He woke up this morning, looking for his school uniform,he couldnt find it thus he raised his voice "mommy,where is my uniform", I intercepted angrily and said "Jovial,you're 11 now,you need to learn about responsibility, it is your uniform and you will just have to look for it" he looked at me disdainly and i insisted that he looked for it.
I was thinking to myself after this scene,why was my son behaved the way he behaved. Has he been pampered to the degree that at his calling,he requests must be made, or could it be the faults of me and my wife not letting him learning to be independant. Suddenly,i reliazed that,it was me and my wife that due to the love you have for him thus we reduced his chances of learning to be independant.
I dont know about you,i sincerely feel that children must be given some room to make mistakes and the parents should guide them along the way not to repeat the same mistakes. When we are so afraid of letting our children making mistakes,we become overproctective towards the children and that restricts our children from being adventurous in their thinking and attitudes.
As i mentioned in my previous post, i tutor my son alongside with his friend, i realized one common trait in them. These children are not creative in their thinking despite the fact their grammar is ok. I took them to task by giving one experiment, i held out a blue pen and asking them to cite ten descriptions about the blue pen, to my suprise they had to struggle to form words to make the desriptions. May be it is our education system that refrain the children from asking the "stupid questions", from challenging the status quos and from presenting their creative ideas.
So now we know our children are being stereotyped in the class room,therefore we need to make room for them to be creative in our own living room, to juice out crazy ideas, to question the questions,to learn to know that what they hear,read,listen to might not always be right.
P/S, If Wright Brothers never thought we could fly, we never can