They were two missed calls appeared on my mobile early this morning (6.55am), the reason i missed the calls was because i went for a run, came back i returned the call, it was my EX brother in law,(yes my EX brother in law).
He was lamenting to me that my sister (his ex wife) was having a row with her partner, blah blah blah blah and more blah blah blah blah and more blah blah. I said ok and i told him i would give a call to my sister to find out what was wrong.
To be very frank i was frustrated and i am still frustrated about this issue of adults behaving in the ways that they should not be behaving. You messed up your own marriage, you put the children in quandary, in a limbo and you thought that's was all good in getting even with each other.
Now what? you suddenly realized that oops i should not have let my children gone through this nonsense that we adults put them through, trying to make amend and again you try to come to another solution, or more solutions.
In this silly melee of the adults, the biggest losers are always the children, they are at the mercy of the adults, "now you follow the mother or now you follow the father" that kind of stuff.
Come on, if the adults are no good in spending our lives together, let us choose to end the marriage amicably and let us put the welfare and the sense of security of our children our utmost priority.
I am damn frustrated........for i always feel very sad seeing children suffer emotionally,mentally or sometimes even physically at the expense of the adults,they are really helpless and fragile ...........................
P/S : The onus of a parent is to proctect the young