There is something that always bugs me especially over the weekend and when it involves food and my eldest Jovial, it has in a way put some strain on our bonding, advice needed, help sought and so the story goes......................
My Jovial at 13 is the shortest in the class, therefore i have always worried that he is not eating well and not excercising enough, i am afraid that it may in a way stunt his growth. May be you might say i am presurring him into growing up in the expectation of mine, that is he is to be tall and handsome. I agree i love to see him tall rather than short.
I feel very frustrated especially over the weekend, he wakes up, he chooses to skip breakfast, during lunch , when i ask him if he is hungry, most of the time the standard reply,"Not hungry yet" and this bugs me to the bone. I feel bad when it gets to me and i raised my voice at him," ok fine, no need to eat untill when and when"
Everytime when i ask him to take fruits and vitamin, he would always answer," wait ", sometimes i feel so frustrated at his behaviour as far as his eating habit is concerned.
I shared with my friend and most of them telling me that i didn't not have to worry about it,naturally when his time comes, he wil wallop untill i get scared but i have my fear for if he is not eating well, even his time comes can it spur his growth, i just wonder.
Any advice to share?
P/S : A father's thought and a child understand not
eugene.. as u can see, my eldest son is much shorter than my second.. not every boy will be very tall.. and some start growing at a later age, 14, 15.. that is why it is known that boys matured much later than girls.. in my girl's tuition class of 16 yr old boys..they are not very tall too.. if u r still worried, take him for swimming in the evening.. swimming is very effective..
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ReplyDeletednt need to worry for that, later when he is 15 then u will see big changes for sure! my fren last time when 13 was shortest in class, but when come to form 3, he's much taller than me! LOL! n getting taller n taller. :D
ReplyDeleteEugene,
ReplyDeleteI can understand how you feel, every parent have gone through this stage. My eldest son is somewhat like yours dont want to eat,when it is meal time. he does not like vitamins or greens.He was very skiny as a boy and only put on weight in his 20s. If he likes game , get him to play some basketball, most boys grows taller after this. If he does not have an appetite at times get him to munch something, better than an empty stomach.
If he is a fussy eater...all u need to do is to ensure that he has all the nutrients. So if u feel that he is not getting from the meals cos he skips here n there.. then u give in formula or vitamins. at least u can be ensure that he has all the nutrients a person need.
ReplyDelete最近我常听到我家婆说我孩子是“矮仔伯”。。她爱拿小幺跟那小一岁的有钱棠弟作比较。。。我很心痛，害怕伤了小幺幼小心灵。逼孩子吃饭也让人反感。。。很难拿捏厚？。。。
ReplyDeleteAge 13 - rebellion stage. The more you want him to do, the more he runs away. I guess, you just have to respect him for what he wants to eat and for how much he wants to eat. No choice.
ReplyDeleteMake it fun to have meals then. For example....you can say...let's eat breakfast with daddy. Come. :D Use positive tone.
ReplyDeleteno worries, my brother used to be shorter than me when he's in 13...by the time he's 17 he already grown taller than me and I am the one who is stunted already! hahahaha...
ReplyDeleteBe patient ya....
ReplyDeleteBoys grow taller later...sometimes in upper secondary classes even. As long as healthy - don't worry! My daughter took half an hour to swallow one spoonful of rice...and ate nothing else. Went to see doctor and he gave the same advice - as long as active, healthy... Now, ok...can eat a lot already.
ReplyDeleteI guess it's true that when kids are hungry..somehow, they'll naturally eat or ask for food. Parents need not ask them if they want to eat round the clock.
ReplyDeleteI remember when I was in Std 6, most boys in my class were shorter than girls but they started to shoot up when they reached Form 1 or 2.
ReplyDeleteI put food on the table, breakfast at 9am, lunch at 12nn and dinner at 7pm during school days and no snack allowed 2 hours before meal. It works on my 7 yrs old but I know it'll be totally different when they're at the rebellious stage like yours.
Don't worry too much about his height. Like some has mentioned here, playing games such as basketball does help in a way. My 16 yrs old nephew is tall and he is actively involved in his school's basketball team.
What your friend said is true. No need to worry so much.
ReplyDeleteHe will shoot up in height when he reach form4 or 5. Some kids are like that
it's ok.... boys will shoot up very fast one!
ReplyDeletemaybe u would like to try buying 'tin chat' fr the medical hall for yr son.
ReplyDeleteEthan is oso short for his age.. What to do? I am short.. so he is short.. no matter what he eats... but am crossing my fingers that he'll shoot up like others have said and so... jovial will shoot up too eugene. kids these days are always taller than their parents :D
ReplyDeleteYour friends are right, when the time comes the boy will develop a huge appetite on his own - just like my cousins. Besides, his height will depend on the genes anyway :)
ReplyDeletedun worry..ur boy would get the height soon..boys always a bit slower than girls..
ReplyDeleteOh my... Understand the situation.. sounds not difficult but it is difficult.. I am start to worry how to handle my boy when he is that age.. aduh.. (But my boy the opposite way.. have to control his appetite -_-)
ReplyDelete1st, have to make sure he hasn't got worms - that's the most common cause of poor appetite in kids.
ReplyDeleteother than providing nutritious food & encouraging him to exercise, that's not much else you can do about his height.
as many have said, boys are often late spurters.
my bro is 6 footer and the rest of us 5 footer... hemm... he play basketball alot. thanks for sure. but i know that by 18, the height is "locked"
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