I was talking to my 13 years old Jovial the other day, i was asking him did he notice that he was turning to be a bit rebellious of late, he nodded and i shared with him my feeling about his growing up.
Of late, i realized that i had to change my own attitude towards this 13 years old boy of mine, i knew it would be hard for me as they say "old habits die hard" as far as i am concerned.
Have gone through some clash of opinions with him that sometimes brought about the heartache to me and resent from him and i also realized that this 13 years old of mine is beginning to manifest in some ways his thoughts, opinions and even his stands.
I have been wrong to certain degree that i disallowed him to express his opinions rightly or wrongly for sometimes his obstinance makes me mad but now i realized that he is just a boy who is trying to bring himself to another level of growing up.
When i read through the comments left by you wonderful readers of mine, i thank you for i was humbled by those opinions and i will continue to learn to be a better father.
Just to share a scene with you guys............ this morning when i woke my 13 years old boy of mine up from bed, as usual i would open my arms to draw him to me so that i could give him a morning hug, to my displeasure he walked pass me without giving me a hug. I wanted to get angry with him but i told myself i loved this boy so much and i would not want him to have his morning quarreling me and i was telling myself hugs and saying " i love you" can wait.
As a father i know discpline will have to be done with the fundamental of love not spur of the moment.
Once again, i thank you guys for all the comments and truly appreciate it for some of you who have brought up children long enough to be able to give me advice and some of you have gone through as teen to help me to reflect of my own handling of my own children. Thank You
P/S : Nobody said it was easy but it doesn't me i have to stop learning