Monday, June 21, 2010

Sometimes i feel lousy being a papa....

So it was a Father's day yesterday, no celebration for me but the saying of "Happy Father's day and you are the greatest day in the whole wide world" is suffice as far as i am concerned.

But yesterday i made my eldest son Jovial felt very uncomfortable. he wept and in retrospect i felt like a lousy papa, so the story goes..........................

My Jovial was still sleeping as i prepared to go for church service, Jovial had to go for a contest in Chinese musical instrument which lasted from 11 am to 10.30 pm imagine on a Sunday, meaning i could not be seeing him for that 11 hours or so on a Sunday.

Fast forward to the evening, i called Jovial's friend up to inquire if they managed to go to final and was told they did not manage to, it was 8 pm after dinner and i thougt that i wanted to be a heroic papa and as to give hima surprise so i drove to the auditorium.

I was stopped at the entrance because i did not have the tickets, and i told the door keeper i wanted to take my son home( as i did not want to wait for the whole thing to finish, and i thought probably i could take my Jovial for dinner and to celebrate Father's day)

The message was passed to the door keeper,she went looking for my son, suddenly there was a lady with some extra tickets asking me if i needed the tickets to go inside the auditorium and i gladly accepted the tickets( i thought it was a blessing cause i got 3 tickets that cost RM60 for free).

Coincidentally, my lovely wife's phone went flat and i had to run to the car to tell her to park the car and happily telling her that we got to watch the orchestra for free. Now the problem began and i was totally to be blamed.

Initially i wanted to take my Jovial home early for dinner, now that i had the free tickets i wanted to go and watch the orchestra, how undecisive i was.

Went back again to the auditorium, saw Jovial outside the hall,he looked perplexed as to why i summoned him to come out( i told him the reason) and he said the teacher told him to wait for the concert to finish, i was furious by then. Angrily i said to him, i could seek permission from his teacher, i guess my stubborness put him into some kind of dilemma. He looked so helpless and i got so pissed off and i again angrily i said this to him," So Jo, what do you want me to do, you stay on and i go back first?" tears began to well in his eyes in the open space.

After much recollection i felt so lousy about myself , there i was with my 13 years old boy, i didn't listen to him, all i wanted was to for him to toll my line and he did not know what to do and i felt furious.

Finally, i decided to pick up from school at 11.00 PM, on the way i said sorry to him and he said "papa i love you and Happy Father's day"

My crime..................... i did not listen to him first and i was selfish.............

P/S : Sorry Jovial once again and i truly love you.....

21 comments:

  1. Father's love is selfish....
    Happy Father's Day to you. By reading ur blog, I know you are a great Father to your kids... Keep it up..

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  2. your experience was what i experienced too.. my boys were in the band competition each year, performing at the place which was just a km away from house, but i have to drive all the way to their school instead to drive them home, it was 7km away and midnight each time.. furious or not, i have to do it..
    sons told me that their responsibility to put back all the instruments in the school.. if the members go back from the place they perform then who will take care of the instruments.. :p they have a point there, like doing things united..
    well, parents like us got to give way, i guess.
    Maybe that night, u were running here and there, from the hall to your car and from the car to the hall.. and that heated up naturally.. :p
    Anyway, all well ends well in the end..right.

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  3. Ok... you are guilty and be ready to sentence to death by your beloved Jo! Kiahahaha!

    Frankly, I'm standing at your son's side... If I was him, I would be pretty sad if my caring and loving daddy didn't support my 'sportmanship', just go back and give him a big hug and apologise for the mishap! ;)

    Cheers!

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  4. fathers always love their kids but the way they show their love is different than mother, just like my dad. i still love him! =D am sure u're doing ur best so far. cheers!

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  5. It is true that we have to a bit patience and listen to the kids, acknowledge thier feelings. I hope I am able to do so evenif it is on unavoided bad day.

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  6. You are one heck of a great father bro. Happy Father's Day to you. :D

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  7. dont worry... it's over! Most importantly, all's well ends well :)

    Ur boy is so sweet lah ;)

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  8. Jovial must have felt bad too. But these things happens. That's life. No matter what Jovial still loves you. You are a lucky man to have such loving son

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  9. 我为Jovial感到难过。。。他很无助哦。。。他最后对你的父亲节贺语真窝心。。。他没怀恨叻,你教导有方。他真的是好孩子。再向他道歉吧。。。可怜的孩子。。。

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  10. It's ok...the kids will understand. My daughter did - whenever I was not in the mood - grumpy and temperamental... Not that hse loved it, but she understood and put up with it. Other times, must be loving and caring lah...not angry all the time.

    O.K. So now you have to take him out, eats what he likes...buy him something he wants - to make up for being such a horrible ogre! Tsk! Tsk!

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  11. aww.... hugs hugs.. all will be fine at the end of the day. U r a dad who has no qualms about apologising, so you'll be ok :D

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  12. Happy Belated Father's Day. Lesson learnt and the night ended well, so no regrets :-).

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  13. at least u have your own feeling sorted out and said u r sorry hahahaa...tat's a good father oredi...

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  14. Happy Father's Day to you. You are a good and cool dad.

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  15. Happy belated Father's Day to you. No matter what, you're a good father and I believe your children know that. sometimes daddy gets so worked up that he blows up in our faces but he doesn't mean it.

    That's parenthood.

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  16. You are not a perfect father, trying to be one.

    Happy belated Father's Day. :)

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  17. You are not a perfect father, trying to be one.

    Happy belated Father's Day. :)

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  18. no matter who's right or wrong, you owe the boy a treat!

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  19. Happy belated Father's Day to you, Eugene. You are a terrific dad and sometimes love is selfish. I'm sure your son understands that. He's a very filial son who didn't hold grudges against you and even wished you "Papa I love you and Happy Father's day". How wonderful!

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