Tuesday, March 01, 2011

Caught off guard.............

There is always a special moment i treasure with my eldest Jovial, the moment of lunch so to speak, this is the time we talk, as father to a son, as a father to a friend and as a friend to a friend and this is also the moment we simply just talk about anything at all.

Yesterday's lunch was no exception until Jovial asked me this," Papa, you've got any gay friends or not?" gingerly i asked why he asked then he said,"Tell me lah, Papa, you can tell me right?" i nodded then i said i had a few, then more questions ensued.

"So how did you know they were gays?" Suddenly i was thinking to myself why on earth was my 14 years old son asking me this, don't tell me if he were to be...........................................?

Then i said," My friends told me that they were lah" not convinced with my answer he pursued with another question," How can they tell you, gays don't tell others they are gays, right?" then my heart was pounding few beats faster than usual, then i said,

"Simply because Papa's gay friends know that i respect them and i will never make fun of them and simply because they could trust me" I was thinking to myself i must really get to the bottom of this then i asked Jovial why was he asking all this,,he was mum for a while then jokingly i asked him," Jo, you are gay ka?" then he said, " No i am not" ...............

Upon dropping him home, he turned around and said,"thanks Papa for sharing and love you" i reciprocated with "love you too"

I guess in time to come, he will be asking more about this and that but i am really happy at least he asked me, seriously i feel happy when he asks me all this.............

P/S : Don't blush them off.....they want to be heard

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16 comments:

  1. I think he is just being curious, that's all.. :)

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  2. You're right, be glad he asked you, this proves you two have an open communication.

    Most families, the kids are so detached from the parents that they rather find out elsewhere than ask their parents.

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  3. My girl never asked me whether I have or not.. :) but it is good if they ask out of curiousity .. educational ma..

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  4. be ready or else you will definitely be eaten up by your boy's questions!(it's only a matter of time);p

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  5. kinda surprised a 14-year old boy asked this kinda questions. but as parents, we really have to be prepared with all sort of questions and patient enough to answer them. otherwise, they will turn to someone else or some other medias which is not so correct. eg. internet. @_@

    ganbateh uncle :)

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  6. Children are just being curious, especially at Jovial's age. I would prefer them to get the information from parents, rather than getting the source elsewhere which might be incorrect.

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  7. Agree with majority, may be he was just being curious.. so you have to pass him the correct information lo.. ;)

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  8. more more question kids,
    ready or not Papa will find the best answer ;)

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  9. Agree, got to be really careful at this age.

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  10. Love the way you handle queries and curiousity from your son :)

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  11. 能让孩子坦开心胸问问题多好呀!这样的孩子不变坏。恭喜你!父母的耐心是何等重要呀。。

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  12. wahh..luckily the answer is 'No'. I'm so relieved!

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  13. Your boy is lucky to have you as a dad to be able to talk about this kind of behind-door talks in a very honest manner. Last time when I was a child of about 11 or 12 yrs old, I asked my mum what is a condom used for (becos I found them in my parents' cupboard when I went to keep their just-folded clean clothes), and she merely laughed out loud in an embarassed manner and then asked me to ask my elder brother (who was 14 then) to explain it to me.

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  14. Ouch! What a question! Hope he'll discover it by himself.

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  15. Thank you,, for your comments

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