Bumped into an old friend of mine over lunch the otherday, Kee New Man is his name(dont worry i have seeked his approval to tell his story), i was surprised that he spotted bald head and even the eye brows were gone, i knew he contracted cancer of the lymph node quite sometimes ago, but to see him in this look, really shocked me, i thought has the sickness worsen or was he succumbing to the sickness.
I singnalled him over to do lunch his lunch on the same table, which he happily obliged. Wanted to ask him about his sickness, but hesitated, anyway looking at his cheerful demeanour i said to myself " dont give a fuck la, just ask, the least he could not, is to blush me away" which he didnt do.
So i asked"Newman, how is your cancer doing?" "ok" was his subtle answer, but he continued " i am going for my third chemo session" as we continued talking about cancer, i noticed one thing about this friend of mine, who didnt seem to be pertubed by his condition, and on top of that he exuded confidence and cheerfulness that we can hardly see in anyone dreaded with this deadly disease.
He shared with me one thing very important, that in his opinion the cause to his cancer was none other than, guess what? it was none other than this mother fucker thing called STRESS, yes you heard it right STRESS. he decribed to me how stressful he was over his job, even as he brushed his teeth, there were ulcer on his gums which could bleed, and it was just not one spot or two, but there were more than 5 ulcer resulting from the stress.
But this friend of mine is different, he acknowledged that he had cancer, he accepted it with no fear or remorse and he vowed to fight untill the end. Despite his condition, he acted as a beacon of hope to other cancer patients, and telling them there was no reason to fear. In fact he has more reasons to be bitter than most of us, simply because he doesnt smoke, health conscious, exercises reqularly but he lived on with the knowledge that yes he has got cancer, and the only thing is could not is to stay happy, i remember him telling me one quote he gave to his wife that he was going to live for another "365 months" , that's how optismistic he is.
He is not in the state of "self denial" or "full of blames" to me he is a fighter. Look at us now, would we be as strong as this friend of mine?. We moan and groan about how unfair the world is treating us, how unfortunate we are, we curse, we remorse.
So from today onwards i command you to be happy (yes you), to be appreciative, and not to be bogged down by stress, to care for others, learn to love, learn to enjoy life's little things.Go now give your loved one a hug, tell them how much you love them
And to you my friend, NewMan, i respect you and i love you, go forth and claim that victory, and i am celebrating now for that good news.
P/S, if you think you're worse than the guy next door, damn it you're indeed right.