A godsend or a windfall can be aptly described as far as my wife's bank account is concerned, she was sceptical and doubtful that she might not be getting her sales bonus for this year given the grim and bleak economic situation is concerned, and i have been telling her even if she did not get it this time around, it was ok but if she did get it, it would truly be a godsend and the good news is she got the latter.
Today's friday and indeed it is filled with so much joy for my lovely wife, for me and for my two children. And she can now splurge herself a little bit and go hunt down a handbag that she has been wanting to buy, not LV, Prada, Gucci or Hermes though, on top of that a nice dinner for the family and thankful for God for the blessing.
The best thing about my wife and her job is she loves her job and she is in way getting the reward commensurating with her effort, and the recognition and acceptance from her superiors,her staff and her colleagues.
P/S : A good news once a while can be truly encoraging
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Friday, May 29, 2009
Not a cul-de-sac........
Well, thanks for the concern folks, we are alright now, we talked, we hugged, we made love and we made up. Like the norm or part and parcel of marriage life, we argued, we got a little carried away, we "cold-war", but the most important thing is we both know first of all, we love each other and family always comes first.
We never will take things to a dead end, all arguments should not be driven to cul-de-sac, marraige is not a bed of roses, it comes with some torns in between, we cant hate the one we love. She has her reasons to be angry, i understand, i have my reasons to get angry, she understands, at the end of the line, we both know, we love each other dearly.
She cant be all that i want in a wife and i cant be all that she wants in a husband, and that what makes it special in a relationship or in a marriage, we accomodate, we make ourselves a wharf for the tired captain to rest, we house each other's goodness to overlooking our weaknesses.
She was to one i fell in love with and she will be the one i keeping falling in love with, she might not be the perfect wife but then again i am not a perfect husband either.
P/S : I dont say "i love you" for nothing
We never will take things to a dead end, all arguments should not be driven to cul-de-sac, marraige is not a bed of roses, it comes with some torns in between, we cant hate the one we love. She has her reasons to be angry, i understand, i have my reasons to get angry, she understands, at the end of the line, we both know, we love each other dearly.
She cant be all that i want in a wife and i cant be all that she wants in a husband, and that what makes it special in a relationship or in a marriage, we accomodate, we make ourselves a wharf for the tired captain to rest, we house each other's goodness to overlooking our weaknesses.
She was to one i fell in love with and she will be the one i keeping falling in love with, she might not be the perfect wife but then again i am not a perfect husband either.
P/S : I dont say "i love you" for nothing
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
A row, may be two...............
Funny how it may seem as far as marriage life is concerned, how little things, little arguments, little dissentments can sometimes be bad. Dont know what i am ranting about ? Let me share a little of what happened to me yesterday.
I was having lunch with my lovely wife yesterday, it is kind of ritual for me if i happen to be somewhere near where she works, it was nice meeting up with her for lunch but in the spate of less than 3 hours, thing turned a bit ugly for the both of us all due to a little row or may be two resulting from my refusal to send my eldest to tution class.
I e-mailed her telling her that i would not want to send Jo for the class with attached reasons for my refusal, and shortly after that, a not so inviting emailed came back from her that she would do the job instead, i thought it was ok if she wanted to.
She called to ask me to take Jo's tuition bag for her,at that particular time i was busy talking to a customer over the phone,meaning i had to miss her call, i believe this got her mad. Before i could do anything esle, she stormed into my office with a not at all friendly expression and demanded that i gave her my car key so that she could take Jo's bag, and she stormed out like a wind. I was real mad at this juncture, i was telling myself, the least she could do was to show some respect to me in the presence of my staff and my business partner, i was incensed to the max at this point and forcing myself to calm down.(thank God, i have good patience now, blogging helps to train me to a better person)
I thought it was just another brief "cold war" but she sent me another SMS which again was not kind, again ignored it and telling myself it would be stupid for me to engage in SMS war.Feeling kind of frustrated,i went for a round of drink alone and missed my dinner at home. Feeling kind of tired, took a short nap, and and i wanted to make it up, her room door was locked, i guess as sign of protest so my hope of making up with her was dashed, and guess what i too went out and came back only this morning.
Seriously i dont blame her for her outburst, i guess it is absolutely all right for outburst but the saddest part is, when one is outbursting we must always maintain certain kind of respect for each other. I once read the interview of Rafidah Aziz our former Minister of International Trade, she said something which i found to be very profound and a wonder for a woman. What she said was simple, no matter how powerful or how high up you are outside, when at home she is not the boss.
P/S : It takes a life time to learn to be a man, a husband and a father.
I was having lunch with my lovely wife yesterday, it is kind of ritual for me if i happen to be somewhere near where she works, it was nice meeting up with her for lunch but in the spate of less than 3 hours, thing turned a bit ugly for the both of us all due to a little row or may be two resulting from my refusal to send my eldest to tution class.
I e-mailed her telling her that i would not want to send Jo for the class with attached reasons for my refusal, and shortly after that, a not so inviting emailed came back from her that she would do the job instead, i thought it was ok if she wanted to.
She called to ask me to take Jo's tuition bag for her,at that particular time i was busy talking to a customer over the phone,meaning i had to miss her call, i believe this got her mad. Before i could do anything esle, she stormed into my office with a not at all friendly expression and demanded that i gave her my car key so that she could take Jo's bag, and she stormed out like a wind. I was real mad at this juncture, i was telling myself, the least she could do was to show some respect to me in the presence of my staff and my business partner, i was incensed to the max at this point and forcing myself to calm down.(thank God, i have good patience now, blogging helps to train me to a better person)
I thought it was just another brief "cold war" but she sent me another SMS which again was not kind, again ignored it and telling myself it would be stupid for me to engage in SMS war.Feeling kind of frustrated,i went for a round of drink alone and missed my dinner at home. Feeling kind of tired, took a short nap, and and i wanted to make it up, her room door was locked, i guess as sign of protest so my hope of making up with her was dashed, and guess what i too went out and came back only this morning.
Seriously i dont blame her for her outburst, i guess it is absolutely all right for outburst but the saddest part is, when one is outbursting we must always maintain certain kind of respect for each other. I once read the interview of Rafidah Aziz our former Minister of International Trade, she said something which i found to be very profound and a wonder for a woman. What she said was simple, no matter how powerful or how high up you are outside, when at home she is not the boss.
P/S : It takes a life time to learn to be a man, a husband and a father.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Growing In Sane albeit some growing pains
Nobody says it is easy dealing with a soon to be teenager son, as much as it gives you a lot of joy,it gives you a fair share of frustration at the same time and my lovely wife can testify to it without a doubt. Not much of a heartache for me though, but for my lovely wife,i guess she takes it more seriously.
Last week was kind of a bombshell for my lovely wife when she was told of the exam result from my eldest Jovial (12 years old), he took a nosedive from his Chinese exam, from previous 85 to the current 55, what a shock indeed and i was not spared either from my wife's wrath as she claimed that i had been too accommodating to my eldest's request for extra computer playing time.
I tried not to aggravate the already tensed situation when it all happened, the scolding and the rebukes directed at my eldest, i took a backseat to make sure that i would talk to my son when the strom has settled down.
I was trying to gauge could it be the extra hour that i allowed him for the computer game a day,that did the harm or could it be something else,may be his attitude in general. Deep inside me,i know my sons are clever and intelligent, and i hold to the belief that it must be his attitude towards study that's detrimental,hence i need to talk to him again about this ATTITUDE issue, and i also need to look at myself and the ways that i use in educating him, could it be right or otherwise.
I have a responsibility to my sons's well being in all areas, grooming them to be a better man, i know it is hard but at the same time for their sake, i love to do it. As my eldest is fast growing up, i must constantly remind myself that i have to set a good example for my son to emulate, not all in my entirety but the good attitudes that i would like him to have but at the same time i must learn to let go, to let him take the leap and to fall or to leap over and i guess that's the best part of growing up.
I want him to make some mistakes but to always know that he has got a dad who is always there for him to guide him through.
P/S : Enjoy growing up with my sons
Last week was kind of a bombshell for my lovely wife when she was told of the exam result from my eldest Jovial (12 years old), he took a nosedive from his Chinese exam, from previous 85 to the current 55, what a shock indeed and i was not spared either from my wife's wrath as she claimed that i had been too accommodating to my eldest's request for extra computer playing time.
I tried not to aggravate the already tensed situation when it all happened, the scolding and the rebukes directed at my eldest, i took a backseat to make sure that i would talk to my son when the strom has settled down.
I was trying to gauge could it be the extra hour that i allowed him for the computer game a day,that did the harm or could it be something else,may be his attitude in general. Deep inside me,i know my sons are clever and intelligent, and i hold to the belief that it must be his attitude towards study that's detrimental,hence i need to talk to him again about this ATTITUDE issue, and i also need to look at myself and the ways that i use in educating him, could it be right or otherwise.
I have a responsibility to my sons's well being in all areas, grooming them to be a better man, i know it is hard but at the same time for their sake, i love to do it. As my eldest is fast growing up, i must constantly remind myself that i have to set a good example for my son to emulate, not all in my entirety but the good attitudes that i would like him to have but at the same time i must learn to let go, to let him take the leap and to fall or to leap over and i guess that's the best part of growing up.
I want him to make some mistakes but to always know that he has got a dad who is always there for him to guide him through.
P/S : Enjoy growing up with my sons
Friday, May 22, 2009
5+2 = 0
My youngest son Marvell was kind of sad when he showed me his Chinese exam result which he scored 82 out of 100, i asked him why was he feeling that way and he said he was afraid that he might not be the 1st in the class this time around. I was almost taken aback with his feeling and sense of dejection, not that i dont want my son to dream big or to achieve his goal but at his age of 8 i was just wondering why was he feeling this way.
I gave him a big hug shortly after he showed me his result, and i assured him that he was in fact doing very well despite the shortfall, i told him that he should be very proud of himself because he still managed to do well without going for any tuition classes, and he can always snatch back the No 1 if he really wanted too. I further explained to him sometimes we do fall in life, and that's is 100% ok, if he learns how to pick up and go again. Seriously i am not too sure he understood what i said, but i believe as a father the onus is one me to share what life is all about to my two wondeful sons.
Frankly speaking, i am a crazy father, i love to see my sons fall along the way, then i will sit them down talking to them about failure and success, about facing dejection and overcome it. Letting them know that at times it will be absolutely all right if they fall or miss the targets.
You see for the good 5 days in a row, our children are in school learning to do well in school, and sometimes being rebuked if they dont do well, and going after one tuition class to another and to another, and for the remaining 2 days in the week, if we as parent if we still push them to do likewise as in school, without learning about things we call life, then 5 + 2 really equals to 0.
It is no surprising then to know that children even at their tender age now, can tell you that they are under stress, and how they have lost the joy of studying. I have this penchant of always asking my sons this "Are you the happiest boy in the class ?" and i am happy to hear them say indeed that they are.
P/S : As far as i am concerned, my sons are always the No 1
I gave him a big hug shortly after he showed me his result, and i assured him that he was in fact doing very well despite the shortfall, i told him that he should be very proud of himself because he still managed to do well without going for any tuition classes, and he can always snatch back the No 1 if he really wanted too. I further explained to him sometimes we do fall in life, and that's is 100% ok, if he learns how to pick up and go again. Seriously i am not too sure he understood what i said, but i believe as a father the onus is one me to share what life is all about to my two wondeful sons.
Frankly speaking, i am a crazy father, i love to see my sons fall along the way, then i will sit them down talking to them about failure and success, about facing dejection and overcome it. Letting them know that at times it will be absolutely all right if they fall or miss the targets.
You see for the good 5 days in a row, our children are in school learning to do well in school, and sometimes being rebuked if they dont do well, and going after one tuition class to another and to another, and for the remaining 2 days in the week, if we as parent if we still push them to do likewise as in school, without learning about things we call life, then 5 + 2 really equals to 0.
It is no surprising then to know that children even at their tender age now, can tell you that they are under stress, and how they have lost the joy of studying. I have this penchant of always asking my sons this "Are you the happiest boy in the class ?" and i am happy to hear them say indeed that they are.
P/S : As far as i am concerned, my sons are always the No 1
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
"good morning, angels"
Didnt know it has been that long, the Charlie's angels, first came out in 1976 and now is 2009 which makes it 33 years old. Farra Fawcett, Jackln Smith and Kate Jackson the three women working for a PI, with the most familiar voice coming from the little speaker box on the table greeting the girls with " good morning angels" and with their sultry voices the girls would respond "good morning, Charlie"
Back then i remember watching the show behind bars,i mean behind the gate of my neighbour's house if i could remember it was always at 9 in the evening, we could not afford a TV because it was sheer luxury owning one then. When the show came out from the four legged Telefunken black and white tv consol which even had sliding door, my first reaction would always be to look out for Farrah Fawcett, she was a true sex symbol among the three with her signature blonde hairstytle.
Recently read the news about Farrah making a documentary about herself and her fight against cancer, and she even allowed herself to be filmed in her most excruciating and painful moments battling cancer. Her time is tickling away on her but i guess she has accomplished the last mission that's to let the world to see the ungliest form of cancer attack.
Cancer is the most dreaded disease ever known to man, it devours you, it deforms you, it mutilates you. I remember many years ago, i visited a goodfriend whose wife was suffering from cancer, and you could not simply imagine how painful ,torturing and how tormenting cancer can inflict upon its victims.
Looks like Charlie is going to lose one of his angels and as for me Farrah Fawcett is or was to be the most stunning of all Charlie's Angels.
P/S : Thanks for the memory
Back then i remember watching the show behind bars,i mean behind the gate of my neighbour's house if i could remember it was always at 9 in the evening, we could not afford a TV because it was sheer luxury owning one then. When the show came out from the four legged Telefunken black and white tv consol which even had sliding door, my first reaction would always be to look out for Farrah Fawcett, she was a true sex symbol among the three with her signature blonde hairstytle.
Recently read the news about Farrah making a documentary about herself and her fight against cancer, and she even allowed herself to be filmed in her most excruciating and painful moments battling cancer. Her time is tickling away on her but i guess she has accomplished the last mission that's to let the world to see the ungliest form of cancer attack.
Cancer is the most dreaded disease ever known to man, it devours you, it deforms you, it mutilates you. I remember many years ago, i visited a goodfriend whose wife was suffering from cancer, and you could not simply imagine how painful ,torturing and how tormenting cancer can inflict upon its victims.
Looks like Charlie is going to lose one of his angels and as for me Farrah Fawcett is or was to be the most stunning of all Charlie's Angels.
P/S : Thanks for the memory
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Some girls have all the luck,,and some girls have all the pain
She was stunningly beautiful, and she still is even she is in her late 30s but there is just one thing that always eludes her, she never seems to have a good life, her previous three marriages were all flawed. Phrases of cheating husband, abusive husband, and good for nothing husband are not at all too alien to her for, she knows it too well.
Seriously a beauty like her i reckon should be enjoying a good life, to be a "Tai Tai" "lady of substance" have some kids, driving some good cars, annual overseas vacation, can easily pamper herself LV,Gucci, Hermes and whatever branded stuff she could amass but then again just like they say some girls have all the luck.
I guess when she was younger,she only wanted to be just another beautiful girl who could settle down with a husband that would love her dearly, to pamper her, to treasure here, but she never got to enjoy all this. If Karma were to be something that could manifest itself in her present life, i bet she must be thinking that she was some girl who was so bad in her previous life.
The person in this story is someone i know personally and dearly, a person in my opinion that should be having a good life, a person with a good heart and beauty like she is i hope will finally find her true happiness and strength.
P/S : Treat her like a lady, please...
Seriously a beauty like her i reckon should be enjoying a good life, to be a "Tai Tai" "lady of substance" have some kids, driving some good cars, annual overseas vacation, can easily pamper herself LV,Gucci, Hermes and whatever branded stuff she could amass but then again just like they say some girls have all the luck.
I guess when she was younger,she only wanted to be just another beautiful girl who could settle down with a husband that would love her dearly, to pamper her, to treasure here, but she never got to enjoy all this. If Karma were to be something that could manifest itself in her present life, i bet she must be thinking that she was some girl who was so bad in her previous life.
The person in this story is someone i know personally and dearly, a person in my opinion that should be having a good life, a person with a good heart and beauty like she is i hope will finally find her true happiness and strength.
P/S : Treat her like a lady, please...
Saturday, May 16, 2009
She left me,,, yet again
She gave me a kiss on the cheek asking me to take care of myself and two boys and a good friend of ours came and sent her to the airport last night and now she is about 400 km away from me, after which i drowned a big bottle of beer as an inducement to get me to a good night sleep instead of missing her and tossing around on bed and losing my sleep.
There is a famous Chinese saying" a brief separation feels better than newly wed" how true that saying can be because everytime when my wife is away from me, i would feel that i really miss her a lot than usual, but thank God her sojourn 400km away only last for a few days, and i guess i have to make good of these few days to spend some quality time with my boys and yes i intend to do some planting on some flower pots.(i really hope i will do it this time around no matter how few it turns out to be)
Been married to a my wife for about 13 years now and i am blessed to have such a wonderful woman, i am sure she is not a perfect wife but then again i am not a perfect husband either, i see my weakness in her strength, i learn to be a better man from her patience.
Gonna miss a jolly good Friday night with my wife today, but never mind lah, i will have my two wonderful boys to keep me company as i wait for the return of my beautiful wife.
Looks like i can finish my novel this weekend and keeping missing her over the weekend and try not to booze so much.hahahahah.
P/S : "Hey,, have you ever tried, really reaching out for the other side. I may be climbing on rainbows but baby,here goes. Dreams, they're for those who sleep, life is for those who keep and if you're wondering what this song is leading to, i want to make it with you, i really think that we can make it girl.
There is a famous Chinese saying" a brief separation feels better than newly wed" how true that saying can be because everytime when my wife is away from me, i would feel that i really miss her a lot than usual, but thank God her sojourn 400km away only last for a few days, and i guess i have to make good of these few days to spend some quality time with my boys and yes i intend to do some planting on some flower pots.(i really hope i will do it this time around no matter how few it turns out to be)
Been married to a my wife for about 13 years now and i am blessed to have such a wonderful woman, i am sure she is not a perfect wife but then again i am not a perfect husband either, i see my weakness in her strength, i learn to be a better man from her patience.
Gonna miss a jolly good Friday night with my wife today, but never mind lah, i will have my two wonderful boys to keep me company as i wait for the return of my beautiful wife.
Looks like i can finish my novel this weekend and keeping missing her over the weekend and try not to booze so much.hahahahah.
P/S : "Hey,, have you ever tried, really reaching out for the other side. I may be climbing on rainbows but baby,here goes. Dreams, they're for those who sleep, life is for those who keep and if you're wondering what this song is leading to, i want to make it with you, i really think that we can make it girl.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
LIFE.............
As i was lounging lazily on my sofa on Monday night, trying to catch the news at 8 in the evening, and it seemed that the evening news was nothing but boring,so i decided to switch channel, then i stumbled upon the Oprah Winfrey' show on Starworld, i was immediately glued to the set as the show was about women entering the threshold into the 40s and i thought to myself maybe i can learn a little here and there from the show,now that i am also in my 40s.
There was this scene from a lady audience who was in a way rebuked by Oprah when this particular audience named Greta(i remember) was asked how she would describe her 40s hood, and Greta said to her 40 was suck and disasterous. Immediately, Oprah summoned Greta to rephrase what she just said into something more positive and edifying, when looking at Greta one should be able to tell that this lady is in no way a happy soul,and maybe it could be true that her words in negativity has shaped her to be likewise negative, and manifested well in her present life.
That particular episode of Oprah show, featured some very inspiring and heart warming accounts of those ladies above 40s, how they braced themselves looking for true happiness and how they believe life can really start at 40, which incidentally brought me back about my eldest sister who divorced at the age of 45 in the name of "pursuit of happiness", and i sincerely hope she is happy now.
That was this part where Natalie Cole (daugther of the famous crooner Nat King Cole) share her story of her life, where fame got to her and she was living at the other side of the world, and now at the age of 59, she is living a LIFE.
Looks like irrespective of gender, one must really strive to look for even a pinch of happiness at least in the little thing we do, i am learning and i hope we can all learn to be happy, learn to change our taughts and frame of mind from the negative to the otherwise.
P/S : I begin to love myself more each day
There was this scene from a lady audience who was in a way rebuked by Oprah when this particular audience named Greta(i remember) was asked how she would describe her 40s hood, and Greta said to her 40 was suck and disasterous. Immediately, Oprah summoned Greta to rephrase what she just said into something more positive and edifying, when looking at Greta one should be able to tell that this lady is in no way a happy soul,and maybe it could be true that her words in negativity has shaped her to be likewise negative, and manifested well in her present life.
That particular episode of Oprah show, featured some very inspiring and heart warming accounts of those ladies above 40s, how they braced themselves looking for true happiness and how they believe life can really start at 40, which incidentally brought me back about my eldest sister who divorced at the age of 45 in the name of "pursuit of happiness", and i sincerely hope she is happy now.
That was this part where Natalie Cole (daugther of the famous crooner Nat King Cole) share her story of her life, where fame got to her and she was living at the other side of the world, and now at the age of 59, she is living a LIFE.
Looks like irrespective of gender, one must really strive to look for even a pinch of happiness at least in the little thing we do, i am learning and i hope we can all learn to be happy, learn to change our taughts and frame of mind from the negative to the otherwise.
P/S : I begin to love myself more each day
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
I was scared to death...
Friday has always been my most favourite day of the week, on Friday my mood will be super high and jovial but last friday it was a total opposite as far as i was concerned and i was really scared to death.
I was having some kind of muscle pull on my left chest, it was intense and relieved for a while then the pain came back, and as i was vegetating in front of the PC, pictures of my friends suffering from heart attack suddenly appeared in my mind and i thought could i be suffering from the attack. I quickly google searched for the symptoms of a heart attack to see if i had the symptoms of one.
I told my business partner of my chest pain, and he advised me to go and see a doctor and so i did. And as usual, the doctro asked me what's wrong and i described to him my conditions, stiff neck,pull of chest muscle, he checked on me and telling me i was all right. I insisted to know why then did i have muscle pull and stiff neck, professionaly the doctor explained to me, it was due to guess what.... STRESS.
I was taught that i was a kind of jolly happy go lucky kind of person, stress is a distant name to me, but suddenly i realized that i have not been sleeping well and been thinking of certain nonsense playing at the back of my mind.
I seriously need to have a relook at myself again, you see infact i am a happy go lucky kind of person but subconciosly i invite the unknown stress without me realizing it. For an instance, my wife used to tell me i should i get all fired up whenever i see people flauting the traffic rules, i would lose my cool whenever i see that and i would keep honking at that fella.
Yah, so now i know, i really have to take life a little easier before i lose my sanity, i have to learn from my beloved wife who is always as cool as a watermelon. I dont want to get stressed out easily.
Please forgive me, i have been telling my friends to take life easy,in fact i cant live up to what i propagate, let me learn and continue to learn.
P/S : I want to be as cool as a cucumber, and giving you some juice of chilliness
I was having some kind of muscle pull on my left chest, it was intense and relieved for a while then the pain came back, and as i was vegetating in front of the PC, pictures of my friends suffering from heart attack suddenly appeared in my mind and i thought could i be suffering from the attack. I quickly google searched for the symptoms of a heart attack to see if i had the symptoms of one.
I told my business partner of my chest pain, and he advised me to go and see a doctor and so i did. And as usual, the doctro asked me what's wrong and i described to him my conditions, stiff neck,pull of chest muscle, he checked on me and telling me i was all right. I insisted to know why then did i have muscle pull and stiff neck, professionaly the doctor explained to me, it was due to guess what.... STRESS.
I was taught that i was a kind of jolly happy go lucky kind of person, stress is a distant name to me, but suddenly i realized that i have not been sleeping well and been thinking of certain nonsense playing at the back of my mind.
I seriously need to have a relook at myself again, you see infact i am a happy go lucky kind of person but subconciosly i invite the unknown stress without me realizing it. For an instance, my wife used to tell me i should i get all fired up whenever i see people flauting the traffic rules, i would lose my cool whenever i see that and i would keep honking at that fella.
Yah, so now i know, i really have to take life a little easier before i lose my sanity, i have to learn from my beloved wife who is always as cool as a watermelon. I dont want to get stressed out easily.
Please forgive me, i have been telling my friends to take life easy,in fact i cant live up to what i propagate, let me learn and continue to learn.
P/S : I want to be as cool as a cucumber, and giving you some juice of chilliness
Friday, May 08, 2009
Two Lives saved, One lesson learnt.......
He was driving to town in one afternoon, suddenly he felt an intense chest pain which was so excruciating he thougth he would die on the spot, cold sweat was coming out from his palms, and the dizziness was so overwhelming that he wanted to knock his head on the sterling wheel, but luck was on his side, he managed to rush himself to General Hospital,soon enough he was warded in an Intensive Care Unit. The experience my friend went through last week, he is 44 years of age.
He is a near perfectionist, heavy smoker and drinker, been sharing with me lately that his blood pressure has been hovering in the range of 180/130, i have been advising him to take life easy and his answer will always be like this "eugene, i am not like you, easy going, couldnt care less kind of guy, i have to make more money" And when he could not take it any longer the headache and the pain, he finally decided to check himself in to private hospital, after two days there, he was told that the he had blockage in the valve. He is 46 years of age, my very good friend.
Both incidents happened just last week, two lives were saved but one important lesson to be learnt.
Both of them missed the call of death, after these two incidents that inflicted upon these two friends of mine, i was in a way studying their lifestyles and after which i could only conclude that they both have one THING very identical, their stress level is outrageously high.
In fact stress can affect us from many angles, family,career,finance,relationship and even our own attitudes towards life itself. We were not taught in school how to handle stress, eventhough we can read so much about managing stress,but the reality this,when it attacks you then you are left alone to fight it.
I used to experience stress in its ugliest form too when my business was not doing good and everything seemed so bad, losing sleep and i thought puffing and drinking away would alleviate the stress but to no avial.Seriously, learning to let go is easier said than done but then again if you dont learn to let go, you will never let it done.
I love running and swimming so much because too me, it is my ultimate stress buster, if you are not into any excercise, try picking up one, you will live to regret it if you dont.
Note: Try picking up this book and give it a read "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" by Robin Shalma
P/S : A good pair of running shoes may cost RM400, but the reward may well be a godsend
PPS : If you have been shackled with any form of depression, please share with us how you got out of it and emerged a victor, let us learn from you, who knows your experience may just may someone's antidote, someone out there may thank you for it, think about it,ya?
He is a near perfectionist, heavy smoker and drinker, been sharing with me lately that his blood pressure has been hovering in the range of 180/130, i have been advising him to take life easy and his answer will always be like this "eugene, i am not like you, easy going, couldnt care less kind of guy, i have to make more money" And when he could not take it any longer the headache and the pain, he finally decided to check himself in to private hospital, after two days there, he was told that the he had blockage in the valve. He is 46 years of age, my very good friend.
Both incidents happened just last week, two lives were saved but one important lesson to be learnt.
Both of them missed the call of death, after these two incidents that inflicted upon these two friends of mine, i was in a way studying their lifestyles and after which i could only conclude that they both have one THING very identical, their stress level is outrageously high.
In fact stress can affect us from many angles, family,career,finance,relationship and even our own attitudes towards life itself. We were not taught in school how to handle stress, eventhough we can read so much about managing stress,but the reality this,when it attacks you then you are left alone to fight it.
I used to experience stress in its ugliest form too when my business was not doing good and everything seemed so bad, losing sleep and i thought puffing and drinking away would alleviate the stress but to no avial.Seriously, learning to let go is easier said than done but then again if you dont learn to let go, you will never let it done.
I love running and swimming so much because too me, it is my ultimate stress buster, if you are not into any excercise, try picking up one, you will live to regret it if you dont.
Note: Try picking up this book and give it a read "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" by Robin Shalma
P/S : A good pair of running shoes may cost RM400, but the reward may well be a godsend
PPS : If you have been shackled with any form of depression, please share with us how you got out of it and emerged a victor, let us learn from you, who knows your experience may just may someone's antidote, someone out there may thank you for it, think about it,ya?
Wednesday, May 06, 2009
Give me a Name...please
"I like to give it a try" " I have read so much about it" " See that guy is making money and he is like in his 20s" " I really want to give it try" " Hey i got sick about it, we have been talking about it for a long time now, and we should take that First Step" etc and etc.
A good friend of mine, we are both businessman (small scaled one) have been mulling over idea of starting up, guess what? Business on the net, and seriously we have been talking about it for quite a while now, and sadly nothing concrete has come out of it.
So over the last coffee meeting with this friend of mine, i was telling him "ok, enough talking, let get down to serious business" i said to him we should not just harboring the taught of it, instead we must bring the seed of thought or idea to fruition. On the whole, we must take that crucial First Step.
And as we both ponder about what that crucial First Step should be, i told my friend i reckon the crucial First Step is to register a domain, and we both need a Name, a Name that's easy to remember, easy to utter.
I suggested to my friend that i would take this task of name our domain to my blog visitors and seeking their ideas, i told him most bloggers are creative lots and they can surely come out with beautiful or even out of the world names.
So, guys if you happen to drop by here, please dont leave before i give me your suggestion of what to name our first Domain, ok?
Ok, The business model is as such, a website for the teenagers, an avenue for them to vent their frustration, to share thier taughts, their ideas, and promoting merchandise for anything that's teen
P/S : We humbly ask, and we hope you can gladly contribute
A good friend of mine, we are both businessman (small scaled one) have been mulling over idea of starting up, guess what? Business on the net, and seriously we have been talking about it for quite a while now, and sadly nothing concrete has come out of it.
So over the last coffee meeting with this friend of mine, i was telling him "ok, enough talking, let get down to serious business" i said to him we should not just harboring the taught of it, instead we must bring the seed of thought or idea to fruition. On the whole, we must take that crucial First Step.
And as we both ponder about what that crucial First Step should be, i told my friend i reckon the crucial First Step is to register a domain, and we both need a Name, a Name that's easy to remember, easy to utter.
I suggested to my friend that i would take this task of name our domain to my blog visitors and seeking their ideas, i told him most bloggers are creative lots and they can surely come out with beautiful or even out of the world names.
So, guys if you happen to drop by here, please dont leave before i give me your suggestion of what to name our first Domain, ok?
Ok, The business model is as such, a website for the teenagers, an avenue for them to vent their frustration, to share thier taughts, their ideas, and promoting merchandise for anything that's teen
P/S : We humbly ask, and we hope you can gladly contribute
Tuesday, May 05, 2009
Another wedding, another blessing, another challenge
Like i said,i dont fancy going to weddings for the following reasons 1) everyone seems to have lost track of time, when the wedding is supposed to start a 7.30 pm, the hall can only be filled may be another 45 minutes later. reason 2) i dont take shark fin soup (you know man kills shark more than sharks kill man ) but for Chinese wedding, shark fin soup is the must, reason no 3)The way the foods being served as it always as if everyone is rushing to catch a flight, zoom in and zoom out fast.
As much as i dread going to wedding, there bound to be some that i truly enjoyed, like the last
weekend's one, the wedding of my wife collegues June and Jordan. It was simply because i know personally many of my wife collegues and it happened to be on the eve of May the 1st, so i was telling myself that i wanted to attend and gave myself some jolly good times.
My wife with her former collegue, Wono Loh who has since been like part of my family, we are closely knitted just like a real family, and thank you Brother Loh for being our driver to the wedding so that we could enjoye ourselves tremendously, thank again.
When you look at my face and my wife's, you sure know that we were really enjoying ourselves and the beers should contributed to our jolliness.
My wife with her former collegue, Wono Loh who has since been like part of my family, we are closely knitted just like a real family, and thank you Brother Loh for being our driver to the wedding so that we could enjoye ourselves tremendously, thank again.When you look at my face and my wife's, you sure know that we were really enjoying ourselves and the beers should contributed to our jolliness.
P/S: All the best to June and Jordan, sorry didnt take many pictures just a few because we were too immersed in enjoying ourselves
Friday, May 01, 2009
Can sombody please help me....
I went for a swim yesterday, and for the first time in my life, i really mean for the First Time in my life, i swam for 14 laps of 50 meter/per lap (non stop,) and i really felt very proud of myself, even it might not be a feat to many of you but for me i really felt like i was Micheal Phelps.
Ooops, sorry folks i am not trying to be braggart but i am stil feeling the joy right untill now, and i could not believe i did it. So now i really conclude that in fact i can do what i usually thought i could not if i really focus on it and stay on that track,that incidentally brings me to another thing that i really want to do but i have procastinated in bringing it to fruition, GUESS what it is?
I will stop right here, let us play a GUESSING game,what do you think this thing that i really want to do but i have not gotten around doing it? i give you some clues
Clue no 1) you must do it with your hands
Clue no 2)It takes a lot of T L C (tender loving and care)
Clue no 3)aint no sunshine and it 's gone
Clue no 4)screw the hole and put it in
Clue no 5)the joy is not instantaneous, but the sweat is
Clue no 6)nice to do it outdoor, nicer still you can embrace it indoor
ok, ok, i think the clues are suffice, and please try to crack it for tomorrow is a public holiday(Labour day) so nothing serious. No reward for getting the answer right, but if you can get it right, i bet you could just be the one that i really need you to help me to accomplish this task of mine that i have vaulted at the back of my mind for a long time now.
P/S : Happiness is learning to take the joy with our little accomplishment.
Ooops, sorry folks i am not trying to be braggart but i am stil feeling the joy right untill now, and i could not believe i did it. So now i really conclude that in fact i can do what i usually thought i could not if i really focus on it and stay on that track,that incidentally brings me to another thing that i really want to do but i have procastinated in bringing it to fruition, GUESS what it is?
I will stop right here, let us play a GUESSING game,what do you think this thing that i really want to do but i have not gotten around doing it? i give you some clues
Clue no 1) you must do it with your hands
Clue no 2)It takes a lot of T L C (tender loving and care)
Clue no 3)aint no sunshine and it 's gone
Clue no 4)screw the hole and put it in
Clue no 5)the joy is not instantaneous, but the sweat is
Clue no 6)nice to do it outdoor, nicer still you can embrace it indoor
ok, ok, i think the clues are suffice, and please try to crack it for tomorrow is a public holiday(Labour day) so nothing serious. No reward for getting the answer right, but if you can get it right, i bet you could just be the one that i really need you to help me to accomplish this task of mine that i have vaulted at the back of my mind for a long time now.
P/S : Happiness is learning to take the joy with our little accomplishment.
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