My youngest son Marvell was kind of sad when he showed me his Chinese exam result which he scored 82 out of 100, i asked him why was he feeling that way and he said he was afraid that he might not be the 1st in the class this time around. I was almost taken aback with his feeling and sense of dejection, not that i dont want my son to dream big or to achieve his goal but at his age of 8 i was just wondering why was he feeling this way.
I gave him a big hug shortly after he showed me his result, and i assured him that he was in fact doing very well despite the shortfall, i told him that he should be very proud of himself because he still managed to do well without going for any tuition classes, and he can always snatch back the No 1 if he really wanted too. I further explained to him sometimes we do fall in life, and that's is 100% ok, if he learns how to pick up and go again. Seriously i am not too sure he understood what i said, but i believe as a father the onus is one me to share what life is all about to my two wondeful sons.
Frankly speaking, i am a crazy father, i love to see my sons fall along the way, then i will sit them down talking to them about failure and success, about facing dejection and overcome it. Letting them know that at times it will be absolutely all right if they fall or miss the targets.
You see for the good 5 days in a row, our children are in school learning to do well in school, and sometimes being rebuked if they dont do well, and going after one tuition class to another and to another, and for the remaining 2 days in the week, if we as parent if we still push them to do likewise as in school, without learning about things we call life, then 5 + 2 really equals to 0.
It is no surprising then to know that children even at their tender age now, can tell you that they are under stress, and how they have lost the joy of studying. I have this penchant of always asking my sons this "Are you the happiest boy in the class ?" and i am happy to hear them say indeed that they are.
P/S : As far as i am concerned, my sons are always the No 1