Tuesday, October 07, 2008

Marriage, Sex, Money and Divorce....

Ten minutes ago i received a call on my mobile, i answered the call without looking at the caller's number, over the other end the voice was like someone who was fuming mad, before i could say a word, the following statement ensued " Eugene, i just bashed up that mother fucker, now i really saw it with my own two eyes" it was the call from my brother in law, and the mother fucker who got bashed up was my sister's boy friend.

I was in a state of shock for while, but as a married man i could identify with him then i said to him" well done, that mother fucker deserved it" as part of the family members, i have never intefered the other family member's domestic affairs, i could only give my opinions when asked for.

My sister's marriage has been on the rock for a long while, who's wrong and who's right, it is entirely none of my business, really but before the marriage could end legally, i reckon that adultery is virtually immorally despicable and legally wrong, and i am sure both parties are guilty in certain degrees in bringing down the marriage, but the involvement of the third party before the marriage could reach a legal conclusion may spruce up more problems.

Now that the event has taken the ugly turn, and i believe that mother fucker should come to his senses that no matter how much you love that someone's else wife or merely taking advantage of someone else's wife, he should be responsible to his own action or rather he should had expected this bashing up to happen in no time.

I believe that there are many many problems that could happen in a marriage, it could be financially, mentally , emotionally or even sexually but the fundamental or the core foundation to a lasting marriage is to talk it out, and to believe that the love you have for the one you married to should transcend all differences and difficulities.

If one day, should i feel stale in my sex life with my wife, i should talk it out with her, instead of satisfying myself with others who could take me to heaven but end me up in hell, but in the reverse i should ask myself if i have satisfied her sexually as well, it must work both ways.

If one day, i am broke , i should talk it out with my wife too, instead of acting brave and incuring a lot of debts which eventually could crumble the marriage.

Please excuse me, if i had sounded like a professional marriage counseller but then agian what i wrote is what i believe.

P/S: Marriages are indeed made in heaven but they are at the threshhold of hell too.

11 comments:

  1. haha motherfucker huh! :)

    And I agree with you completely. There are just too many motherfuckers out there who don't respect marriage.

    *sigh* you and your wife are lucky to have found each other! :)

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  2. hey, there's a movie called Fireproof. It's targeted at married couples, google it for more information. Anyway, I replied your comment on my blog already.

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  3. aiyo, cannot blame lah, some people are not qualified to be a husband nor a father. They are qualified in physical but not mental.

    Therefore,they should stay singles. Marriage life is not a bed of roses. If one is dreaming while courting, then family problems will arise and the wosrt victims are the kids.

    Tired of the topic but still have to nag like a grandma. :((

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  4. well, i believe if there is a break up in a family, both the wife and husband share the fault.. if wife commits adultery.. why? what led her to it... and vice versa..
    even if one partner didnt commit it, ask himself, did he fulfil her needs as a wife or mother? and vice versa..
    well.. either way, it is just sad that it happens and the victims are always not the adults but the kids..

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  5. In between my dear sis in law & bro in law, But 'LOVE IS BLIND' nothing much I could say and they hv done just because of LOVE....

    Phobee

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  6. Indeed, marriage is not a bed of roses. Thinking of plunging into it, scares the hell out of me. True, marriage is hard work, but one day if there is no more love, is it better to "let go" of the other party? I think to love a person is to let go.

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  7. rasanya dua2 pun ada salahnya jugak...kalau hubby tu baik, takkan ur sister nak fall in luv ngan mamat lain...sama laa jugak, kalau ur sister tu baik, takkan laa hubby tu nak layan tak baik...unless dia mmg org tak baik larr...

    apa2 pun...org ketiga selalu yg menyusahkan rumah tangga org lain...without org ketiga, the marriage biasanya bleh pulih balik...tapi when this org ketiga comes in the picture, cepat je bercerai berai...

    my opinion lar..

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  8. *sigh* I cannot comment much on this, because I am an outsider. I will not judge your sister and her bf as well as her husband, but I do have one thing to say. If a marriage is not based on trust, love and devotion towards each other, then the marriage is nothing but name alone.

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  9. i am now happily remarried women of 40.the way you expose your sisters infidelity to the world is certainly a very despicable act.what has she done to you to deserve all this?from the way you label her friend as a mother fucker shows that you have am axe to grind ,granted adultery is sinful and wrong, in fact i was once guilty of this.all humans sin,don tell me you have not sinned
    ?i was trapped in a loveless marriage where i have to be force to have sex.have you ever been forced to have sex?your sister may have this or other problem with her marriage.have you tried to understand her problem?from your comments on love and sex etc i gather that you are an immature self righteous morality preaching ego maniac who rules over your family like a dictator. the picture of you and your family is misleading.thank god i don have a brother like you,if your sister reads your blog i am not suprised if she severs her ties with you completely.

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  11. Desperate housewife...don't be so emo laa...eugene has mentioned in his 2nd paragraph that "as part of the family members, i have never intefered the other family member's domestic affairs, i could only give my opinions when asked for."

    you should read it carefully laa dik...he also mentioned that "and i am sure both parties are guilty in certain degrees in bringing down the marriage, but the involvement of the third party before the marriage could reach a legal conclusion may spruce up more problems."

    somemore...he just sharing his story with us laa...don't marah marah laa...

    or u're his sister's bestfriend..??

    don't marah marah laa...peace :)

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