She suspects that her husband is acting fishy recently, and she wants to find out could it be that her gut feeling is playing tricks on her, or her suspicion is getting the better of her and she is confused about it.
As a friend, she shared with me her dilemma and confusion and asked me as a married man if i could enligthen her about her suspicion that her husband is cheating on her. The first question she asked me was point blank " how can you tell if your spouse is cheating on you?" i simply told her, it is very simple and she was like gawking at me with disbelief and i said" As long as your spouse behaves opposite to his or her usual self then there is something fishy about it"
She asked me to elaborate and i just said as partners we should be able to tell if our partner is acting strangely of late or not, for an instance if he (i just say he for an example and i am not discounting the fact that ladies do cheat too) suddenly becomes very conscious about his appearance, the way he looks, the shirts he wears, the hair he styles of which it never occurs to you that he would take notice of all this before, that's the telling the sign.
And suddenly he complains about the way you look, the dress that you wear, the cellulite on your tighs, the perfume that you use, the frequency of sex has dwindled and how that little flaw would turn him off then you should know that he has you as a target to compare someone with, that's the telling sign too.
Brusquely,she suddenly raised her voice at me, saying something like this " you man are always the same, none is good, cant seem to be loyal and always think we woman are the one to blame and the reason for you alll to cheat" i can understand her outrage at this juncture, and meekly she apologized for here sudden outburst.
I was trying to pacify and assuring her that things are not that bad, and she could be wrong with her suspicion and all. Really i just hate to tell a lady friend of what to do in this scenario, neither can i tell her not to do anything, it is perplexing.
Lastly, i just told her to play Sherlock Holmes or Pink Panther to look out for the signs, but as friends, there's so much i can do. I left her with my sincere concern and telling her to change all that needs to be changed, including herself, to talk instead of fight, to love instead of to loathe.
Note : I sincerely hope the next time she calls, it will all be rosy news to me.
P/S : When was the last time you showered praise on your spouse, something like "you still look so gorgeous,dear"