Life, is about now.........

As i posted in my previous post that i needed to visit an old friend of mine who is sick, i am glad now that i have managed to pay him a visit after a few missed turns and overshots.

Upon arriving at his doorstep,i called out "Robert, Robert" he took a peek through his window pane and suddenly he repsonded " is that you Eugene?" gladly i replied "sure is. As the door open, i saw one frail figure walking with the assistance of walking frame, and i was glad, i met up with an old friend.
I spent about two hours chit-chatting with and old friend(didnt know that he is already 62, and how time flies)reminiscing the old times, and i asked him about his health condition. He told me that he was suffering from colon cancer which has since spread to the other parts of his body.

He even told me a dreaded news that his doctor told him that he had only two months to live out his life, i didnt ask when would that time frame expire, i just hope that i can still see him on my next few visits.

Talking to a friend who has walked toward the end of the line,has really humbled you as a person, and how this category of people face life knowing that life itself will soon if not sooner run out on them can teach you what life really is all about.

I am still trying to digest what lessons i can possibly learn after meeting an old friend, but one thing is for sure is that one must always try to bring joy and laugther to our friends, it doesnt really matter if you are called a crown sometimes.

As i made my way out of Robert's house, i wished him well and promised that i will be back visiting, and profusely he thanked me for spending my time chit-chatting with him, and to him it was precious.

P/S : That are just things you can do to bring joy to others

Call him what you like, to me He is the Best

"Heal the world, make it a better place for you and for me and the entire human race, there are people dying"



In memory of my all time Idol,,, Micheal Jackson, no one can compare to you seriously not in a million years.


P/S : I need to holler right now,," Micheal Micheal I Love You"

RIP The King of Pop

We were never close but i remember him........

You know sometimes in our lives, one really doest not have to make a real impact or something so dramatic in others' life to leave the indelible impression to have someone to remember you for or about, and i like to share this with you.

About 20 years ago, when i got employed to work as a cargo sales agent representing an airline with the primarily duty to procure business from cargo agents, i was just a novice and green horn then and facing or communicating with those seasoned uncles and aunties for business was a real challenge for me, people just didnt take me seriously and it was tough.

Along the way, so they say, they would always be some guiding stars and truly i had mine too in the form of these two uncles back then, Robert and Kong. These are the two uncles who really made me feel worthy and respected unlike others. They were good to me and they even guided me in my scope of work and besides they even gave me business support and they really made the difference.

I remember, back then everytime i made my sales calls, i would always dropped in to their office and chit-chatted with them before i faced other unfriendly customers, i would always feel uplifted with my morale boosted, and truly until today i do appreciate them.

So back to the present time and just the other day, i bumped into Mr Kong, chatted with him and i was so curious to ask about Robert's current stay of health because i heard he was unwell and never thought it could be so serious.

Mr Kong told me that Robert was very sick and doctor even told him that he had only two months to live, i was shocked to hear the news. I managed to get Robert's contact, but i could not get hold of him. I was telling myself as a last resort i had to get his address and pay him a visit, may be the last before he succumbs to his illness and to tell him "Thank You" for his kindness towards me 20 years ago.

I have inserted "Visit Robert: as part of my routines tomorrow, to see Robert and to give him a hug and to say "Thank you Robert".

P/S : Little kindness makes a big difference

You scare or not ?

Lately we have been inundated with all the fuss about H1N1 that hit our shore,contrary to our perception not long ago that H1N1 was only a worry in some faraway lands, but now we even have domestic transmittal cases, and certain schools were ordered to close,and the related news today is more worrying, the first fatal case was reported in the Philipines, that marked the first death resulting from H1Ni in South East Asia.

If you were to ask me, am i scared about this pandemic, off course i do and i dont think WHO rated it phase 6 and naming it pandemic for nothing,and i really dont think it is a pinch of salt to contain the spread of this virus.

Frankly speaking the death per minute from H1Ni is nothing to shout about compared to the quantum of death from heart attack and cancer, but then again why are we so scared about H1Ni than the two killers as mentioned. Could it be that, we have the anticipation that H1Ni, if it is not controlled effectively, the result can be another human catastrophe,which by then the death can be even quicker than the death resulting from heart attack and cancer combined.

On the hindsight, human must always be reminded that we are not at all omnipotent as we thought ourselves to be, we may conquer heaven and earth but sometimes something will just bring us to our feet and shout out " Lord please help us, we are vulnerable"

I sincerely hope our government is doing the best and beyond to fight this virus, and not taking it lightly and to acknowledge that in fact the worst is yet to come.

As a parent, i really need to keep abreast with the latest news about H1Ni for i have my two sons to protect.

P/S : Yes i am scared.............

My greatest moment as a dad......

Yesterday being a celebration of Father's day, and like any other fathers with no grown up children, just some wishes like "Happy Father day" from our little ones will be good enough to bring the cheers to us father, but i got more than what i bargained for..............

I have always enjoyed good relationship with my boys, and my boys know it well that they sure have a wonderful dad, despite some flaws of mine, my boys love me as much as i love them. I will always be willing to say sorry to my sons, whenever they think or i think i have wronged and i've always allowed them the freedom to speak up. That probably has helped me to establish a bond that we treasure.

I was so happy yesterday, when my eldest said he wanted to talk to me about something very private, and when i asked him what was it that he wanted to share with me, he simply said this to me, " because i can trust you,papa" and those few simple words of his have already translated into the greatest gift for me on Father Day. (I cant share with you what he shared with me, promise is a promise,rigth?)

I am so happy because i know this level of trust that i share with my children will last a long time, and with this trust i am hopeful that in their time of despair, confusion, boy and girl problem, they can always run back to this old man of theirs.

I thank god for this wonderful gift from him in the form of my two wonderful sons, and i love to enjoy every moment with them before they outgrow me, and untill that day, i shall have no regret that indeed i have been and always will be a dad who just wants to be a dad.

P/S : I am the greatest dad because my sons said so.

My greatest success....being a father........

I really like this quote " Everyman can have a child but that doestnt make him a father" Barrack Obama said it,

Today's being a Father's Day, and i am proud to be of one for my two wonderful sons and frankly i am still learning to be a better father each of the passing day.

And to all my friends who are father, let us enjoy being a father, basking in the love our children giving us.

HAPPY FATHER to myself................

P/S : I am humbled because i am a father.........

When mom cries or rather grandmom cries....

My mom is already in her mid 70s, like i said before, as a matriach of the family, just when i thought that she could be or should be enjoying her "chen fook" or in English be blissful after all those toiling years of her life, guess i was dead wrong, let me share with you why.

Received a phone call from by mom as i was driving to see some customers, her voice on the other end was interrupted with chokes and i could sense that she was sobbing a little here and there and she told me that one of her many grandsons just called her and confided in her that his business has been taken away by his mom( his mom just got divorce, and this nephew of mine cannot in way accepting his mom's new found partner) and he is feeling very sad and helpless.

After listening to her, i was as helpless as my nephew, i didnt know what to do and i didnt even know how to pacify my mom. So i decided to pay her a visit after i have done my duties, and when i was there i could sense her sincere concern toward this grandson of hers, as far as i am concerned, i was telling to let this issue take its own course, i told her there was really nothing much we could do.

No matter how much i try to comfort her but i know there is just a little i can do to alleviate her worries that she has for everyone in her family.Deep inside me, i knew my mom was not at all at peace and to me there is really nothing she can do. Looks like, once you are a mother or a grandmother, forever you shall be one, you just get worried about all those who and who's problem in the family and the saddest part is her resources are limited and there is just so much so could do.

My mid 70s old mom seen here with my youngest sister

P/S : As for a mom, children are always her young and still need protection

Sick and bored

Again i am struck, it is now 12.00 in the afternoon, calling in sick today, and i am officailly pronounced sick.

Sore throat, running nose, lethargic, bad cough and thank God , no fever, guess i am safe as far as H1N1 is concerned..


P/S : Rest i must

She is a human too..............

She wakes up about 5.30 every morning, she needs to wake the children up, prepares breadfast for them, wait together with them for the school bus, done not quite yet, this is just the early chores that she has to perform. She has to wash the employer's cars, sweeps the lawn, makes the children's room, and house chores after chores.

I asked my friend why he had to ask his maid to wash the cars every single day and he told me, it was part of her daily chores. So i reckon his maid's works start as early as 5.30, probably ends as late as 11 pm, 24/7 and 365. Curiously, i asked my friend, wouldnt he allow his maid to take a day off a week just like everyone of us does, he told me again it was not part of the deal.
As i read today's paper about the Ministry of Human Resource, wanting to gazzette a law that is mandatory for maids to enjoy a day off weekly, as far as i am concerned this is a good news that comes a little too late, doesnt it?

Imagine yourself being a maid, you came from a faraway land, with the intention of saving up some money. You land yourself in a house hold that is a stark different than your own and the culture shock hits you, before you can learn to be a maid, you have already been told that you are stupid, useless and good for nothing. Day in and day out, you are being hurled with such unfriendly words, how would you feel?Deep inside of you, you wanted to escape but litterally, you have got no way to run, you dont have the means to, your money and your travelling documents are in your employer's "safe keeping".

Slowly but surely, your mental health is in jeopardy, you cant take it anymore, you fight back and you retaliate. Why do you do that, simply because you are not being taken as another Human Being.

I remember i was in way chastising my friend for telling his maid to work 24/7, 365, and allowing his children to scold the maid in public. I asked him, how would he feel if it was her to be the maid be treated the same way that he is treating the maid.

I am not taking side, there are good and bad maids, but the fundamental is one is to always treat another like she is just another human, may be the caste is different but that should not make anyone of us any less human.

P/S : What if you were her...........

This always happens to me, when i am...........

First of all, i like to say that i am not a heretic kind of person, i do believe in God, in fact i have been Christian for many years now. To me God is a personal kind of relationship that we established with The Almighty, and it intertwines between you and Him.

So that personal relationship with Him to me must be in some degree be evident in your own life thus that would give you a sense of belonging that you are with Him or His with you. What do i mean? you may ask, so let me just share a little bit here and there what i experienced as a God's child, it might not be something as dramatic as a blockbuster movie, but then again like i said, it is between me and Him.

If you have been a Christian long enough, these few words may not in anyway sound foreign to you, words like back-slided, prodigal son, in the wilderness and lost sheep. Guess it is part of one's spiritual journey to have once or even more times feeling lost, going against Him, back-slided and drifting apart from one's religious endevour. Not so sure about you, i have for many times drifting apart from Him, and everytime when this happens,something strange would just happen.

You may call it a mere co-incidental, but i bet it sure happens to me. Everytime when i am lost in Him, somehow, somewhere and someone will just give me a calling telling me something like this "hey it is time to be back to the fold"

Just this morning, as it is my job function to make cold-telephone call to solicit for business, i didnt know how i stumbled upon this phone number, i called up, asking for the person in charge and introduced myself, and bingo, without me realizing it, i was on the line with an old church friend ,(Katherine is her name), i once was teaching her child in the chindren church, and he is now 25 years old and so we chatted.

Guess what, like it has always happened to me, she too was politely and nicely telling me the same thing "hey it is time to go back to the fold"

Once again, it was just like another meeting with HIM, through another child of HIS. You might not identify with me but like i said, this is kind of personal relationship i have in HIM, no matter how naughty i have been.

P/S : It is wonderful to know for once in a while that SOMEONE cares.

The heat is on and it's punishing..........

I really cant stand it anymore, day in and day out, morning, evening and night, day after day, it is so damn hot. They call El-Niyo effect, i just call it Hotter than Hot. May be it is the revenge of the mother earth with the crucial calling to mankind, to take of her otherwise, the result can be more detrimental and worse that what we are feeling now.

Just dont think that the weather has nothing to do with your being, mind body and soul, it just makes you fatigue, wears you down, making you lose your cool faster than the normal self, on the whole i just cant stand it anymore.

Instead of wearing long sleeves shirt attire to wear, i opted for short sleeves polo T, i have to cut down on my run and tennis, i play table tennis instead. They say the dry spell would last for another 3 months, it is aggravated with the haze problem some more, i hope the rain will come quick and chase the haze away.

Felt so lethargic and was sorry lazy even to turn on my PC over the weekend. And it slows down my mind thus that affects my blogging too.

P/S : Somethimes i just dont even know what i write,,, bye bye

So what if I am a gay...........

So the news has it that Adam Lambert (runner up from the latest"American Idol") admits that he is a gay finally, he surely has my respect from coming out from the closet and declaring his true sexuality.

My wife and i have a very good family friend, who happens to be a gay, i remember 3 years ago,when over a dinner, he confided in us his true sexuality and after which in his own words he said he felt liberated. We have been friend with him all these years, personally i have seen the sad part of him more than the joyful part,why? Because he is always too cautious of letting people know that he is a gay, he has to pretend to blend him with other friends talking about finding girl friend and settling down, raise a family and having children, subjects that he is not at all interested.

I have been encouraging him to be truthful to himself, and dont try to pretend to be someone that he is not, i used to tell him this "so what if i am a gay" and i am glad that he has slowly come out to the open and are bold enough to show his partner around and guess what he is now happier than before.

Do we still see gay as someone different, or do we still stigmatize them, to ridicule them, to despise and to deny them their right of marriage, their right of entering your churches, their right in holding hands and kissing in public without being scorned at just like you and me and their right in holding office in the government in the present time?

I respect gays and most often than not i admire their truthfullness and frankness and i too believe that they have the right in living among us and not be treated like an outcast. I trully detest those who cheat on their spouse and concealing their true sexuality even to their wife or husband.

I once read about the tennis great Martina Navarlilova how she lost her privilledges that she enjoyed for being the tennis great just by decarling to the world that she was a lesbian.

P/S : Did God ever say, you cant go to heaven if you are a gay?

Second quarter is coming to an end.....

Can you still remember what you resolved to do last year for the year 2009, or are your resolutions still intact or could it be that you have inadvertently forgotten about all that you have promised yourself to achieve.............

As we gingerly drafted out our resolutions for 2009 just six months ago, we were so seriously telling ourselves this year by hook or by crook, we will get it all done.

Dont worry we shall all be spared from punishment even if we have missed out on our targets, i am only here to remind you and me especially to catch up what we have slacked and to bring all those resolutions of ours back to track..

THIS SERVES ONLY AS A REMINDER................so what have you missed so far ?

P/S : As we meander towards our goals, we may stop but we must never stall.....

I hate to love it or love to hate it....

You know life is sometimes nothing but paradox, i am not talking about you,in fact i am only talking about myself and that something called the BEERs. I have told myself that i should curtail my comsumption of alcohol, times and times again, i failed to do it.

Mark Weigen,myself and lovely wife and Naomi

Just last weekend, my wife and i were playing host to our friends from Switzerland, it was all that fun, sight seeing, shopping, chit-chatting, dinners and off course a lot of beers, like they say, i was enjoying myself to the max, and the max is never the max for me.

On their last day here in Penang, as we wanted our friends to have something to nice to remember about us before they head home, it was all the fun and karaok---ing, and for me, the evening will not be complete without beers, and it was really heavy on me as far as beer is concerned,when i woke up on Sunday but the day was totally ruined resulting from the hang-over.

Guess,i should not make excuses for myself in saying bye bye from beer drinking, it just reminds me that could i be just another drug addict that cannot break loose from the shackle of alcohol, or am i already addicted to alcoholism before i even knew it, i remembered i blog about my subtle dependence of beer and know i pledge to really doing something about it.

Besides the money spent on beer in exchange for some happy moments, i guess it might not be too good for my health too. I have to do just what i have to do.

P/S : It is better to be honest about myself than making excuses again

A goal finally achieved,, hooray.

My wife and i have this common goal together as far as finance or saving is concerned, we wanted to achieve a definate amount in our saving, and to work towards that financial goal of ours, we have incessantly putting away a certain amount of money for saving every month.

And just the few days ago, as i was doing some budget and some financial stock taking, suddenly it hit upon me without me realizing it that we have after so many years finally achieved our financial goal, and we were overjoyed to learn that the "X" amount that we set out to attain has in the end become a reality.

I was sharing this joy of mine with a very good friend of whom she has always had problem of saving, she wanted me to share with her how did i go about bringing our goal into fruition. As simply as i put it to her , it takes a goal and a lot of discipline. I remember telling her since last year when she had done with calr installment, she should continue to use that amount akin to her car installment and put it into her saving, sadly as she told me and as usual she never knew how did that extra cash drain away from her pocket.

I am proud of myself and the understanding i have from my wife for whom she could trust me wholeheartedly with money issues, despite the fact i had made some financial blunders, but out of this i become a little smarter now.

P/S: I might not be a millionaire but i am rich in my own right

These ones for you, you cheating guys..

Received these pictures from an email that was sent to me by a good friend, thought it was kind of cool to share with you guys. Take a moment or two to figure out what they are,ok?

Now time's up and the answer is these are the gadgets that are invented to shackle a man's genital organ or rather a layman's term a penis to refrain the guys from abusing their penis, and to stop them from the unwanted romp.

These are some ingenious inventions by some brilliant dudes,who know too well where it hurts the most when it comes to cheating on your wife or girlfriends. These gadgets even come with stunning colors, i personally like the one in the red, it completes my skin color,hahahahahahah.

Like they say,no matter how impeccable inventions can be, there tend to be some drawbacks. Can you figure out,what these drawbacks are? and mind sharing your thoughts with me.

P/S : To the inventor, i salute you,,,

Call me whatever you like, ....

He searched the internet under the caption "Penang's social escorts" he got what he was looking for, the phone number of a certain guy, an appointment was arranged with this particular guy, (as i was told this guy carries a duty to screen through the potential customers for his girls, to make sure the potential customers meet certain kind of standard)

My friend passed the screening, and the arrangement was made for him to have a "paid sex sesssion" with a girl with the initial "W" and he would be charged RM180.00 for a round of sex service in one apartment.

Right after the first session, he called me up for coffee, i obliged. When i saw him then, i could see that his face was beamed with unexplainable excitement then curiously i asked him what was all the excitement all about. Excitedly he told me something like this " I have never had it so good, the girl with intial "W" was wild ,very experimental and very accomodating and i really want you to give it a try" to be frank after hearing the details he was sharing with me, my imagination took a toll on me too, sounded too good for a man, i reckon.

This friend of mine knows me quite well, he knows that i am frugal but sometimes he just likes to test my patience a little. Therefore, he told me that he would arrange a "secret appointment " for me, and he would prove to me that what he told me was nothing but the truth if i were to go for a round of "paid sex" with the girl with intial "W".

I told him that i didnt have the RM180 to enjoy what he wanted me to enjoy, then he started calling me a miser, queen controlled and a lesser man, i just kept mum and at the same time i really didnt want to clash with a friend,thus potraying myself as a saint and he as otherwise.

I can understand his needs of going for "paid sex" but that doesnt mean what everyman his age must do what he deems is correct, i am no saint but i dont want to be the devil at the same time.

P/S : We are friends, i am frugal but not a miser, and let keep it that way , Charles.

What a child wants.....

I had my little nephew slumbered over with my family over the weekend or may be longer because the school holiday is here. This little nephew of mine used to be kind of cheeky, but off late, my wife and i noticed that there was a great change in this boy, becoming more reserved and quiet unlike before.

His parents are now officially divorced, that's good for the parents but not at all for the boy, mom got new boyfriend, dad too. Just last night, when i was fooling around with my little nephew and my eldest Jovial before bed time, i asked him a simple question what made him sad so far, and with his voice choked,he told me it was the parents' divorce.He is as the same age as my eldest Jo, and he was telling me his dislikes, and his some kind of frustration.

I knew deep inside of me, this boy has things that he wanted to say and to be heard but then again he also knew,he is in a way helpless. When i asked him about his school works, which he admitted that he had slacked, with reasons best known to him, all i could do was to encourage him to continue to believe in himself.

You know the saddest thing that can ever happen to a child is when he loses hope and faith in himself, he gives up and laments that no one is there for me.

You see as an uncle, i wish i could do something about it or even sharing my thought with his mother, but i am rather cautious about my intention simply because i just patched up with my sister after some arguments about her divorce and i really dont want our relationship gets once again suffered because i too love this sister of mine very much.

May be sometimes as a parent, we thought that we are doing the best for our children with the best of what we can, but then again, what a child wants is rather simple, he too needs to be heard, to be heard of what he wants, what he dislikes, and to tender to his feelings a little bit more.

P/S : Give me a little bit, give me a little bit of your time to me