The husband says excitedly," Come on darling, let's do it now, i can't wait no more" the wife gently replies," Darling, please hug hug first, ok? give me massage first ok?"
No choice, the husband gives in, hands cuddle up the wife, stroking up and down her back, but his mind is already in the state of ecstasy, he hollers out to the wife," come on darling, it's now or never" again gently the wife says," darling hug hug some more lah,ok?"
Sex is paramount to a healthy marriage but is filled with contradictions and gainsaying, isn't it? Man thought sex supersedes love, feeling(can't blame us,we are ruled by testetorone) on the otherside, woman inclines more to love,feeling, connectivity,chemistry first then to sex. That's why married men always say we are short changed as far as sex is concerned, and the married women always feel that men only think of sex without giving them enough of love.
I attended a talk organised by my church about marriage, sex and all that entails from it, i realized that it really would take two to tango if we want good sex and good marriage. Husband and wife alike have to play our roles to keep it going and going strong.
The onus is (sorry in this case, man first) should do his best to let the wife feel that she is being loved, cared for, pampered, heard, touched and most of all appreciated, the wife then must learn to let the husband "enter" with joy.
It is also a duty of both the husband and wife to keep their psychical being nice and good, therefore exercise is a must.
Please forgive me if you can't agree with me, only my thought for sharing.
P/S : To be fullfilled, fullfill first