Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Trying so hard not to do this...........

There had beeen so many occasions i lost my cool because of this, there had been many time i lost good sleeps because of this as well and there had been arguments between me and my lovely due to this too.

I used to have this habit of calling up my missus often enough that incensed her when she went out entertaining her clients or sometimes her overseas collegues in the evening. Used to ask her questions like this," What time will you finish dinner?" " Will be heading anywhere else after dinner, if yes then what time will you be back?"

When she did not reach home the time she said she would, i would get worried, i would keep calling her and when she could not answer(may be it was noisy) i would just stay awake and worry sick, pacing myself in the living room and losing my sleep, usually this situation would get me very mad at my lovely wife.

We talked about this problem many times over, i told her i was only concern of her safety if it was late into the night, she always told me not to wait up for her of which i could not lah.

Last night she went out entertaining her overseas colleagues again and this time i was trying very hard not to "disturb" her and you know what ?it was hard.

And i am sure she knew that i would still be concerned even if i did not call.........good night Eugene.

P/S : It's a little too hard but a little too good for the relationship.
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16 comments:

  1. gunsiritFebruary 23, 2011 at 6:20 AM

    If I am in the same situation, I would become worried too. I guess we just have trust the Lord that she will be fine and try to drink a few beers while waiting..hehehe

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  2. suituapuiFebruary 23, 2011 at 6:29 AM

    TRUST! Let her do what she wants. Butit would be good for her to call and let you know if she's going to be late - my missus doesn't...even with TWO handphones! Tsk! Tsk!

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  3. Mas LightFebruary 23, 2011 at 6:50 AM

    You're like my mum. She'd be doing that if I didn't call her to tell her where I'm at or I came home late from my evening jog. But sometimes she won't go all worry and goes to sleep early ;D

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  4. Broccoli GingerFebruary 23, 2011 at 8:49 AM

    The problem is with you. Sorry I have to say this Eugene. I wouldn't say you don't trust her. But just trust yourself instead. You know deep inside why you so worry sick. Free your mind from all the bad thoughts. If I were in her shoes, I think you're kind of disturbing.

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  5. UnknownFebruary 23, 2011 at 9:24 AM

    Ya,, B,Ginger.. that's why i could sleep so well last night...

    "If you love somebody set her free" George Harrison

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  6. UnknownFebruary 23, 2011 at 9:27 AM

    If I were you, I feel the same too. Maybe u r just trying too hard. Give her some space. Relax bro.

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  7. Isaac TanFebruary 23, 2011 at 9:56 AM

    Morning Eugene. I totally undersand what you're feeling. We can be worried but never let it turn into a case of mistrust. Things can turn ugly really fast.

    Glad you could handle everything in a calm composure. :) cheers, and the next time you're pacing around the house worrying, just switch on the Pc and blog about something beautiful. Hehe.

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  8. AnonymousFebruary 23, 2011 at 10:06 AM

    u trust her, she trusts u.

    i used to be like that, but then i was thinking back, it`s kind of annoying, rite?

    so let her free, she`ll call u when she wants to call u :)

    take care & God bless...

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  9. VickylowFebruary 23, 2011 at 10:13 AM

    I'm different from you as my hb said he is the freedom dove compared to his friend. He will hang out late with his friend, while I will sleep 1st with my 2 children. I won't call him unless he is too late (actually he didn't promise what time he will be back too) hmm. Maybe for me a man should have good social life and it help to expand his business too. Just sometime I would complaint if he did this too often and have not time for me and my children.

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  10. chegu carolFebruary 23, 2011 at 1:58 PM

    Hi Eugene, first time commenting.

    Usually, it's the wifey who would be acting like you did. But then again, I must admit I would feel the same way too. If my other half said he's coming home at certain hour but he didn't, I expect a return call to just let me know how long he will be out so that I won't be expecting him home every minute. If he doesn't call, then only I give him the call.

    Cheers!

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  11. HayleyFebruary 23, 2011 at 2:59 PM

    I know it's totally normal that you concern and worry about your other half.. but just try to be cool lo...

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  12. yvonneFebruary 23, 2011 at 3:23 PM

    This entry sounds like my experience...happened a few years back. My hubb thought I was annoying for calling him, asking his whereabouts and what time to come home. Ended up, I didn't have a peaceful night.

    I feel that the more I nag, the more he (purposely) does it. Now I don't do that anymore and he improves :)

    I like the phrase, "If you love somebody set her free". Your missus is a matured lady who knows what to do.

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  13. YannieFebruary 23, 2011 at 3:41 PM

    When your wife was out for some functions, you should find your own program or thing to do to occupy your mind/time. I was like that during our courtship time, but wasn't like that long time ago. I was too tired and too busy to worry of him already.

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  14. wennFebruary 23, 2011 at 11:28 PM

    I'm different..I don't call my husband at all when he is out late at night. I trust him.

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  15. ChrisAuFebruary 23, 2011 at 11:55 PM

    Well, whenever I cannot get my wife on the phone, I will get worried too. Sometimes it could be due to the noise, the stupid signal or she's just busy.... well, that shows we care, bro.

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  16. UnknownFebruary 24, 2011 at 6:31 AM

    You are right Christopher,, we just care

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