Monday, March 29, 2010

This boy has got problems...........

I was at the school last friday same routine waiting for my wonderful eldest son, while waiting i bumped into my good friend's son (who is in remove class, a year retained before secondary 1). I went up to the boy and greeted him.

I asked how he was and how he was doing in school, he responded he was doing ok but he lamented school sucked and suddenly he handed over to me his marked exam papers, and said this," Uncle Eugene, i am just lost lah, i dont like school i dont like the teachers," he sulked in Mandarin.

I leafed through his exam papers, and this i remember, 6 marks for Malay, 15 marks for Mathematic, 40 marks for Mandarin and 5 marks for English out of 100 marks respectively, i was stunned for i never could believe this boy could fare so badly in his exam.

I told him this, " Fan, do you know with this result you are going to have big big trouble when you go to Secondary One next year?" he looked blanked than i countinued," you know in Secondary One, the subjects are going to be very very difficult and frankly your command of Malay and English, you will lose interest in study if you dont do something about it now."

Again i continued, " do you really want to study, boy and do your parents know about your result or did your teachers help you in your study?" with his head slightly bowed, he said," My mother always says this," i also dont know Malay and Englsih , so never mind lah" and my father busy with his works in the workshop," and he continued further," as for my teachers, they all think we are a bunch of hopeless kids and they just dont bother,"

I gave him a pat on the shoulder and telling him that he was a big boy now and if he needed advice, he could always come to see me. Deep inside me, i believe with some guidance this boy can be better at least but then again if the parents and the teachers dont care, what can i do?

P/S : Are you doing enough for the children or are we doing over enough for them?

15 comments:

  1. Sad for him.. sigh..in fact my own nephew also sama. Without proper guidance, he is just as lost.. studying has to be cultivated from young otherwise when they r older, it will be very difficult to catch up, as u mentioned. The foundation is not there so will be very tough unless one puts in effort. Even with tuition, if my nephew doenst put in effort, also no use.. but at least have to scrap thru form 5 and then get a skilled course..

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  2. He need a courage from hi s parent. I'm sure with a little attention and daily encouragement, he can make it..he still young and this is a good year to shape them before the world 'shape' them..

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  3. Wow....the teachers are so irresponsible? :(

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  4. From Chinese primary school and can only manage 40 for the subject - I think his problem started way back in primary school...and transition is for them to pick up enough Malay and English to go on in the BM medium. Well, they studied English too in primary school and all he could manage is 5 marks?

    Perhaps he should go and learn a skill...and work in the field of his choice. Just because he is not academically inclined does not mean the end of the road for him. With perseverance and diligence, he may end up a lot MORE successful that his brainy peers with their string of As.

    P.S. And how are you, my friend? Hope you're doing great, and the missus and the boys too. Have a great week ahead...

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  5. Yes encouragement from parents is very important. As well as teachers to teach. Well, what u can help could be talking to either one his parents who cares more and can accept your words. Else it's like pouring salts into the sea.
    Then maybe share with the parents which tuition teachers that this boy can go to so that he can start from where his level is. Could be from the primary. But I am sure this boy can succeed if he is guided the right way. A little help can mean a lot to this boy. :)

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  6. Poor boy. There is no light at the end of the tunnel for him, since all his pillars for support are not bothered. Could you be his pillar?
    +Ant+

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  7. maybe you can continue to encourage him.

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  8. Feel sad with this boy and my nephew who now in Form 3 also lost since he is in mid Form 1. My sister just don't bother about her son studying...I got talk to my nephew but seems helpless. So I also cannot do anything...

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  9. the boy's parents are not supportive at all!!!! even if u were not educated in the past, why be so selfish to let ur kids follow ur footsteps?

    U could be a good part-time tutor and counsellor to him hehe, that is, if u have time!

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  10. Lack of guidance and encouragement from parents may lead a kid's future to the HELL!

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  11. Poor boy. I hope the parents will be able to help him out to make his future better.

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  12. LOL! Personally think the child is in big troubles and the parents have got big problems!^-^

    This child apparently has low self-esteem, he is trying to give himself some good reasons to quit study. But he definitely has good personality, frank and brave enough to hand you his red marked paper! This boy needs a lot of compliments and encouragement... it's pity that his parents didn't give him a good "start up kick"!

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  13. Poor boy. Just do whatever you can to help him. Maybe coach him for free and whatnot? Neway, hope your feud with your mum is over. Blood is thicker than water.

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  14. sad for the boy and sad for the parents too ... someone must guide and help !! :(

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  15. Poor him. Ya agreed that this boy can be better if someone coaching him well. Can the parents afford to send him for tuition? Else tag around with friend in study group. Learning in group is easier than he learning alone.

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