Wednesday, August 08, 2012

So we talked

I am not kidding you but as parent, we must really be open to our children as far as sex is concerned. Let me share this story with you, you might think it is no big deal, fine but if the information dispensed is all wrong and misleading, the end result could be detrimental to our children...

I was having dinner with my lovely wife and Jovial,(just the three of us,Marvell didn't want to join) so as we were dining away, we started talking about this and that and suddenly I changed to the topic of conversation centered around Jovial and his friends.

I was like casually asking him about his friends,if any of his friends having girlfriends already or not,did they talk about sex among his male counterparts and did that make fun about "the dicks"while those guys were in the toilets and what not.

So as we moved on, I suddenly asked Jovial did he know any about masturbation, gingerly he said he knew, so I did not want to make him as if he was wrong by asking him what IT was,instead I continued by asking him,did his friends talk about masturbation as well.

He gleefully said,indeed his friends did talk about it and as I probed further he just told me that his friends were telling him "masturbation" was part of growing up. Period.

I said I agreed with his friends but then again that I would spend another time to share with him more about IT, even though I agreed with it... I said I needed to educate him about the rights that sometimes can turn out wrong. Ditto.

You see, his friends might say other things and label them as "Parts Of Growing UP" what if they say trying "getting high" with drugs, having unsafe sex, playing truants and spend days and nights in the internet, having sex multiply or other things that might seem so nice and be construed as "Part of Growing Up?"

P/S : Let us talk about it ya?


12 comments:

  1. it is good to teach the kids on this..

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  2. nowadays... we really need that.. talk to the child about it, than having them getting free hand on it..

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  3. Hmm, it's important to shower the children these days with proper sex knowledge..

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  4. Parents play a very important role on this "part of Growing up" matter, if we avoid bringing up this matter, they might listen to they friends all the way, be it right or wrong. Good reminder to all parents!

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  5. Wah delicate subject and I like the way how sensitive you were when NOT asking J what it was (afterall, ego right?) I hope next time I have this kinda open relationship with my kids too.

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  6. I see you as the best dad in the world. U can talk openly with your kids in almost anything. Good to show them u care and discuss openly to avoid bad consequences later. Keep up your good fatherly work.

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  7. I think we have to tell the kids that they can't listen and believe in everything their friends said. They have to have their own judgement. They must use their own intellectual and not to listen blindly to their friends.

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  8. I'm not sure how I would react to this situation, perhaps, I'll tell my kids, "Mother knows best"?? It's not easy to tackle with teenagers and their so-called buddies.

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  9. Best education begins at home.. and the closest to the kids are the parents but often happens is that, the kids like to discuss more with their friends and have a good time laughing over the topic.. with parents, they are more serious and sober.. :)

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  10. Good one bro on the topic of sex. I will talk to my kids when they are growing up and I want first hand info coming from me not from others.

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  11. I guess yeah it is important that kids now a days know about this. Well done Eugene :)

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  12. Remember to pass the message:

    - Say no to drugs
    - Say no to unsafe sexs and more.

    my mum told me before, condom is very important, I nodded lol . . .

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