She slogged hard throughout her life, at one point of her life, she married a wrong guy, she left him with a son. Not long after this, she met a nice man,(just migrated from Medan, Indonesia), but this man was already married from a arranged deal, so the lady was made a second wife. Her husband was doing well in the business,(back in the early sixties, not many could afford to own a car, but he did) but this lady never seemed to enjoy the fruit of his success, simply because she was the second wife.
After the second time collapse of his business, her husband was not doing well since. By this time this lady had to find ways and means to shoulder the responsibility of bringing up her children( 3 girls, two boys, one from the first marriage), she should be in her late thirties by then, situation had it so bad that, she had to make one decision that she never wished she should make, to go out and work, and to go out and work, she did. She got the job as a domestic helper in a Japanese expat home, and she was now called (ah mah, domestic helper).
She took bus to work, but she felt that it would be rush for her to rush home to cook for her family, so she tried cycling to work, again, she felt that her children would miss out on home-cooked meals, so she decided to learn to ride a motorbike, by now she was in her late forties.She managed to get a license to ride a bike, and her children would enjoy her home cooked meals.
Not many years later, her husband succumbed to heart disease, and this poor lady was barred from attending her own husband's funeral because she was the second wife, so her youngest son and the oldest daughter were there on her behalf, and i happened to be that yongest son.
I was sixteen then, i knew and i sensed my mom's misery but i just could find a way to console her. After the death of my father, my family was doing ok, because by then my eldest sister had come out to work, and she had managed to supplement the house hold's income, to this i am thankful to her.
As we are all grown up now, but i know my old mom is not a bit happy for the following reasons,
the children (5 of us ) are not close at all, and i guess even if she doesnt say it, i know this breaks her heart. My eldest sister is not talking to me because she thinks i am not supportive of her as far as her divorced is concerned, and my youngest sister can not care less about this and that, as for me i have tried to enhance the sibling bond but i failed.
The situation is aggravated, as one of them is trying to equate money with filliality, i am giving more and i am doing more, why cant this guy do the same, and what not. And like they say money has crippled another brother and sister hood bonding. My mom knows this well but i guess she is afraid to offend anyone of us.
I might not be the pefect fillial guy, and i know everyone of my siblings loves their mom too , but it is the equation of money and fidelity that's doing the harm. Just yesterday i had a discussion with my second sister, i told her in order not to deteriorate our siblings situation, and to be fair to those who giving more, i suggested to her from next month onwards, everyone of us would give the same amout of money to mom, irrespective how rich or how poor you are, but i know this wouldnt work because one of two of them cant even afford the amount i suggested, so i guess the problem persists.
P/S, money should never be used to equate filliality
PPS, and i love you mom, sorry if i had made you mad
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
How's that for a House Dad ?
"Ok, let me state my clause of disclaimer here, the content of this particular post by the author has in no way trying to influence you and your belief of chauvinism of both sexes and your fundamental ideas of chauvinsim of both sexes, if you are hard core male or female chauvinis, please stop right here."
We must all agree that time has changed, and it will continue to do so, no matter what. Ideas, perception, shcools of thoughts and beliefs, have been changed in one way or the other in tandem with the change of times, women are no longer considered lesser or weaker of the kind, women have made history in areas of politic, sports, social, and areas where we once thought that women are a taboo. In a recent survey carried out by a Swiss consultans company, they concluded that the trend has changed, most major companies in Europe would prefer to fill woman into top executives positions, and this trend is increasing by leaps and bounds and they can be the keys to major decision making for the company. The survey has found out that, women can control stress better than man, women are not prone in fraudulent activities, women top executives can transform the company to be more human, and women top executives may not be committing personal scandals as much as man. and last but not least, they concluded that women can perform better when put understress.
So now the paradox emerges, can we reverse the role of a man into a woman's,at the present times, anything but the duty for reproduction of offspring. (hey i thought the first pregnant man was doing well). If you are man, would you be comfortable if your wife is earning more than you, or if you are woman, would you consider your husband useless if you were to be earning more than he does, and as a woman, would it be a shame if your husband were to be a house dad or staying home dad.
I read about one article about how a husband threw the towel from working in a bank to become a house dad, simply because the wife is earning more than he did, and she loved her job so much and she had to travel extensively, she said in the article for the sake of her two daughters and how she is not willing to park her daugthers with others, they made that decision, the husband is now the house dad, but he was not totally out of income, instead he uses his time to generate the so callled part-time income to supplemnet household income.
Funny isnt it now? those were the times when the wives used to work part-time like babysitting other's children, some cottage works, sewing clothes to supplement household income, but the scense is slowly changing now.
P/S. whether is a house dad or a house wife, the priority must be right.
We must all agree that time has changed, and it will continue to do so, no matter what. Ideas, perception, shcools of thoughts and beliefs, have been changed in one way or the other in tandem with the change of times, women are no longer considered lesser or weaker of the kind, women have made history in areas of politic, sports, social, and areas where we once thought that women are a taboo. In a recent survey carried out by a Swiss consultans company, they concluded that the trend has changed, most major companies in Europe would prefer to fill woman into top executives positions, and this trend is increasing by leaps and bounds and they can be the keys to major decision making for the company. The survey has found out that, women can control stress better than man, women are not prone in fraudulent activities, women top executives can transform the company to be more human, and women top executives may not be committing personal scandals as much as man. and last but not least, they concluded that women can perform better when put understress.
So now the paradox emerges, can we reverse the role of a man into a woman's,at the present times, anything but the duty for reproduction of offspring. (hey i thought the first pregnant man was doing well). If you are man, would you be comfortable if your wife is earning more than you, or if you are woman, would you consider your husband useless if you were to be earning more than he does, and as a woman, would it be a shame if your husband were to be a house dad or staying home dad.
I read about one article about how a husband threw the towel from working in a bank to become a house dad, simply because the wife is earning more than he did, and she loved her job so much and she had to travel extensively, she said in the article for the sake of her two daughters and how she is not willing to park her daugthers with others, they made that decision, the husband is now the house dad, but he was not totally out of income, instead he uses his time to generate the so callled part-time income to supplemnet household income.
Funny isnt it now? those were the times when the wives used to work part-time like babysitting other's children, some cottage works, sewing clothes to supplement household income, but the scense is slowly changing now.
P/S. whether is a house dad or a house wife, the priority must be right.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
My ex, my birthday party, and my family
So as promised my ex bought me a birthday dinner with my family and two other good friends, the dinner took place in one of my good friends' newly opened Bulgarian restaurant, "Vintage Bulgarian" somewhere in Tanjung Bungah, finally i managed to patronize my friend's outlet with not a dime spent, how lucky i was. hahahah......
Picture no 1) a friend from Amsterdam, the 42 years old birthday boy, and my ex girlfriend (the one wearing a tube, stupid description, do you see anyone else wearing tube besides Sharon?
Picture 2)looks like 3 figures have been described, and the one on the far right is a mutual lady friend that i have known for 20 years , years ago we were in the so called in the gang together with Sharon, (ok, if you still do not know who Sharon is , she is my ex). Thinking of the good old days, i bet they could only be as good to savour as just another piece of memory.
Picture no 3) The love(s) of my life, my wonderful, most understanding, most beautiful wife, my two charming boys.
Picture no 1) a friend from Amsterdam, the 42 years old birthday boy, and my ex girlfriend (the one wearing a tube, stupid description, do you see anyone else wearing tube besides Sharon?
Picture 2)looks like 3 figures have been described, and the one on the far right is a mutual lady friend that i have known for 20 years , years ago we were in the so called in the gang together with Sharon, (ok, if you still do not know who Sharon is , she is my ex). Thinking of the good old days, i bet they could only be as good to savour as just another piece of memory.
Picture no 3) The love(s) of my life, my wonderful, most understanding, most beautiful wife, my two charming boys. I have to thank another good friend of my who made an impromptu appearance in the restaurant to surprise me with a specially ordered birthday cake, thank you to my friend "Mr and Mrs Jerry Yeoh",truly appreciate it, you left me with another sweet memory in my life book. (sorry Jerry, wanted to put your picture up in my blog, but as you knew it, the batteries went flat, you knew it, right)
Oops, forgot to tell you guys something, my youngest boy's birthday is just a day apart form mine,so Happy Birthday to you too my dearest boy, Marvell Ung
P/S, With your family, and a few good friends, any celebaration will be a good one.
The kin and I
Today the 26th of october is my birthday, and my emo is of the mixture of happiness, skimmed with a layer of disappointment. I have always harboured a birthday's wish which is very simple and yet never seems to be materialized. So what am i wishing for ? Just a simple call, sms to say "Happy Birthday Brother" from my siblings, but none of them has ever done that for me..
I will not forget my siblings' birthdays and i will not forget to wish them too, but why am i not showed the same kind of appreciation and love i have for them, to be frank i am dissappointed. Just yesterday before i could even ride on the joy of celebrating my birthday today, my wife showed me a SMS on her phone, from my eldest sister (the one getting divorced), the content of the SMS has the deliberate intention of stoking disharmony between me and my wife, using words that are hurtful and derogatory, suddenly i felt as if i was losing a dear sister of mine, and i was confused why was she doing it to me, i know the reason why she hold grudges against me, simply because i called her boyfriend a mother fucker and an adulterer, and i told her i would never respect any man that cheat on someone's wife.
But despite all this groan and moan, i know i have my wife and two wonderful boys to make up for the disappointment i have in my siblings, my two boys gave me two self-made birthday cards
with words written that can make me smile.
P/S, the precious love you can have is the love of your family
I will not forget my siblings' birthdays and i will not forget to wish them too, but why am i not showed the same kind of appreciation and love i have for them, to be frank i am dissappointed. Just yesterday before i could even ride on the joy of celebrating my birthday today, my wife showed me a SMS on her phone, from my eldest sister (the one getting divorced), the content of the SMS has the deliberate intention of stoking disharmony between me and my wife, using words that are hurtful and derogatory, suddenly i felt as if i was losing a dear sister of mine, and i was confused why was she doing it to me, i know the reason why she hold grudges against me, simply because i called her boyfriend a mother fucker and an adulterer, and i told her i would never respect any man that cheat on someone's wife.
But despite all this groan and moan, i know i have my wife and two wonderful boys to make up for the disappointment i have in my siblings, my two boys gave me two self-made birthday cards
with words written that can make me smile.
P/S, the precious love you can have is the love of your family
Friday, October 24, 2008
Sex, economy and older men
OK, my defination of older man is someone who is above 40 years old, married for at least 10 years now, and for sex it is only meant for monogamous sexual relationship, nothing more and nothing less.
Over a cuppa with some older male friends yesterday, one friend lamented that he was going to lose his job soon, the other old friend was saying his business has been dwindling quite singnificantly, as far as i was concerned, i said to them so was mine, it was all about bad economy and bad market situation. With all the sights and moans,me always being the "crazy guy" among friends, i hollered at them "hey guys, let's talk something everybody enjoys talking about, let's talk about sex.ok?" to my suprise, there was no sign of excitement in the air as it used to be, as opposed to last time, whenever the subject of sex was mentioned, there sure to be hoo and ha, everybody would act like sex expert, but not this time, it was just so different.
I was asking them, what was wrong with them, nothing seems to interest them anymore, not even sex. Then out of no way one of them said " the economy just killed my libido", and the guy who was about the lose his job, opened up and admitted that he had not have sex with his wife since the news of his impending laying off delivered to him about 3 weeks ago, he said he was busy looking for job then having sex.
I never knew that economy could have so close correlation with sex, but talking to my friends, and i believe it is so real. When economy is going down, you just cant get "IT" up, and when you have tonnes of problems hounding your head, you just cant relax.
As usual, there was no escape, my friends just wouldnt want to let me off the hook, they threw the question back to me " so bro, how is your sex life?, tell us the truth", i said to them frankly, it has always been great and satisfying, their jaws dropped as if i was pretending, but i assured them, it was true.
P/S, forget about the economy for a while, let' s get intimate, from there shall come the joy
Over a cuppa with some older male friends yesterday, one friend lamented that he was going to lose his job soon, the other old friend was saying his business has been dwindling quite singnificantly, as far as i was concerned, i said to them so was mine, it was all about bad economy and bad market situation. With all the sights and moans,me always being the "crazy guy" among friends, i hollered at them "hey guys, let's talk something everybody enjoys talking about, let's talk about sex.ok?" to my suprise, there was no sign of excitement in the air as it used to be, as opposed to last time, whenever the subject of sex was mentioned, there sure to be hoo and ha, everybody would act like sex expert, but not this time, it was just so different.
I was asking them, what was wrong with them, nothing seems to interest them anymore, not even sex. Then out of no way one of them said " the economy just killed my libido", and the guy who was about the lose his job, opened up and admitted that he had not have sex with his wife since the news of his impending laying off delivered to him about 3 weeks ago, he said he was busy looking for job then having sex.
I never knew that economy could have so close correlation with sex, but talking to my friends, and i believe it is so real. When economy is going down, you just cant get "IT" up, and when you have tonnes of problems hounding your head, you just cant relax.
As usual, there was no escape, my friends just wouldnt want to let me off the hook, they threw the question back to me " so bro, how is your sex life?, tell us the truth", i said to them frankly, it has always been great and satisfying, their jaws dropped as if i was pretending, but i assured them, it was true.
P/S, forget about the economy for a while, let' s get intimate, from there shall come the joy
Thursday, October 23, 2008
To save or not to save.. that's the question.....
What good news is there for us to read as far as economic globally and domestically is concerned, The Dow just lost 500 + points, which of course sending shiver to rest of the other Indexes, and no one is spared, some economic experts say, the worse is yet to come, is it true? I dont know, the only thing i know is no one economic expert can tell us what to do concretely to save the world, what they holler about is to inject, pump in, rescue and to save Corporations upon Corporations.
Our newly swapped Finace Minister announced last week,that the government would use RM 5 billion to buy undervalued stocks in the market. Was it a good news, did the local bourse react positively to the news, yes but at a very miserable hike. RM 5 billion taken from the Employee Provident Fund (EPF), the people's money to buy undervalued stocks? will it be transparent in its dealings, will this crusade of the government bring about the benefis to the peoples in general, or just the privilledged few( you know what i mean, come and save me, i am your friend stuff) ,
ya they call it "bail out"," cronyism " or "nepotisme"
The EPF is meant to be a retirement saving fund for its contributors, any risky or haphazard investment should not even be considered, as they say high risk, high gain,i dont want this, what if my saving in the EPF falls to side of high risk and no gain?
You see, stock market is a very dangerous place, trillion upon trillions can be wiped in just a day, even the US has used so much to save the corporations, ABC, EFG, is the economic getting better, the answer is no.
Why cant we go back to the fundamental of economic logic, the demand and and supply teori, i am no economic expert, but i do know the fundamental, instead of using the money to save the corporations or so called buying the undervalued stocks, the government should give the money to people directly, and let us have more disposable income to buy products and services, for every dollar that is rotated many times, the economic will then be alived, you agree?
If a stock is undervalued, dont worry they are smart people out there who will make a "buy" call, on that stock, no need to save lah....
P/S, we dont call it Economic anymore, we should call it Greednomic, it is the greed of the man that kills.
Our newly swapped Finace Minister announced last week,that the government would use RM 5 billion to buy undervalued stocks in the market. Was it a good news, did the local bourse react positively to the news, yes but at a very miserable hike. RM 5 billion taken from the Employee Provident Fund (EPF), the people's money to buy undervalued stocks? will it be transparent in its dealings, will this crusade of the government bring about the benefis to the peoples in general, or just the privilledged few( you know what i mean, come and save me, i am your friend stuff) ,
ya they call it "bail out"," cronyism " or "nepotisme"
The EPF is meant to be a retirement saving fund for its contributors, any risky or haphazard investment should not even be considered, as they say high risk, high gain,i dont want this, what if my saving in the EPF falls to side of high risk and no gain?
You see, stock market is a very dangerous place, trillion upon trillions can be wiped in just a day, even the US has used so much to save the corporations, ABC, EFG, is the economic getting better, the answer is no.
Why cant we go back to the fundamental of economic logic, the demand and and supply teori, i am no economic expert, but i do know the fundamental, instead of using the money to save the corporations or so called buying the undervalued stocks, the government should give the money to people directly, and let us have more disposable income to buy products and services, for every dollar that is rotated many times, the economic will then be alived, you agree?
If a stock is undervalued, dont worry they are smart people out there who will make a "buy" call, on that stock, no need to save lah....
P/S, we dont call it Economic anymore, we should call it Greednomic, it is the greed of the man that kills.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
My Ex, My Wife, My Children and My Birthday
A SMS message appeared on my mobile yesterday. " I am in KL, will be in Penang this weekend, care to meet up, Sharon" at a glance, i was confused who this girl was, KL, Penang, meet up , this weekend, Sharon. When i finally came to my senses, it was my ex girlfriend who just came back from Amsterdam, excitedly i pressed my handphone keypad and these words manifested" ok my dear"
In the evening, another SMS message came "u r having bday this weekend right 26th, " so i was thinking, i was happy for the thought she had for me, man my ex could still remember my birthday, what a privilledge. Just when i was about to tell my wife about the news, another massage came "dinner on me", cheekily i told my wife, that this weekend i would be celebrating my birthday with someone special that's my ex, she went like "ha, ok"Anyway, my wife knows my ex, they have met, but to take care of my wife's feeling, i told her no matter what i would bring her and my boys with my ex this weekend to celebrate my birthday.
She was my ex like 20 years ago, we were young adults then, but i am glad, we could still maintain this kind of platonic friendship, i am happy for her that she is happily married with good career, and she is happy for me that i am happily married withe two boys too.
I guess in life, sometimes it is good to walk down memory lane once a while and feel the moments you once enjoyed with that somebody, the feeling of nostalgia, and the memories, doestn matter if it is sweet or bitter, then we have to come out to reality, and acknowledge that those are the bygones, no points dwelling in it.
So, this weekend (26th of october to be exact), i will be the luckiest man becase i will be celebrating my birthday with the one that i once loved and the other one that i love from now till eternity.
P/S. My ex was great, my wife is the greatest
In the evening, another SMS message came "u r having bday this weekend right 26th, " so i was thinking, i was happy for the thought she had for me, man my ex could still remember my birthday, what a privilledge. Just when i was about to tell my wife about the news, another massage came "dinner on me", cheekily i told my wife, that this weekend i would be celebrating my birthday with someone special that's my ex, she went like "ha, ok"Anyway, my wife knows my ex, they have met, but to take care of my wife's feeling, i told her no matter what i would bring her and my boys with my ex this weekend to celebrate my birthday.
She was my ex like 20 years ago, we were young adults then, but i am glad, we could still maintain this kind of platonic friendship, i am happy for her that she is happily married with good career, and she is happy for me that i am happily married withe two boys too.
I guess in life, sometimes it is good to walk down memory lane once a while and feel the moments you once enjoyed with that somebody, the feeling of nostalgia, and the memories, doestn matter if it is sweet or bitter, then we have to come out to reality, and acknowledge that those are the bygones, no points dwelling in it.
So, this weekend (26th of october to be exact), i will be the luckiest man becase i will be celebrating my birthday with the one that i once loved and the other one that i love from now till eternity.
P/S. My ex was great, my wife is the greatest
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Sex to the Max
One day i was jokingly telling my wife, since i am a blogger,( a novice one to be exact), and one important thing that you can do to become famous is to have strong traffic to your blog, so again jokingly i suggested to my wife, in order to achieve that dream in the shortest of time, i must strip it all, and have some shots of me in the nude, and striking some horny, sensual, seductive, sexy and come and get me look shots to be put up in the blog( i know what you are thinking, ya right, uncle like you with the body like that, ok sorry for making you pew), then accidentally someone stumbles upon my blog, had a good laugh at this (dirty old man), begin to spread it, and by the time i know it, voila, i am a famous dirty old man blogger. OK, give me 3 years to get my body toned and sculptured to resemble Aaron Kwok's ( my favourite ) then i shall live my dream. (please ignore me for now)
All right, forget about all the crap i mentioned above. Just yersteday i received a email from a friend, i opened the mail up, there were probably 10 pictures in it, i remembered the first or the second ones, only showing 2 beautiful well dressed girls with a handsome boy taken from a pub, as i scrolled down, the pictures got more errotic, suddenly these 2 innocent girls have turned to somekind of a Playboy or Penthouse cover girls, their "ACTS" are more daring and provocative, i might say, may be they were only fooling amongs themselves ( but playing thresssome is way too much for teenagers, dont you agree?) you take my pictures, i take yours, you filmed my sex acts, i recorded yours, and it was supposed to be for the pleasures of these 3 teen, but i dont know how the pictures got uploaded in the net, now it seems they have had their sex to the max.
It was also rumoured that these two girls were from certain art uninversity in the capital city, and they even published their names with the pictures. If this is all true, what would the girls do, would they act as if nothing has happened, life goes on, or would they go into hiding to escape from this malaise of their own doing.
Seriously, when i looked all these pictures, i asked myself what is the standard of morality among our teen at the present time, what we think is immoral, the teen might think otherwise, what we regard as unacceptable, they might think it is absolutely all right.
I guess we dont have to blame the teens for their rebellious acts, for being rebellious is a second nature for almost every teen, but as parents it is so different now. I remember my Swiss friend once told me, parents there they do not tell their children that they cant have sex, but to tell them to have safe and responsible sex.
Well, i guess i have to start learning now, keep abreast with the latest dos or donts from the teen, but i believe as long as my boys see the love between their parents, they will know what true love is
P/S. As parents we have to stay steadfastly right, to earn the right to tell our children what is wrong
All right, forget about all the crap i mentioned above. Just yersteday i received a email from a friend, i opened the mail up, there were probably 10 pictures in it, i remembered the first or the second ones, only showing 2 beautiful well dressed girls with a handsome boy taken from a pub, as i scrolled down, the pictures got more errotic, suddenly these 2 innocent girls have turned to somekind of a Playboy or Penthouse cover girls, their "ACTS" are more daring and provocative, i might say, may be they were only fooling amongs themselves ( but playing thresssome is way too much for teenagers, dont you agree?) you take my pictures, i take yours, you filmed my sex acts, i recorded yours, and it was supposed to be for the pleasures of these 3 teen, but i dont know how the pictures got uploaded in the net, now it seems they have had their sex to the max.
It was also rumoured that these two girls were from certain art uninversity in the capital city, and they even published their names with the pictures. If this is all true, what would the girls do, would they act as if nothing has happened, life goes on, or would they go into hiding to escape from this malaise of their own doing.
Seriously, when i looked all these pictures, i asked myself what is the standard of morality among our teen at the present time, what we think is immoral, the teen might think otherwise, what we regard as unacceptable, they might think it is absolutely all right.
I guess we dont have to blame the teens for their rebellious acts, for being rebellious is a second nature for almost every teen, but as parents it is so different now. I remember my Swiss friend once told me, parents there they do not tell their children that they cant have sex, but to tell them to have safe and responsible sex.
Well, i guess i have to start learning now, keep abreast with the latest dos or donts from the teen, but i believe as long as my boys see the love between their parents, they will know what true love is
P/S. As parents we have to stay steadfastly right, to earn the right to tell our children what is wrong
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Mama Mia, it is so good
I cant believe myself that i could fall in love with a movie, never had so good as i had it with Mama Mia the Movie, my god the show really moved me and all the ABBA songs in it, man i tell you, it is simply fabulous and superb.
To me , the shows is not just about musical and dance, it has so much sweetness in it, i was specially amazed by the performance of Meryl Streep, she really brings the character of Donna to life, i mean look at her, at the age of 59, her acting in this movie transforms the aura of the character in its full capacity, i was overhelmed at the this particular scene when she sings "the winner takes it all" along side Pierce Brosnan, the ways she moves and sings, i was captivated and my eyes were moistured with tears.
I truly enjoyed the bond between the characters of Donna and Sophie, a mother and a daughter,and if you could excuse me for bringing out this line from the movie said by daughter Sophie, " i dont care if you had slept with hundreds of man, i still love you" dont you think that this line is so wonderful, the power of the words I Love You, and this reminds me of one event that took place the night before i watched this movie.
As i was having dinner with some new found friends, and my wife (for sure) and so happened one friend of mine brought along his daughter and son to the occasion, first time seeing the daugther i was impressed with her attitude for a 20 years old at and one point we were at the subject of saying"i love you" and i asked her does she have problem of saying "i love you" to her parents, without hesitation she said not at all, but as she elaborated, it is only the parent that is having problem of saying " i love you " to the children, coming from the teens, i know what she said was so true.
Hugs and kisses and uttering the words of " i love you" can be so magical and wonderful in our lives and the lives of others, and sometimes it can also be the antidote for healing our grievances and our sorrows, so lets start by giving hugs and saying the words " i love you" to our loved ones.
P/S, Life can be so wonderful, if you could hear our loved ones telling us how much they love us
To me , the shows is not just about musical and dance, it has so much sweetness in it, i was specially amazed by the performance of Meryl Streep, she really brings the character of Donna to life, i mean look at her, at the age of 59, her acting in this movie transforms the aura of the character in its full capacity, i was overhelmed at the this particular scene when she sings "the winner takes it all" along side Pierce Brosnan, the ways she moves and sings, i was captivated and my eyes were moistured with tears.
I truly enjoyed the bond between the characters of Donna and Sophie, a mother and a daughter,and if you could excuse me for bringing out this line from the movie said by daughter Sophie, " i dont care if you had slept with hundreds of man, i still love you" dont you think that this line is so wonderful, the power of the words I Love You, and this reminds me of one event that took place the night before i watched this movie.
As i was having dinner with some new found friends, and my wife (for sure) and so happened one friend of mine brought along his daughter and son to the occasion, first time seeing the daugther i was impressed with her attitude for a 20 years old at and one point we were at the subject of saying"i love you" and i asked her does she have problem of saying "i love you" to her parents, without hesitation she said not at all, but as she elaborated, it is only the parent that is having problem of saying " i love you " to the children, coming from the teens, i know what she said was so true.
Hugs and kisses and uttering the words of " i love you" can be so magical and wonderful in our lives and the lives of others, and sometimes it can also be the antidote for healing our grievances and our sorrows, so lets start by giving hugs and saying the words " i love you" to our loved ones.
P/S, Life can be so wonderful, if you could hear our loved ones telling us how much they love us
Thursday, October 16, 2008
I wish i could tell you... i love you
I have said " i love you" to all of my family members in on way or another, but there is just one person that i never had the chance to do so, and never i would. I have carried this regret for almost 20 years now, and it bugged me again last night, so i decided to put in down in words and take it off my chest.
I was 16 years old then, and i was angry with him the whole day, didnt want to look at him and talk to him, he moved closely to me and laid his hand on my hair and gently he stroked my hair down, wanted to tell me something but the face i gave him prevented him from doing so. May be he was thinking to himself he should say something to me when he still could, but damn it i just lost the chance of saying something to him which i easily could, he was gently letting go of his hand from mine, and with his weakly voice he said this " Leong, (he used to call me this when i was younger) papa is going to Kuala Lumpur for medical checkp up, you take care". he just left it there without saying anything more, and as stubborn as i was, i didnt respond to him, lest i look at him, he feebly walked towards the door, and slowly i lost sight of him, when i made my stubburn head to turn to look at him, it was all too late, and that was the last time i saw my old man.
A friend of mine working in Kuala Lumpur called me up about 9.00 pm the next day, he was delivering a news that i wish i never needed to hear, he said to me " your papa is dying, and he wanted me to tell you that he loved you"
It was all too late for me now, i took a bus down to Kuala Lumpur with my mom and the other sister, and yes it was all too late for me, i had just lost somebody of whom i wanted to hug and say i love you to but i never could.....
sorry guys i cant continue ,,,,,,
P/S.. pap if you could hear me now, i love you
I was 16 years old then, and i was angry with him the whole day, didnt want to look at him and talk to him, he moved closely to me and laid his hand on my hair and gently he stroked my hair down, wanted to tell me something but the face i gave him prevented him from doing so. May be he was thinking to himself he should say something to me when he still could, but damn it i just lost the chance of saying something to him which i easily could, he was gently letting go of his hand from mine, and with his weakly voice he said this " Leong, (he used to call me this when i was younger) papa is going to Kuala Lumpur for medical checkp up, you take care". he just left it there without saying anything more, and as stubborn as i was, i didnt respond to him, lest i look at him, he feebly walked towards the door, and slowly i lost sight of him, when i made my stubburn head to turn to look at him, it was all too late, and that was the last time i saw my old man.
A friend of mine working in Kuala Lumpur called me up about 9.00 pm the next day, he was delivering a news that i wish i never needed to hear, he said to me " your papa is dying, and he wanted me to tell you that he loved you"
It was all too late for me now, i took a bus down to Kuala Lumpur with my mom and the other sister, and yes it was all too late for me, i had just lost somebody of whom i wanted to hug and say i love you to but i never could.....
sorry guys i cant continue ,,,,,,
P/S.. pap if you could hear me now, i love you
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
So the rumour was real after all........
Ecstatic, overjoyed, excited was the feeling of my wife when she called me yesterday, her voice was drowned with so much of joy when she told me she received a letter from her superior that she got a promotion, a rung higher than her current position.
On the plus side, her adjustment of salary and allowances surprised her too, it was more than she expected, i knew she was really very happy about this piece of good news, and my sons and me are proud of her too, the whole family is blessed in many ways.
My wife is a wonderful woman, she hardly complains about anything, anyone who comes in contact with her, will always be at ease. Sometimes she can be hillarious, and her priority will always be her family, and she will not forget to cook a good meal for us for dinner.
Her hobbies are as simple as mine, running and tennis, once a while of binging is suffice for the two of us, no expensive clothes and fashion accesories, we will stay the same....
Guess with that extra, we will increase our saving monthly, and to give a little bit more for charity.
P/S. Floodgates of blessing has just been opened for us, and we shall bless others too
On the plus side, her adjustment of salary and allowances surprised her too, it was more than she expected, i knew she was really very happy about this piece of good news, and my sons and me are proud of her too, the whole family is blessed in many ways.
My wife is a wonderful woman, she hardly complains about anything, anyone who comes in contact with her, will always be at ease. Sometimes she can be hillarious, and her priority will always be her family, and she will not forget to cook a good meal for us for dinner.
Her hobbies are as simple as mine, running and tennis, once a while of binging is suffice for the two of us, no expensive clothes and fashion accesories, we will stay the same....
Guess with that extra, we will increase our saving monthly, and to give a little bit more for charity.
P/S. Floodgates of blessing has just been opened for us, and we shall bless others too
Monday, October 13, 2008
Of infedelity and AIDS
You promised to love her alone, you said you would stay faithfull and be loyal, she beliveved you, she loved you too, and through health and sickness, she would stick with you. For so many years of marriage, you changed, you forgot the pledge you made, you couldnt resist temptation and enticement, so you did what you were not supposed to do, and you cheated on her far too many times.....
You had your flings outside, without knowing the peril that came along with it. She was submissisve to your needs everytime despite how badly you treated her. Then one day you fell sick, i mean real sick, after rounds of medical check-ups, it was confirmed that you had contracted AIDS, it startled you, at the advice of the doctor, she had to go through the AIDs screening too, she got IT too.
She got AIDs not because she was bad, she got it simply because she was wife, and she had no choice because she trusted you that you would not cheat on her, and yet you did. Because of your infedelity, a life is ruined, a dream is shattered and a heart is broken.
Temptation and enticement lurks everywhere, it is easy to fall prey, because we are only human, but when God gave us wisdom, then we should be wise to tell the difference. I pray everday my mind is stronger than my body.
Love your family, do the right things, temporal enjoyments will not produce lasting fullfillment, dont let minutes of esctasy bring about scores of calamity to our family.
Sex is nice, but sex with the wrong kinds will ruin your life.
P/S. If infedelity comes with a price of your loved ones, are you willing to pay for it?
You had your flings outside, without knowing the peril that came along with it. She was submissisve to your needs everytime despite how badly you treated her. Then one day you fell sick, i mean real sick, after rounds of medical check-ups, it was confirmed that you had contracted AIDS, it startled you, at the advice of the doctor, she had to go through the AIDs screening too, she got IT too.
She got AIDs not because she was bad, she got it simply because she was wife, and she had no choice because she trusted you that you would not cheat on her, and yet you did. Because of your infedelity, a life is ruined, a dream is shattered and a heart is broken.
Temptation and enticement lurks everywhere, it is easy to fall prey, because we are only human, but when God gave us wisdom, then we should be wise to tell the difference. I pray everday my mind is stronger than my body.
Love your family, do the right things, temporal enjoyments will not produce lasting fullfillment, dont let minutes of esctasy bring about scores of calamity to our family.
Sex is nice, but sex with the wrong kinds will ruin your life.
P/S. If infedelity comes with a price of your loved ones, are you willing to pay for it?
Friday, October 10, 2008
what used to be is not supposed to be.....
There is a favourite cantonese old cliche "三岁定八十“ which simply means, a child's characters that were moulded at the age when he was 3 , will determine his life untill he is eigthy, and i always thought this saying was so true, untill a friend of mine told me the otherwise.
He said this saying could only have bearing on a child's life many decades ago, when a child's life untill his teen hood through to his adulthood did not see the advent of tecnology inventions like what we are experiencing now. He argue further that we could indeed instill certain good qualities in a child when he is young, but as he grows older, his characters will once again need to be moulded, if not the good or bad of technological influences will creep upon their lives.
He took sex for an example, we could tell our child that sex is pure, but the internet might be showing the other side of it, and as parents if we are adamant that the good values that we instilled in them at the age of 3 still steadfast, then we are wrong, he said to me. In fact, we should as parents continue to instill good values in our children untill the days we kick the buckets.
Now, so many teenagers are so keen to have their "acts" taken and uploaded in the internet, and so many so called interative websites are there to entice our children to go onboard, and please dont scold our children for MSNing , and telling them "last time where got MSNing, we only had pen pals "
The more i think of what my friend said, the more i tend to agree with him, time has changed indeed, and it will continue to do so whether we like it or not. Parents have to change too, we have to move with time, we have to arm ourselves with the latest, if we cant do that, at least we must be at par with the later.
We must be circumspective of the changes around us, what's good, what's bad from the internet we must learn to know. We cant tell our children" you know last time. papa was like this, like that, last time we didnt have internet, we could still be ,,, blah blah blah blah anymore"
P/S. after all that have been said, i still believe LOVE will conquer all
He said this saying could only have bearing on a child's life many decades ago, when a child's life untill his teen hood through to his adulthood did not see the advent of tecnology inventions like what we are experiencing now. He argue further that we could indeed instill certain good qualities in a child when he is young, but as he grows older, his characters will once again need to be moulded, if not the good or bad of technological influences will creep upon their lives.
He took sex for an example, we could tell our child that sex is pure, but the internet might be showing the other side of it, and as parents if we are adamant that the good values that we instilled in them at the age of 3 still steadfast, then we are wrong, he said to me. In fact, we should as parents continue to instill good values in our children untill the days we kick the buckets.
Now, so many teenagers are so keen to have their "acts" taken and uploaded in the internet, and so many so called interative websites are there to entice our children to go onboard, and please dont scold our children for MSNing , and telling them "last time where got MSNing, we only had pen pals "
The more i think of what my friend said, the more i tend to agree with him, time has changed indeed, and it will continue to do so whether we like it or not. Parents have to change too, we have to move with time, we have to arm ourselves with the latest, if we cant do that, at least we must be at par with the later.
We must be circumspective of the changes around us, what's good, what's bad from the internet we must learn to know. We cant tell our children" you know last time. papa was like this, like that, last time we didnt have internet, we could still be ,,, blah blah blah blah anymore"
P/S. after all that have been said, i still believe LOVE will conquer all
Wednesday, October 08, 2008
God is not crazy, The world is..........
So now the Dow Jones has fallen below 10,0000 points, billions upon billions of USD has been vaporised in the thin air and there are no positive signs that things are going to get better, already there are indications that Asia is fast catching the cold, sneazed by the US from the melt down. Korea being the world's 13th largest economic pillar is feeling the heat now. (remember 1997, when Koreas sneazed, the rest of Asia caught cold), foreign fund managers are making quick exit from the Asian market, fearing that the heat is roaring soon, (as time of writing this post, local bourse has dipped another 18 points)
The current US melt-down in my opinion has far more detrimental effects that we could imagine, it will get family killed, it will cause social unrest, and many more are heading to the mental asylums, scores upon scores are jobless, and many more are made homeless.Just read one news about one US Indian Immigrant got his family and the mother in law killed because of the supposedly financial woes he was facing.
May be we cant really feel the heat yet in Malaysia, but we can not be in self-denial that it is not forthcoming, just look at our political scene, it is so uncertain that's why we are losing the foreign investment
Right here ,i was so stunned to hear our politician saying that Malaysia is not affected by the US melt down, and we should not be too pessimistic nor should we be too optimistic about the whole thing. Come on, i might say, if you had millions stacked in the bank, of course you dont have to be worried, but everytime when there is an economic crisis, who will suffer the most, it will be ordinary folks like you and me.
I am not an economic expert, but i believe in fundamental teachings, we dont spend more than we earn, we dont use future money, we dont lend to those 10,000 when they can only afford to repay 1.000, we dont believe that good times will not go away, and most of all, we dont speculate.
And the crazy thing is, most of us know about all these fundamental teachings but we just cant be bothered to believe.
Personally, i dont see the current economic woes will ease any time soon, if we were to watch or read everyday about the news, i cant be too optimistic that it will.
P/S. sometimes it is good to let it rot, so we can change our thoughts
The current US melt-down in my opinion has far more detrimental effects that we could imagine, it will get family killed, it will cause social unrest, and many more are heading to the mental asylums, scores upon scores are jobless, and many more are made homeless.Just read one news about one US Indian Immigrant got his family and the mother in law killed because of the supposedly financial woes he was facing.
May be we cant really feel the heat yet in Malaysia, but we can not be in self-denial that it is not forthcoming, just look at our political scene, it is so uncertain that's why we are losing the foreign investment
Right here ,i was so stunned to hear our politician saying that Malaysia is not affected by the US melt down, and we should not be too pessimistic nor should we be too optimistic about the whole thing. Come on, i might say, if you had millions stacked in the bank, of course you dont have to be worried, but everytime when there is an economic crisis, who will suffer the most, it will be ordinary folks like you and me.
I am not an economic expert, but i believe in fundamental teachings, we dont spend more than we earn, we dont use future money, we dont lend to those 10,000 when they can only afford to repay 1.000, we dont believe that good times will not go away, and most of all, we dont speculate.
And the crazy thing is, most of us know about all these fundamental teachings but we just cant be bothered to believe.
Personally, i dont see the current economic woes will ease any time soon, if we were to watch or read everyday about the news, i cant be too optimistic that it will.
P/S. sometimes it is good to let it rot, so we can change our thoughts
Tuesday, October 07, 2008
Marriage, Sex, Money and Divorce....
Ten minutes ago i received a call on my mobile, i answered the call without looking at the caller's number, over the other end the voice was like someone who was fuming mad, before i could say a word, the following statement ensued " Eugene, i just bashed up that mother fucker, now i really saw it with my own two eyes" it was the call from my brother in law, and the mother fucker who got bashed up was my sister's boy friend.
I was in a state of shock for while, but as a married man i could identify with him then i said to him" well done, that mother fucker deserved it" as part of the family members, i have never intefered the other family member's domestic affairs, i could only give my opinions when asked for.
My sister's marriage has been on the rock for a long while, who's wrong and who's right, it is entirely none of my business, really but before the marriage could end legally, i reckon that adultery is virtually immorally despicable and legally wrong, and i am sure both parties are guilty in certain degrees in bringing down the marriage, but the involvement of the third party before the marriage could reach a legal conclusion may spruce up more problems.
Now that the event has taken the ugly turn, and i believe that mother fucker should come to his senses that no matter how much you love that someone's else wife or merely taking advantage of someone else's wife, he should be responsible to his own action or rather he should had expected this bashing up to happen in no time.
I believe that there are many many problems that could happen in a marriage, it could be financially, mentally , emotionally or even sexually but the fundamental or the core foundation to a lasting marriage is to talk it out, and to believe that the love you have for the one you married to should transcend all differences and difficulities.
If one day, should i feel stale in my sex life with my wife, i should talk it out with her, instead of satisfying myself with others who could take me to heaven but end me up in hell, but in the reverse i should ask myself if i have satisfied her sexually as well, it must work both ways.
If one day, i am broke , i should talk it out with my wife too, instead of acting brave and incuring a lot of debts which eventually could crumble the marriage.
Please excuse me, if i had sounded like a professional marriage counseller but then agian what i wrote is what i believe.
P/S: Marriages are indeed made in heaven but they are at the threshhold of hell too.
I was in a state of shock for while, but as a married man i could identify with him then i said to him" well done, that mother fucker deserved it" as part of the family members, i have never intefered the other family member's domestic affairs, i could only give my opinions when asked for.
My sister's marriage has been on the rock for a long while, who's wrong and who's right, it is entirely none of my business, really but before the marriage could end legally, i reckon that adultery is virtually immorally despicable and legally wrong, and i am sure both parties are guilty in certain degrees in bringing down the marriage, but the involvement of the third party before the marriage could reach a legal conclusion may spruce up more problems.
Now that the event has taken the ugly turn, and i believe that mother fucker should come to his senses that no matter how much you love that someone's else wife or merely taking advantage of someone else's wife, he should be responsible to his own action or rather he should had expected this bashing up to happen in no time.
I believe that there are many many problems that could happen in a marriage, it could be financially, mentally , emotionally or even sexually but the fundamental or the core foundation to a lasting marriage is to talk it out, and to believe that the love you have for the one you married to should transcend all differences and difficulities.
If one day, should i feel stale in my sex life with my wife, i should talk it out with her, instead of satisfying myself with others who could take me to heaven but end me up in hell, but in the reverse i should ask myself if i have satisfied her sexually as well, it must work both ways.
If one day, i am broke , i should talk it out with my wife too, instead of acting brave and incuring a lot of debts which eventually could crumble the marriage.
Please excuse me, if i had sounded like a professional marriage counseller but then agian what i wrote is what i believe.
P/S: Marriages are indeed made in heaven but they are at the threshhold of hell too.
Monday, October 06, 2008
The other side of our inside.
I love the children, i adore them, i enjoy being around with them, and most of the evening i will be in the garden in my neigbourhood playing with the children and for sure it includes my two lovely and wonderful boys(if i dont go for my run or my swim)
As i was walking with one of the neigbour's daugthers, telling her jokes and talking about school and all those kiddy stuffs, suddenly i popped up a question to her " do you love your father ? " i was stunned, without hesitation she said to me" i dont love my father and i dont like him either"
then i probed further and i asked "why ?, your father is a very nice person and i am sure he is very nice to you too. right ?" coming from a ten years old girl, i know the answer can be true and sweet, then she said " he is only nice to his friends, to the family he is bad" that answer got me thinking hard. i discontinued the question ans she had already made me feel guilty.
That is so true, i mean that is really really so true"he is only nice to his friends, to the family he is bad" and i was once like that too, i could tolerate the nonsense from my friends, but i just couldnt bear the nonsense from my boys, i could just blast my temper at my family but not to my friends, i accumulated the stress from the office, and took the children as my vending hose.
When i went home that night, i asked my two boys "do you guys love papa?" and i was so happy the both of them said "yes" and i said to them " if papa had made you both sad before, i am sorry and i promised to learn to be a better dad everyday"
I guess most of us are guilty of this trait, we tend to be good to those outside of our family and we are ohterwise to our own family. It is probably, we dont like our friends to see the ugly side of us or could it be because if we are good to others, they will sing praises about how good we are.
Most often than not, we neglect how our family feel, we dont bother, lest we care. We dont show appreciation, like we do to others, it is a paradox on our part, isnt it?
P/S, i am learning to make the otherside of my inside same as the outerside.
As i was walking with one of the neigbour's daugthers, telling her jokes and talking about school and all those kiddy stuffs, suddenly i popped up a question to her " do you love your father ? " i was stunned, without hesitation she said to me" i dont love my father and i dont like him either"
then i probed further and i asked "why ?, your father is a very nice person and i am sure he is very nice to you too. right ?" coming from a ten years old girl, i know the answer can be true and sweet, then she said " he is only nice to his friends, to the family he is bad" that answer got me thinking hard. i discontinued the question ans she had already made me feel guilty.
That is so true, i mean that is really really so true"he is only nice to his friends, to the family he is bad" and i was once like that too, i could tolerate the nonsense from my friends, but i just couldnt bear the nonsense from my boys, i could just blast my temper at my family but not to my friends, i accumulated the stress from the office, and took the children as my vending hose.
When i went home that night, i asked my two boys "do you guys love papa?" and i was so happy the both of them said "yes" and i said to them " if papa had made you both sad before, i am sorry and i promised to learn to be a better dad everyday"
I guess most of us are guilty of this trait, we tend to be good to those outside of our family and we are ohterwise to our own family. It is probably, we dont like our friends to see the ugly side of us or could it be because if we are good to others, they will sing praises about how good we are.
Most often than not, we neglect how our family feel, we dont bother, lest we care. We dont show appreciation, like we do to others, it is a paradox on our part, isnt it?
P/S, i am learning to make the otherside of my inside same as the outerside.
Sunday, October 05, 2008
You Cant Hurry Love
Went to an very old friend's wedding reception last night,(have know the groom since 7 years old), it has been many years, we have been asking him when his wedding day would be, so last night it finally came.
Usually i dont fancy going to wedding dinners, cant stand the delays, and the ways the foods being served, it is like superfast. But last night dinner was different, i must be there to congratulate a friend that i have known for 35 years or rather since primarily 1, and was also like a side-line reunion for Class 74.
To my old old friend, Chean Seong, congratulation you finally got hitched, and to the other side of yours, keep that wedding vow.
A wedding vow is made, and till death do us part.................
A typical Chinese wedding dinner will not be complete, without the cheers after cheers of "Yam Seng" which simply means drink to all success. (my old friends of 35 years giving the toasts to the newly wed)
i was very happy to see my old classmates of class 74, and was even happier to see most of them doing good in their respective paths
At last i finally had the chance to wish my old friend, happily ever-after.
P/S : Good things shall come to those who wait, well done my friend...
Usually i dont fancy going to wedding dinners, cant stand the delays, and the ways the foods being served, it is like superfast. But last night dinner was different, i must be there to congratulate a friend that i have known for 35 years or rather since primarily 1, and was also like a side-line reunion for Class 74.
To my old old friend, Chean Seong, congratulation you finally got hitched, and to the other side of yours, keep that wedding vow.
A wedding vow is made, and till death do us part.................
A typical Chinese wedding dinner will not be complete, without the cheers after cheers of "Yam Seng" which simply means drink to all success. (my old friends of 35 years giving the toasts to the newly wed)i was very happy to see my old classmates of class 74, and was even happier to see most of them doing good in their respective paths
At last i finally had the chance to wish my old friend, happily ever-after.P/S : Good things shall come to those who wait, well done my friend...
Thursday, October 02, 2008
Cest la vie,,, that's life
We dont really think of bad days, when we are basking in good days, or we dont believe calamity will strike us because we think it will only strike the guy next door . do we not think so ? But sometimes life is cruel, when its cruelty besieges us, we are left battered.
A good friend of mine(known him since 7 years old, and we are both 43 years old now) just lost his job recently, trying very hard to look for other jobs, most often than not, it is all to no avail. He has got four mouths to feed, and the wife's income is not able to keep the family afloat for 3 months.
As good friends, came out and have a drink with him, like what a good friend should do, he was lamenting to me, how difficult it is for him to find a job, firstly due to his age, secondly because of his non-proffesional background, and lastly the quanterm of salary he asked for, he said to him, litterally no takers for him.
As we continue binging, i asked him, how long could he survive without having income coming in, shockingly he told me, he told me, he could only last for 2 months, i was dumbfounded, he continued disclosing to me, that he has got a credit card debts amounting to RM 13,oooo, and a car installment of RM 1,200 monthly, only now i could feel his desperation.
When i asked him, how did he incure so much credit cards debts(to me a credit card debt of even RM 1,000 , i could consider it to be monsterious already, how critical it can be when it hits RM10,ooo), he simply put it like this " life was good then, and i thought i could manage it" as he revealed further, i got a bigger shocker from him, that he is keeping a mistress, that's why his budget is blown out of control.
Time is ticking away fast for him, if he still cannot find job or a inflow of income, his family will be at stake, simply because he will have to ask his wife for help, mainly to pay the credit cards debts, by then his wife will go hysterical in finding out that the amout is so much, and there will be a non stop arguements or even a walk out from his wife.
I sincerely hope that my friend will get a job the soonest, and from this, he will learn his lessons well, that "not everyday is Sunday" and it will lot better to put the family priority above all else.
P/S. Just like Adam Bowell once said "Be Prepared"
A good friend of mine(known him since 7 years old, and we are both 43 years old now) just lost his job recently, trying very hard to look for other jobs, most often than not, it is all to no avail. He has got four mouths to feed, and the wife's income is not able to keep the family afloat for 3 months.
As good friends, came out and have a drink with him, like what a good friend should do, he was lamenting to me, how difficult it is for him to find a job, firstly due to his age, secondly because of his non-proffesional background, and lastly the quanterm of salary he asked for, he said to him, litterally no takers for him.
As we continue binging, i asked him, how long could he survive without having income coming in, shockingly he told me, he told me, he could only last for 2 months, i was dumbfounded, he continued disclosing to me, that he has got a credit card debts amounting to RM 13,oooo, and a car installment of RM 1,200 monthly, only now i could feel his desperation.
When i asked him, how did he incure so much credit cards debts(to me a credit card debt of even RM 1,000 , i could consider it to be monsterious already, how critical it can be when it hits RM10,ooo), he simply put it like this " life was good then, and i thought i could manage it" as he revealed further, i got a bigger shocker from him, that he is keeping a mistress, that's why his budget is blown out of control.
Time is ticking away fast for him, if he still cannot find job or a inflow of income, his family will be at stake, simply because he will have to ask his wife for help, mainly to pay the credit cards debts, by then his wife will go hysterical in finding out that the amout is so much, and there will be a non stop arguements or even a walk out from his wife.
I sincerely hope that my friend will get a job the soonest, and from this, he will learn his lessons well, that "not everyday is Sunday" and it will lot better to put the family priority above all else.
P/S. Just like Adam Bowell once said "Be Prepared"
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