever wanted now is for all of her children to be a peace with her, to know that her children are ok, and to spend a little bit more time talking to her.

A note for my eldest sister, if you happen to read this, i need to only say this to you.
you can hate me, despise me and shun me but dont do this to this old lady.


P/S : She might not be right sometimes, but she loves us all the times.

9.20 am

Please leave the children alone.

Yes my youngest son Marvell ( 8 years old) naively and innocently said something to his cousin (who happens to be the son of the sister who hates so much now) about some issues that involves my wife, my sister and credit card.

As parent, my wife and i were accused of using my youngest as a device or a medium to humiliate or to attack my sister, i was flabbergasted being accused with such crime, even more so it has never been my way of teaching my children to bad mouth others.

I was told that indeed my warring sister has told her youngest son to get even by bullying my youngest, an event which really took place during the dinner gathering over at my youngest sister's house and on that same night, this nephew of mine shunned me all the way as if that i was his greatest enemy.

My wife suggested to me that the next time we should absent ourselves from any gathering of which the children of my warring sister if invited too. Immediately i reprimanded my wife for having such a thought ( i dont blame my wife for being angry though). I told her that we should never get the young children involved in any way from the adult's feud or problems.

It is never right to instill hatred, sense of vengence or even the action of getting even with in the children. The children should be left out in any forms of adults' problems.

I remember when my oldest son asked me if i hated my oldest sister, i told him not at all for she is my flesh and blood and she is my oldest sister and that's the fact and i would always follow with the gesture of drawing a big heart shape on my chest to show him that we should have a BIG HEART.

When my two sons asked me what happened to "Dai Ku kU" my eldest sister, i would just tell them that it is our adult's problems and they should not ask further, and i would them that in fact no matter what their "Dai Ku Ku" is still a nice person.

Untill today, i am still waiting for my eldest sister to agree to meet with me and my wife and in the presence of other family members to settle the feud once and for all and i really hope she would agree, and once again please leave the children alone.

Note : i love blogging, it helps me to stay cool.

P/S : Please teach a child about love and compassion instead of hate and vengence.