Please forgive me,yet again,this post is still about my mother,why? Simply because I want to pen this down and to remind me of something...........
Took her for breakfast,because "it was a long holiday " She told me that she was still not feeling too well and she wanted to buy some fish to cook herself some porridge for lunch.
I said to her,there was no need to for her to cook,I could take her for lunch or just "ta pau" back for her,she insisted that she wanted to cook,at one point,I just could not understand,why she insisted in cooking,since she was not feeling too well.
Then I just realized that,to her,"cooking" was some kind of a solace to her,a comforting "task" to her.... Now, I understand sometimes,children must always look at things from the old folks' perspective, isn't it so?
Then as i held on her hand,slowly walked her to the wet market,suddenly she fumbled hard of my hand,her body tilted as if was going to fall and telling me that she had to sit down and she could not walk further, I quickly grabbed a stool,sat her down,then..........
I asked my lovely wife to go to the wet market alone and buy her the fish that she wanted and as I sat down with her,she told me that,it was not that she could not walk but she was not comfortable in walking....you see a few years ago,she had some kind of metal thing implanted in her hip.
As I looked at her, I was thinking to myself,what if one day she really could not walk at all,how would she feel,for my mom is kind of a restless person,what kind of a mental and emotion torture or torment that could inflict upon her.
Now I am thinking before the dawn is nigh,I will have to do what is just right and this post will always remind me of that "DUTY"
P/S : One day,we shall all be old,we shall long for a ear to hear and a hand to hold
Your post not only serve as a reminder to yourself, but to a lot of your readers too... iincluding me. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteHome cooked food is always the best, and most mothers want to cook for their family, compare with buying outside..... hehe
ReplyDeletethanks for sharing bro.
ReplyDeleteaging is part of our earthly life. hope your mom will age healthily and joyfully as she's surrounded by her loved ones like you n your family :) God bless and take care, Eugene
ReplyDeleteCherish the precious moments with your mom.
ReplyDeleteOld people will stubbornly want to do thins themselves as it is comforting and reassures them that they can still do it... Just let her do what she enjoys - I'm sure what she cooks will be a lot nicer in more ways than one than what money can buy...
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ReplyDeleteI also fear that "One day" too... my mum also same.. must do something to occupy herself but nowadays i also see her slowing down, walk also very slow and not into good appetite too..
ReplyDeletea mum's duty is never ending. she still think of her children no matter what age they are. I remember my mum use to ask me to come back for dinner during the festible and sometime being to lazy will just say aiya no need la , too far la, same old stuff like that, not knowing it will hurt her as she has put in all her heart into it. so now I will try to make it a point to go back and she knows i love soup and also keep them for me even if i visit her late at night. she stays with my brother in a different part of town.
ReplyDeletecherish our mums , as they sacrifice so much for me.
it's lovely. thank you for this post. it reminds me of my duties as a daughter and a daughter in law :D
ReplyDeleteTake care of her, let her know she is very loved.
ReplyDelete'Filial piety' more than 'duty' I think. *smile*
ReplyDeleteI strongly believe it's our duty to look after someone who has showered us with love and cared for us since the day we were born.
ReplyDeleteYour mother doesn't want to be a burden to you, hence she insisted on cooking herself. Moreover, having lunch outside or tapau isn't as healthy and 'homely' as homecooked one. Support her mentally and physically.
And thanks for this reminder, Eugene :)
true..do the best for your mum..
ReplyDeleteYour posts often woke up my senses too. We have so much in common lah!
ReplyDelete"One day,we shall all be old,we shall long for a ear to hear and a hand to hold" ... beautiful reminder. Spend time with your mom, she's the only you've got. :-)
ReplyDeleteYa good to remind you and remind to me too. Something my talking tune with MIL is not so good too.
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