What consitutes to a happy marriage, really i dont know because i am not Dr Phil, but one thing i do know better and more than Dr Phil is i am having a happy marriage, that's so much i know. And i am not here to dispense my advice, but i am here only to share my thoughts about what a happy marriage must be according to my own yardsticks.
Her nuisance, yes i am talking about my wife's nuisance(s), she loves to sweep the floor when i am watching TV, she tends not to agree with me as far as household conservation of water, electritiy is concerned, (for example, she would machine wash the clothes even when there are only a few dirty clothes and worst still she engages full cycle washing, that's always makes me mad) trust me sometimes i really get real mad at her for her actions, but my love for her is stronger for me not to get mad at her any longer, simply because i love her, and because she loves me too to accomodate my flaws too.
I started running about 10 years ago, eventually my wife got hooked and she is into running too, and this hobby of ours really makes us happy, we would talk about running, and looking forward to our weekend runs, and how after run, we would take bath in the park and go for our breadfast hand in hand and enjoy some brief marketing, to me, this is heaven.
I was once mildly sexually deprived, when our children were a little younger, because my wife would have to work,come back and look after the children, when i wanted to have sex, she was already too tired, but because i love her, and with some understanding, this has never been a major issue. That's why we make up the lost pleasures now by having great sex now,(please dont laugh, it is true,,hahaha)
We share common interests, both of us love to drink (not the compulsive one though), we would long for friday evening, when both of us can enjoy a few drinks with a few good friends and that's what the both of us happy, and the next day, we head for our run.
And the most important off all, i have two wonderful children there to cheer us, to laugh with us, and to have fun with us, that makes us happy too.
We are middle class as far as financial is concerned, we dont have major debts, except a condo to pay,(and it is finishing soon), we know that debts can ruin a family, and we are aware of this, we are opened about our finance, my wife can trust me for money and vice versa. We make sure at the end of the month, we must have an X amout to be put in saving.
We love to be fashionable, but we are not into high end brands, we want to dress well in order to feel great, and we try to keep ourselves healthy and having good body(we dont like to make love with some one whose belly is as big as a mountain, or we cant tell the difference from the size of her belly and the breasts.do we? hahahaha) because we love each other. So far we only have one RM3000, Rado and one RM700 Furla handbag for my wife, the two most expensive items to call fashion of our own.
And i am a happy man because my wife is not a perfect wife, and neither am i a perfect husband, so there leaves so much room for us to improve, and that what makes us happy.
P/S. Marriages are indeed made in heaven, but the problem is , we are on earth (my quote)