" There was a girl i used to know, she was oh so beautiful, but she's not here anymore. She had a college degree, smart as anyone can be, she had so much to live for. But she fell in love with the wrong kinda of man, he abused her love and treated her so bad"The way he proves himself a man by beating his woman with his hands. "
"How come , how long, it's not right, it's so wrong. Do we let it just go on. turn our backs and carry on, wake up for it's too late, right now we cant wait, she wont have a second try, open up your hearts and as well as your eyes. song from Stevie Wonder and Babyface (how come, how long)
"If your man abuses you physically even for the very first time, the alarm has sounded", this is what i used to tell my lady friends, but most often then not, girls will always be silenced by man's pathetic, apologetic, regretful look, therefore the violence reigns, this is so true.
This is exactly what happened to my old neighbour, she was abused by her husband, she ran away once from him, came back and the abuse continued. I told her to report to the police, she refused, and giving me the excuse that she could still handle it. Secretly i reported the case to the police, and when the police came,she refused to open the door for them. The funny thing was ,many of the neighbours knew about this, but all they did was saying things like how can this girl be so stupid, or may be she loved to be abused. Now that i have left the place, i pray and hope she is ok, and for me as a human i think i had done what i should have.
Domestic violence is so real, cases reported are cases reported but they are many more still go undetected and unreported. Imagine a girl being abused, and the trauma she has to go through, time after time untill she is too vulnerable to fight back or to make believe that this is what life has to offer to her.
A true love doesnt have to be like this, a true love doesnt make one feel slaved, lesser important or abusable.
As a parent, i know i have the responsibility to instill in my two boys about the respect that they must have for girls, that they should not in anyway make sexist jokes, or making fun at the girls' biological differences.
P/S, i guess god never made anyone of us weaker than the others to be abused, stand up .