Happy Birthday Malaysia 31st August

It doesnt matter if you're Malay, Chinese, Indians or other respected races dwelling in this beautiful land called Malaysia, today we must say we are truly proud to be Malaysian.

For 51 years, we have gone through the treacherous path, we have braved the storms, and now we can stand tall but most of all , let us all be "color blind".

Let us move forward to another great 51 years transcending race, gender, religion and creed, and let us remind ourselves that this country belongs to everyone of us, and no one should belittle the others. Let us believe that we can achieve "Malaysia Supremacy" and not race based supremacy, if you know what i mean

P/S Merdeka Merdeka Merdeka

Why is it so hard?

Didnt sleep well last night, a lot of things to worry about especially my business, sneaked out and and drove aimlessly for about 10 to 15 minutes at about 2 o clock in the morning, came back stood at the balcony thinking of what to do next, so i decided to call for a meeting with my partner as to discuss some issues.

The meeting took place at about 10 am, we discussed issues like cash flow , sales and debts, due to the recent slow down of business, my business has been in a way bruised by certain situations.

You see i have been with this partner in this business for about 6 years, my partner is a wonderful person but there is a slight but crucial problem, we lack communication, seriously lack of communication, we hardly talk about problems affecting the company, we both thought it was ok, untill i realized that it is not exactly ok, so i opened up to him, telling him how i felt and my passion to see this company staying afloat. I told him that we needed to talk, we needed the share vision and goal, we needed to put our arms together and ride through the storms together.

I appreciate him as my partner, but i would really want him to talk, after so much of talk, we both realized that we both love this company that we started together.

Now i really hope from this day on, we shall both move the same direction, we shall thoughts and opinions, and to move on, and pray that we can find some cash breather to get going again,,

I hope it is not that hard to talk, and shouldnt be that hard to talk, and i am still learning how to talk and communicate.

P/S, to my partner, united we stand, divided we fall

Hang in there... my friend

Met an old lady friend at the bank just now, chatted about this and that, without realizing it we talked about family and money, wife and husband, children and milk powder, wife's quarrels and husband's arguments.

She is a full time housewife, one 1 and 1/2 year old boy and one just six months old girl, recently bought a low-cost flat, husband working as factor operator, earning RM1500 a month. When i asked her how is she coping financially, knowing that a RM1500 house-hold income is indeed very very hard. I was surprised by her answer" I know it is not enough, but i will make sure it is enough"

She narrated to me how she really cuts corner, her child's diapers are made from plain cloths, she will go to market only after 11 am for provision, that's when she can get cheaper stuff as it is towards the tail end of business time.

Talking to her made me feel more blessed, i know currently my business has not been that good but i thank the guy above that i still have foods on the table, and i still can have some binges during the weekend.

I could be all stressed out at times, it could be very tough sometimes, i know i can survive for i got my family there for me.

Life is cruel, we just have to be prepared for any calamity, and have faith that life is worth living for.

P/S . to Doris hang in there, press on, go forth. life goes on

There's just one thing............

Over lunch today, few married men friends and me talking about ISSUES, you know sometimes men can be more "busy body" or talkative than women, our topics are wide, but most often than not, the "woman" stuff will always be the main dish...........

A friend suddenly popped up this question for me. " what are the things you like about your wife?" i answered him happily, "there's just one thing i like about her", dumbfounded he asked again" you serious? and what's that?" with my eyes all lit up, i said " i know for sure that she loves me dearly, and it is suffice to say just that"

And he probed further, he asked again, "what does your wife like about you?" i told him " i believe likewise, there's just one thing, she knows that i love her dearly, again it is suffice to say just that"

Sometimes, i really feel like even after 12 years of marriage, this woman that i married is one wonderful woman that i cant stop falling in love with, i can fall in love with her sense of humour, her humilty, her tenacity in things she does, and her love for me.. she might not be the perfect wife, but then again i am not a perfect husband either..

Just like Bryan Adam's song: feels like the first time together, feels like the first kiss.......

P/S, it is nice to know that someone loves you........

Spring Cleaning

Time does fly, doesnt it? It has been closed to five months since i started blogging, through trials and errors (as they like to say), i have survived, and to survive i will. I guess 5 months is not a period that i should boast about, in fact it is nothing compared to those bloggers that have been in it for years.

It is the journey that gets me thinking, remembering the initial stages of blogging, i knew close to nut about it, even at one stage, i accidentally deleted my whole blog, my frustration was compounded when there was no one in my circle of friends who blogs, that only meant i could only learn litterally "on line".

I am glad that my eldest is more net savvy than i am, along the way he has guided me and given me some tips,now i survive.........

My blog may not be in anyway impressive but i am still trying to make as stunning as it should be, and here i am telling myself that i should do some spring cleaning to it.

I have this malaise or discomfort when you have other bloggers knocking on you, leaving comments in your chat box, and asking you to exhange links with them, excitedly you said yes, and you make some hits on their blogs but they dont seems to reciprocate, well it is time to DISCLUTTER them.

Please do not misunderstand me that i dont need support or hits or wanting to sound so professional and all, it is all about being mutual...i truly appreciate blogger friends like Claire, Cas, Miss Elle, Mark(new found), liona(new found), olivia(new found), via, ju-man, yanz , reynebows ,jas and many more(please forgive me if you dont see your names here and you are my favourite, it is because my memory is failing me)

I guess friendship ( even friends in blogershpere)is like vintage wine, it tastes to it full perfection, when it is brewed longer

P/S, toast to a my blogger friends, second toast may we find more of the same kind,,

Will the real slayer, please stand up?

Danger and more dangers are looming and lurking among our youth now, to the extent that their lives are hanging in the limbo, their minds are so bondaged by the unreal existence and fictatious figures that they thought were real.

Two youths both aged 16, committed suicide simultaneously leaving some death notes that apparently indicated that they belonged to a youth cult codenamed "sexy little fellas", and they too had a vision in life, that was to eradicate the evils from the surface of the world, they were the proctector of the world and the crusader of the mankind. (As reported in a local chinese daily)

What more worrying is the youth cult has got their own hiearachy system, the youth take order from the top, monikered "the slayer" and once the order is dispensed, the youth must execute it,
and once the mission is accomplished, that's when their lives will be ended in order to attain the so called atonement....

i hate to elaborate about this youth cult, but the truth is there are many of such groups and organinsations that prey on the youth, some use free sex as bait, some use drug, and some may just use lives of our youth.

As parents we need to be very carefull when our children are too immersed in video games, guide them through it, helping them to distinguish the real from the unreal

P/S. there are sure monsters out there. and our children are indeed vulnerable

My appreciation to you..my blogger friends

As i hit my 110th post (this is the one), i am truly blessed and happy for having my friends in the bloggershpere who have incessantly coming by my blog, leaving comments in the "chat box", by seeing your names there alone has indeed giving me so much of support..

Therefore, i like to take this opportunity to say "Thank You" very much to each one of you for your encouragement, i will surely do likewise.

I believe it is sometimes very true for us blogger to feel like hibernating for a while or we face a dry spell in knowing what to blog next, or even heading Cul-de-sac, at these times, friends like you has in a way or many pep you up, and continue blogging again.

It amazes when i read about bloggers making money but doing just that.. blogging, i am totally oblivious to this, as i dig deeper in this new realm of blogging, it is the fact we can indeed money from blogging, i hope someone out there can share with me the magice of making money online.

P/S, thank you guys once again,, giving is also better than receiving...

Children..oh Precious Children

As i blogged earlier in one of my previous posts, there was a survey indicating that the suicidal trend among the youth has changed, the age of suicidal cases reported is getting younger , and the mental health of the teen is in need of special attention.

The above is the paper cutting that appeared in one local english daily last week depicting a 14 years old, left a suicidal note before he leapt from 4 storey, thank god he survived..

It wrentches my heart when i read this kind of news, what is so depressing for the boy in wanting to take his own life. A good question but need serious answer......

I remembered many years ago, when i was involved in a children ministry of a church, i came across few cases, where depression was indeed real in these growing up into teen boys and girls, they did everything the parents told them to do, good boys and girls, they appeared to be very all right outside, but they were not in the inside, they were simply not happy, they were just lost, they wanted answers to their questions but what they got was " we will tell you when the time is right" or "this is not supposed to be a question coming from a boy or a girl like your age" or worse " dont talk me about girl friend or boy friend stuff, ok? just concentrate your study first"

Slowly and subtly these beautiful boys and girls believe that no one would ever want to listen to them anymore that they are not important anymore, then they start to look for other avenues to find solace... chances are taken if the avenues are right, then it is ok, but if they are evil, then the consequences might be too dear.

Just last night, i was so happy that i could spend time talking to my eldest in a coffee shop, just the two us, listening to him, assuring him that he got a papa that he can always run to, and making mistakes is part of growing up and his papa even at this age still got so many things to learn

P/S. The need of a child is very simple, he just wants to be heard

These words from a song keep coming to my mind even as i blog now" give me a little bit, give me a little bit of your time to me.............

Money, my sons need to know

I am shocked to say the least when i heard this.......my good friend's son who spends about RM300 for phone call charges monthly, and he is a school going 17 years old, upon revealing the itemised bill reflected in the phone bills, most calls were made to his girlfriend. SO WHAT ! you may ask, as long as the parents can afford it, but i beg to differ because that's not the end of the story...

To make the situation nicer for the boy, my good friend ended up subcribing 2 lines for his son and his girl friend with the benefit that calls to these two subcribed numbers are free... my friend has got sense indeed........

I am not here to pass judgement as to say what my friend did is wrong, it is seriously not for me to say, however this scene got me thinking, do the children now know the value of money or do they know what frugality is about or what simplicity is..

As far as conservation is concerned, i am very strict with my family, especially to my two wonderful sons, they have been thought since small do not waste electricity, food and even money, they are thought of giving to charity and caring. I am sure we still have long way to go as far as learning is concerned.

Just a few days ago, i said thank you to my boys for their effort in keeping the electricity bill low even with the hike in electricity tariff.

I am not a miser, and i am not a millionaire either but i believe strongly about the value of money even in its smallest value, i love to teach my 2 boys about the value of money in our daily lives.

I would always tell the boys, that we should always do some charity and always give that extra to the deserving lot, one of the things that i encourage them to do is giving tips, i told them giving tips would always bring a smile to the receipient.

For an example if my parking ticket costs me .60 cents , i would give RM 2, and i would tell my son that with this extra RM1.40 not only this uncle will be happy but i beg his children will be happy too because their papa has got extra today,assuming there are 10 persons giving that little extra, their Papa would treat them to a KFC meals, who know this might be what the children have been longing for...........


P/S, giving a little extra is better than spending a little extra.....

Yesterday... i crossed words with my son

One thing nice being a parent with a growing child or children is that we learn everyday from them, sometimes it angries you, sometimes it humbles you, and something it shames you. On the hindsight, it will always be a lesson to learn.

Just yesterday, i called my eldest up asking him what he wanted for lunch, he kept pestering me what i would buy for him, he insisted he didnt want vegetibles, and i insisted that he should take some vegi, a short while of crossing words with him, i hanged up the phone telling he could go without food untill i came back from work.

As i was in the office doing my stuff, i was thinking to myself, did i do anything wrong or did he say something that triggered my temper. Eventually, i realized that i was the one in the wrong.

You see when i called him up, i offered him a choice by saying this to him" what do you want for lunch". When he made the choice that did not sync with mine, i got agitated. To me i felt that he should appreciate whatever i would buy for him, but then again what the heck was i giving him the choice, when he was left with no choice at all
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When i went back home, as usual i gave him a hug and telling him i was sorry, but i just wanted him to know that vegetables are still good for him...so we reconcilled before the night fell....

I will never let any family quarrel unsettled before night falls, after all this what a family shoud do forgive and forget...


P/S, Son, i appreciate you making your stand, nobody should bulldoze you around including your father

An Olympic lesson for my son.......

"The world will only remember the gold medalists or the record breakers, very rarely the silver or the bronze medalist will be remembered" that's what i told my son when we sat down catching the men single live between Lin Dan and Chong Wei.

For an example we all know Neil Armstrong is the first man to step on the surface of the moon, but do we know the name of the second man landed on the moon.

And to reach the pinacle of one's sporting career, you just cant imagine the ruthless, the hardest, the most unimaginable training regimes the atheles have to go through. As for Guo Ching Ching, the back to back gold medalist for woman divng, how at the age of 6 she was forced to let her father to sit on her lap for two years just to correct her knee bone problem. That's what i told him too......


Behind the fame, the money and the glory, there were heartaches, tears, challenges, and the burden that is more than one can bear, and once you have perfected it, there are more opponents that are better than you that you have to overcome. It takes more than pysical gruelling, and you have to be mentally fit. That's what i told him again.


P/s. Son there is price to pay for fame and glory,,,

Make way Angelina Jolie.....

Do you know who Alison-Carrol is ? may be you do, may be you dont. She is the new face to take over Angelina Jolie's role as Lara Croft( The Tomb Raider) She is from England, a model and and a professional gymnast...and she is only 23 of age.... go girl hit it when you are still young

Looks like Anglina is busy looking after her youngs, (maternal and adopted), or may be she is too thight to keep an eye on Brad so she has got to let go that role. Good for me, to see someone new and fresh taking over this musculine yet femine role.. i like that

By the way folks, if you are into Tomb Raider newest game, be patient, it is slated to be released in this coming November

P/S , The reality is ,, Age does matter...............

See i told you, China made me proud....

To me, the best display of sportmanship or sportwomanship should belong to none other than Li Na of China, it was all euphoric when she humbled Venus Williams 7-5, 7-5 straight win, the first Chinese to reach the semi in Olympic tennis.

Depsite the fact that she is ranked only 42th in ITF ranking, her tenacity and strategic play in taking control of the games is truly remarkable, even more remarkable when her opponent was Venus Williams who just won the Wimbledon last month.



There is so much we can learn from sports, with hard work, cool mental , focus, passion and the will to succeed, even the "Goliath" can be defeated..

P/S.. Roger Federal was also sent packing by James Blade via FedEx

Sons.. you deserve it...

Today marks the end of another school term for my 2 boys, which also means they will have a week of holiday ahead. For the children it is their hand loose time, for the parents, i would reckon it is headache, especially both are working parents.

But sad to say, most of the children's handloose time will be preempted with lots of tuition classes yet again, or special improvement classes like "how to score in your exam" or "how to achieve straight As". May be i am a little bit of non-conformist, to me school holidays are school holidays, carefree, hangloose, let it loose, do a bit of crazy stuff, but not duck in school works again.....

According to a survey i read somewhere, teenager suicidal trend and age has taken a different twist from the past 10 years, teen suicide rate is escalating, the age is getting younger, and a lot of them are getting clueless about the significance of schooling anymore, and the situation is getting worse, where the schools or even society are giving more emphasis and praise on the bright students.

My boy of 11 of age has told me that he too has had experienced some forms of pressure from school. There is one phrase that i would always ask my boys. " are you the happiest boy in your class" i really want them to be happy.......

P/S.. please give our children sometime to be happy...........................

How come?

"She is fourteen years old, well mannered, near straight As student, a good girl in the eyes of her family. She befriended a guy supposedly through short messaging service (SMS), the guy nineteen years old told her she got her number through her friend, after a short period of SMSing, she came out alone to meet the guy for the first time, this is the time her nightmare started.

From that first meeting, he took her to a desserted shop, and molested her, took her naked photos with handphone and threatened her that he would upload them to the internet if she didnt obey him. She was raped for 5 to 6 times, and eventually she got impregnated by that bastard...............(a true story as reported in the chinese daily)

As a parent when i read this, i was angry but then again i did not know excatly what i was angry at or angry about. At 14 years, all boys and girls are at the age of fantasy of Romeo and Juliet, they just love day dreaming of their prince charming or princess right..(come on we were there once , werent we) and they cant really tell who is angel and who is devil.

Why did the girl not confide in her parents when it first happened, i dont know, let us as parent ponder about this........

Let us learn to spend sometime to build the bond with our children, let us forewarn them that there are monsters around, let us tell them it is absolutely ok if they feel that they are experiencing infatuation, or those lovey dovey issues, let us make it clear to them that are avenues for them to run to when they are in trouble.

It will be any 4 or 5 years when my boys enter into their teen, i want to be prepared now, i want to learn what the teenage craze is about, i want to learn what is bad and good for them, i want to grow with them so that i can sync with them talking in their language....

P/S, please save our children from harm... sometimes they are truly vulnerable

The little things that i forgot.........

We can really forget the little things in life that have great meaning in others' lives, things like saying" i love you", like giving someone a hug.(bear hug, kangaroo hug, or orang utan hug , all can do) or words to express our concern.

I was waiting for the arrival of my wife at the airport last sunday morning, as she came out, she hurriedly hopped into the car, i drove off, went for lunch, headed for the bookstore, came back, went for a game of tennis, went back, have dinner, watched TV, i went out to buy foodstuff, i came back, she was already sleeping.

My or my, for the past two days, i didnt even give my wife a hug even for the fact that we have a brief separation of two days, even as i blog now, i realized that the easiest thing as a hug but i forgot to do.....i guess she forgot it too.

If a hug is important as oxigen and food, for sure we would not forget to embrace it. May be this is a little lesson i must learn, making hug as important as breathing life to a relationship.

P/S. ... hugging is not just loving someone, it is like saying you're part of me.

Hooray, China Boleh

No denying it Beijing 08 Olympic was indeed spectacular, like we love to say it here "China Boleh" or simply put China Can. As i was watching the opening, i got transfered back to the 80s

If you can recall, during the 80s, when Hong Kong drama series was like something we cannot do without, we would just glued ourselves to the TV and playing our "Milo Tapes"
oops sorry wrong pronunciation, it is supposed to be video tape, remember those parts, how the Hongkies scorned and humiliated those who managed to sneak in from mainland China, they called them Ah Chang labelling them as some one who is low casted, illeterate and just bad.

In those dramas how Ah Chang were being unkindly treated, one actor that is so synonymous with the moniker Ah Chang is Leow Wai Hong, remember the part where he forced burgers after burgers through his mouth. What show already ya?

China has indeed made it, not just made it but made it BIG, there is a saying "When US sneazes, the rest of the world catches cold" i believe soon the saying shall be replaced "When China moves, the world trembles"

One great man of Malaysia once coined the phrase"Malaysia Boleh", i reckon we can indeed boleh if we were to see beyound color, race and religion. As i was watching the Olympic opening ceremony, i cant stop seeing my belove country, are we progressing or otherwise.

P/S, by the way kudos to Sarah Brightman and Lui Hong for their wonderful rendition of You and Me.

Behind Those Tears

Didnt visit my mom for the past few days, so decided to to take her out for a after dinner coffeebreak, taged along were my wonderful wife and my usual boisterous two charming sons of mine.

Usually for this so called coffee break, it would be my" beer break" with my wife, i always enjoy a few beers with wonderful company, life's short they say.....

But as the coffee attendant brought out the beers, my eldest son started to sob, i knew something was amiss but my wife was agitated because we both knew he would always object us to drinking beer. My wife gave him a mild scolding, accusing him of controlling us, i was caught in between my enjoyment and my son's feeling. Calmly, i said to him i wanted to know why was he crying.(as if i didnt know already), he said he would tell me during bed time(usually that's time we both talk, kind of customery)

Fast forward to bed time, as usual again, he would hold my hand and we would talk. So i reminded him that there was something that he needed to tell me........he said " papa drinking beer is no good, bad for health, i love you and i dont want you to get sick" I nodded and i said "i love you too" slowly i tugged him to sleep.

P/S: Behind those tears, i know someone loves me, thank you Jovial Ung Ee

Come and sleep with me............

When i told my friend just the other day that my sons still sleep with us at night, he said that i was crazy, he further elaborated that children should be put to their own room and learn to be independant. I said i agree partly but not totally.

I told him the four of us really enjoyed being together in the master room, sharing jokes, reading, talking about the afternoon events, i sometimes would put up some funny shows pretending to be Micheal Jackson and so forth, and the whole room will be engulfed with laughter and giggles, this is how the children like it. After which the big one will hold my hand, and the small one will hold his mothers hand and slowly we will tug them to sleep.

As far as parenting is concerned, i believe there are many school of thoughts in regards to certain issues, i just dont want to be a conformist, i want to feel the children, to be close to them. if we seriously looking at the amout of time we spend with them, we will all be surprised, i counted it is less than 3 hours a day, believe me. Less than 3 hours a day to build the bonding, is it enough?

Therefore, i prefer them to sleep with the parents. The joy that i have when my sons whisper " i love you" with their wanning voice and their tired eyes that just refused to lose contact with mine.

Remember the song from Steve Tyler from the movie Amarggedon that goes like this," i could stay awake just to hear your breathing, watch you smile while you're sleeping, far away from dreaming"

P/S, I know my sons love me dearly................

CHINA.... you made me proud

Irrespective if you are Malaysian Chinese, Indonesian Chinese or whatever"sian" Chinese, so long you are Chinese, we should be very very proud, the world is looking at us now.

Since China open her door to the world during the reign of Deng Xio Ping, it seems that there's nothing stopping China, how she thrived during those tumultous years untill now, the world is at her calling, and the progress she has made is truly remarkable and some are even unbelievable.

Come 8th of August 2008. Beijing will be the centre of attention of the world when The Olympic unveils itself there. The dragon will be in its full swing, the moments of truth shall be tested. The world will see for herself the tenacity of the Chinese people to overcome the insurmoutable tasks to bring the 2008 Beijing Olympic to its full glory.

I was in awe when i watched the documentary from Discovery Channel depicting the mammoth buildings that the China government has constructed to accomodate the Olympic, the main stadium the Birds Nest which occupies 332 meter floor space from one end to the other, and towering the height of 27 storey building. the Beijing Aquatic Centre is another awesome project, when the lights are lit up, you will sure be awestruck.

There is nothing i want to do except to glue myself to the TV set to witness the opening ceremony of the 2008 Beijing Olympic and holler i am truly proud to have Chinese blood in me.

P/S. please pray hard that it will not rain on the 8th August 2008 in Beijing

Memories revisited

Not sure about you, as for me nothing can come close to the 80s' music. Artists like Rick Ashtley, Duran Duran, David Bowie, Peter Gabriel, Shaking Stevens, Queen, Tears for Fears, Culture Club, Prince, Communards, Van Halens, Bon Jovi, Depache Mode,Spandau Ballet, Tina Tuner, Fleetwood Mac, Blondie, Kajagoogoo, Paul Young, Bananarama, Johnny Hates Jazz, Wet Wet Wet, Thomspon Twins and many many more.

Depsite the fact that i hailed from Chinese school since primary one, i never knew why i could stuck to English songs so dearly especially artist from British, back in the 80s, the show Top of the Pops was my favourite programm. Most of my days after coming back from school were comsummed by the music of the 80s.

Just the other day, i was so ecstatic when an old friend of mine lent me a few CDs from the songs of the 80s, man i could not stop listening to the songs and singing along with them.

It is so nice, once a while when when are taken back to the good old days, memories that once gave us joy, laughter, and events that are so synonymous to that era of our lives.

P/S, Sweet dreams are made of this,who am i to disagree.......