Thursday, February 25, 2010

Under one roof but the roof fell apart...........

Bumped into an old friend this morning whilst having breadfast, waved him over to share table with me. I've known this friend, his brother, his brother's wife and his wife even before they got married.

We lost contact along the way, i could remember clearly that my friend, his brother and their spouses were like buddies. Four of them, loofed and hanged out together and they even bought a house with the intention of living together under one roof.( my friend, his brother, his brother's wife and his wife) and indeed they did just that after they got married, two brothers with their spouses lived together under one roof, that was the last i heard about them.

Naturally,over the breadfast i was eager to know about my other three friends( his brother and their respective spouses) so i asked how are his brother, May and Michelle doing, he looked kind of hesistant to my question, i sensed something amiss, then i changed my question and continue asking him about his wife and his children.

I guess he senses my curiousity, so my friend obliged my first question and said this to me," May and Michelle are not on speaking term now, and me and my brother also not as close like before"
My jaws dropped and incredeously i asked him how could it be so, then he continued........

" We bought a house together, we got married and everything was like a bed of roses for the four of us, but the good time didn't last very long, May and Michelle began to fight over petty issues like, why the toilet was always dirty and why must Michelle love to vaccume the house in the early morning of Sundays and many many more.

Initally, my brother and i tought it was only a lady's issue, but eventually my brother became the medium for his wife's grouses and he began to complaine to me as well. Things got worse, dont want to say anymore lah, anyway i bought over the house from them and they moved out, and even the amount for the house was a big big issue too."

Casually i told my friend that dont worry about it and telling him that things will be all right for him and his brother soon.

Sometime, i wonder could this kind of problems be avoided for i have heard many of such problems.

P/S : Sometimes it is not as easy at it seems

17 comments:

  1. Bro..it's never easy staying under the same roof. Even best friends sharing a room or house or apartment during our student days ended up as enemies. I've a rule that I will never have any close dealings or business with close friends or relatives as much as possible to avoid complications and issues.

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  2. eugene,
    brothers stay together = sunny/cloudy

    brothers+wives together = thunder

    brothers+wives+kids = earthquake

    wonder whose fault is that...*wink*
    wiser move if stay separately...

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  3. That's life. Things like that happen... Usually, it's the women! Oops!!! Hahahahaha!!!

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  4. i know i know i know, because i also one of the "victim" who stay with all the in laws. Pil, bil's and family, so you can imagine the war in our house. Now i learn to be more patient and talk less, close one of my eyes if can, this is the lesson i learn over the past 12 years.

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  5. It is usually a consideration situation. Everyone is different in everywhere... the two brothers may have lived their lives together for a long time, but not their spouses with each other. Eventually, they may not know how each of them are like when around the house.

    Friends get along very well, we can talk insanely, go crazy, do weird things even and whatnot but that doesn't mean we could live together. It is a whole different story behind that.

    It is like the theory of "boyfriend is different from husband".

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  6. Well....the bottom line is...the women are the source of the problem. LOL :D

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  7. bad idea to stay together, oredi if 2 people only can create many problems imagine 4 haaaahaa......

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  8. People say "Seong kin ho, thung ji nan". It is better to have separate house instead of together. Moreso when have children

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  9. I never agree to live with more than just our family in one house, I am happy with just me, hubby and Jayden :)

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  10. it is not easy to live together...

    i think it is better stay in the different house better

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  11. It's never easy staying under the same roof with relatives esp when you're married. Better to have your own home to avoid situations like this!

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  12. I prefer to live outside once get married. Living under one roof give much pressure..I can see it from my life experiences..

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  13. We can be very close.. but living together is very tough.. how close you are, when you are together 24/7 are bound to create some havoc...

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  14. I totally agreed with Claire. Brothers+wives+kids=earthquake.

    Living under one roof is never easy. Well, husband and wife do quarrel, what's more the whole jingeng staying together?

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  15. never have more then 1 woman in the hse unless it monther and daughter, once the daughter is a lady; better move out.

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  16. 相见好同住难!The Chinese saying sometimes is just so right.. I told my brother once that if he wants to get married, make sure he move out from the place and have his own.. provided he is buying over the 祖屋 that we are staying.. :p

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  17. There can only be ONE lady of the house! Enough said. :)

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