What Jovial said to me,in a way incensed my friend,Jovial said," You go and buy for yourself lah" after hearing that,my friend said this to Jovial,"How can you say this to your father? You are supposed to tell your father,(no worries Papa,I will get it for you),you are supposed to be filial,what more you are raised in a Chinese school"
My friend continued,"What if one day your papa is old and if he can't walk,then it will be so sad to have a son like you" With his voice low, Jovial meekly responded to my friend's last comment,"When my Papa is old,I will surely take care of him but now he is still young and able ma and he should do it by himself"
When I shared this incident with my lovely wife,what she said triggered my brain juices as well, she said,most of the times,I would ask Jovial to do it himself when he wants something,then she continued by the same way,Jovial thought that I should do it myself (when I can and able to) and not depending on someone else.
To be very frank,I had my "water face' dropped by Jovial's action in front of my friend, so it was about my "water face" rather than looking at Jovial's reasons,....
Last night,before the sleeping time,Jovial asked me was I continued to be lectured by my friend when I went to see him again in that afternoon, I said yes and I told Jovial that I did not blame his action,simply because I was sure that he was only making his stance and be adamant about it,wasn't that the trait I thought him?
I said to him that I knew that he did love me dearly........Ditto
P/S : Still Learning