Wednesday, September 08, 2010

You want good sex? Be nice to her.........

The husband says excitedly," Come on darling, let's do it now, i can't wait no more" the wife gently replies," Darling, please hug hug first, ok? give me massage first ok?"

No choice, the husband gives in, hands cuddle up the wife, stroking up and down her back, but his mind is already in the state of ecstasy, he hollers out to the wife," come on darling, it's now or never" again gently the wife says," darling hug hug some more lah,ok?"

Sex is paramount to a healthy marriage but is filled with contradictions and gainsaying, isn't it? Man thought sex supersedes love, feeling(can't blame us,we are ruled by testetorone) on the otherside, woman inclines more to love,feeling, connectivity,chemistry first then to sex. That's why married men always say we are short changed as far as sex is concerned, and the married women always feel that men only think of sex without giving them enough of love.

I attended a talk organised by my church about marriage, sex and all that entails from it, i realized that it really would take two to tango if we want good sex and good marriage. Husband and wife alike have to play our roles to keep it going and going strong.

The onus is (sorry in this case, man first) should do his best to let the wife feel that she is being loved, cared for, pampered, heard, touched and most of all appreciated, the wife then must learn to let the husband "enter" with joy.

It is also a duty of both the husband and wife to keep their psychical being nice and good, therefore exercise is a must.

Please forgive me if you can't agree with me, only my thought for sharing.

P/S : To be fullfilled, fullfill first

23 comments:

  1. You know something? There's a difference between sex and making love. I always felt that way. Sex is just sex... and if my husband just want to have sex, fine... no problem with me there, after all, I am a woman, rule by my hormones as well. Could use some 'de-stress' activity. Who said woman can't enjoy 'sex' without the art of making love? trust me... women can too... we have needs, like men.

    But I'd make sure he feel extremely bad afterwards. I wun fucking lay there with him, and I'll wash myself off and scrubbed myself clean and show him that I'm disgusted with the behaviour- by ditching him while I go and online and watch porn with max volume! I think alot of women should learn from me. Hahaha... see if men dares to please themselves first before they pleases their other half.

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  2. Ya...can't understand some people, fighting like dog and cat every day and they have a baby every year...

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  3. The wife will felt like a prostitute without the fore play

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  4. For partners or married couples, the key is to enjoy the love-making session. Yes it takes two to tango and two hands to clap or else there won't be pleasing music in bed. In order to enjoy it, sex sessions need to be slow and there must be communication and exploration. Not just hit and run, or touch and go - someone's not gonna enjoy that at all. And that's bad.

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  5. I agree that sex is an important element in a good marriage. A career woman like your lovely wife and myself are usually physically exhausted towards the end of the day. We are really looking forwards to someone who can give us a massage to help us relax our body and soul. Hopefully, someone tall, dark and handsome. If not then we have to try to imagine that. I also gree that how burn out we are, we shouldn't ignore the husband's sexual needs.

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  6. I so agree to what you said :( If only my hub reads this T.T

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  7. hahaha, i am only eligible to comment after i married la... LOLOLOL
    but i do read an article from magazine said that, sometime married women feel lonelier than single women becoz feel being used for sex only.. and not feeling loved by husband.
    p/s: i loled at cleffairy comment .. hahahaha

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  8. No matter we want to have good sex or not, it is the husband's responsibility to treat his spouse nice. :D

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  9. if cleffairy is speaking from experience, she will have my deepest symphaty as she might be a rape victim or married to an abusive husband.

    and from her suggestion, i think she needs professional help.

    well, i could be wrong.

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  10. Anon...it takes one to know one. Oh, God, laughing so loud tuil kenot stop! So darn funny! You sounded like someone I know.

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  11. I agree with Cleffairy. If u said sex, that means having sex with no feeling! Making love is where you both enjoy every moments of the intimation. You both feel the heat of togetherness and even respect each other needs as well. End up you both realized is not all b'cos of SEX but b'cos you guys loving each other.

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  12. Well said and done. Both partners must enjoy and feel each other bodies, coupled with lots of communication in between.

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  13. It has been years my hub and I are 'making love' at side-by-side position, every steps are predictable and he is not keen to change position because this position doesn't use much energy at the same time sexual need is fulfilled (preciously, is his need is fulfilled). i feel like a sex toy and not enjoy at all, though he fingering me first. This is merely sex, a routine job, not love making. I clean myself after each sex (like cleffairy) cause I feel I am dirty being played. He recently request me to do oral sex and i rejected. Man is just so selfish.

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  14. I guess patience is best. they got to be patient to achieve what they want hehe!

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  15. Like most people says, sex is one of the important ingredients for a married couple. It brings both the husband and wife to a more intimacy level. Its a good exercise too! hehehe ^^

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  16. man loves to rush, women slow & steady hahaha..

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  17. Well said. Foreplay actually starts DAYS earlier for the woman. If the husband is helping around (hence lessening her workload, making her less tired), then she is more open to physical intimacy in the evenings. Makes sense kan??? I learnt this from Oprah. It works both ways. I have to write an entire post on this topic too!

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  18. Eugene, in my dictionary "Be nice to her...." means,
    1. pamper the wife
    2. give 90% of income to her
    3. give 100% of bonus to her
    4. each child has his/her own maid
    5. has 2 maids to handle the house chores
    6. wife no need to work, but shake legs at home - watching dramas or playing mahjong or going out shopping with her girlfriends.

    Muahahaha! I'm not very demanding, right? Then, good sex will eventually follows.

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  19. true, a man got to be nice to his wife at all times not just before he wants that.

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  20. Thanks guys for the comments, and have a wonderful long weekend,,,ya take care now

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  21. Yes, that's very true, have to fulfill first become you are fulfilled, otherwise you may not even enjoy it after all if the other party starts to feel detestful.

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  22. Be nice to her at all times and you will be sure not only sex will be great, EVERYTHING else comes super NICE too! believe me.. :P

    have a happy weekend and enjoy ur long break eugene :D

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