Last week,Jovial was telling me that one of his friends initiated a "Holiday Trip" that would only include solely his classmates to Genting Highland,, the trip was in a way planned to celebrate the end of PMR exam.
Then I asked him,if he wanted to go and gayly he said yes,then I told him it would not be much of problem for me to let him go for 3 days and 2 nights trip.
I was talking to a friend of mine,coincidentally his 15 years old boy also has such proposal by his classmate,(different school from Jovial) a holiday for them after the PMR exam as well. So I was asking him,would he allow his 15 years old to go holiday with his classmate without the presence of teacher or adults,his answer was a straight "No NO"
So when I asked him the reason for his refusal,he said that these boys were "very good in doing something behind our backs","they are more daring now" and " these boys would be going all out as if they were an adults"
After hearing my reasons for his refusal, I asked myself that I could trust Jovial of "knowing what to do " and I do know many of his classmates,(they are good),are there anything else that I was afraid of letting Jovial going for a short holiday with his classmates of whom are only 15 years...
If you were in my shoes,would you allow Jovial to go?
P/S : Parents' worry for the children is life long
guess my parents were a little like your friend bro those days.. end up I didn't join my friends for a trip...however, it's a regret that I know my parents did not have much faith and trust on me back then.. guess its' more a trust game we play here..
ReplyDeleteputting myself in your shoe (fast forward for many many yeard down the road), guess I let my girl go should she has gain my trust and faith.
You know your son better. somewhere in his life he will have friends with different walks of life - both good and bad - some might be involved in drugs, corruption, scam...and some are those successful in lives with good job, good attitude, good life. It's all back to the moral values that you plant in them...and their capability to judge the good and the bad.
ReplyDeleteme and my siblings are the same. But..I am thankful to my parents for able to give us trust that we know to differenciate what is good and bad for us...and yeah, I had friends who are not really 'good people' as some put it - but so far, we are doing just fine and live our lives without such 'bad influences'.
Question is: Do you trust your kids?
I would. Have to let go sometime...and if anything is to happen, it can happen anywhere, right? But I would keep in touch via handphone...and pray. God will take care of the rest. Trust in Jovial and Him.
ReplyDeleteerr...really cannot give an answer to you. Maybe I won't let him go, or I'll plan a better holiday on the same date...haha..bad mother.
ReplyDeleteI would concern more on my kids' safety, rather than "what they do behind my back". We don't have those peaceful days like what we used to enjoy in our years - cycle freely on the road and nobody would hit-and-run you; or kidnap you.
ReplyDeleteIf you trusted your children and are sure they can take good care of themselves, I no see any problem letting them go :)
My 2 cents.
I say no. This is because the city is difference now..Full of crime.. Better careful than sorry later...
ReplyDeleteIt's absolutely normal for you to worry...
ReplyDeleteBut to me, I think Jovial would be ok in taking care of himself (Based on how you always 'described' him in your blog), so I think it's ok for him to enjoy ^^
hi eugene, i think it all depends how much you trust your son. if a kid wants to do something behind your back, he will still do it sometime somewhere. BUt really, how much can we control kids nowadays??
ReplyDelete15 years old is very young to go on their own to Gentings.. :) I surely wont allow my son to go.. cos I know I worry a lot..
ReplyDeleteMy concern will be more of their safety actually..who's gonna drive them there, are there any adults supervising etc. Nowadays so many crimes and tricksters, i will be worrying my head off! haha
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ReplyDeleteCoincidently my son will be going to Genting Highlands after the coming PMR exam.
ReplyDeleteI am the type of worrisome and imaginative mom with mind fills with negative possibilities such as landslide, lousy bus driver, pervert in the toilet, con man, pick pocket, theme park accident etc.
Even so, I will let my son join the trip. I am constantly learning to bless my kids, instead of worrying about them. 祝福孩子，不要擔心孩子。I trust him and hope he can take good care of himself. I am sure he will have a great time with his friends. That will be a sweet memory to cherish in the future.
My daughter joined the school trip after UPSR last year. Actually they were on their own in the Universal Studio. She said it was so fun to go to theme park with friends ONLY.
However, I am not prepared to let my kids go to beach with friends yet. My neighbor's son and a few friends (after SPM last year) were injured after landing on shallow water with sharp objects. These poor kids were conned by a parasailing operator who gave students "good price".
There is always a price for every lesson in life. But that is what makes us wiser and stronger.
Whole gang of friend to Genting without any adult accompany? I'm worry not to say I don't trust my kids, but it's quite dangerous out there nowadays.
ReplyDeleteIs there any adults on this trip? It's not a good idea letting on such a trip without any adult supervision. After all they are still kids.
ReplyDeleteI went dating to watch movies with a girl alone when I was 11 years old and that girl was 12 years old. We went to watch movie at Cathay Cinema along Penang Road. I started going out with friends at 12 years old and even got extorted by drug addict along Carnavorn Street beside the coffin shop! Then went to climb up Penang Hill with classmates 2-3 times and eventually went fishing many times from 13 years old onwards! I am just sharing on how safe those days were. Like SP said, times have changed and crimes have increased many folds.
ReplyDeleteWell well well, bro....after reading lot of blogs the you posted here, i perceived that your kid are quiet mature.If I were in your shoe, i don't see any negative reason that i shouldn't let him go and have thrust on him.Furthermore what I do concern is about who are his friends that are participating in this itinerary .I don't have any obligation to prying on him matter however I just wanna know who should I contact in case for emergency.........Have a prayer with him together and surely Lord will take good care of the rest......:-) Amen...
ReplyDeleteI think it'd be good to find out logistics details before you say yes. Safety is key so you may want to find out if there's any adult at least going along - one who can more or less look out for the boys.
ReplyDeleteA trip to Gentings would certainly chalk up some good memories for your boy.
It is really depended on how much you trust your own son. I was the only one got to go for a trip that organized by the school when I was 12. None of my siblings got the same opportunity. So, I believe you know your sons the most. You have to make your own justification.
ReplyDeleteJovial go for a trip should not have any problem.
ReplyDeleteIf other parent is disagree with their children doing, either the parent is too worried, or the children is a trouble - maker . . . :X