My long expected moment has finally arrived, even before it did, i was already prepared for it. Ever wonder why they say "curiousity kills the cat" and not the dog and the bull, well i guess curiousity always let us have second chance or so to make it right, it is akin to cat can die 9 times, if we dont fix it after few times, then it really kills.
Two days ago, i noticed there were certain porn sites appeared in my google search engine, i summoned my eldest (11 years old) at once, i asked him did he go to these sites, at first he denied it, ( i can understand his denial, i would had denied it too, if my dad caught me in same scene), after much coaxing, he eventually agreed that he did, i was so happy when he admitted it.
My first reaction was, how did he know such sites, he told me his classmate msn him about it, ok fair enough, then i asked him, why did he have to go there, he said out of curiousity. ok, " i say son now , i have to clear your curiousity and we need to talk about sex"
I knew my son was confused when he saw all these explicit pictures, seriously i could feel his confusion, as i asked "son do you know what is sex all about" he just gave me blank look. i told him, "son i need to tell you, sex is not about honey and the bee"
My first lesson about sex education with my son was, i wanted him to be open to ask me anything about sex that he is so curious about and needs to know the answers for. i promised him i will give him the real answers.
I said thank you to my son for his sharing of his curiousity with me, i shared with him my own frusration when i was around his age, when i couldnt talk sex with my own parents, i shared my frusration how i was teased by my classmates, when i knew nothing when they talked about sex.
I assured him sex is not a taboo, it is part of growing up.
P/S, things are a lot easier when we are truly open about it
talking things out is definitely better..too bad..my parents are not like you..haha
ReplyDeletei admire your being open to the subject to your son. truth to tell, i'm dreading when my time would come that i need to confront the subject and talk about it to my daughter :-) congratulations! :-)
ReplyDeleteWalau! Kids these days so young already curious abt the X subject. When leempek was at that age, leempek was too engrossed with the TIMES TABLE to worry abt anything else!
ReplyDeletekids are more exposed nowadays, compared to our naive-ness, like dungu, those days...so we as parents need to shed off our shyness to try to explain in pure simple english how sex works.. haha..i wonder whether i hve xplained it correctly or not...
ReplyDeleteWell, at least you thought you son birds and the bees. Me, I got it from my science teacher and to add my curiousity, I learnt from sex novels and porn sites.
ReplyDeleteMy parents were so much diff from you.
Papa,i love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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