"You cant identify with us, you are not our age yet, you are only 42 now wait till you get as old as we, then only you tell us what we are doing is wrong" this is the bombardment i got from two 48 and 51 years old friends respectively when i chided them of their infidelity towards their wives by their frequent visits to brothels. By the way these 2 friends of mine have the financial means to feed their vices, so their families are not financially denied in many ways.
Both of them have been lamenting to me about how deprived their sex life is, how the frequency has dwindled to almost none, and how unhealthy they can be if they do not seek out other avenues to drain the excess libido.
We always have strong argument about the issues of Sex and Infidelity, they always feel that they are not morally wrong to do something as nature as having sex with a paid sex worker when their legitmate partners are no longer interested to indulge. They maintain that they are not having an affair, so the issue of being infidel does not arise at all.
Yes,they got me cracking too as far as Sex and Infidelity is concerned, would i do like what they do if i were to be in the exact dilemma as my friends, would sex reign supreme over my true love for my wife,or would i endure or even celibate myself if my wife is no longer interested in sex.
Seriously,i do reckon that sex is a crucial part in a happy marriage but if sex is solely a foundation to a marriage, then what would happen to the marriage is either one party loses the interest in sex, does that warrant either party to fulfill his or here sexual needs for illegetimate means, or does that not consider infidelity.
As far as i am concerned, sex is important but one day if i am tossed into the same predicament as my friends, then i would say that my love for my wife will have to manifest its full power and genuinity to rule over sex. Well you might say it is too early to comment.
The wedding vow should now sound like this, through sickness and through health, through riches and through poor, thorough sex or without sex, till death do us part.
P/S, when they say love conquers all, then we will be put to the test.