I would like to share two incidents,just to prove how the thing called "TRUST" is damn f**king important in any relationship, friendship even marriage..............
I had a brief chit-chat with a senior pastor of my church the other day,I was asking him what happened to a sudden "fall out" of a youth pastor in the church, it was like suddenly the youth pastor out of sudden resigned from the church, distant himself from his wife,(okay I am not saying further).
I asked the senior pastor,did he manage to talk to the youth pastor about his "fall out" the senior pastor told me that the youth pastor refused to talk to him..............Ditto (First scenario)
I was having some drinks with a couple of someone very dear to me the other day together with my lovely wife. Out of a sudden, (may be it was a built up frustration or what) the husband suddenly slammed the beer glass on the table then blurted out something like this," So you can talk to the guys on FACEBOOK, and what is all this nonsense..blah blah blah" then he just walked off and I had to send the wife back home instead together with my lovely wife.
Back to the first scenario, I wonder how much "trust" has the senior pastor built between him and his protege ? I really don't know but for one thing that I do know, it would not be so hard for someone to talk to another if there is sufficient amount of sincere cares, love and loads of understanding without judging that eventually builds up to a concrete "trust" that can pull down any walls of separation between two parties concerned.
I am sure everyone wants to be heard, everyone wants to share things with someone but are you the one that someone can "trust" you enough to share his/her problems with? You be the judge.
Now the second scenario, I remember the same guy (I mean the husband who just walked off) once asked me, did it anger or frustrate me if I knew that my wife was chatting with her male friends on FACEBOOK, I told him that I was surely okay with it for the fact that I could trust my lovely wife 101% (no questions asked) he said that I was talking cock.
Seriously,I feel sad for those people who wake up everyday having the ideas that "in this world no one can be trusted" and I feel even sadder that on two accounts that we expect people to trust us where we don't make enough effort to let other trust us, it is so sad,right?
No relationship is going to be a good one where we always harbor those suspicions and when we always look out for the evidence that says," see, I was right,you just can't be trusted" without firstly making ourselves a trustworthy husband, father or even a friend.
At time when my boys told me this,"papa, you said you would come early, see now so late already" I could have raised my voice at them telling them off with something like this," Boys, how can you say like this,papa needs to go out and entertain friends ma, trying to look for new customers, no need to find money ka?"
Instead,I must realize that I had broken the promise,crumbled the "trust" and I have to rebuild that trust .............
Sorry for my long ranting,but seriously I really feel f**king "hot " about this, we never admit of our own flawed mentality, our own "broken promises" instead we keep blaming others...sad,ain't it?
Note : We must also not let others take advantage of our TRUST, we need Trust Smart too
P/S : When I lay down next to her, I know I trust her fully