Since we still had about 40 minutes to while away before i picked another son of mine Marvell up, i was asking him what he wanted to do in between times,then suddenly we were on the subject of internet cafe and how some of his classmates and school mates bluff their parents that they had to stay back after school but instead they would head to internet cafe.
I asked him if he wanted to go the internet cafe that his friends were at, i said it with the pretext that i wanted to track down his classmate Dwayne for the fun of it, he nodded.
I took him into internet cafe, indeed his friends were there and because most of his friends knew me and they were shocked to see me with Jovial inside the internet cafe, i told them dont worry about us, told them we were just looking.
I sense that my Jovial was in a way enticed to the game there and then , asked if he wanted to play, he looked at him blank and i said go ahead for about 30 minutes. I said this is the exception i made for him simply because i wanted him to see what his friends were doing there,,(hmmmm dont know correct to do what i have done or not)
Done with 30 minutes (time to pick up Marvell) in the car, i asked him would he be like his friends bluffing me and going to the internet cafe without my knowledge,he said he would never do it and i trusted him.
I pray to God that this child of mine would grow up to be a fine young man and have the fear of God in him.
P/S : To earn trust is to give love.
yes trust is everything and he knows that he can count on you when he tells the truth. You have a fine son
ReplyDeletei am sure he is a fine young man :)
ReplyDeleteim pretty sure ur sweet jovial wont bluff u! u're so nice daddy to him! :D anyway, is their school quite near to cc? back to school time, i never bluff my parents n i never been into cc before till am in college time. parents took down all our timeteble n pick us on time. no chance also.haha ur jovial really sweet la! >.<
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, he'll be good ;)
ReplyDeleteBut I gotto say parents have to monitor the kids' usage to the internet cafes... cause it's kinda dangerous if no control...
this age is the turning point.. can be easily influenced in a way but if good family values are instilled in their minds, it helps in their thoughts..
ReplyDeletehope his frens wont persuade him to go after seeing him there on that day.. when i drop my girl to school each day, there is always 2 or 3 or 4 boys "ponteng" school, they are always seen walking away from their school and dontknowwhere they are going.. i always wonder where they go.. at such an early hour..
Eugene,
ReplyDeleteI have not been to a internet cafe for such a long time already. I just hate the noise, the foul language and the smoke.
I think that was a good idea to bring your son there so that you can put your idea(notice I did not say your point) across. If you had use the normal way by saying internet is a no no, chances are he will find ways to sneak in somehow.
I have no doubt this lesson learnt will remain with him. nice work Bro.
happy to know that at the end u bring him there. kids or adults don't like 长篇道理，for me, "practical" is the best teaching way.
ReplyDeletenice to hear your son is treating you with love and respect..XD
ReplyDeleteu did the right thing! Go into his 'world' and understand what the young ones are thinking. I believe your son will never lie to you like what his friends did because he got a father he can trust too!
ReplyDeleteEugene dude, you are looking good there :)
ReplyDeleteIt's always nice to read how you and your sons bonded so well. You are my inspiration you know?
Take care now :D
I am sure he will grow up to be a fine young man. In a way, I would agree with your actions. Better to let him play with you around rather than having him to lie like his friends did. Have a nice day, bro!!
ReplyDeleteChildren nearly alwiz do better with proper parental guidance and lots of love. ;) I'm sure your sons wld do juz fine! ;)
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Agree your way to teach your boys. Let them experience and let them try hand on it, instead of not allow them, and control them too much, they will also find a way to go and try their hand on it.
ReplyDeleteKids always curious, the more you said "no, cannot" the more they want to see and try.
He gave you his words and I am sure he will keep it. :D
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree: to earn trust is to give love. You are a real sporting father! :-D
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a form teacher, I found out that a student came to school but detoured to a cyber cafe..
ReplyDeleteevery parent hope their children grow up and become useful for the society.
ReplyDeleteLike father and son. your son will be a useful guy when he grows up. dont worry.
Btw, I am really uncertained whether you did right. I have a friend, her mom loves her only brother very much. So, her mom brought her brother to Genting once. Then they went there almost every weekend. Until today, her mother is a lonely lady, and her brother has to go to UK to earn money and pay Ah Long. I hope you can tell him, the reason you bring him there, and also your concern for his other friends patronizing at the cyber cafe. Communication also helps to build trust and mutual understanding.
ReplyDeletei told my sis, if you wanna go clubbing, i bring you.... on her first few times.... i dont want any sneak out business like how my cousin does to their parent... what if anything happen along then way, last time mana ada handphone.
ReplyDeleteeven when i go concert or hrc for life band, my parents know and know who pick n send me home even if just my friend. i believe in trust... my dad never hv to worry we lie to him on our whereabout. infact i sms him when its mid night or on my way home so he wont hv any concern.
Thank you guys for your comemnts,they make me a better dad
ReplyDeleteyou're a great dad! i don't know if i would be able to do what you did when my time comes, even though it's just a simple act to show trust.
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