Everything changes except ----Man

You see, we man dont change, we are still the big egotistic,chauvinistic and self centred creature.

We still think it is cool to keep all the problems to ourselves, when our spouses crack their heads to think what is wrong with us, we dont share our problems with them, we would tell them everything is ok, when everything is otherwise. We dont care how worry they can be, when they sense the problems.

My wife just told me that she loved "durian", without hesitation i replied " i dont like durian", suddenly i realized how could i be so inconsiderate to her feeling. Instead of asking when can i buy her the durian, i just blushed her away.

I remember an old friend of mine, who told me that he could be a legitimate" devil" from Monday to Saturday (meaning he could do all the hanky-panky), but when Sunday it is strictly Family day because he is the sole provider to the family. How can a man ever change,,

I am not perfect and i am willing to tell my wife just that ( i am not perfect)

P/S : treat her like a lady

一瞬间

一瞬间，2008 快要进入一半儿了，08的目标，一些被淡忘了。该怎么样？

也许再等，也许干脆忘了吧！也许自己不该哄自己了！

The Iron-Man

There are many things we can learn and grasp from the little things we do everyday , ironing is one of them.


I've never found ironing to be taxing, monotonous or boring. Everytime when i finish ironing, i have this feel good feeling, of seeing alll those crumpled clothes being "tamed" to well pressed and shiny pieces.Try it, it can be therapeutic too.

P/S, my son caught me in the act.

Father, Son and Exams

Do these phrases sound familiar" i just thought you, now you cant remember", " i really dont know what you do in school", " how many times must i tell you" etc.

I sat down with my elderst son going through his school works last night as exam was drawing nearer, suddenly i realized that my patience was running short and i was easily agitated from his way of revising his school works, the atmoshpere was not kind to him , i knew.

I told myself to relax and to make it easier for him, at the spur of the moment, i gave him a big hug and telling him, i cared more about his feeling than the books and i really wanted him to learn in a friendly condition.

He agreed, and the learning process was smooth sailing.

Happiness is.............

I always long for friday nite, longing for some beers, some wonderful moments with my wife,sitting down , enjoying our drinks, it really makes me happy.

I guess happiness can be found easily, when you know it is already there, so simple, yet so profound.

True 'happy hours" is when you are in the company of some one who loves you, and someone you love dearly, with some flowing of beer off course.

在雨中

昨天下午，我跟老么在雨中散步，看到他很开心，我也跟他 一样开心。
maybe 有点crazy, but 感觉很不赖。

老么says爸爸is the sweetest 爸爸in the whole wide world.

really i felt so nice

孩子，你开心吗？Son, are you happy?

We parents think that being parents is very demanding and difficult, but i think being children of the present time is ever more difficult.

Think about it, children have no way to vend their frustration when they are frustrated, when they do, we think that they are rude. But when we are under stress, we go home, we can let go our steam at them, and they cant fight back. (they have feelings too)

The children cant tell us that they dont want too many tuition classes, because they cant tell us that they are really tired.

When they did badly in their exams, we bombard them with more tuition classes , even home tuition, but we never ask them, are they happy. Where are our hugs and kisses ?

Please give our children space to be themselves, that is to be naughty, to be mischievous, to argue with us, to let them play more, do some crazy things, let them have their own antics, after all this is what a child should be.

宝贝，顽皮吧！要开心，要块乐

Money too tight to mention

isnt it a fallacy to believe that our inflation rate is only 3-4 %,.Just last week i took a bowl of curry mee for RM2.50, two days ago i paid RM3 for the same bowl of currymee, it is exactly a 20% increase.

Assuming your salary stays status quo for this year, your purchasing value of your salary , say for example RM1000, could only buy you RM800, worth of products.

I dont know about you, for me i need to take austerity measures to cut spending, eating out less is one of them.

Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle will do you good.

Let's teach our children to be thrifty , it wil do them good too

Starbucks, our library

Most of the saturdays, i will spend the whole afternoon reading in Starbucks Borders, this is the one family outing i found to be meaningful and that binds the family togehter.
For the price of one "long black" and piece of cheese cake, the time spent in Starbucks Borders, is truly worthy.
One thing makes me wonder why, what are those people doing with their lap-tops there,
i am glad that my boys are beginning to enjoy reading.

P/S, check this book out, The Last Lecture by Randy Paush, endearing book.

papa spinning the coin

Papa says flower is queensbay mall and kite is gurney plaza. Papa spinned the coin.The final round is gurney plaza. I shouted yay!
(written by Marvell Ung)

P/S, this is what we do, when certain family decisions facing impasse. tossing a coin will demostrate true democracy.....

It is nice to hold you and cry together

I remember watching the show with my family, "pursuit of happiness" the one starring Will Smith, certain parts of the show really moved us untill we were jerked with the tears weliing up in our eyes, my were already streaming down, at this moment i pulled my elder son over to my lap and we cried together as i was hugging, that is the feeling i savour until today.

I hope when my sons are all grown up, they can still run to me, and we can still cry and hug each other like the good old days.

To my sons Jo and Mar, it is ok to cry and it makes you more manly than the rest, trust me.

My all time favourite phrase

just the other night, as i tugged my elder son to sleep, i whispered this question
to his ear, i asked him "are you the happiest boy in your class", he answered softly yes, i asked again "why" he said " i have a wonderful family".

i have the habit of asking my sons the question "are you the happiest boy in your class", i dont know why i love to do this, it always makes me smile when they say yes.

my sons might not be no 1 in the class, but they sure are the happiest ones there.

Bull or Bear, It is still the best share

Even in the most chanllenging economic situation, Public Bank is still the darling stock of all stocks. Its net profit 1Q ending March 31 rose 50.6 %, EPS surge from 14.2 cents to 21.4.

Sometimes, i just wonder how this guy does it(Tan Sri Teh Hong Piow), year after year, profit after profit. Most of the times, PBB will generate a "buy" call from stock analysts covering the finance and banking stocks.

Man, i wish i had invested in this share 15 years ago...kept it and see the growth

Marriages bliss or bleed

just recently i am being barraged with news of friends, even relatives getting divorced, it makes me wonder why and how did all these happen. Didnt they make that vow when the walked the aisles.(you know the one you said, till death do us part).

Sometime i do whine that my wife is not a perfect one, but then agian i am not a perfect husband either, if i look deeply inside me, i am thankful that i have a wife who has a heart that is big enough to contain all my flaws.

for heaven's sake, marriages are not made in heaven, instead, they are made trough love and understanding, and trought hurrican and taifun.

love your spouse

A child prodigy or child's tragedy

we all tend to forget a child prodigy is just a child indeed, no matter how smart and brilliant they are, they are still a child. we parents just cant comprehend this simple logic, when a child's childhood is gone, it is gone forever.

Instead we should always tell our children, no matter what, they should enjoy their childhood, learn to be happy as a child.

Present days children are already shackled with heavy load of homeworks and a fight for straight As, they can't see the beautiful life outside the classroom anymore, they are being chauffered from one tuition centre to another.

By all means, make the children happy.

May Suffiah(picture above)will find her true happiness, my blessing for her

friends from the east and west

Jiro and Mandy Muraki, our good friends, thought we dont see or call one another often, we know deep in our hearts you guys will remain as sweet as ever.

as July is drawing closer, when you guys will relocate to Tokyo, our thoughts will be for you, our 2 sons will remember well about auntie Mandy and uncle Jiro.

Hey, please remember to remind your little one Tokio Muraki about auntie Phobee and Uncle Eugene when he is a little older ok?

My wife and my pride

cupid has joined us together for 12 years now, and she is exactly woman of good virtues i knew 12 years ago. my appreciation and my pride to my wife. i dont like to say i love you but i will say i lovingly adore you always.

Watch thy mouth

just the other day, i was dumbfounded when i heard my 7 year old son uttered the word
"fuck", i asked him why did he say it, innocently he told me he was angry at something, i asked again why must he use this word when he is angry.to my greatest shock, he said he heard me saying "fuck" when i was angry.

from that scene on,i promised myself to be a clean mirror reflecting clean image to my sons,i know it is hard,for their sake, i will try.

Piously Biased

Has it ever occured to you when you revealed to friends that you do not profess or embrace the same faith as he does or she does, you begin to feel that you are treading in troubled water.

When talking God, i told my friend that i have become an ahteist, i got bombarded left and right, they claimed that i did not know a thing about god, that how worldly i have become, that i did not read much about the "divine book", suddenly i have become a religious outcast that doomed to hell, and suddenly those particular friends of mine, cannot accept me with my different belief.

How could they become so piously biased to my belief, why cant they accept my dissentment, are they sure there is only one way to heaven.

I guess when god created us, he gave us the wisdom to think, to reason, to explore, to question, to argue, to challenge what we once thought was right. i did that all that, and this is what i become, i have my wisdom back.

if you are into running

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an old friend's heartache

over a cuppa, a good friend of mine told me his daughter is using the moniker of "lau kung" husband to sms with her girl friends, what more worrying for him as he said his daughter's sense of dressing is becoming more tom boyish.

eventually i had a chance to talk to his daughter, she said she didnt like boys since she was 12 years old, she is now 16. i told her to wait a while for her to determine her sexual inclination.

pls share your tots with me.

maiden blogging

after all these years, i finally drummed up the gut to start blogging. thought it was kind of personally diary kinda of thing, but i rather leave the options open.
we can talk everything under the sun and sea. will love to hear from you guys and about comments.