Nobody says it is easy dealing with a soon to be teenager son, as much as it gives you a lot of joy,it gives you a fair share of frustration at the same time and my lovely wife can testify to it without a doubt. Not much of a heartache for me though, but for my lovely wife,i guess she takes it more seriously.
Last week was kind of a bombshell for my lovely wife when she was told of the exam result from my eldest Jovial (12 years old), he took a nosedive from his Chinese exam, from previous 85 to the current 55, what a shock indeed and i was not spared either from my wife's wrath as she claimed that i had been too accommodating to my eldest's request for extra computer playing time.
I tried not to aggravate the already tensed situation when it all happened, the scolding and the rebukes directed at my eldest, i took a backseat to make sure that i would talk to my son when the strom has settled down.
I was trying to gauge could it be the extra hour that i allowed him for the computer game a day,that did the harm or could it be something else,may be his attitude in general. Deep inside me,i know my sons are clever and intelligent, and i hold to the belief that it must be his attitude towards study that's detrimental,hence i need to talk to him again about this ATTITUDE issue, and i also need to look at myself and the ways that i use in educating him, could it be right or otherwise.
I have a responsibility to my sons's well being in all areas, grooming them to be a better man, i know it is hard but at the same time for their sake, i love to do it. As my eldest is fast growing up, i must constantly remind myself that i have to set a good example for my son to emulate, not all in my entirety but the good attitudes that i would like him to have but at the same time i must learn to let go, to let him take the leap and to fall or to leap over and i guess that's the best part of growing up.
I want him to make some mistakes but to always know that he has got a dad who is always there for him to guide him through.
P/S : Enjoy growing up with my sons