Less of this, more of that............

Sorry folks, have been busy over the past few days and long holidays,after much of exertion, i finally came under the weather and fell sick for two days.

So the new year is nigh,as 2008 is saying goodbye and as they say during this time of the year,it is the time when we need to ponder over what we have done and what we have not done that we were supposed to do from the previous year.

So i did make my resolutions for year 2008, i have achieved some and failed some,anyway let bygone be bygone. For 2009, i will stilll make resolution, but i will make it much easier to achieve, here goes my big plan for 2009.

My resolutions shall be inked with the equation of less of this, and the more of that.

The less of what i want,the more of what my family want.
The less of beer that i shall drink, the more of time to my family i shall give in
The less of me to be happy, the more of me to make others happy
The less of how i feel, the more of what i need to listen what others feel
The less of love i expect from others, the more of love i shall bestow to others
The less of money i shall spend,the more of money i shall give as helping hand

The less of complaint i shall dispend,the more of complements i shall extend
The less of flaws i see in others, the more of flaws in me that i shall alter
The less of enemy i shall make, the more of friends i shall take
The less of worries, the more of i need to do to be happy.


Those are my well thought out resolutions for 2009, do share with me what are yours, and we shall edify one and another to make 2009 a happy and joyful year for all of us.

P/S : Dont cry over spilled milk

Like it or not, Christmas is here......

It is that time of the year again and if you really think how fast time really flies, you are damn right it does fly fast. Today being the eve of Christmas, i would like to wish everyone especially my bloggers friends of whom i have never met, a wonderful Christmas and good health to all.

Let us forget about all the dismay news that we see,read or hear from all the media mediums about the lacklustre,the groom and doom of the economy at least for now and to ponder about how strength and weaknesses.

If you have not been spending enough time with your loves ones,this is the time to do so. If you still harbour hatred against somebody,this is the time to let go. If you worry about the future, leave it to HIM. If you still feel unloved then learn to love. If you feel that you have been misunderstood then learn to agree to disagree.

Jingle bell,Jingle bell,Jingle all the way, oh what fun is to greet my friends in cyberspace.....

P/S, May you be blessed with joy and happiness the time forth

Hooray, it is home coming

Another 2 hours more, i shall be receiving my family back to my fold as they are coming back from a holiday. It has been exactly 13 days, and i really long to see them, my wonderful wife and cheeky boys.

So tonight i will be sleeping soundly with the two boys cuddled in besides me, and it will be talk and talk about things that they did for that period.

P/S, I am rich not by dollar and cent but by the love my family bestow me

I am a blessed man.............

The trouble with us is we have not learnt to count our blessing(s),however small, we moan and groan of what we dont get to have the have(s) of others. When we look around us, we will sure to find so many good things we have that others dont,that's as far as i am concerned.

My in laws and my wonderful wife

I am blessed to have a wonderful in-laws, they have always been so kind and understanding. As for my father in law, he is the best man that has come my way, and i am thankful for him and i am proud to be his son in law, my mother in law is one no nonsense woman, i respect her grit and her indomitable character,even she looks tough outside but actually she has a kind heart and indeed i am blessed to have them as my in law.

I am also thankful for my in law for giving me such a lovely wife who inherits the best traits from her parent.

So the Christmas is nigh, i echo the call to each and everyone of us to count our blessing(s) however small it may seem,let us be thankful for everything we have.

If you have been busy doing your own things, now is time for us to be circumspect of the things that we have neglected, the most crucial is our family.

I just opened my wallet, and there is RM200 in it, and thinking of those who do not have as much i am indeed blessed.

P/S : I am indeed blessed

Role it.............

In a meeting the other day with my staff and my partner addressing some company's issues, my partner blew his top at the staff, and when my partner does that, you know that he is red mad and hot because knowing him for years and his mild demeanour, very rarely and hardly would he throw his tantrums.

After the meeting, i was sitting down comtemplating about the whole scene, could we avert the tense situation if and only if each and everyone of us knows our own roles that we should play.The staff should know that his role is to carry out the job that is he assigned to do and do it well, then no problem shall ensue.

On a hindsight, suddenly i feel like sharing my thoughts of the many roles that i need to play in my life and doing my best to play them well, then really life will be so much simpler and happier.

My Roles as.

A husand : I shall be the best husband that my wife can be proud of, and to take care of her to the best of my ability.

A father : To be the father that my two wonderful sons can be proud of as well, to teach them and to guide them, to love them and be a solace that they can run to when they do get into troubles.

A son : To be a son that my mother can be proud of, to care for her and make sure that she doesnt have to worry about me.

A son in law : I am indeed blessed to have a wonderul in laws, i shall cherish them and treat them as my own parents.

A brother : I have done my best, and i shall take Calvin's advice to continue to pray for them

A business partner : To continue to have fruitful communication with my partner, and to learn that no one is perfect, that we shall complement each other with our strength, and to lift each other up in our weaknesses

A superior : As a superior to my staff, work is work and there shall be no emotion attached when hard decisions are to be made. and to do my best to reward them in commensurate with their efforts.

A friend : To treasure the true and genuine friendship, to lend them a ear when they need one, to edify friends . To shun from friends with bad influence, and be prepared to be taken advantage of once in awhile.

A blogger : to write what i feel inside and not to cheat on my readers, and to learn from each blogger friend and to appreciate their support and in return to give them my support as well


P/S : Life can be simple, if we just dont complicate it..

When she sex no more...how 'bout me?

"You cant identify with us, you are not our age yet, you are only 42 now wait till you get as old as we, then only you tell us what we are doing is wrong" this is the bombardment i got from two 48 and 51 years old friends respectively when i chided them of their infidelity towards their wives by their frequent visits to brothels. By the way these 2 friends of mine have the financial means to feed their vices, so their families are not financially denied in many ways.

Both of them have been lamenting to me about how deprived their sex life is, how the frequency has dwindled to almost none, and how unhealthy they can be if they do not seek out other avenues to drain the excess libido.

We always have strong argument about the issues of Sex and Infidelity, they always feel that they are not morally wrong to do something as nature as having sex with a paid sex worker when their legitmate partners are no longer interested to indulge. They maintain that they are not having an affair, so the issue of being infidel does not arise at all.

Yes,they got me cracking too as far as Sex and Infidelity is concerned, would i do like what they do if i were to be in the exact dilemma as my friends, would sex reign supreme over my true love for my wife,or would i endure or even celibate myself if my wife is no longer interested in sex.

Seriously,i do reckon that sex is a crucial part in a happy marriage but if sex is solely a foundation to a marriage, then what would happen to the marriage is either one party loses the interest in sex, does that warrant either party to fulfill his or here sexual needs for illegetimate means, or does that not consider infidelity.

As far as i am concerned, sex is important but one day if i am tossed into the same predicament as my friends, then i would say that my love for my wife will have to manifest its full power and genuinity to rule over sex. Well you might say it is too early to comment.

The wedding vow should now sound like this, through sickness and through health, through riches and through poor, thorough sex or without sex, till death do us part.


P/S, when they say love conquers all, then we will be put to the test.

The day i lost a Sister..............

If there is one thing my father said that has strong bearing and influence in my life is this."Blood is thicker than water" even untill today it is the same that i instill in my two boys that cliche.
But things dont play out as well as i wanted it to be in my own life, serioulsy i dont know why, i have played my part as a brother to my siblings but most of time it is not reciprocal. If there is one regret that i harbour, this should be it.

Well i have not been on talking term with my eldest sister,lest keep in touch for about 2 months now,it all started because i was not in agreement with her stand as far as her marriage fiasco is concerned, i couldnt sync with her action nor could i accept her reasons. Well,i guess it doenst really matter now, we are all adults and we should be held 100 % responsible from our own actions.

I dont want to talk about her divorce,what grinds me to sadness is i have indeed lost a sister the moment my wife showed me the sms on her mobile from my eldest sister that contained innuendos in the form of instigating or to cause a strain in my relationship with my wife,(asking my wife not to trust me of that sort) once i read the sms,i knew i had to distant myself from her in order to protect my family, not that i hava anything to hide from my wife but i just didnt want my wife to be entangled in our problems.

If you ask me, do i love my eldest sister, without hesitation i can safely say i do, infact i love all of my siblings but due to certain circumstances, i lost a sister.

Among all my siblings, my eldest sister is the one that i love the most, and i sincerely hope she has found the right one to spend the rest of her life with, and that someone will go through thick and thin with her.

May be she will read my blog, may be she will not but today being the 18th of December, i want to wish her "Happy Birthday " to my dearest sister , may your days ahead be filled with joy and love, and sincerely i want to say "i love you" you might not want to rekindle, but i just want you to know, i really do.....i hope i will find you once again.

Wish my father was alive today so that he could once again whip us with that fact "Blood is thicker than water"

P/S. All the Best to you

最浪漫的事

My memory always serves me right,today i feel a little nostalgic,mellow and pleasantly intoxicated with lovey dovey feeling, i kept humming this song since yesterday and particulary this song takes me back about 14 years ago.

It was in a private Karaoke room, a bunch of my wife's ex-collegues were there kara-oking, when it was my wife's turn to sing (my girl friend then), she sang this song 最浪漫的事(the most romantic event) i was immediately captured with the beautiful lyrics,untill today this song still gives me goose-bump.

I would like to share some of the words in the song with you if you dont know Mandarin and at the same time rededicate this song to my wife.



背靠着背 坐在地毯上 As we sit back to back on a carpet
听听音乐 聊聊愿望 Listening to the music,and talk about our hopes
我希望你放我在心上 I hope that you cherish me on your heart
你说想送我个浪漫的梦想 you say you want to present me a romantic dream
谢谢我带你找到天堂 for bringing me to heaven or cloud nine
哪怕用一辈子才能完成 Even if it uses up my whole life to get there
只要我讲你就记住不忘 Once i said it, you would never forget about it
我能想到最浪漫的事 The most romantic event that i can think of
就是和你一起慢慢变老 is to grow old slowly and graciously with you
一路上收藏点点滴滴的欢笑 along the way,we will save every bits of our laughters
留到以后 坐着摇椅 慢慢聊 keep them till the day, and we share them as sway on the swing
我能想到最浪漫的事 this is what i can think of "the most romantic event
就是和你一起慢慢变老 is to grow old and graciously with you
直到我们老的哪儿也去不了 untill the day we are too feeble to go anyway
you will still keep me as the gem on your palm

听听音乐 聊聊愿望
你希望我越来越温柔
我希望你放我在心上
你说想送我个浪漫的梦想
谢谢我带你找到天堂
哪怕用一辈子才能完成
只要我讲你就记住不忘
我能想到最浪漫的事
就是和你一起慢慢变老
一路上收藏点点滴滴的欢笑
留到以后 坐着摇椅 慢慢聊
我能想到最浪漫的事
就是和你一起慢慢变老
直到我们老的哪儿也去不了
你还依然 把我当成 手心里的宝
我能想到最浪漫的事
就是和你一起慢慢变老
一路上收藏点点滴滴的欢笑
留到以后 坐着摇椅 慢慢聊
我能想到最浪漫的事
就是和你一起慢慢变老
直到我们老的哪儿也去不了
你还依然 把我当成 手心里的宝


P/S: Dear i will always remember this song,,,

Why cant it stay the same..........

I used to make to tell this joke to my friends, "My wife tends to complain that why now when we cross the road,i dont hold her hand to get over to the other side like before, then i responded you said it well, it was then but this is now" Well, this is of course just a joke.

Why cant the Then stays the same with the Now and what comes in between the Then and the Now that makes a relationship loses the sparks ?Take for an example 10 or 15 years ago, you were so madly in love, and with that love you decided to walk down the aisles, but 10 or 15 years or even shorter the relationship loses the steam and everything else seems so different. Why is it so, i really wonder.

Did you know that the statistic shows that, 4 out of 10 marriages will end up in divorce, and the most common ground for divorces is irrconsilable differences. Funny la, i think we didnt see the differences in the Then and we see them in the Now and we cant take it anymore so we call it quit.

I dont want to expound on this issues, i want to hear from you, i want you to share your takes with me on this.

When i told my friend over the cuppa last night that i would always always love my wife untill my dying days, he intercepted and said that i should not conclude so early that my love for her will not waver. Seriously i cant comprehend his reason.

P/S... When i say i love you, i really do.

The day i saw my future..........

I have always got this penchant for good family themed movies or sitcoms, remember "Kramer vs Kramer, the one starring Merlly Streep and Dustin Hoffman, cannot remember the boy actor name though anyone can help me on this?, and my all time favourite sitcom is "The Cosby Show" and my recent fav is "In pursuit of happyness"

Sunday without my family around is sure no walk in the park for me,woke up and wanted to plan some activities for myself besides lazing and whiling away the day, as tough as i cracked my mind for programmes i only managed to come out with one, there was to go for a run in the afternoon.

So from here to then, besides immersing in the Sunday papers, i did some finger exercising with my fingers by pressing aimlessly on the remote control for pay tv untill i stumbled upon a sneak preview on one tv series entitled "Passage to Treasures"

Starring 秦沛 (Chin pei) taking the role of a wonderful father to 2 sons and a daughter, the character that Chin Pei plays suddenly tossed me into the future, as i watched the sneak preview, i said to myself this is the kind of a father that i wanted to be when my sons are all grown up.

The character is so endearing that he goes as far as getting the right size of the bed and spends the whole nignt fixing it for his son who is coming back from overseas and makes sure that his sons will have their favourtie foods awaiting them upon their return. He would amplify the greatness of his sons to his friends and feel real proud of doing it.

And the whole family is always filled with laugthers and joy, the wife and the husband's priority is always for the children, and the children acknowledge that indeed they are blessed to have such parent. I am sure the show will not go on with all the goods but given the strong bond of the family,they are able to weather the storms. ( i better not to tail the shows, for i just want to be mesmerized and enthralled by the good parts of the sneak preview)

I would like to envision myself to be synonymous to that character, and to be real proud of my sons when they are a grown up, to do the extra for them, to love them. I will take this as my 福气 (blessing) to be their dad.


P/S. from now to then, i will always be the blessed Papa.

Lonely is the nite......

“ 反来复去 ，睡不着，睡不着，想起你，实 在 。。。。。 (tossing around, just couldnt sleep), this Chinese song kept playing tricks in my mind that resulted me in wake sleeping throughout the nite, the reason for this insomnic condition was my family was not with me . (ya they have gone holidays)

Seriously, it was like some parts of my life was amiss, read my novel, drowned some beers but the thoughts were still lingering about my wonderful wife and my two charming sons, man it was like being detained under the ISA.

I am thankful that and proud that my two lovely sons were hurling kisses and words of "i love you" were flying in the air as my good friend came and picked them up to the airport, it was this moment that the words "i love you" seemed so dear and powerful, and my youngest boy asked me to take good care of myself when they were away, it was no very nice.

So it looks like l will have to brace myself with another 10 lonely nights without the gems of my life, i will miss them dearly for sure................

7.00 am Saturday
P/S, I Love you ............................... my pride, my joy and my love

Risk Management in Marriages

The phrase "risk management" is an economical jargon that explains the needs to manage the risks, the impending risks or the future risks in any businesses in order to survive the onslaught of risks should it happen. If there is no proper risk management in place and the risk should occur, businesses might be plummeted to doom.

But today i am going to share with you my own defination of risk management in marriages that in my opinion is crucial to certain extend for a lasting marriage. The look into one's fantasy,lust, crave, loneliness, enticement, self control, weaknesses and excuses.

First of all,let me make myself clear i am only a human,flesh and blood i was made, and i aint superman. (hahahaha)

My lovely wife and my two wonderful sons will be away from me for about 11 days for a holiday trip, and i just hate that feeling of being lonely so i have made clear to my good friends that i will be a Married Bachelor for that grueling 11 days and they will have to help me to make plans to fill the vacuum.


You see i have drinking buddies that had promised me to take me to karaoke joints, pubs and "amusement parks. (no correlation to that of driving games "Need for Speed or Initial R") and they promised me it would be fun and more fun. And i knew exactly what they were proposing and i knew as much as i wanted to joint them for these escapades or kinky rendezvous but then again i knew i had to resist the temptation.


As human as i am, imagine being in the company of beautiful ladies and flowing beers and the occasional challenges that might be thrown at me by my buddies to do the "wrong things" that will surely weaken my flesh and poison my mind, i must firmly make my stand and stake my grounds, i only want to have beers but with no "girls" around.


So i have told my buddies jokingly that i need to practise risk management in marriages, a subject which i just read from a book and during my wife's sojourn, it will be just the best time to put in to test, i even told them that i would do somethings unconventional as planting ferns ( a plant which i like the most) and make few pots of it to give my house some green feel and i will finish a novel "My time traveller wife" during my family absence.

P/S : We just cant make excuses from our weaknesses, can we ?

A confused married man

Dear XXXX,

I married a girl 13 years younger than i am, together we have a 8 years old son (who is hyperactive by birth) i knew my wife while she was working for me in a pub. My life was really a bed of roses with bevy of beauties litterally at my expense, earning big bucks then. When i hit rock bottom, gone were the so called beauties and friends but she was still there for me, wanted to turn over a new leaf, forget the past and moved on with life. You might say, may be it was a marriage of convenience, she was there at the right time and i was in for a wrong time, so we got married. She was a simple girl for a small village not much educated, she endured the hardship with me and we rode the storm together therefore i am thankful for her steadfastness.

Fast foward to the present, i am doing all right now having good income, in a way she is enjoying the fruit of my success too as of now of which i believe she duly deserves it. She quit her job a couple months ago, and being a full time housewife she is, life differs a lot now.

She is fastidious and sometimes unreasonable. She would just trouble me with a tiny detail such as she would order me to wash away the bird dropping on the car which in my opinion she just could do it on her own. When she is asked for an opinion, she has none. When she ask me for an opinion, she would stick to the opposite ones.

I have tried talking and reasoning with her but always to no avail, sometimes i really question myself did i marry a correct girl that gone wrong or the wrong girl that never gone right. I am not happy so whenever i drink with my good and close friends, i would just blah out just to get the load off my chest.

Another problem with her is, she just doesnt know how to socialize with my friends. When in the company, i being the crown of attention and she would just sit there staring blank.

Dear xxxx, please tell me what should i do to change her or to change myself for i am really getting confused and madder each passing day.

Thank you

A 47 years old confused married man


To my blogger friend,

This is the story for a good friend of mine, may be you can share with me your two cents or three cents worth, your opinions , suggestions and thoughts so in return i can may be help him in a some ways possible.

P/S. Your suggestions and opinions will be much appreciated

The day i lost my cool..............

I am being truthful here, i know i am cool dad but somehow or rather i broke my pact that i had with my eldest that never to rod him again, yesterday i did just the opposite. I wept infront of my sons after the canning session when i saw the canning marks on hig legs but i knew i had to do it "you spare the rod,you kill the sons"

Yes i did lose my cool, and yes i was overwelmed by my emo and yes again i resorted to canning instead of talking which i personally propagated, but this time seriously and sternly i told him this would be last time that i would use the cane, i told him the reasons why i was very mad at him and why i even used the words "I am fucking mad at you " i stood my stand.

After the drama, as he was still weeping and my eyes were still moist,i looked at him and said " it has been so many years since i canned you and today papa lost the cool because you drove me to boiling point but if you are angry with me i can understand, and today will be the last time for canning because your are 12 now"

Every scene in everyday's life i humble myself to learning to be a better dad, i know that it is so very hard when emotion and rationale clashes, and for the children's sake adjustments have to be made.

I am thankful that my sons love me and i love them dearly too........

P/S " When emotion and rationale collide, we just have to do what is right.

Heart to Heart

I was mad at my eldest son last night, and with his attitude towards his younger brother, i just couldnt stand the intimidating and bullying actions he inflicted upon his younger brother so i argued with him and gave him some tongue lashing, at first he seemed nonchalant towards my lashing and he stood looking disdainly at me, i knew it was doing the both of us no good if i kept talking or raising my voice at him, i could not resort to canning because i promised him at his age i would spare the rod and we just talk to sort things out.

So i decided to call him over to my master room, telling how frustrating and angry i was at him,i paused then i continued telling him my stand about how important i regard brotherhood and family to him, i waited for a while then i decided to ask him to enter his defence (sounds like court in session,doenst it?)

As he was explaining himself and i just kept quiet and listened, when he finished defending himself, i was happy and stunned to hear this statement coming out from him " Papa, i am learning to love my brother" and i gave him a hug and telling him "i love you"

I know my sons are cheeky and i have no problem with that in fact i want them to be cheeky that's the part of growing up but through their cheekiness i am learning to teach them about good attitudes and good values, they can be cheeky but they can never be rude.

I am thankful that my children have no problem confiding in me, and most of the times we would just sit down and talk and talk and talk.

P/S. It is nice to be a parent when we know how it is to be children

To wait upon........

I was pondering over a verse taken from Bilbe, "good things shall come to those who wait" looking at those words, nothing so profound i thought to myself but as i dwelled deeply in this verse, suddenly i realized that's one action in those words that i have personally overlooked the importance of it, and the word is "WAIT"

I challenge you to to this exercise, close your eyes and immerse yourself in your own seclusion and free yourself from thoughts and starting timing yourself and see how long you can go, the chances are you cant go any longer than 5 minutes , that just to prove that to wait might not be as easy as you think it is.

Why then the bible says the good things shall come to those who wait, and what good things is it trying to tell us. I personally think this advice of the Bible holds so much truth to it,just imagine how many arguments can be averted, how many hurtful words can be saved from being uttered,how many misunderstandings can be made understood, how many relatioships or friendships can be saved if we know how to do just one thing, that's to WAIT.

To qoute an example, i was having a drink with my wife and a few friends the last weekend,it was an enjoyable gathering because i love to be in their company over some drinks and suddenly one friend started hurling unfriendly words at me, accusing me of not answering his calls, to be frank i was furious and i wanted to fight back to defend myself, i was thinking if i did what i thought was right then i would lose a friend which i consider a good friend. So i waited and waited calmly untill he said he wanted to leave, so a friendship was saved because i waited.

I am glad with all humility ,i am still learning from life itself, for life itself is a mirror that reflects our weaknesses that no one will ever know.

P/S : A little wait can save us from big trouble ,, think about it

The good side from the down side.........

I spent the whole part of yesterday morning visitng my customers, there is only one conclusion that i could sum it all up from the visit, the domestic economy is not doing well at all. I just dont want to dwell so much in this malaise rather i want to look at it from the positive side from this down side to share with you.

Imagine you've got a 1oo dollars in your wallet in two different scenarios, good and bad times. During the good times,you dont think twice of spending that 100 dollars but during the bad times,you'll learn to make sure that every cent in that 100 dollar is well spent and that makes you a frugal person.

During the bad times, you could just hear so many unpleasant news of cutting costs, company downsizing, laying offs or even company winding up. Then suddenly for those who have never been so industrious in their jobs, out of a sudden they got worried and begin to change their attitude to become more productive than ever for they fear that they may just lose the jobs, so the bad times litterally change you to a better person.

For the quys, during the good times you dont have problem spending that extra money on beer drinking session and even happy hours which usually will last till late night,and the family will be neglected (the children and the wife) . Now the bad times are here, company cutting entertainment claims,and you dont get to enjoy as much as you could afford so go back early to enjoy the meals with the family, eventually the family tie is strengthened.

During the good times, you will never bother to look at your utility bills(electricity, water, phone bills and etc) but the bad times will spur you to look at them now because you need to be cautious on how you spend on these bills, you have learnt to be smart in your spending and that will help to save the environment too, dont you agree ?

During the good times, you have no problems taking your children out to fast foods outlets for meals instead of cooking simple home meals. Fast foods outlets are no cheap and not that healty as well. So during bad times,you cut those visits and home cooked meals will be the order to the day. And that makes you a healthy person.

P/S: If you can see the good from the bad, you dont have to worry so much

Run my friend run.........

If you happen to be someone who procastinates to start doing some exercise,and you seem to never have the motivation for it, i have got good news for you......try running.

Could it be true that you dont have time to exercise,it could be true but at the same time it could be otherwise as well. If your exercise regime requires you have a fix time to do it,then eventually you'll get weary with it and then you'll drop out.

Why running can be so much fun ? It is simply because we can do it almost anytime and anywhere and you dont have to wait for anybody else to run, just invest in a pair of good running shoes,dont worry so much of the running vest and shorts but good running shoes are imperative .


I have been running for the past 10 years or so, i dont have running mates neither do i join any running groups because i just want to free from any scheduled routines. I run about 4 to 5 times weekly,when i come back from work i dont have to wait for anybody,i loaf into my running shoes,there i go hitting the road in the vicinity of my neighbourhood. I run for 1 hour or so everytime non-stop, but once a week i will push myself to do a little longer,just to feel the excitement and telling myself that i can do it, kinda of a self pep talk

Trust me running is one simple and healthy exercise that anyone can do,forget about the monthly gym subcription,just invest in a pair of good running shoes then i bet you'll be on your way to discover the many benefits of running.

Just start small,by doing 5 minutes run when you feel comfortable then increase your time to 15 minutes and so forth. Try doing it 3 times weekly consistenly, consistency is the keyword for keeping that habit of running. If you continue doing it for about a month of so, i bet my bottom dollar that you'll get addicted with it.

My wife detested running at first but now running is part of her life.Running keeps your youth(not for marathoners), good cardio,stress reliever,enhances your mental focus,improve your stamina and libido and most of all it makes you feeeel great........


P/S. Men were born to run,it is our birhtright

Smoothen the friction............

First thing first, i am just another human,i need love,hugs,kisses, and closeness. May be this morning i woke up at the wrong side of the bed, i was looking to be "close' with my wife last nite(forget about it if you dont know what i mean), but it was not forthcoming as she was tugging the children to sleep there went the "last nite"

Full of excitement i woke up, only to see her going out running, turned on the TV switched to MTV channel, danced a bit, did 32 push ups as waiting for her to come back, may be we could be "close" again while the chidren were still sleeping, signal sent out but to her oblivion as she was busy tending to the children's breadfast so my excitement was once again bathed with disappointment.

At this point i was not that pleasant and inviting,i bathed, i attired, i shot out to work and as i was going out she handed over me the breadfast i didnt look at her i just walked off. Then she was saying something like "hey what did i do that offended you ?" Seriously at this juncture, i felt like telling her that all i wanted was to be close to her even for a while, hey but then again she might say "cant you see i am busy now" it is funny right ?

That's the best part, the part of you thought you knew it all in a relationship but actually you dont at all. Sometimes i can make a lot of excuses of how insensitive my partner is towards my feelings, i can groan and groan or even getting hostile about it, it is just not right,she is my wife i can i do this to her.

As for me it is good to have friction in a relationship, it is the friction that makes it smoother only if both are willing to be open about it and to work on it and sprinkle some love on it. I am indeed glad that i have a wonderful wife despite some hicupps.


P/S. There is no one perfect relationship,if there is one then it will not be perfect.......that's the thrill...........

9.12 am

My husband is not my husband.... vice versa

Had a casual chit-chat moments over a cuppa with two neighours (husband and wife),as usual the topics embroiled in the conversation are non other than relationship,frustration being a wife or a husband and the loss of sparks in one's relationship.........

Sometimes i am really blessed that i have friends that we can talk in a deeper level,and having them sharing their malaise and frustration with me and my wife. By having listening to their woes,it makes me look back upon my relationship with my wife for that matter.

I noticed one apparent trait in most couples (by default those have married more than 10 years ),that is you can hardly hear edifying words or statements coming from the couple about their partner. Words like, my husband is great or my wife is wonderful, i am glad that i have him or her as my partner or soul-mate, thank god for him or her.

Most of the times, they would just say things that are not so endearing or making statements that are not so nice (i am not saying what that say is not true),they would just say more of the partner's bad points and bury their good ones.

Seriously, i wonder how can we have a stastifying relationship when all we do is to amplify the bads rather than the goods of our partners. I always maitain the fact that my wife is not a perfect person,neither am i a perfect husband but my wife has more of the good that i look up to than the bad. I would always make my wife proud in the company of my friends telling them how gladful i am for having such a wonderful wife.

Another thing solely in my opinion, in order for a couple to have a fulfilling relationship the couple should have a common love for certain activities. As for me and my wife, we both love to run, tennis and a weekend binge. These activities help us to talk more and laugh more and to destress us more.

P/S: If you stop working on a relationship now, it wil be harder when you work on it later.