Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Shut up and listen...................

Went running with my lovely wife yesterday, after the run, we were cooling down and took a walk in the park and started to chi-chat, inevitably the topic was on our eldest son Jovial.

As we started talking about him, my lovely wife suddenly started to tell me about my "down sides" as a father, instantly i was telling myself i must really shut up and not to interfere her or digress to something else and let her finish pouring out her thoughts and her feelings.

As soon as she was done sharing, i did not put forth my thoughts, i just kept quiet. I was telling myself here i was listening to someone who has been with me for the past 15 years or so, she must have known me long enough to know who i was and what i was and even my ways of being a father and a husband.

Sometimes i wonder, do we really give our spouse a full ear when she/he speaks especially being married for a long time now... i am guilty of that at times too if not most of the times........

I really thank God for my lovely wife and i appreciate her dearly.

P/S : Everyday i love her

22 comments:

  1. eugene, it is good to talk over with your wife, your concerns and worries.. meanwhile u also need to chill out like what my bloggers told me.. :) chill out.. meaning what ah? relax, man! right?

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  2. i must learn to listen more too. as u know i'm very talkative and do most of the talking all the time. it is time for me to start listening too...

    it's good that u n phobee has great communication and is able to talk things out.. :)

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  3. ya, take it easy. She needs u to listen.

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  4. i love the way u n ur wife communicate with each other. :)

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  5. Shut up and listen sounds like an effortless thing to do but we somehow fail to listen to each other most of the time. I am the expressive one who talk more and hubby is the quiet type. Time for me to shut up and listen to him. :)

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  6. sometimes she may just be stressful, good to give a listening year.

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  7. It's good and important to listen to our spouse.. for he/she is the closest to our heart...

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  8. I know I do all the time. :D Sometimes we should keep quiet and listen.

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  9. Agree, agree. Sometimes we just tend to take each other for granted after married....I also need to learn to listen and appreciate my hubby more :p

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  10. God have you TWO ears and only one mouth for a reason...

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  11. TOTALLY agree! most days we are caught up in pouring out details about how horrible our day was..and it all gets to be a bit of a competition sometimes.."you think YOUR day was hard? wait till you hear mine!"...its so important to PAUSE and LISTEN after we actually ask our partner "How was your day?". Yes..we should shut up and listen. Thanks for the reminder Eugene!

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  12. *chuckles* at stp..talk less n listen more. you'll be happier. trouble brews when both are talking n demanding to be heard

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  13. sigh.. eugene, u're good. i've been married err... 6 years now and i feel we used to be able to shut up n listen more during the early days, less so now... maybe due to our hectic schedules, work stress, children stress.. i hope when we are like u, 15 years into marriage, we can still shut up and listen and digress and appreciate and still love... (sorry, i'm not much of an optimist, u must know)

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  14. I like your attitude :-). Not bitter, not too sensitive, but listen intently to all she had to say. I got to learn from you and your wife :-).

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  15. Listen to your spouse, listen to your children, listen to your heart. Listen attentively is a great skill for interpersonal and intrapersonal communication. I learned that in one of my on job training courses.

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  16. Only listen can gain understanding..

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  17. how i wish my the other half sometime can just shut up and listen to me.

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  18. phew.... you know what. reading your entry title, i thought you gonna tell her to shut up... don think you will be that mean.... thank god you didnt!

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  19. listen and understanding.

    that why God create 2 ears and 1 mouth.

    Talk less and listen more.

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  20. yah ... we should always open up and talk to our spouse .

    "THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND"

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