Son in Law

I am a son in law (SIL) to my wife's mother and father, and not a son to my wife's parents.

I am a son in law, not a son, therefore they cannot rebuke, question, reprimand me the way they do to their own sons.

I am a son in law, not a son, because they didnt know me the day i was born, therefore they didnt shape my characters.

I am a son in law, not a son, therefore they need to learn to respect how i live my life, and not to critize it.

I am a son in law, not a son, therefore, it is my responsibility to take care, to love their daugther dearly, they cannot question my sincerity.

P/S, Dont get me wrong I do love my in laws, but i am not their son

Father in Law..... one day it'll be my turn

I have great respect for my father in law(FIL), seriously, he is a compassionate, kind and he has no air. Even at the age of 65, he wakes up early (3am) daily, drives his lumber lorry to transport tree logs.

I pray that he will stay healthy and strong for a long time to come.

P/S : I hope i will be a great son in law as far as my father in law in concerned

Regrets, i have a lot, but then again.......

When i was in the 20s

What do you want to be when you are 40 ? I want to be a millionaire.

What kind of girls do you like ?Slim body, beautiful eyes,sexy looking, never mind the character

Do you have monthly saving?How can i save, not enough for clubbing, branded stuff

Do you have insurance policy?What is that?, i am still young man, sickness will not call on me

What is your saddest moment ?When my girlfriend left me

What do you think of marriage ?What is that again??

Do you have any regrets?Die die la,, what is that to regret about

When i am in the 40s

What do you want to do now that you are in the 40s?Wish i have kept the pledge when i was in the 20s ( to be a millionaire, now that i am not)

What kind of girls do you like?My wife nutured with tender, loving characters

Do you have monthly saving?I skimp every little dime to save, forget about clubbing and branded stuff

Do you have insurance policy?Sure, how i wish i could have bought more when i was in the 20s

What is your saddest moment?When my boys are sick

What do you think of marriage?Till death do us part

Do you have any regrets?Regrets i have a lot, but then again too many to mention

P/S : Pray that my regrets will be fewer when i hit 50

Foot Loose( It is school holiday)

Just wanna make sure, my children will enjoy thier school holiday till thier hearts' content.

Looking forward to do picnic by the beach, and go kayaking with them next week, wanting them to rest well, and be happy.

Craving for sometimes with them, to know them better, and to listen to them, to give them more touch.

P/S . I Love You (Jovial n Marvell, enjoy)

Give me Five , Jo

Yeah, bravo,ho yeh, chi pat to ho seih liao, My son and i will have good reason to give each other a high five because our choice and prediction the latest American Idol has come to past, (Drum roll please), it is David Cook.

P/S : Rocker is better off than guy next door.

All we need is LOVE

Had lunch with a friend that i have known since standard one today, we chatted about almost anything.

He was sharing with me that his sister was trying to kill herself last week, she was somehow subdued and currently is under observation in a mental hospic, really hope she will be doing fine.

Nobody knew what exactly made her wanting to take her life, i reckon one thing for sure it has got to do with stress. Stress can come from many forms, lack of this and lack of that, but i guess the fundamental human want is love, feeling being loved and able to love.

We are all too caught up with living our lives, making ends meet, untill we fail to realize that we have lost that essence of giving out love.

When we ask ourselves these quetions, we will be surprised how we have disintergrated ourselves from love.

1) when was the last time we hugged our parents

2) when was the last time we hugged and kissed our spouse

3) when was the last time we sat down and listened to our children

4)when was the last time we checked on our siblings to see if they are really doing ok

5) when was the last time we showed concern to our in laws

6) when was the last time we checked on our friends

P/S, a hug , a kiss , and a call wont take too much of our time

Wonder of Second Chance

I remembere vividly 29 years ago, the first time i stole something, the first time i knelt down on my knees asking for forgiviness, the first time i was shakened to dealth, the first time i thought "mata would come and arrest me, the first time i knew my mother would be very upset with me.

29 years ago, i was at a bicycle shop repairing my bicylce, suddenly i saw this very attrative refletctor on the other bicylce, i was drawn to it, the evil side got the hold of me, not realizing there was an uncle monitoring my every move from the nearby coffee shop. The moment i took that reflector and put it in my pocket, i was caught red handed by that uncle, that uncle insisted that i was to be sent to the police despite the fact i was there kneeling on my knees with tears rolling down my cheeks, that uncle still hard on me but the big-heartedness of the bicycle shop owner who insisted otherwise, i was given the special second chance.

Untill today, i can remember this incident, untill today i am thankful for that second chance.

I know one day, my children are gonna make mistakes, i know my children are going to let me down, but i know on that day, with open heart i shall give them a second chance

P/S , life will be lot nicer with second chance

The Ice is Finally Broken

My long expected moment has finally arrived, even before it did, i was already prepared for it. Ever wonder why they say "curiousity kills the cat" and not the dog and the bull, well i guess curiousity always let us have second chance or so to make it right, it is akin to cat can die 9 times, if we dont fix it after few times, then it really kills.

Two days ago, i noticed there were certain porn sites appeared in my google search engine, i summoned my eldest (11 years old) at once, i asked him did he go to these sites, at first he denied it, ( i can understand his denial, i would had denied it too, if my dad caught me in same scene), after much coaxing, he eventually agreed that he did, i was so happy when he admitted it.

My first reaction was, how did he know such sites, he told me his classmate msn him about it, ok fair enough, then i asked him, why did he have to go there, he said out of curiousity. ok, " i say son now , i have to clear your curiousity and we need to talk about sex"

I knew my son was confused when he saw all these explicit pictures, seriously i could feel his confusion, as i asked "son do you know what is sex all about" he just gave me blank look. i told him, "son i need to tell you, sex is not about honey and the bee"

My first lesson about sex education with my son was, i wanted him to be open to ask me anything about sex that he is so curious about and needs to know the answers for. i promised him i will give him the real answers.

I said thank you to my son for his sharing of his curiousity with me, i shared with him my own frusration when i was around his age, when i couldnt talk sex with my own parents, i shared my frusration how i was teased by my classmates, when i knew nothing when they talked about sex.

I assured him sex is not a taboo, it is part of growing up.

P/S, things are a lot easier when we are truly open about it

There could only be one

Who can it be now ? David Cook or David Archuleta?

As for me , i like to see David Cook emerge as the winner, you know the rocker type of look and voice, i'd liken him to Bon Jovi.

If you could remember, when he sang Roberta Flack's The first time i saw your face, man i tell you, i was bowed over by his performance.

Again as for David Archuleta, the kind of boy next door look, guess we have too much of this kind already.

P/S David Cooks on and rocks on

Promise I Made to you (诺言）

When i was courting my wife, 12 years ago, i used to tell her this. "how i wish i had a car that is auto-gear transmission, so that i can use my left hand to hold your right hand while i am driving"(back then my lau pok car was manual or MT)

Today i suddenly realized, it has been a long while now since i last used my left hand to hold her right hand whilst driving, how can i be so (Bo Tau Sin ) absent minded to have forgotten such a lovely and romantic gesture.

Tonight, by hook or by screw, when i take her in my car, i will again use my left hand to hold her right hand, and by parang(matchet) or pisau, i want to feel the rekindling of that feeling again.

P/S.. If your wife was sweet many years ago, i bet you she is still sweet today.

Seize the day

Seriously, no matter how advance tehcnology and science is, there's no way we can prevent the wrath of nature.

Therefore, let us start by doing some charity everyday, it might not be in the form of giving me money.Charity can be as simple as giving a smile to a down trodden soul, a word of encouragement to those who need it.

Most important of all, learing to love one another a little bit more a day.

Looking at the tragic earth quake that struck China, i am sure for those who survived this calamity, their lives must have been changed forever, losing thier loved ones in such a way in truly hardest to bear.


P/S. Just be thankful we dont have to go trough all they go trough

father, son and the scolding

My eldest got the best of scolding from me yesterday, due to his ill attitude towards his younger brother, i gave him the peace of my mind. As i was scolding him, he just kept quiet and waited untill i was done.

I told him about my feeling of anger and about me scolding him, i told him that i needed to make him understand that if a family doesnt stick together as one, then we are kaput.

I walked away from him for a while after the bombardment, then i held him close, and i told him that i was sorry to have raised my voice at him, but i was not sorry for scolding him. He told him me that he was angry with me too, because i was harsh towards him, again i said i was sorry.

I am still trying to find a better way of communicating with my children especially the older one, i need to change myself before i can change them.

P/S.. Jovial, i love you dearly

Blessing

Let us count our blessing everyday, the air that we breathe, the money that we have(though it is not much) the family, the friends, and the foods that we have, may be it will not be there tomorrow.

If you miss someone, make that call. If you love someone, give a hug. If you despise someone, open your heart.

P/S, before we can be blessed, we have to bless others first.

Run no more (08)

So very sad, cant participate in this year's Penang Bridge Run as it has been cancelled, reason given no money, and they cant safeguard the safety of the runners as the widening of the bridge is ongoing.

Never mind, Penang Bridge Run or not i will still be running.

P/S, my running mates, see you next year

Budget, Budget and Budget

Remember the old saying, " one cent saved is one cent earned", there is no financial advice that does not start by propagating this fact" saving" .

In this trying time of escalating cost of living, if we are not careful of budgeting ourselves, most probably we will end up with more debts than saving.

Guess it is easier to find excuses to spend than to save, it is even easier to go without budget than going with one.

A friend of mine who has finished his car loan of RM 600+ a month about a year ago, when asked whether if he could save that amount every month now that he is not paying the car installment,

surprisingly, he said he cant even save half of it.

P/S, Budget is the best medicine for financial ailments

奉献

世上最韦大的人----母亲。 世上最不辞劳苦的爱----母爱。

妈。。。。我爱你

It is not their fault, really.....

I read in the chinese daily today, how a 17 years old girl was murdered allegedly by her boyfriend's father. Sad news isnt it ?

I was thinking to myself, could this tragedy be avoided ? what roles should parents play to avoid such incidents, what should i do when my sons turn teenager and begin to rebel? how should i tell my boys when is the best time to have girlfriends, etc and etc.

One thing for sure i know is that, my sons will sure be rebellious in one way or the other when they turn teen, it is as good as inevitable. As parent i have to face this truth, in knowing this, i shall start doing something about it now.

I must from now on, grow together with my children, keep up with them, learn from them, build a strong pillar of trust between me and them.

I must from now on, teach them what "respect" is, respect for themselves, respect for others, respect for girls.

I like the malay cliche " nak melentur aur, biarlah dari rebungnya" it simply means, if you want to bend the bamboo, you need to start when they are young.

P/S : freedom with control is joy, freedom without control is dissaster

Every drop makes an ocean

As i was reading my blogger friend (yow chuan's blog)www.meshio.com, he little quote of the day really struck me. qoute " it is not the little things we do, but the little things we didnt do that count"

How many times we said to ourselves, we needed to be healthy, but we just cant do a 5 minutes walk in the park.

How many times we said we wanted to have extra in the bank, but we just cant save a dollar a day.

How many times we said we wanted to spend quality time with the family, but we just cant accept their lillte nags here and there.

How many times we said we missed someone, but we never push the dials

P/S,, well said Yow Chuan, will remember this for good

Father, Son, Exams and Mcdonald's

Being a child's wonderland, Mcdonald's sure can do wonders to a child even in his or her exam, and make their revision a happier one.

My children's exam is currently on going, wanted to do something to break the norm and the mundane of studying at home, i decided to take them to McD to do revision for a change, despite being a bit noisy there, i realized that thier mood was good and it was easier for them to revise there when they are feeling happy towards their study.

Surprisingly, my youngest told me he can learn to concentrate, despite all the noises, even if he was pulling my legs,but then it is ok, as long as they are happy, i am happy too.

努力吧！ 翁翊 和 翁唯

爸爸爱你们

P/S. sons i hope you both do well in your exams and make yourselves proud.

涨到发疯

试问一下，你荷包的money,还够花吗？若不足，怎麽样才好？

今天开始你要懂得budget了。节省开支吧 ！

Just love that movie

What a nice show Iron Man is, a comic epic from Marvel studios can turn out to be such a spectacular silver screen play.

Sometimes it is nice to dwell in this out of the world experience from watching the sci-fi movies, i learnt not to tell my children that this is Iron Man is not real, instead i told them one day this just could be a real thing, they need to think funny and crazy sometimes, i encourage that in my children.

Always like the Adidas' tag line "impossible is nothing" , children might give us the weird, sometimes crazy, nonsensible ideas, just dont put them down, let them expand it, make them feel nice to do it.

This chicken rice got me chickened out

Please excuse me for being a miser, facing the escalating prices of food prices, i have got no choice, i have to make sure i got value from the purchases i make.

Just yesterday, i took my elders for chicken rice in one supposedly famous chicken rice shop in Paya Terubung , i was charged RM3.90 for a plate of rice and a few small pieces of chicken, when i ordered an extra small bowl of rice,( i do mean small), then i was charged extra RM.80 cents for it. (mind you, the foods will not get you drool at all)

This eating out session really got me thinking, if i go to my regular alias not so famous chicken rice outlet, where i can get bigger portion, more delicious chicken rice for RM2.70, i pay extra RM.50 cents if i choose to have extra rice. Hey man, i could save about RM 1.30

I am trying to be price sensitive, because it doest not just affect me, it affects my entire family too. If we keep complaining about prices hike, where we have no control over, we must as well be a smart spender.

I always like this Malay cliche " sikit sikit, lama lama jadi bukit"

P/S, (1) My son told me he would not go back to that shop agian
(2) Picture shown on the right is not the chicken rice i complained about, only for
decorative purpose.

Green the Home

It must begin at home, when we talk about the 3Rs (recycle, reduce and reuse), i must admit i do have problems of telling my family as far as saving of energy, and water is concerned.(it agitates me sometimes if they dont it, guess old habits die hard) It is not so much of whether i can pay for the utitility bills or not, but it is about teaching my children about the value(s).

Our children must in their very own little ways, contribute to the betterment of the earth, and the good examples must come from the parents.

If a child is not thought how to save, then he sees no difference in waste.
If a child is not thought how to appreciate the little things, then he cant see the value in big things.