Friday, July 03, 2009

Will i cheat ?

After reading Claire's blog sharing her friend's ordeal of her husband committing adultery or in the layman's term, cheating on your wife. I paused for a while and i asked myself these hypothetical questions " Will i cheat on my wife ?" and "If i did cheat on my wife, what would be my driving factors?"

First of all, i am no saint(i guess no one is), and like the christians say, the devils are always there to bring you down with entrapements in form of your own pyschical and sexual needs. I wont say i will not be lured or be enticed but i would always have these two things deeply inscribed in my mind. 1) i love my wife so much and i will not do anything to hurt her. 2) i shall in no way, lose the respect my children have in me. And because of these two commandments i have so far, i can safely declare myself a VIRGIN(virgin in the context of not having sex with other women other than my wife)

It gives me great joy to hear from my chidren that they love me so much and they know that their old man loves their mother so much too, and i would always ask my children do they respect me as a good father and a loving husband, i am glad to hear them say "Yes you are"

I am not speaking for others, i am only sharing my own thoughts about "cheating on your wife" In fact there had been times, where opportunity presented itself calling out to you with this " you can cheat and no one will ever find out" and sometimes it really makes you vulnerable but to me my two commandments will always keep my virginity intact. I must admit that there were times when your will would want to give in to your lust, and you would really think it was ok, no one would find out. Seriously i could have done that,and your body telling you that you should have done that and no one will really going and find out, but to hurt somebody who trusts you with her soul, life and body, that would not be nice.

I really want my sons to grow up to be fine young man, to appreciate the sanctity of love and marriage and i again i really hope they can learn this from their parents and when they do that in the future, i shall then be truly enjoying the respect i have from my boys.

Note : i guess i have found my answer for question No 1 so the question No 2 is non-existent

P/S :Love will never die if you keep stoking the fire and fanning the flame












15 comments:

  1. this post touched me. to see how gentlemen u r...

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  2. I think women outside that suffers from adultery will want their hubs to read your piece... :D

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  3. keep it that way, man,..KEEP IT THAT WAY.. we will remember this.. :)

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  4. Forbidden fruit is sweeter, they say. It all boils down to the individual e.g. there are people who will bend and break the traffic rules to their convenience and will not changed even after having been caught and punished...while there are others who will follow the rules to the letter, never mind what. Come to think of it, more women than men fall in the 2nd group.... Does that apply to having extra-marital affairs too? What do you think, Eugene?

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  5. indeed, you have a beautiful family. Why would you do something to destroy it? that's plain stupidity. I believe "getting caught" is just a matter of time, and by then it's too late, far too late. As a woman, I can only imagine the pain, and I will never ever want to go through that pain. It's also so true what you said, that the fire must be stoked and the flame fanned. Both husband and wife have to play a part in this.

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  6. sweet writeup!
    im sure you're a good husband! =)

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  7. your P/S is so true.

    it really depends on how the couple works to keep the fire burning... you don't expect it to keep the flame without dong anything ;-)

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  8. What a great man u have there..I'm sure your family love u so much too

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  9. The world needs more men like you Eugene :) Have a great weekend.

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  10. Love your post abt how u think.. particulary the line.. (i) u love ur wife and will not want to hurt her (ii) your children's thinking towards you...

    and i have to agree.. before man trying to commit anything wrong.. if they did have one second to think abt their wife and children, i guess no problem already..

    But , i told my hubby ( just only) this morning, if some "accident" really happened.. I guess most important is to be frank and dun hide this from ur wife.. let's settle the issue together rather than worry abt telling ur wife the truth and let things drag and get serious..

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  11. Infidelities eats the soul. Kudos to you, my friend. All my love and kisses goes to your wife and boys.=D Do that for me, will ya?

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  12. I'm clapping my hands to you...

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  13. my ex bf cheated on me before. Not all the men know how to think like you. You are lucky to have this good gene with you...appreciate ya.

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