My long expected moment has finally arrived, even before it did, i was already prepared for it. Ever wonder why they say "curiousity kills the cat" and not the dog and the bull, well i guess curiousity always let us have second chance or so to make it right, it is akin to cat can die 9 times, if we dont fix it after few times, then it really kills.
Two days ago, i noticed there were certain porn sites appeared in my google search engine, i summoned my eldest (11 years old) at once, i asked him did he go to these sites, at first he denied it, ( i can understand his denial, i would had denied it too, if my dad caught me in same scene), after much coaxing, he eventually agreed that he did, i was so happy when he admitted it.
My first reaction was, how did he know such sites, he told me his classmate msn him about it, ok fair enough, then i asked him, why did he have to go there, he said out of curiousity. ok, " i say son now , i have to clear your curiousity and we need to talk about sex"
I knew my son was confused when he saw all these explicit pictures, seriously i could feel his confusion, as i asked "son do you know what is sex all about" he just gave me blank look. i told him, "son i need to tell you, sex is not about honey and the bee"
My first lesson about sex education with my son was, i wanted him to be open to ask me anything about sex that he is so curious about and needs to know the answers for. i promised him i will give him the real answers.
I said thank you to my son for his sharing of his curiousity with me, i shared with him my own frusration when i was around his age, when i couldnt talk sex with my own parents, i shared my frusration how i was teased by my classmates, when i knew nothing when they talked about sex.
I assured him sex is not a taboo, it is part of growing up.
P/S, things are a lot easier when we are truly open about it