I was told that one of my nephews was hospitalised yesterday, so i paid a visit to see him in the hospital today, what i saw in the hospital was not i expected to see from this boy..........my heart really sank, he was alone.
What i expected to see was that, the boy must be surrounded by at least the father, the mother, the brother and the sister but it was not the case for him,(he is only 12), he was there alone for a few hours since the mother left in the morning and since the father had to work as he had taken care of him the whole night. ( my respect here for my ex brother in law)
My nephew's parents got divorced a year or so ago and since the divorce was not the friendly one, it has always been kind of a limbo in the young ones' lives, i guess they have no choice and the lack of communication between the ex husband and the ex wife has in my opinion resulted the malaise in the children.
I was there in the hospital joking with him, talking to him and hugging him, and as i was doing this, i was telling myself, this boy really deserved more than this, but then again what choice does he have?
I wish i could stay a little longer with him in the hospital but i had to pick my own son up from school because i promised my eldest son that i would do lunch with him today no matter what
I gave my nephew a big hug before i left and as i was sauntering out of the hospital, i wept. I wept because he told me he had to stay in the hospital for another 9 days . I wept because i was thinking how many hours a day in those 9 days, he has to brace himself to be alone in that hospital.
P/S : Dont let the wrongs of the parents becoming the thorns in the children
Well...I feel for your nephew too bro. Yes! I thing parents should really be more responsible! :(
ReplyDeleteDon't let the young ones suffer for our mistake! :(
Anyway I have just cared for you bro. :)
ReplyDeletePutting myself in his shoes ->
ReplyDelete"huwaaaa....."
:~(
ReplyDeletecan't you just take him and let him stay with you?
:(
ReplyDeleteLack of love is a truly poor poverty.. By the age of 12yrs, he is braved enough. Hope he will get well soon.. hope his mum & dad spend more time with him.. hope his friends come and visits him everyday..
ReplyDeletei can share your feeling...recently my brother sent his son back to malaysia and i felt so bad for him for losing his parent's love even before he is 2 and the reason being the mother chooses to work over him when she can just be a full time housewife...i hope your nephew get well soon...
ReplyDeleteI think u should sleep with ur nephew... Hug him like a lover
ReplyDeletemake him feel love!
poor boy..
ReplyDeletecan u just take him home and be his father angket?
ReplyDeletehe is so pity.. =(
eugene..forgive me for being 8.. what happened to him that he has to stay for 9 days? Accident?
ReplyDeletePerhaps his parents cannot be with him during the day due to work commitment, i m sure his parents will come later on during the day.. meanwhile, do visit as often as u can..
Hope he recovers soon! God Bless!
yea...can understand the lonely moment that he needs to go through. But i am sure he is going to be strong cause he has a caring uncle like you! :) continue to visit him while you can, i believe he needs that. :)
ReplyDeletePoor boy. I think even if the parents were still together, he'd still be alone most of the time because they need to go to work. A book or a game of some sort would probably cheer him up. Don't you think? A portable DVD player maybe? Anything really, to make him feel less alone.
ReplyDeletePlease update us of news of him ok. Bless his little heart.
So sad... Really, some people do not deserve to be blessed with children. My daughter was hospitalised once for suspected dengue (actually German measles, stupid doctor!)...and there would always be somebody beside her day and night until she was discharged!!!
ReplyDeleteGod bless him, may he get well soon...
:( i think parents are just too selfish don't really care what the kids thinking. Poor boy.
ReplyDeletepoor lil` boy, hope he's doing fine.
ReplyDeleteif the parents need to work, then no choice. I'm sure they have their predicament. As an uncle, you can do your part, visit him more frequent, bring him games, toys and activities to keep him occupied.
ReplyDeleteOh dear....I am getting misty eyed as well....
ReplyDeletePoor boy....what a whole load of growing up he has to do!
Poor boy, hope your nephew get well soon.
ReplyDeleteI know how you feel, because my nephew also get less attention from the parent. My brother always busy with his work and always travel, while the wife also busy busy busy and no time for the boy. :( Everytime i feel so sad when i think of my nephew, because he always told my mum he is envy my boys. Althought i'm FTWM, i always try my very best to spent quality times with my sons.
It's not that the parents don't care. That's just the way life is if one is not rich. Scrambling to survive in this economy. Medical bills, this bills that bills. Don't go to work or take too many Annual/Emergency/Compassionate Leave, the boss will give you the big envelope.
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