Monday, March 22, 2010

Penis Talk......

They say sex is part of marriage rightly or wrongly, and good sex is often perceived as a corner stone to a lasting and fulfilling marriage rightly or wrongly again.

Over the weekend, me, my wife, a dear lady friend(divorced) and her partner were having some drinks, as i was talking with her partner, somehow or rather i could not resist eavesdropping at another conversation taking place between my wife and the lady friend, the conversation that really took me by surprise.

I digressed my chat with the male friend, and i joined in the conversation with the ladies because i simply found the topic so immensely interesting and mind boggling at the same time. The lady friend of ours was telling my wife that she wanted to take her 14 years old boy (from her previous marriage) to some kind of tradition massage to make sure that the boy would grow up to have a satisfactory penis length and to prevent him from any sexual inadequacy when he gets married in the future.

This lady friend as i could understand is stigmatised by a failed marriage resulting from sexual problems that began from the beginning of her previous marriage till the end of it , all in the name of sexual dyfunctions mainly from the male side.

Her ex husband suffered from pre-E condition and he was not willing to seek any medical remedy to correct the problems and was so adamant that he was all right sexually and his refusal in seeking medical remedy had in way deprived his wife of some kind of sexual satisfaction she longed for.

The qualm that she once suffered has prompted her to the extent that she was adamant in ways that she wanted her son to grow up to be sexually able and the wife of her future daugther in law would not suffer the fate like she did that eventually ravaged her marriage.

I was in a way arguing with her that she should not impose her fears upon her child rightly or wrongly, instead i was telling her that instead she should inculcate good values like respect, communication, love and the sanctity of marriage.

I am not here to say who is wrong who is right but i truly believe that a marriage should be fundamentally based of love and from love it opens up the door of communication and i too believe that good sex is vital in a marriage, thus a candid communication is even more crucial in keeping the flame of marriage.

Because of love, i rather masturbate than taking someone else to bed

P/S : Let's talk about sex baby, let's talk about you and me.

27 comments:

  1. i think she is right. sex is important in marriage even though many claim it's not marriage priority.

    but to bring 14yo kid for a massage like that is way too much, i guess.

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  2. hrm....however it still undeniable that one of the divorce cause is about sex problem in the marital life...but...hard to believe that some 14 year old boy needed to go for some 'traditional massage' for that purpose...not in his age though...just my 2 cents.

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  3. ED is due to stress or psychological problems, i believe.. so if both husband/wife are happy with each other, ED might not emerge from their marriage.. unless otherwise..
    not so sure, just my views.. yes, taking her son for massage now is way too much.. after that, he might get addicted to the massage :) no massage, no effect..

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  4. I'm totally agree with you.
    Dunno how the boy would feel..about the massage, about his father, about his mother...ohhh.dear..

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  5. The best marriage a based on love.. sex second.. it's just an excuses to make sex thingy as a couse of divorced.

    But to bring 14 year old boy to 'traditional massage' is not appropriate la..

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  6. I think everyone agree that taking 14 yo kid for such purpose of massage is way too much.

    for me its not because of the age, but mostly its because i dont like how she put fear in her son about unsatisfied sex life.

    imagining the son go for a girl purely base on wanting to have sex. just to prove to mommy that he can do better than daddy... haha

    its like some sick horror film. i dont know... just dont send the wrong message to the kid.

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  7. My concern is the boy may one day will do way out to prove rightly or wrongly of his libido power instead of knowing the true meaning of love and marriage,,,,

    confuse and more confuse

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  8. I totally disagree to bring a 14-year old boy to that "place".

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  9. *sigh* I like sex so much. But I would consider celibacy if my husband cannot fulfill me. Marriage is not just based on sex. It's also about loving one another unconditionally. it's also about companionship and comfort. not just sex. Not being able to enjoy sex does not mean one cannot enjoy intimacy with their spouse. My two cents.

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  10. Concern abt the 14 yr old boy...would he enjoy the massage and grow into becoming a pervert when adult?

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  11. wait... u mean there's such thing?!??!

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  12. Clerr, well said i sync with you on this...

    Chris.... that's why i argued with her,,,

    Lily...I dont know where such places existed or not, the fact that i know there are those who practise the so called sexual organ massage, to make you last longer or perform stronger.... so to speak

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  13. I agreed with you, communication and mutual understanding are far more important than a good sex! I prefer enjoy a good movie with my husband or chat around while savoring a cup of good drink after sending my kids to bed...

    Nevertheless, sex plays a vital role in a successful marriage(I won't deny it)!

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  14. The problem lies with the guy's ego, he should be man enough to face it. I won't be able to survive in a marriage without sex :)

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  15. Wow...why suddenly we have a topic about penis? :p

    Hmm....I believe that based on sex is not called love at all. It is more like the pleasure of flesh. :/

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  16. Fuyoh, the boy wld be terrified that his lil' one being stretched and played with by the masseur! lolz
    +Ant+

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  17. there must be a balance between sex and marriage. yes, it is important for a fulfilling marriage but too much of the good thing could cost a problem later.

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  18. I wonder how the mommy will say to her boy anout the 'massage'...hehehe

    Anyway...as long as love each other...everything will run smoothly...actions speak louder than words..*winks*

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  19. Sex is important but a good fulfilling marriage isn't just about sex alone. It's more than that. But to impose that on an innocent 14 year old? How is she going to explain to him when she takes him for that massage? Madness!

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  20. yeah,...tunggang kuda/horse racing is part of marriage.i loves horse racing also,just like what cleefairly said.but when the jockey can't even mount on the horse(evertime tried but kept on falling down...)-just call it a day lah.so what?,don't tell me you simply ask some other stable boys around to do your work also? like what happened last week in Sarawak.the exhausted old woman have to escape from her blue-film-producer husband and seeks M Chong's help.the woman very wrong in her decision to train her son to be stud.the backfires or backlash is worst than the outcome.she instead should concentrate on guiding her son to be a good and responsible citizen of this earth,be a good gentleman and that's all lo...

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  21. oh my God, yeah this is really a great topic, a penis talk.. hahahaha.. too bad, she wanted to instilled in her child about that sex thingy, well if we also look at it at the other side we can find it a good reason for his child to be aware about sexual problem. so when he will be having a family especially his wife won't regret at all.. cool start.. hahahahaha

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  22. *sigh* I think the woman in question a bitch. Left the husband just because he can't give her a good hump on the bed? I wonder...if she have breast cancer and her husband left her because she had one of her breast removed because of it. How about that?

    *sigh* For what it's worth...sex spice up the marriage. But sex alone does not make a marriage. I would stay with a man who could not fulfill me any day rather than a virile man who have no respect and doesn't love me for who I am and what I am not. If one can't have passion, why not have intimacy instead? Truthfully, intimacy is even harder to get than passion itself.

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  23. My! My! Look at who's conducting a lesson on sex! And look at the number of comments! Muahahahahaha!!!!

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  24. Sigh, it's always the subject of sex that matters?

    What happens if the lady's son nveed to massage his penis just only to have sex?

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  25. Thank you guys for all the comments, appreciate it

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  26. Cool discussion! I am not decline that sex is important in marriage.
    Understand and care are same important than sex.

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