Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Friends........................

We have this Norwegian couple that we have known for about 2 years now, they have in a way called Penang their home for the past 12 years or so, they have since become our good friends and our occasional drinking buddies.


Last week we had some drinks with them, as we were merrily drinking away, i suddenly said this to the lady friend, " Hey Turid, before i forget, i must return this to you?" she looked surprised and she did not have a single idea of what i was talking about.


I drew out a well ironed sweater that i borrowed from her the last time we gathered ( the reason i borrowed because my son needed it to go for a movie)

Our friends Turid and Sidmon............

She really looked very surprised with this dutiful gesture of mine and she immediately interrupted her husband who was talking to my lovely wife then and telling him this," Look what is this Eugene doing, returning the sweater to us." then it was the husband's turn looking at me blank and profusely saying this to me," Thank you Thank you, Elsom, thank you Elsom. ( Elsom is the name they gave me claiming that it was Eugene in Norwegian language)

It was my turn to get very suprised with both of their reaction from the sweater that i returned to them. Curiously i asked them why was it that surprised them and made them feel so happy with a sweater, then came the answer from the lady friend.

She said, " Elsom, we have been living here for so many years, there had been many so called friends borrowing things from us, from vaccum cleaner to money and guess what,there has never been a single time anyone of them returning the things that borrowed form us, you and Phobee iare the first to do it, that's why we are happy and just when we thought could only be taken advantage of , both of you showed us otherwise, thank you."

Now i know how to be a better friend......................................................

Note: You got any friends borrowed things from you, never return and you too shy to ask back?

P/S : Friends are to keep and not to be ripped

30 comments:

  1. Elsom...i thought they calling you handsome :p

    yes...must return what that is borrowed...so that next time can borrow again..hahaha just kidding.

    Have a nice day :D

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  2. waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...........so memalukan all these msians hahaaha

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  3. War....last time gathering until now...why you keep it so long huh? :D

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  4. What is life without true and sincere friends? People also borrow things from me, even money...and never return. I also try to help friends and lend them this and that and they never return either. It's o.k. I will just have to live with it. Sigh! God is all-seeing, all-knowing...

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  5. Elsom... haha, such a special name..
    It's a good habits to return what we borrowed..
    Good job Elsom! :)

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  6. Eugene,
    must be our malaysian culture. I too have such experience with so call friends, borrowing from books ,cds and even money. I will feel very uneasy if I still have things and would return them at the earliest opportunity possible.

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  7. er... look like raja petra!

    good to have more friends

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  8. Agreed! Agreed on your PS!人与人之间最基本的相处之道就是互相尊重!别总是我以为,你以为,他以为。。。。

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  9. *cham.. so i better go home and see what i have borrowed!* :)
    yeah, as kathy said.. next time can borrow again.. hahaha..

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  10. Just to share with you.. My son left his water tumbler at home and had to borrow a ringgit from his classmate to buy a bottle of water from the school canteen.

    When he returned the money, the girl was so happy and said "Thank You" to my son, happy that she's got a ringgit extra to spend, and saying "Thank You" simply because the money lent wasn't expected to be returned?

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  11. Yup Elsom, I have some of these so-called friends.. But it's true what they say, if a friend borrowed 20 from you and you never see him again, he's probably worth it.

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  12. aw..yea,there are always so many friends that does the same..we all made it such a normal habit to live with.

    Thank you for your blog post, it's a small reminder to let us know that is NOT okay,no matter how close of a friend they are

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  13. Hey Eugene,
    did you receive my email?
    my email jltc054@gmail.com

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  14. Malaysians that bad meh? I haven't actually had any bad experience when it comes to this.

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  15. I like your dressing, "Elsom"... very young and trendy... should get my hubby to look at you here! :-D.

    they have gained real friends and you feel appreciated. good for everyone :-D.

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  16. Yes, I came across few times. I remember there is this so call Doctorate fellow borrow my limited edition CD (2 pcs classical music) and never return until I ask from his secretary, and he replied that he never borrow from me. When I try to ask him again, then he said he already returned to me long ago. Come on, PhD holder leh, but never seem to return thing that is borrowed. What a shame!

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  17. Hi Eugene

    Thanks for visiting my blog! We were in FGA together in the 1980s...Great to be reconnected via blogosphere.

    Take care and God bless you and yours.

    Shalom

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  18. Friends are important le.... :)

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  19. Never take things for granted.

    Elsom....nice name....:D

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  20. Friends are not to be taken for granted. The ppl who didn't return what they borrowed... tsk tsk.


    Elsom, mind to ask your friend, what's my name in Norwegian? Keke..

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  21. Yeap, my boyfriend borrowed some dvds that are yet to be returned.

    I for once did not return some books lend from friends. :)

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  22. small things that dont matter to me i dont mind but i hv a friend who said i agreed to share doing a business with her and insist i pay another friend a few thousands.... poor my other friend, so i pay. to my friend and me, the other girl still owe us that few thousand she "borrowed"

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  23. Too bad for Norwegian friends, whom have met with so many bad person. Because of these people, you turned out to be a very nice and welcome friend by them. They will appreciate your friendship more.

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  24. hmm...i never really cared if my friends borrow from me stuff without returning them..if I need them, I would not be shy to ask them to return it. Because I trust them to be honest as trustworthy as friends...anyway, i never forget to return any money i borrowed but seldom asked my friends to return the money they borrowed from me...XD

    anyway, i had linked u in my blogroll..

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  25. hee cute la d name Elsom! :D well yea its not gud to borrow but never return back, some people say borrow but then after that take it n own it. :S

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  26. uh-oh... i better go home & check if there's anything i borrowed & forget to return... =P

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  27. Thank you guys for your sweet comments,, chill weekend is just around the corner

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  28. Good article plus good picture.Thanks for giving such a nice picture.I read your article about"Friends........................"
    I also have many friends in my life.Thank you for your comments...


    get news

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  29. Thank you once again folks,,,,,luv ya

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  30. You guys are my friend albeit here in bloggershpere

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