Funny how it may seem as far as marriage life is concerned, how little things, little arguments, little dissentments can sometimes be bad. Dont know what i am ranting about ? Let me share a little of what happened to me yesterday.
I was having lunch with my lovely wife yesterday, it is kind of ritual for me if i happen to be somewhere near where she works, it was nice meeting up with her for lunch but in the spate of less than 3 hours, thing turned a bit ugly for the both of us all due to a little row or may be two resulting from my refusal to send my eldest to tution class.
I e-mailed her telling her that i would not want to send Jo for the class with attached reasons for my refusal, and shortly after that, a not so inviting emailed came back from her that she would do the job instead, i thought it was ok if she wanted to.
She called to ask me to take Jo's tuition bag for her,at that particular time i was busy talking to a customer over the phone,meaning i had to miss her call, i believe this got her mad. Before i could do anything esle, she stormed into my office with a not at all friendly expression and demanded that i gave her my car key so that she could take Jo's bag, and she stormed out like a wind. I was real mad at this juncture, i was telling myself, the least she could do was to show some respect to me in the presence of my staff and my business partner, i was incensed to the max at this point and forcing myself to calm down.(thank God, i have good patience now, blogging helps to train me to a better person)
I thought it was just another brief "cold war" but she sent me another SMS which again was not kind, again ignored it and telling myself it would be stupid for me to engage in SMS war.Feeling kind of frustrated,i went for a round of drink alone and missed my dinner at home. Feeling kind of tired, took a short nap, and and i wanted to make it up, her room door was locked, i guess as sign of protest so my hope of making up with her was dashed, and guess what i too went out and came back only this morning.
Seriously i dont blame her for her outburst, i guess it is absolutely all right for outburst but the saddest part is, when one is outbursting we must always maintain certain kind of respect for each other. I once read the interview of Rafidah Aziz our former Minister of International Trade, she said something which i found to be very profound and a wonder for a woman. What she said was simple, no matter how powerful or how high up you are outside, when at home she is not the boss.
P/S : It takes a life time to learn to be a man, a husband and a father.