Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Damsel in distress................

Someone shared this with me not too long ago, and when she was sharing, she was frustrated , so the story goes................

****When i first started to come out and work, big chunk of my salary was given to my mother, and when i got married i was the only one in the family giving her the most monthly allowance, i did that consistenly for so many years untill i got divorced last year.

By then i could not give her as much as i wanted to and sometimes i even defaulted on my giving due to my tight financial constraint, i had to take care of my two children for my ex is not supporting me in anyway. Then suddenly my mother turned cold towards me. I really dont know why?

Why could not she understand that i am struggling to make ends meet, and starting to stand up on my own, i need sometimes to make in on my own, during this time, i need her support and blessing but sadly it is not forthcoming. I really dont understand, my other siblings are giving her some allowance too, and as i gather those amount given to her is more than sufficient for her monthly, why is she still being hostile towards me.

I just wonder is money the root of the problem that strains the relationship between a mom and her daughter*********

P/S : Sometimes i wonder too, how much is enough?

18 comments:

  1. money is the root of all evil... :(

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  2. hmmm i would say to a certain extent, some mothers choose to put it out there, some complain behind...

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  3. I wonder why even mother & daughter can be so calculative. I really sad to read this and even sadder to see it in real life. Is MONEY is the only thing they care? I really wonder..

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  4. hate the money matters too *sigh*

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  5. Aiyor...what kind of mother is that? I know parents...though old, still want to help out with the children's day-to-day expenses. Ah well...all kinds of people in the world!!!

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  6. feeling bad for her. never encounter such problems yet. i hope my mum not goin to treat me the same way. :)

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  7. I'm blessed with a wonderful mom, since my dad passed away she has limited income...yet with all sort of burdens strangling her, she still able to keep up the household wihout asking a penny from us. I always feel guilty that I can't give her a constant allowance since I have resigned, but instead of laments she asked me to keep the money to buy something better for myself and my kids... mom, I love you!

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  8. money is never enough.. but I am just happy and glad that I have an understanding mum who knows my limit.. if I have extra, I sure give to her..

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  9. The old Hokkien saying "kong looi sit kam cheng" no longer apply. New era no money no talk, mother or son, daughter or father so what! Also "boh than kong". $ad to know and hear becau$e of $ relation$hip turn$ $our and $trained. *$$$igh*

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  10. I believe $$$ can really spoil and damage a relationship ...!! the root of evil ....

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  11. money is never enough. Dont know why sometimes the old folks thinks the next generation are ATM.

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  12. The mother shouldnt do that. She should think about her grandchildren; even support them financially and emotionally if possible.

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  13. This is such a sad story. Perhaps she has expectation of her but...well...she didn't really tell her how difficult it was for her. :/

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  14. We just have to accept that not all mothers are wise. However, things are not all lost. It's good if your friend could have a mom-daughter chat. I'm sure the mom wld realise and react well. :)
    I wish them well. ^_^
    +Ant+

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  15. i feel i didnt do enough for my mum...

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  16. I saw b4 this kind of mom wo, so tak hairan lo!

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  17. I guess money is really giving troubles to family. Many brother sister, parent, son and daughter fighting all because of money. I just had a personal experience of someone related to me making the whole family upside down because of MONEY! Sigh...

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  18. money is really the root of all evil!

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