I've sensed something was amiss with him,but never wanted to her for i knew he would tell me when time was right for him to do so..........and he finally broke his silence
And yes he told me today that he was in the process of getting divorced with his wife of 21 years.Calmly he said this was the end of the road,and he had decided so,and there was no turning back.
To me this friend of mine could be labelled as tall, fair,humorous and handsome,he is suave, affable,friendly and a real woman charmer,he is 50. Together they have 3 children ages 21,17,13 respectively.
I asked him what went wrong,if he could"survive" a marriage for 21 years, what could be so drastic and insurmountable that he had to let go, no apparent reasons from him,he simply put it as if he just had to let go. It is not going to be a smooth transition for him,i reckon for his wife is not going to let go.Since the day he proposed to his wife about the imminent decision of his, it has been nothing but havoc.
I have known this friend for about 10 years now,the children are closed to me, no wonder recently i noticed some behavioural changes in the children especially the oldest girl,she used to be very carefree,chatty but now she is remotely quiet and not even wanting to talk to me. I feel sad for the children, they must have been suddenly tossed into a situation where they have no control over,all the yelling, the arguments, the walk-outs,the cold wars between the parents is what they are experiencing now.
I am not going to dispense any advice to my friends, both are adults but the least they could do they need to take care of their chilrend's feeling and emo, i know it might not be easy for my friends but i believe it is so much harder for their children.
P/S,i am kind of sick of sharing this kind of story, i hope all marriages will end well, i am naive you must say,but seriously this is my hope