I have this old classmate of mine, been married twice and now is divorced again, two grown up boys, one 4 years old boy and he has been blacklisted by 7 banks for the total debts of over RM100 thousands he doesn't have a steady job.
Sometimes when I think of this old classmate of mine, I just wonder what had actually happened to him, is it the fault of his own that he is what he is now?
Of late when I had some coffee with this friend of mine,he confided in me that he was hooked on some kind of designer drug,they call it "K", when I asked him how could he afford this detrimental habit of his,he just smiled.
I remember him as someone as "tall,fair and very handsome" but now he totally looks the opposite of all that,he came from a well to do family,the eldest in the family, he always got what he asked for,I was so envious of him back then.
Even right up until now, his old parents still have to pay for his water bills and electricity bills and even up until now,his parents still have to help him to look after his sons..............why?
There is a verse in the Bible that says,"spare the rod thus kills the son" .........
I met his father the other day and he asked me to do him a favor and he said,if I could help him to talk to his son and I was like how to? we are both 47 now,consider very adult already, how could I tell him to "turn over the new leaf" probably what he wants is to waste his life away and no worries cos helps are easily available at the end of the rope.
His father told me that his regret is "giving him too much"
Would I be spoiling my sons if I am rich? I just wonder
P/S :I have always liked this Chinese proverb 先苦后甜