Monday, February 06, 2012

Now I am getting better.

You know there is a verse in the Bible in the book of Psalm 15: 18 that says," A hot temper man stirs dissension but a patient man calms a quarrel"

I was just taking stock of myself,(particularly my temperament and my attitude towards my sons) Jovial to be exact, it was kind of hard and most of the times, emotionally challenged dealing with him,now that he is his teens.

Looking back of late,it had not been really all that nice,in fact it affected our "father and son" bonding when the two of us collide,sometimes I really felt like a lousy papa.

After so much of so called "soul searching", I began to look into myself and I started to put myself into his shoes,I realized that there were in fact things that I could master to make the "bad" good.None of them in my family realized this but in fact I had for the past few weeks,I have discovered that it was not that hard dealing with my teen boy.

Now I want to see more laughter and funny antics flying in the house,if they feel good,they listen.

Have a happy Chap Goh Mei

P/S : Laughter is still the best medicine

15 comments:

  1. Happy Chap Goh Meh to you and family, Eugene ;)

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  2. Bro.. Happy Chap Goh Meh..
    I agree truly on ur comment..
    I once a very hot temper n a very agressive man.. but now i going forward to listen n try to understand others .... and also try being simple..
    Besides that we need to have patience and wait for the result...
    Do u know that when u laff n happy, ur body will release a happy drug (endorphin....)
    watch more steven chow movie .. LOL

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  3. Hi Bro,
    glad you have have worked it out.

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  4. Happy Chap Goh Mei to you and family.

    I agree with your comment on the hard dealing with a teen, especially boys. We have been to that stage before, so now we are putting ourselves in their shoes, we would understand how and why they are going through such phase in life. :p My hubby already worry with our going-to-be-3 yo son who has a very bad temper and attitude. Gee! Wonder what he would become when he is in his teen. hahaha!

    No, you are not lousy papa, you are just trying to do your best. Everyone is. You have a great day ahead, Eugene.

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  5. Happy Chap Goh Meh to you & family.

    I'm bracing myself for the time my son will be a teen.

    But I guess like you, I have to take stock of myself when I deal with a teenage child.

    We were once a teenager too. ^^

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  6. We think the best for our children, often neglecting what they feel. I'm trying to take a step back and listen to my kids, understand them and be in their shoes.

    Don't feel lousy, Eugene. Teens are harder to deal. Happy Chap Goh Meh~

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  7. Happy Chap Goh Meh to you and your family too. You stay easy.

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  8. Happy to hear laughter flying around and not "daggers" .. hahaha... well, i guess in a normal family, it is not always joy all the time.. we have good and some not so good times... and through the bad times, we learn how to be better..
    Kudos!

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  9. Yes, we have to understand the teens' feelings and we also need to be firm and calm about our decision. We cannot just give in to enable the teens to do stupid and crazy things...we need to explain to them in a good way and respectful way.

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  10. That's really good of you to have realized all of that. It sure is on the elder one to make efforts to make the relationship and bond stronger. And And you make a great father :)

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  11. Dont worry..you are a great father.

    Happy Chap Goh Mei to you and family.

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  12. I know that you are a great and wisdom dad dealing with Jovial. And Im sure that through your guidance he will grow up into a fine, God fearless man.

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  13. Good to hear that Eugene. Wish your family full of laughter. Laugh to stay YOUNG.

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  14. Looking back of late,it had not been really all that nice,in fact it affected our "father camisa de futebol and son" bonding when the two of us collide,sometimes I really felt like a lousy papa.

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