Monday, May 07, 2012

I'm proud of you Jo...............

With wifey not around over the weekend, on Sunday I took my two boys cruised up to Batu Ferringhi beach just to unwind and strolled along the beautiful beach of Penang. (seriously now Penang's beaches are so much cleaner now)

Done with the Batu Ferringhi beach, we headed to one hotel for a late lunch, and out of sudden, I told my boys that we would do another outing such like this next weekend when their mommy was back, Marvell nodded with excitement but not so with Jovial and I wondered why..............

Then he said,'Papa, next week I can't do it" I asked why,he responded," Because next weekend, I want to prepare for my exams and I want to study hard for it" I said okay then................

Frankly, Jovial is not in the category of the echelons as far as academic achievement is concerned in his form but that's all right with us, we have never pressured him, he does not go to any tuition classes,(he chooses not to) but we are glad that he is still among the "okays" among his peers........

I am proud of him because he might seem to be a slacker when it comes to his "study" on a non exam days but he just knows when to pull up his socks and beef up when the exams are near, I guess that's his way of study and I respect that as he knows what he is expected to do.

I guess sometimes parents fail to understand that every boy and girl is different, we really want them to excel but we have not really discovered the 'nicer" ways to allow them to do it "better", we get them to do the uniformed rituals of running from one tuition class after another and we refuse as parents to recognize that besides academic achievement, characters building, confidence boosting and respect is equally if not more important.................I can be wrong but I know my boys are happy.

P/S : Again......I am proud of you son

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    1. Thanks I might be a fantastic dad,,but I still need to learn,,, so much to learn to be a dad

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  2. Best of luck for his exams ! :)

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  3. Good buck. Good luck to the boys in their coming exams.

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  4. Like his answer. Good boy you have there.

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    1. He is just like how I was when I was small hahahahahhaha,,,

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  5. he is a very responsible kid..
    know when to play and when to study...
    but some ppl who are born genius ..
    they dont study much but still can excel in studies...
    I came from a kinda notti school and most of my friends just finished SPM level...
    some of them really did very well... doing insurance, restaurant manager .... now they are driving benz... :)

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    1. I am still learning in order to teaching,I am not the geng geng kind of papa,I have my ups and downs too,, seriously still learning,,,,,,,,

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  6. the beach is so much cleaner? :) Sounds tempting (rub hand)

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    1. Yup Fai, the beaches are so much cleaner,I guess under PR kua............

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  7. maybe . . . he Jo start thinking that academic exam is slightly important inside is heart.

    sometimes people does think and rethink again inside his heart. it is a good start perhaps.

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    1. by the way, call me Kian Fai :) Koh is my surname hahaha XD

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    2. Sorry sorry, next time will just do that Kian Fai

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  8. As long as we do not put pressure on their studies, it will not be so stressful on them... your kids are smart.. no need to go tuition..

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    1. They are not smart and those going to tuition are not stupid either,it is just that parents are too keen in seeing the exam result lah

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  9. I still have to remind and guide my kids on their study when the exam come near, i hope they will be able to know what to do with their study when they are bigger. Good luck to Jovial in his exam!

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    1. Different parent,different pattern, okay one lah

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  10. Jo is so adorable in his own way :-)

    Ya always being #1 might steal their childhood away too... as long as they are disciplined enough, I guess it's ok!

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    1. They say it is never easy being parents but the fact remains, we must remain we were once a child too.........

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  11. I always believe our child are what they are because of how parents taught them from young. It is that foundation that the parents have built that allows them to continue building that special character and personality. Well done bro and your wifey for doing a good job and yes, I am very proud of your son too ....

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    1. You are damn right there bro, we show them, we guide them and above all,we must love them with loads of it and be strict when situation warrants it

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  12. Thanks bro, likewise,you have raised Reuben ( I can tell by the pics of him) and still raising Ryan and Chenya well, you too me proud of you as well

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  13. That is wonderful, Jo is so "sang seng". Proud of him too.

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  14. Im so proud of you that you have thought him to be wise and well.

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  15. All the best for his coming exam.

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