There is always a special moment i treasure with my eldest Jovial, the moment of lunch so to speak, this is the time we talk, as father to a son, as a father to a friend and as a friend to a friend and this is also the moment we simply just talk about anything at all.
Yesterday's lunch was no exception until Jovial asked me this," Papa, you've got any gay friends or not?" gingerly i asked why he asked then he said,"Tell me lah, Papa, you can tell me right?" i nodded then i said i had a few, then more questions ensued.
"So how did you know they were gays?" Suddenly i was thinking to myself why on earth was my 14 years old son asking me this, don't tell me if he were to be...........................................?
Then i said," My friends told me that they were lah" not convinced with my answer he pursued with another question," How can they tell you, gays don't tell others they are gays, right?" then my heart was pounding few beats faster than usual, then i said,
"Simply because Papa's gay friends know that i respect them and i will never make fun of them and simply because they could trust me" I was thinking to myself i must really get to the bottom of this then i asked Jovial why was he asking all this,,he was mum for a while then jokingly i asked him," Jo, you are gay ka?" then he said, " No i am not" ...............
Upon dropping him home, he turned around and said,"thanks Papa for sharing and love you" i reciprocated with "love you too"
I guess in time to come, he will be asking more about this and that but i am really happy at least he asked me, seriously i feel happy when he asks me all this.............
P/S : Don't blush them off.....they want to be heard