I married a girl 13 years younger than i am, together we have a 8 years old son (who is hyperactive by birth) i knew my wife while she was working for me in a pub. My life was really a bed of roses with bevy of beauties litterally at my expense, earning big bucks then. When i hit rock bottom, gone were the so called beauties and friends but she was still there for me, wanted to turn over a new leaf, forget the past and moved on with life. You might say, may be it was a marriage of convenience, she was there at the right time and i was in for a wrong time, so we got married. She was a simple girl for a small village not much educated, she endured the hardship with me and we rode the storm together therefore i am thankful for her steadfastness.
Fast foward to the present, i am doing all right now having good income, in a way she is enjoying the fruit of my success too as of now of which i believe she duly deserves it. She quit her job a couple months ago, and being a full time housewife she is, life differs a lot now.
She is fastidious and sometimes unreasonable. She would just trouble me with a tiny detail such as she would order me to wash away the bird dropping on the car which in my opinion she just could do it on her own. When she is asked for an opinion, she has none. When she ask me for an opinion, she would stick to the opposite ones.
I have tried talking and reasoning with her but always to no avail, sometimes i really question myself did i marry a correct girl that gone wrong or the wrong girl that never gone right. I am not happy so whenever i drink with my good and close friends, i would just blah out just to get the load off my chest.
Another problem with her is, she just doesnt know how to socialize with my friends. When in the company, i being the crown of attention and she would just sit there staring blank.
Dear xxxx, please tell me what should i do to change her or to change myself for i am really getting confused and madder each passing day.
A 47 years old confused married man
To my blogger friend,
This is the story for a good friend of mine, may be you can share with me your two cents or three cents worth, your opinions , suggestions and thoughts so in return i can may be help him in a some ways possible.
P/S. Your suggestions and opinions will be much appreciated