Took my mother out for breakfast the other day,it was raining heavily that day and the floor of the market was rather wet and slippery,i held her hand,just to make sure that she felt secured to walking on the slippery road, then suddenly this feeling came raging to me.........
As i held her hand,her wrinkled and the hand that as if was covered with ragged cloth, I really felt that she was indeed "old already". She was once a strong woman that she would never "kow tow" to sicknesses,what more a mild flu and fever but now the same physical malaise could just worry her sick.
When she was in her mid 40s,she took the gut to get her motor license and learn to ride a motorbike from scratch for she thought it would be faster for her to get home to cook for the family and indeed she did it
Looking back through the recent years, the spate of arguments that we had,my stand against her biased comments,those times of "cold wars" with her and by that moments of holding her hand,suddenly I felt i was rather "stupid" to put an 70 ++ woman going through those nonsense,just because i thought I was upright,just because I held on to my belief that impartiatiality must prevail, the moment I held her hand that Saturday morning,I really felt I was stupid.
Suddenly,the smell of curry mutton stuffed my noise and the memory of this curry mutton,i remember the time when i was 11 years old,my mother used to slog for some extra few hours of "OTs" just to buy the mutton and cook for me my favorite and it was really a "luxury" back then.
Well,she doesn't cook for me anymore and I guess in her "remaining years" this is the time that i will tend to her now,make everything and anything else frivolous and just to make her my"mother" in her remaining years.
May the good Lord continue to bless her with good health and joy in her remaining years.
P/S :Don't lose sight of someone you love in their remaining years,
Reading this reminds me of my own mother too.. i remember her being a fast walker.. indeed she is well known for walking fast, faster than me anytime.. and that was more than 10 years ago... today she slowed down so much, holding our hands because of her poor eyesight and painful joint pain..
ReplyDeleteAs u said..for their remaining years, we should allow them to do what they want and what they like to eat...
I'm sure deep down she knows you're a fantastic son and loves you very much ;-) it's never too late to repent and you'll have no regrets!
ReplyDeleteits a frustrating feeling, especially when they are sick and there is nothing we can do. I really appreciate my mum, she has done some much for us bringing the 3 or us single handed. I lost my dad when I was only 3 and have no memories of him. I only pray God will be kind to her and will not make us suffer more then she can bear.
ReplyDeleteMake the most of it while you still can. My mum is 80+ and bedridden...and all I can do now is to go to her house everyday and spend the time with her. Nothing much to do - but just being there would mean a lot to her, I'm sure.
ReplyDeletewhen we argue, we don't remember our mother are old ya.. but then again, when come to the time we see them in soft spot, we realised that our hard headed argument is plain so not worth.
ReplyDeleteSweet post, touching too. Not all but hopefully most of us get wiser over the years. For the aged, spending time with them makes them happiest most because they are just counting days and few-and- far-between happy moments. Thanks for sharing, Eugene.
ReplyDeleteEuegene,
ReplyDeleteThis is a good post.
Maybe you would like to help out Veronica. If you have the time, do drop by Veronica's blog http://quaypocooks.blogspot.com/2011/08/give-and-you-shall-receive.html . She is trying to help an Old Folks home for a good cause.
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This is a sweet post Eugene.
ReplyDeleteWe should treasure our loved ones, always. 珍惜当下~
I wanna cry reading this. I am caring for both parents now in their 80s. I never argued with them but it is sad to see them frail and fading off.
ReplyDelete:( feeling really touched after reading this post bro. Good that you are caring for your mum. God bless her, and may she have good health and many more years ahead
ReplyDeleteVery sweet and touching story. May God bless your mom. That reminds me, I will go home tomorrow and take my mom for a grand dinner and stop arguing with her about why I am still single. :-) She's all I have.
ReplyDeleteYes, you remind me of my parents. They are not so old lah, but in their mid 50s. They still strong, can walk, go here and there and thank god no sicknesses. I wonder what would they do when they retire and no longer working. Sigh! Being a Chinese, we seldom show our feeling openly at home, so it does a bit awkward for me to say "I love you" to my parents. I dont know, deep inside I love and cherish them. I hope they know that!
ReplyDeleteSo touched... your mum is such a wonderful lady, may god bless her!
ReplyDeleteI used to argue with my mom too(quite a lot, thanks to my hard headed), but since I hv got my children... I started to understand, it's nvr easy to be parents, I'm so grateful tht I truly realize her sacrifices now... through the hard way though.:)
she is blessed to have a son like you, and you are blessed to have a mother such as her :D
ReplyDeleteI didn't felt how tough and how much our parents had sacrificed for us till I became a parent myself! And, what's more, the older times are real tough! And, I'm sure our kids will not felt it too till they are parents themselves.
ReplyDeleteBtw, I shared the sentiments as Claire's.
I'm reminded of my dear frail grandma.
ReplyDeleteShe is now bedridden and it is heart wrenching to see her that way. :(
everyone has their own point of view. It is ok to voice out your opinions. Mother will be always mother. Deep down, they wouldn't mind the arguing moment at all.....just don't go overboard. Wish your mother good health!
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for being such a filial and loving son! God bless your mom for being such a wonderful mother to you and your siblings.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing from your heart, Eugene!
Blessings to you and yours always